We live in a society where people feel that you must have a partner with whom you can live happily ever after and for many people having a partner is a style statement. We watch romantic movies, read romantic novels or look at lovely couples having great time together and then think that we can only have fun if we have a loving partner with us with whom we can spend golden moments of our life. I do agree that with a loving partner your life is a bliss but being single is also not a punishment. No matter that you are single because you are out of a really bad relation or never had any serious relationship, you can be happy even if you are single.
Your happiness is not depended on others, it’s your life and you can for sure enjoy your life without being labeled as “lonely”. A good quote always comes to my mind when I see singles in grief:
““Single doesn’t have to mean lonely. Single simply means ‘I’m resting my heart until it’s ready to love again’.”
If you are just out of a bad relationship then you must try to forget your ex and move on, it’s not easy but when you will read advantages of being single then I am sure you would surely start enjoying your life and your own company:
What are the advantages of being single:
I’m not going to pin-point some of the dis-advantages of being single, but if you are reading this article just to feel right about you being single, it’s time to rethink about if you ever found love in your live.
Time for yourself:
In this busy schedule, do you get quality time to sit quietly and enjoy your own company? We hardly give time to ourselves and think what’s going on in life? How we can be happier or make others happy? How we can be a better human being? If you are single, you are lucky because you wont waste your time in fighting, searching for gifts, trying to live life according to your partner etc. You can use your free time in planning about your job, life, reviving your relations with family and friends. You can also enhance your creativity, join hobby classes or just give treat to yourself for nothing.
In any relationship space matters the most and the moment other person starts tracking your day to day activities, we suffocate and any good relationship turns into a bad one. This is probably one of the biggest advantages of single hood.
Freedom:
If you never had any serious love relationship then you must ask with one who are/were in a relationship that how many times they look for space in their relationship? Being in a relationship you have to live your partner’s life more than your own. You have to take all your decisions after thinking or taking permission from your partner. You hardly give time to your family, friends because your partner love to spend quality time just with you. It may not be you, but being in love we tend to do things which we have not imagined. Have you ever calculated whose life are you living? Your life or your partner’s life?
On contrary, when you are single, you can enjoy road trip with your friends, you don’t have to ask anyone before wearing or doing anything and most important you have all time in the world to do whatever you want without giving explanations to your partner.
No emotional dramas:
When you are in a relationship, you always want it to keep it intact. To achieve that you have to take care or your partner’e emotions on top and have to ignore your wishes. You always feel insure of losing your partner or hurting them. In fact many lovers spent sleepless nights if something goes wrong in their relations. It’s not that being in a relation always hurts you emotionally but you do have to face ups and downs to keep your relationship working. Thus, if you are single then do enjoy your life to fullest.
Specially, in this busy life when you talk to your better half, you look for support, care and understanding and in the absense of any of these elements, relationship starts getting bitter. Well, if you are one of those who believe in living life according to you, either find the most understand partner or live single and live life king size.
A new relationship:
Being single doesn’t meant you are lonely or desperate to start a new relation but you can try to have someone who deserve to be your partner. You have time to think about kind of partner you want in your life and you can start looking for one. There might be chances that you are not yet cope up with your broken relationship then its always better to give time to yourself and increase your social circle. This will help you to know people better and help you to find a better partner in future. Also, if you think relationship is not meant for you, there is no harm in open relationship also.
It’s always worth a wait for a right partner than wasting your time by being with someone just for the heck of it.
Grass is always greener other side:
Even after reading above pros of being single, you are in grief then you should ask your close friends who are in relationship. Committed, married or lovers do look awesome and loving in front of others but they do a lot to keep their relationship healthy. They have to adjust, sacrifice and feel emotional pain thus enjoy your time being single and get yourself ready for that special one with whom you will be ready to spent all your time.
Well to be single or not to be single it’s in our hand. There is no harm in trying for another relation but if your luck is not giving you favor and you can’t find the right partner, it’s better to be single for a while rather than sticking with a wrong partner.
What are the other advantages of being single you can think of? What do you prefer more: Being with some one or being yourself by staying single?
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Hey Guys ,
I know that being single is better then commitment.i had a relationship till one month ago but but but after the 6 years of my relationship i realised that i loved her too much but she did’t.
we started our relationship when i was in 12th std and she was in 10th. for a long time means 1-2 years it was great but as time passed i felt that the meaning of our relation is getting faded.
Hmmm could’t help in it .any ways time passed and i got admission in Engineering College and after two yeras she also got an engineering College but our colleges were different.
when i was in college i got many offers from different girls but i did’t accept because My first love was god for me.but at those days i realised that there is something wrong in our relationship as it was when its started.
After the completion of my college i got a job and after 2 years she also got a job .when she joined there she made many friends and still i was reserved and alone .
but after some times i realised that there was a lack of calling frequency as it was earlier.I asked her that what is the problem please tell me but she told me that nothing she is busy wd her work.i gave her space and after 1 months i got to know that someone proposed her and she accepted.
so i was alone that time I asked her why she did this to me.she told me that she has no reply for me .i was shoked .i lacked my thinking skill and trust.
From that day I decided that i will never get in the relationship.Because Chanakya said that
” Never trust Girls because if you trust them they will cut your feeling wdt any ceasar.”
I am not saying that every girl is bad but still u have to make sure that who is perfect for you .and this realization can’t made by you.
So never trust girls..thats it …if some one wants to add something can comment here …
Thanks
Vibhanshu
Being single is good if you are keen on improving yourself in some way and have planned activities for reaching the target. Married life is full of distractions that have little value add – to tell the truth.
Being single you spend time inward – examining your feelings emotions etc. You can spend as much time as you wish freely pondering the great joyful moments of your past. It can give insights that help you evolve into a better person.
Definitely! Single life would be really awesome if we manage it in a creative way.
I liked your post but i am in joint family,I have responsibility of my 2 sons & my husband along with financially, Now I am getting worried about my income .How can i start my income as early as possible.
Hello Ruchi,
Nice post, you’ve said it the right way and it may boost up the confidence of singles who are eagerly wanting to be in a relationship, recently I was answering a question in a forum and there came up a guy who was totally stressed over a problem of not having a girlfriend whereas I personally know a guy who is single and never had a girlfriend and he is one of the most happiest guy I have ever met.
Being single or being in a relationship doesn’t assure of you happiness, it comes from inside.
Thumbs up to your article.
Glad you liked the article. I totally agree with what you said.. Grass always seems greener other side.
Also remember that loneliness happens to everybody. I’d say a decent love is about a tie with being single for me… but the better I get at being single, much better than being with somebody you “kinda” love. This time, I wait, and live!
What is so Good about being Single? Especially for many of us Good men out there that are very Unlucky in Love which is Really No Fault of ours to begin with. And now with so many Career woman today that really does add to our problem since many of the women today are so very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, greedy, picky, and so very power money hungry since they will Only want the Best of all and will Never settle for Less since it really does take two to tangle which many of us are Not Single by choice.