How to Save your Broken Relationship

by Ruchi on

Save a relationshipThere is nothing more hurtful than a Broken relationship. When we are in a relationship with a person who plays a vital role in our life, we are kind of use to and dependent to that person but this is life and sometimes because of few insane blunders such valuable relations gets cracked. People do say that once there is bitterness in any relation its impossible to get the same feeling and respect in that relationship but I don’t feel same. Dealing with broken relationships is not that easy and one need to make sure all steps should be taken carefully and all words mean the same.

If you really want to make up a relation then there are ways to bring a spark in that relation again. But before that you must be sure that you need that person back in your life, I guess if you are reading this article then of course you need someone back in your life.

There can be many reasons because of which love ones, friends, siblings depart but if you still have a soft corner for them  then you should for sure try to revive your relationship again.

Tips to Save a broken relationship:

  • Try your best to make up:

It’s tough to get someone in your life who was your strength, who used to be there when you need a shoulder to cry, who had the power to make you smile and who gives all reason to stay happy. But when such people move away from you then you find yourself lost and need lots of positive energy to get back on track of your life. If the reasons are not so bad for a break up of such relations then there is no harm to revive that relation again and for that you must stay positive and try your best to make up with such special person in your life.

  • Forget and Forgive:

If you think that bitterness in your relationship is because of another person then do remember that he/she is a human being and humans do make mistakes. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes in our life. Thus try to forget the past and forgive others, especially if they made the mistake unintentionally. Forgiving someone never mean that you are less than other people, it shows that you are strong and wise enough to forgive someone.

  • Keep ego aside:

This is the worst part of any relationship which always hold you back to bring your love one to you. After moving apart both people think who is going to break the ice because at that time ego is of higher priority than sweetness and unconditional love. If you really value a relationship then why ego is letting it down? If you really want to make up a relation then do keep your ego aside and use your heart to bring those sweet moments again in your life.

  • The conversation always work:

There are a lot of confusions in your relationships once its breakup without clearing those problems, you wont ever get same feeling for each other. Don’t hide anything from each other. If you are scared that it might worst the situation then thinks twice, what the worst would happen? There is already lots of bitterness in your relationship. May be a healthy and unbiased conversation can bring the love back to your relationship, nothing harm in trying.

  • Start afresh:

Once you both are convinced, forget the past, forget the bad moments and just remember how much important you both are for each other. Start your relation afresh and make sure that small problems and conversation don’t ruin your relationship again.

Bonus tip: If you always want to save a relationship, always be transparent before its too late and you start regretting your mistakes. It helps you to bring trust and maintain a long term relationship. If you are going to have an end of relationship conversation with your partner, and you want to fix this, it’s always a good idea to meet the person and talk instead of using phone, SMS or Emails. When you hold your partner’s hand and  talk to them and try to make them understand your points, this might be really helpful to save this ending relation.

I hope this few factors will surely help to make your broken relationship sweet again. If you have more tips then do share with us, it might help others to get their love back.

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Alyssa

I broke out with my boyfriend almost two years ago. I still love him and I still miss him a lot. I never understood what happen :( and I have tried everything to try to forget him but I just can’t. What should I do?

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Ruchi

Alyssa sad to know about your broken relation but if you want to forget him, you just need to move on and keep yourself so busy that thoughts related to your boyfriend doesn’t effect you. Here is a link to article which will surely help you: http://www.letstalkrelations.com/reasons-to-forget-your-ex-partner.html.
If you need more help you can surely contact us anytime.

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Alyssa

Thank you so much Ruchi.
It hurts to realize that someone doesn’t love you any more, especially when nothing bad happened, but as you said, is better to move on and just leave the past. Sometimes it is complicated though, but is not worth to be suffering.
Thank you for your article’s suggestion, it helped me a lot!

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bob

You broke up with him! and you don’t know what went wrong! why did you break up with him? he probably loved you’d very much. 2 years have past and you did nothing to get him back? your loss. You girls are so messed up. I did every thing I could of to get the love of my life back when she bloke up with me. she just went NC after the break up. her loss too

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Storm

Yeah what you said!! That makes no season to complain about how you feel AFTER you break up with him.

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Gaurav

Hey i have problem with my girlfriend see said i love u so much but we cannot stay together in future because of her parents and caste problem sometime i feel that i was wrong for fall in love with that girl . I’m totally confuse,frustrated please help me what should i do ? i’m begging please help me if anybody want to solve it

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Ruchi

Gaurav, don’t regret ur relationship with that girl. You belong to indian society and still there are girls who gives priority to family. Try and talk to her parents , may be your parents can help you out with same. If you both love each other and wanna be together then I am sure her parents will get ready.

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Abhinaba Paul

If u both r determined den no force in dis universe can stop u… All da best…

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loveguru

Tell your parents why they didn’t teach you castesism when you were a small child.In those school days every parents and teacher used to say “Every human being is equal”.”Hindu-Muslim-Sikhs-Christian all are equal”.With these teachings a child grow.Then a time comes when a man want to strengthen this harmony of different caste and religion.The same parents,society becomes against who used to teach peace and harmony of different caste and religion.Tell your parents and society that you are making a great bond between different caste,you want to bring harmony and peace between different caste and you are eliminating boundary line between different caste.

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Alyssa

I am different from the Alyssa above. I have done a lot of harm in my relationship. I cheated on him in the past 3 weeks ago not sex just other way kissing cuddling making out. He decided to do the same to get back at me. 2 days ago I did know about it I was home while he did it and sat in the living room. I allowed it because I thought I deserved it. I love him he loves me. He has told me since then. I am 9 years younger. Which I think has a lot to do with it. He is a lot more nature than I am. I have lied plenty of times to him while he on the other hand has been completely faithful during our whole relationship. Please help me out with advice. I’m losing the love of my life.

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denharsh

@Alyssa
Mistake happens and it’s part of life but the important thing is accepting your mistake. What ever damage has been done , it’s done and now you should sit with your guy and talk to him and be honest. Since he is mature enough, he should understand and accept the way it is. The only thing which you need to do now is by being honest. If he doesn’t accept, it’s time to accept it and pay the price. If he truly loves you, he will be back but in that case, give him time and space. Best of luck!!

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Sharad Chaurasia

i m in a relationship of 3.5 yrs she broke up a week ago, it was not her fault completely my fault, in these 3 years she loved me like hell. i loved but never kept her happy i abused her, i had sex chats but i used to tell evrythng and she accepted evrythng and forgived me. but it ws happening from 3 years. but a week ago she broke up because the limits of hearing was crossed. i realized my mistakes then i said sorry i cried whole night but she is not lsitening anythng she is just irritated like hell. she has blocked my no. she doesnt want to hear my voice. and now situation is i m not able to sleep not eat anythng. i m ready to do any type of compromise with my life what evr she says, i even dominated her told not wear this and that. i said u can do anythng just forgive me. but she is not listening. other people related to me called her but she is not ready to understand and she has challenged me to make a bf in a week. i want her back. i just want one chance to prove my self, i m thinkink to go and meet her face to face and apologize for evrything. otherwise she is hating me like i have murdered her parents.
please help me

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shane

i’ve got the same problem dude,exactly same…but still no cure…help me too.it got almost a yearr…still cring daily…only thing i realized is that there is no god

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sarah

hello i have been with my ex off and on sense we was kids. Once we have gotten older i decided to really try to have a honest relationship with him, because being we were kids i did have other boyfriends through my teenage years. He cheated on me repeatedly with different women and i broke it off with him as adults. Now he claims he really want us to work, we have been broken up for almost a year now and we have a child together. Sense then he moved in with a women within 2mths of us breaking up. Now he claims he wants his family and tired of the lieing and cheating and he’s ready to come home and be a family but he has said this in the past. im so confused! I dont know rather to believe him or not Im tired of the games.I feel if he loved his family so much why would he go live with another women when we broke up because he was cheating and thats not even the women he cheated on me with.

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Ruchi

Hey Sarah, Sorry for your relationship. Can you please explain what you feel for him, you still love him or not? If you don’t have any feelings for him then better stay away. He seem to be a confused man and can’t satisfy with one person. When he will be back and later have arguments with you, he will again go to some other women.
If you can be a happy single mother then stick to it because problems in your relationship will effect on your child growth.

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sarah

thank you so much for your reply it meant alot havent talked to him or seen him in months, he havent even checked on the kids i feel so much better that i let that go though at times it hurt for a second but i know it will get better im learning to love me again .

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loveguru

“Don’t be in a hurry, because what happens is that the mind has light moments and dark moments, day moments and night moments. When it is a day moment everything feels very good; you can see everything clearly. When night comes everything become dark and you cannot see anything clearly.

There is every possibility you may decide something when it was night time, a dark moment, a low energy moment. If you decide something in that moment, it will not be wise because you have seen beautiful moments also with this man.So wait! Decisions have to be made when there is light. When you are again loving this man and things are flowing and everything is beautiful, ecstatic, then decide, and if you want to separate, separate! But don’t decide in the nighttime.

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sweety

we r in a relationship from 1 n a half year …he loved me really a lot ..so did i ..but here comes my ego prblm that ruined my relation ..i mean i wasn’t that worse ….once we went on a trip … i was enjoying wid my frnds ..i never wanted to make our relationship open to everybody ..so i tried to ignore him ..i explained him y m doing this but still he never tried to understand the situation …n now he is treating me like hell ..he abuses me shouts on me etc ..but i knw he loved me a lot ..i begged for our relationship ..but nth was going ryt so i tried to kill myself bt unluckily m still alive bt cant walk ..i thought he will forgive me bt he says it doesnt matter what m now ..all that matter is what i were …i cant meet him or call him …he disconnects my call …n m not in a condition to go out bt we text each other daily …i try to sort out the things daily …use to beg bt i dont knw wot can i do more to save dis relation plz help me!! i knw he loved me a lot !!!

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grace

hi,iam grace.my parter got broke up with me and its more than 4 mths.he loved me a lot and used to say ‘i dnt want 2 miss u,be with me always’.i still dont understand what was the reason 4 break up.now if i call him, he blackmails me that he will go to my home and creat sceen.he hurts me with his words.
but still i love him.please help me. how to convince him!

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Ruchi

Why you wanna connivence a guy who treats you like hell? Talk to him directly why he broke up and what he wants? If you need more help you can mail us.
Good luck.

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tasha

hi my name is tasha i need a little advice i date 53 year old man i am 26and we fight all the time i do ever thing i cook i take care of his gran kids and take care of his house and he treat me so low i do it all for him i am a good person but i am lost and dont know hat to do i have to kids and i i want is a family and my kids to have a father figure in there life

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Ruchi

Cmon Tasha, Leave that guy. If you will stay with a person who don’t respect you and using you then in what environment your kids will grow. It’s better to be a single mother than to have such father. Be confident, you can raise your kids and may be in future you can get a good father for your kids. You are just 26 yr old, you will surely find a right guy and I am not sure you are financially independent or not but you are young enough to stand for yourself and your kids.
To bring up kids most important is to have a good family and culture otherwise you will ruin their future. Thus instead of choosing wrong father, stay single and wait for right person.
Mother can do anything for kids, you have all capability to make your kids a great human being (you said you are a good person). Please move on.

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kamal

hie, my name is kamal nd i was in relationship wid a gal of my class fr lst two years nd we brokeup 5 month back bcus her parents wanted her to study only.. wen she told me dis, i got angry nd i brokeup ..in the initial period of brkup i was normal bt nw i miss her a lot.. i tried so much to tak to her by calls, msg but no reply.. i really love her a lot nd i wnt her to cm bck in my life forever, plzzz sm1 help me out.. what shud i do to make up our relation again…

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Barathi

Hi im married 30 years old. But unfortunately we are not able to lead good married life. During at this time we i manage to keep in touch with my very close friend and fall in love with him, meet him be with him. We decided to get married as we found we both can create a happy family. He was so attached and lovable to me and he just create such a wonderful days and nights. But just becoz of few silly argument he decided to not be with him and completely ignored me. At this time the problem within me and my husband become more worse until i decided to just file the divorce case. But my life with my bf is not certain but i love him so much. Since 6 months im just crying and crying as cant accept the silent from him. I’m lost in my life. He don’t want to talk to me and ignoring me. I even think of commit suicide as i cant bare this pain. Mentally too disturbed and i behave like crazy some times. Please advise me n help me save my love…With very hurt heart.

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Daisy

I’ve been with my bf for a year and 8 months and I can feel our relationship slowly vanishing, he brings up breaking up every so often. I try my best to keep him happy, I even bought a guitar to play with him to get into his interest and nothing seems to work, I’m starting to think maybe he just doesn’t want this relationship anymore and I get really depressed knowing that. He went to mexico for 2 weeks and he rarely contacts me, we’re a couple who is in contact every second of everyday and now he seems to have forgot about his girlfriend, he didn’t talk to me for 2 days and every other day has been a 5min conversation through email. I don’t know if he wants space or a flat out breakup, please help. x(

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Ruchi

Hey Daisy,

We posted your problem on our Facebook page and few of our readers provide the following solutions, hope these helps:

1. Why don’t u ask him about whats going on in ur relationship, so u know if he still love u or not.. Maybe he likes someone else thats why hes ignoring and he’s just waiting you to break up with him.. Its only my opinion.. leave a message to him about what u feel..

2. A guy feels too guilty to break up, he will make every possible situation to give you hint that its over. If you are smart get the hint because things will get worse.

3. Read between the lines…and it’s clear he needs space. Give it to him, set him free.At first it’s hard but you’ll be okay:)God bless you.

4. Just leave the dude…he is nt man enough 4 u…if he truely lvs u he wil cum back bt 4 now leave
The dude

5. someone will come ……..someone will go……..only soulmates will remain for life…….god bless.

If you need any help… you can surely contact us. Best luck :)

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Alan

Guys…I’ve been in love with this lovely girl named Bethany. Although we broke up due to disagreement many, many times. Afterwards we tried to make up but we both weren’t open with each other, when I asked her to be more open and chat with me more often she just told me I was a control freak and she needed her space, but I couldn’t just let her loose like that, I mean I’m afraid she’ll just leave me for someone else…anyways the worst has happened. Today she told me she doesn’t feel for me anymore and yet I still love her so much and she’s not willing to get back with me…please please help guys.

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Anne

Hi! My name is anne, i’m 22. i’m in the long distance relationship for almost 8 mos. My boyfriend found out that i have someone here which i was talking and going out with 4 mos ago. He lost his trust to me. Another reason is Because of my lies about my past. We survived another 4 mos of being together but it’s full of fights and arguements. I love him so much and all that i’am doing now is what he wants. He wants us to get married and have a child when he got back here. I said yes to everything, since i want a family already. He has a lot of issues about himself because of a traumatic expirience with his ex girlfriend. now, he wants me to sign a custody for our future kids that if we divorce he will have the custody. I said yes to it, now i’m confused if this is still right.. I need advice.. Thanks!

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Ruchi

Hey Anne,
Your Relationship is not at all Stable. Do you really want to be in a marriage where you are already talking about divorce. You lie to him, you involve with someone else and still you think that you love him? If you really love him you won’t ever lie to him or go on date with someone else.
Think again about this relationship, I guess before taking such a huge step make sure you really wanna be with him or not.

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Sophia

Hello. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years now. Several months ago, I found out he had been smoking and doing drugs behind my back and even though he knew how I felt about it (very sober lifestyle), he did it anyways. He appologized and was very sorry and guilty and I accepted it and forgave him. Since then, I have had trust issues and don’t know what to do. I still love him and I know he is clean now but I still feel hurt. Whenever I try to talk to him about how I feel, he gets defensive and even now, I am finding out that when he confessed, he bent the truth and didn’t tell me everything because he didn’t want to hurt me. Help me please.

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Ruchi

Hey Sophia,

When it comes to drugs, people can’t quit them so easily. That might be a reason that he said lie to you. Thus, instead of not trusting him, give a shot again and you help him to quit his drugs. And if you really love him, you need to have patience and keep an open mind.

Apart from drugs if he is cheating on you then you can think of losing trust. But if its about drugs, he needs your help and gradually he will quit them.

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tamara

hello
my boyfriend and the father of my daughter have been together 4 and half years. we have 2 step kids from a previous relationship his a daughter 16 n son 14. we have huge financial stress we own 3 houses and we are drowning in debt and as my hubby says its cause i can stop spending and hes right i cant stop spending min not sure why but i think its cause my mom always does and i see her do it and have seen her do it all my life and i now i think with a family of mine i can do the same thing, well we cant and i realize i am pushing my hubby away further and further. I need to surrender the card debit. we have been though a lot in our relationship the lose of his father suddenly the cancer took over so fast and my hubby has yet to deal with that and or the pain, I smile and i go through each day trying to see the brighter side of things. he has told me lately that he is unhappy and that the relationship is broken and the damage has been done. So in my mind i see that if i can get the 20000.00 that we need by July 1st and show him that hey hunny i can do this let me show you i have changed then maybe he will stay with me and i can show him just how much i actually do care. about him and our family, i don’t want a broken family, but he said to me you came in with nothing and you will get everything all 3 houses, one or all the vehicles we have 3 the camper it will all be yours, i honestly think i can fix it cause its all me it seems im stressed out i stress him then the money goes then that’s more stress the stress of 3 houses. the financial burden is huge we signed a rent to own on one of our houses and in 3 years we will be free of that house but the other house our vacation house i think we need to put it on the market and sell it through a Realtor. i think that once the houses start to disappear the stress will fade and he will go back to who he was. the wonderful hubby that i love so much and that i fell in love with because of his care free lifestyle and his always happiness. if i can show him just the person who i am an who i became after i took my course and get the reconnection with him i will feel so much better. i am a different person i need him to see that. i hope its not to late and he wont leave me but he said to me yesterday i will pretend to be happy just to make you happy. i want real happiness with him not pretend i need to show him and i need to make him see that the 4.5 years we have been together is not wasteful and i can do this. I hope you can help or shed some light on to this for me.

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stacey

Hi, me and my partner had a big argument and we didn’t speak for nearly two weeks because of it because he didn’t want to. We have decided to continue but its just not the same since. Its ruined things. We can’t seem to have a flowing conversation mostly because he doesn’t make conversation when I try to. He said he is hoping we will get it back but it will take time. I found a girls number on his bedroom which shows he has lost interest in me! How do I get back what we had together or does this sound like it can not be fixed?

Thanks

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Ruchi

Hey Stacey,

If you both love each other than you need to give time to this relation. And just seeing a phone number doesn’t mean that he lost interest in you. There might be few things from your side too which might be bothering him. Try to have patience and talk with him clearly what he wants. But keep following points in mind while you talk to him:
1. Talk only when he is in good mood.
2. Listen what he want to say, don’t intrupt or get into arguments.
3. Keep your ego aside and think through his point of view.

If you love him, you can surely follow above points. If you don’t love him, you won’t able to accept your mistake or change them and won’t ever understand his problem.
There is no relation which can’t be revived… you just need to make efforts and be calm.
Best luck.

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curious

Just curious I am in a relationship and it seems the trust is gone. We argue alot and there have been past trangrescies I love him and we have a family been together for 7 years Sometimes I want to leave and just start fresh but then I think and I really want to stay with him what can be done to restart our relationship?

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mirabel

hey am havin a little problem in my relation.thine is my ex lover kissed me and i felt guilty of it and told my boyfriend about it,i was about explainin how it happend my fone went off@that moment i was with my pastor so i kept my fone on mute he called me i didnt pick nw he’s feeln am avoidin hez calls so he switchd off hez fone hav tried all possible best get him tru but to knw avail i love him so much i need your advice

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Ruchi

Hey Mirable,
Meet him in person and tell him whatever happened..Communication is the key for healthy relationship.

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mirabel

thanks so much we’ve worked thins out and we are back on track

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Ruchi

That’s lovely mirable.. Wish you lots of happiness ahead :)

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Sadi

Hey, I have a question.My boyfriend and I are really good together. We have both made mistakes but we have one thing most relationships don’thave and that is trust and respectmost of thetime. We dontmake decisonswithout talkingto the other person. We aregood for eachother but have our own problems. We’ve been dating for 2years and almost 5 months. Lately, we have been arguing a lot. I feel he is never happy and always angry, he gets really frustrated easily and sometimes doesn’t talk to me the best but then againwe both do that sometimes. I do everything, well a lot. I clean, do the laundry, take care of the dogs and I just don’t feel appreciated. I feel like he is or happy with me either but when I ask him he reassures means says he is happy and loves me. I also feel like he doesn’t want to spend time with me, I ask him to go to the dog park or spend time with me but seems like he never wants to spend time with me unless its what he wants to do. We both are not innocent and have made mistakes but never cheating, we trust each other but sometimes he makes it difficult to communicate. He just doesn’t like talking about how heis feeling. I really love him and our life and want to make this work but sometimes I feel like we are having troubles and I’m not sure how to fix it. We both getfusteratedeasily.whenever I tell him I’m leaving he gets upset and says “nice to know what you want” and never wants to leave or threatens me. Truthfully we protect each other, fight like an old married couple and still flirt like first loves. What should I do? Indeed advice. Lol

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fraciah

That was good but myself i have a problem my boyfriend and i broke up few months ago and he is dating somebody else he told me to move on but i realy love him i want him back in my life The last time we met he kissed me……

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Darla

I have been with my husband almost 5yrs and recently found out he has been cheating with a woman he’s known for 15yrs also found out he’s been sexual with her on and off during those 15yrs now he’s telling me he can’t lose me u mean so much but I can’t seem to forgive him and it hurts so bad becus I’ve never loved anyone as I do him but I feel so hurt I can’t see forgiving him

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joanna

I have a such loving boyfriend whose gave him the world to me but due to my past experiences i never have learnt to trust and only being very manipulate and controlling. I am too scared of losing him, i used many extreme ways to prove that he is real to me. and now he said he wants alone time and i have been begging him not to do that to me cause we have never spent a day apart before and hes pushing me away and not answsering my phone calls. but few days ago he said “lets forget about everything and work for our future” but and then he opened up saying how many harmful things i have done to him and he is very scare of my behaviours. he doesnt want it to be repeated again but he still wants to carry on. so i asked him if your living in pain just end the relationship but he stayed silent. i can sense he still want to try for the last time but what can i really do to win his heart back again?
thank you

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Ruchi

Hey Joanna,

Good thing about you is you know whats your problem. You dont trust others easily and control others. Both these things are dangerous for any relationship. If you really love him, try to improve your thinking. Trust him and give him some time. Let him think whats good for you both and meanwhile change yourself a bit so that he can be comfortable with you.
Talk to him and sort out things.

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Sabrina

Hey so I had a boyfriend of 3 years . 3 years was on April 1st . About. A week ago we had people over at our place we got really drunk and got into a stupid fight that went way over proportion and he need up leaving me that night alone and went to his bestfriends house . His best friend was out if town and it was just my boyfriend and his best friend girlfriend there , he spent the night there and I woke up the next morning with just a horrible gut feeling that he cheated on me but I convinced myself that I was crazy and he would never do that to me . That day he told me he wanted to take a break and he wanted me to go back to my moms house do he can think.. I sat there all day long absolutely hating my life crying ,wondering what I did to ruin our great relationship and I couldn’t think of anything that I did because we were doing great . Later that day I was packing my things and he came back home and begged me to stay so of course I did . Then the next day he came home from work and sat me down and started crying and told me he cheated on me with his best friend girlfriend.. I’m so heart broken , confused , lost , depressed and don’t know what to do !!? I really NEED HELP!! I need some advice !!? He says he so beyond sorry and it was a huge mistake but I don’t know what to do or what to believe!?): after three great years this happens .. I really need help so please someone give me advice !!? ):

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Dumazile

Hi Im duma Ive been dating this guy 4 almost 7yrs his is ignorent his a cheater and apologise when i find out,now i dont trust him and we in long distance relationship and have two kids.now I’m tired to leave an unhappy life when i try to talk with him he ask me to leave him alone when we together his spend his time play chat with his phone he only come closer to me when is time to sleep please help me what must i do because i love him so much but I’m not happy

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Ruchi

Sorry Duma, but its better to move on. He is cheating on you, don’t care about your feelings and because of him you are not happy. If you won’t be happy how you will bring up your kids happily.
You haven’t mentioned how he treats your kids? If your kids are grown-ups then you can discuss your problem with them. It’s always better to take decision practically when kids are involved.

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germaine

How can i save a relationship we been together 6 years off and on :( and i dont have a great past dealing with cheating and lies u regret all of it but she we fight.get back together for the duration she says the same thing.over and over again like saying she is done and will never come back but when i sit and wait she comes back but i dont wanna.waste time anymore i feel like im losing her i know in person contact will help things but what do u do when that person doesn wanna see u every time i ask can we get lunch n talk which is something we always do when we fight threw out the years i want a serious relationship with her but i put her threw alot i know i have no sense n lying i want my life to end with her family started but how can i save my relationship im not gonna give up her i love her to much but what is it that im missing i apologize every chance i get n express my love every chance i changed now i want her to see n allow me to show her but i dont know how……i need help

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Ruchi

Hey,

Trust is most important part of any relationship especially someone you love. You cheated her, lied to her and now you want her back. IF you are really changed and love her truly, try to talk to her politely. But last decision will be hers that she wants you back in life or not. You can’t force anyone to be in a relationship.

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Alma

Ruchi,
I had this really good friend. We had been friends with benefits since the first day we met in person. She had a girlfriend and told me that we could only be friends. Unfortunately I fell for her and when I told her, she said she needed time and space. That time and space was for four days and she told me that we could only be friends, no more sex. I told her that I’ve had missed her to which she replied with an “I know that!”, that made me feel like a dumb person, cause she told me that if I couldn’t be only friends with her, we were done. I told her that all those four days that we didn’t speak, I had been thinking a lot about our sex. That I tried to think about our conversations and good times together, but I could only see her in bed and she got mad. She told me that that was all she was to me, that in my mind we were never friends, just sex friends. She said she was disappointed at me and that she didn’t wante to text nor call her anymore. That she didn’t want me in her life anymore.
What can I do to get her back in my life, to be friends with her again?
I really miss her, even knowing that she’ll never be anything else than just friends with me, I just want her friendship.

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Ruchi

Hi Alma,
She is right in her part. She needs you as a friend but you just want her to satisfy you. Neither you love nor want her as a friend, its just a physical attraction. Try to forget her, make yourself busy with things you like to do or make new friends. It better to move on because you can’t force anyone to stay with you, especially in such situation.

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TN

i have a gf being 3 yr and jus broke up, before tat have many times of argurement and patch back. She love me wholeheartly , will do anything for me but i didnt appreciate her , no give her hapiness , no give her security , warm and treat her very cold..now she broke up wiv me and now i jz realize i love her very much and cant lose her.She say broken is broken already and she feel tired in this kind of relationship and many chances had been given since 3 year oreli .She is very angry with me and ask me clear my mind .
How to woo her back bcos i really don wan to lose her.. and she since to have someone in mind tat she feel happy to be with.

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Ruchi

Hey TN,
Just make sure that you really love her or its just your ego that you want her back? You never cared for her and now you expect her to be back with you after breakup. Before trying to get her back, know your own feelings. Why you used to fight with her or never given happiness she deserved? You need time to think do you really want her, if yes then make sure you not going to behave so rudely with her again. If you change your attitude, she might see the difference and change her mind.

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Eff Sha

I hope you are not going to make me pay for posting my comment. If so, please disregard my comment because I did not know about the payment.

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Ruchi

Your Comment made me laugh..Don’t worry we don’t charge anything. Just love to help others. :)

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Cessa

Hi Ruchi,

Its really nice to see your replies for the people who need help in relation. Well, these days I am one of them :( Hope you will try to help me too.

I was in relation with a guy (who was my best friend earlier to that) over a year ago. We were so good as friends but our relation did not worked due to some misunderstandings only. I was bit immature to understand and he expected me to understand him without even saying. Little hard, however! But then we move ahead, he asked me to be just good friends.It was hard time for me too. But I understood that I can make the things alone. It will be a one sided relation, otherwise. I tried that time but dint end up in making our relation back. And I stopped talking to him while making certain excuses. We were not in touch for almost 8 to 9 months. I used to call him sometimes in between, He responded me well either.

But soon i realized, that I still feel for him, Whenever, I come up to meet another guy or i think of having a new relation, I found that I am actually not able to! Then I decided to talk to him about it, but when I wanted to had a word with him I got no courage and gets nervous again. So I thought to have a simple conversation with him just hello, hi etc. And slowly we started staying in touch again just like we used to be when we were very good friends to each other. I was happy enough with that.

And one day he started expressing indirectly that he missed me through and also he used to do all those things which I expected him to do when we were in relation. He never said it to me directly and made me felt special once again. I could have seen his efforts. Though I know, he is not that easy guy to express his feelings. But this time, he really tried and said the things well but still indirectly. I thought to have a direct communication with him on this, But got a negative answer that time.

I am just not able to understand that what does he want. I stopped being connected once again with him after his negative answer. And stopped hoping for some good. But then, he came all of a sudden, and said he wants to see me with him (may be as friend, not sure). I thought to give him some time and let him pursue me, if he really want to be with me. He gave me enough importance, he used to say me that I am special and important as well and I always welcomed his feelings and responded well.

Ruchi, I am really not able to understand him on this part. Whats going on in his mind? I tried to ask him, but he never gave any direct reply and simply ask me to think less and stay happy. Its been three years being friends, he should have collected enough courage to speak. And secondly, i told him that I still feel for him, but he did not responded to that and when i really leave he come to me and don’t even let me go. Please try to help me to understand him.

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Ruchi

Hey Cessa,
I guess he is still confused that he wants you back or not. He does love your company but need time to think about long-term relationship. It’s better not to force him right now. It would be great if you can continue your friendship and meanwhile let him decide what exactly he wants from this relationship. This guy is not sure and needs time. Hope it helps.

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mo

Me and my girlfriend dated for a year and almost a half. She thought i was losing interest In her and didn’t want to believe it so she broke up with me so i wouldn’t hurt her. I never lost interest I was just getting depressed and stressed out. I really love her and want her back but she’s really sad and depressed but i want her to know i care still. She’s keeping my Baby picture and a necklace i got her. She still has m e on Facebook and she deleted her ex’s and blocked them. What can i do to get her back? I really love her and want her to know i never lost interest.

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Ruchi

Hey Mo,
You better let her know your feelings. May be you are not showing your love to her, she is not God that she will understand what’s in your mind. So, express your love and get her back.

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mo

I don’t know how, she doesn’t want to talk and i don’t want to pressure her and make her drift away. I was told its best to give her space but i don’t know how much space and i really want to explain everything and be happy with her again. Isuffered from depression and we both thought i healed but i guess I never did and her parents told me they never seen her as happy then when she was with me. But i feel like i ruined it And i want her so bad. She is still so sad and i feel like the best thing i can do is show change and respect her space. But idk what to do. We are both going to FloridFlorida for an internship together and idk if I can work things out there.

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Boizii johson

am not a victim of heart breaks but some times shit happens and we lay blames on our selves

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Aravindh

Hi Ruchi,

I had been loving my college mate for two years. We never had any opportunity to talk and know each other except the four months of my last year. I had never let her know that I want her to be a part of my life. I hid all my feelings thinking that I might hurt her. The worst day came where I had to express myself to her. I failed to make her understand and she left me. Its been two years since we separated and never had chance to make her understand that I still love her and I want her to be my part and parcel. I failed at every steps I made to forget her. Its really hurting and day by day the guilty conscious of hiding this to my parents kills me vehemently.

Hope you understand my position. I still love her but I am not in a position to make her realize that. Hope you help me to recover from this situation.

Waiting for your reply,

Thanks,
Aravindh.

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Ruchi

Hey Aravindh,
If you have her email ID, phone number or any other contact then do tell your feelings properly. Make your mind what you really wanna convey her. Atleast give a try before trying to forget her.

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Aravindh

Hi Ruchi,

Thanks for your reply. I mailed her but she couldn’t understand me properly. So, the only option I am left with is to forget her which is what I am unable to do so for all these years. I left to God and hope I ll recover sooner or later. If you have any suggestions to do the same, kindly do give which should be helpful for me at this situation.

Thanks,
Aravindh.

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Ruchi

Hey Aravindh,
You mailed her and she couldn’t understand means? Hope you were clear what you want to tell her. If you want more help, you can mail us.

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Rodiya

My name is Rodi, Me and my girl dated for complete 4years, 2008-2013 When is about 2month to our introduction/wedding, I now get to realize that she have another man that she was dating for almost 6month, within the period of 2012 May to November 2012, and the man had sex with her for almost three times due to little distance between us, I trusted her so much to the extent of not believing the person that narrate all her story for me, But immediately i keep giving her alot of trouble and stress, she later convex for me that it’s work of devil, I really love her so much, But with what was just happened recently am totally confused and my heart was totally broken into peaces , But the most big problem now is that, she said she was pregnant for me, AND the pregnancy is now 4month now. Please advice me, what can i do, Should i continue to go for the introduction or i should stay away from this damn animal that called herself wife?????

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Ruchi

Hey Rodi,
Sorry to know about your problem. It’s clear that your wife don’t love you, otherwise she won’t even think of getting into any other relation. Sorry to ask, but are you sure its your baby? You love her but it’s high time to clear with her what she wants from you. If she is staying with you just for society/parents sake then its better to depart. If you need any help you can mail us.

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simi

my name is simi.i have a relation with my bf since 6 months.he is too gud,too caring n too loving.i love him so much,he also loves me so much.his family knows abt me,n my family as well.but the thng is,i had hidden sumthng about my past,n his friends are telling him by adding some extra things.now he wants that d relation sud be end,but i cant live without him,he is hurting himself due to my mistake,m sayng 2 him dat to meet once only,but he is refusing,i need him at any cost.please help me

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Dev

My Girl friend is simple but after having fight between us she never use to call or texts me, she cares for me and loves me but doesn’t express it at all she always pretend that she is ok even after we have very serious fights she also use to hide her mistakes and tries to confuse me when I found that she had did things which I don’t like. She also use to tell lies to make me happy but I always caught her lies and it hurts me a lot in turn. I don’t know what to do I luv her and can’t live without her and can’t live like these also, if I m giving luv n concern to her in turn I also want her to show some concern and care.

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cj8383

we nid 2 talk privately.pls

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Ruchi

You can mail us your problem via contact form

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himvhi

Hey I recently our relationship in that place where again I revive my relationship
but Now I am not feeling that’s feeling which I felt by her
I love her so much so please kindly request to you when our relation will be normal

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himvhi

Ruchi di
how can I get my love whom I love bcz of fighting c is not as c was
c thinks we have no future
our age difference is 5 yr so temme di kaise samjhye
one more problem wid our relation is I cn do anything for ma relationship bt c is afraid to do all things
so how can I mk ma relation more strong without her support
bcz m taking all risk for ma love c feels bad that’s y c want to broke out relationship
di I can do anything I just want her support for our relationship
n di we have distance relationship
we only meets 2 times in 2 yr
pls di suggest us to save our relationship

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Emma

My girlfriend broke up with me but i told her that i still love her,and from that day she stopped calling and texting me and i also stopped calling and texting her,but after two weeks,she texted to know how i was doing,she even called me my love,does that mean she still loves me.

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kimberly

Hi Ruchi,
I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 4 years, and we’ve been good all along living together just sometimes with minor arguments abroad studying until we graduated from University and went back to our hometown, we live in the same country but seems as though we feel quite distanced apart cause we don’t need to rely on each other anymore and have our own lives back to our family again if you get what i mean. 6 months ago, the day that we broke up, she went on holiday until new years eves, and we she came back i wanted to see her however she couldn’t she was too tired but insisted seeing her, i guess it was my fault however we got into an argument and she switched her phone off until the next day and texted me saying she doesn’t love me anymre, she has no feelings for me anymore all of a sudden, and when she was on holiday, we were constantly texting love and bubbly words to each other.

After the break up, i was or still am heart broken, we didn’t talk to each other for two weeks however i then couldnt resist talking to her so i told her i can now accept being friends with her which she asked before when she broke up with me, she wanted to become friends. But my idea of being friends with her is because i want to get back with her. And one day, when i didn’t text her back, she went crazy for a day, she went a bit insane trying to find different ways to contact via online social communications, and phones, texts. I really don’t know what she’s thinking about, and now when i ask her to go out for a friendly dinner or acitivity, she always has to ask someone to join us, making the end of the day 3 or 4 people having dinner.

She usually comes to my place to dinner with my family every few weeks and when i bring her home, well i can surely still feel the slight chemistry when we are alone, i don’t know if it’s just me but i surely think that or feel that there’s something stopping her to reach out another step. And we’re going on holiday soon but not alone though, i don’t know what i can do, i think she doesn’t want to deal with arguments anymore with me but through these few months i have changed a lot trying to see what i’ve done wrong in the past and what i can do better for her.

What shall i do? have i dragged it too long? will i be able to get her back?

Thank You

kimberly

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Amy

Iam reading over some of your info very interesting, my issues is iam goin on 7 years with my bf we have had good times n trying times as any relationship. Would..but I jus try my best to make my bf understand how I feel I mean I stuck by him through. . Him cheating and whenever hes down..im there but now it seems like hes distant he says I call and text him to much.. but I thought I was supposed to , idk now when im at his house I notice my things are hidden. . And I asked him about he declined to talk about im really lost tired of crying but I kno he loves me.. jus dont kno how to fix this broken. .relationship. .

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sherry

My boyfriend asked me tor break n I wasn’t able to handle that thing I went completely mad at that moment n lately his Bro handled me.I was heart broken n so needed somebody I kissed him in front off my so called ex boyfriend means my boyfriend he got pissed he is not ready to understand plus his friends are not letting him to get back Wid me m pissed somebody PlZzzz help me out it’s urgent

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Shivani Jaiswal

I proposed a boy..he accepted it,and we were living wid happiness in our life,bt he broke up saying that he luv his family more than me…bt 1 month after he again proposed me saying that he loves me..my problem is that he is a boy wid so much of ego..and we r lacking conversations since few weeks..how can I check whether he really loves me or not? And how can I deal wid his ego as due to this our relation is nearly breaking point..plz advice me,I m very stressed..

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Ruchi

Hey Shivani,
I don’t think that guy has guts to marry you. Ask him clearly what he wants from this relationship. If he agrees to marry and can convince his parents then its good for your future, otherwise just move on. It’s tough but good for you.

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Lester

Hi
I hurt my girlfriend unintentionally because of some bitches that flirt to me.and now may girlfriend broke up with me. And now i regret all the things that happen to make a relationship end. And her no longer trust. And i still love her.what should i do to take her trust back?

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Lester

I mean my girlfriend broke up with me and i regret all the things that happen to make our relation end. And all of her trust to me is gone. I still love her so much. that should i do to take her trust and love back thanks

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Ruchi

Hey Lester,
If you think that the main reason for the breakup is someone else and there is nothing you have done then its better to make her understand that you love her and no one else. It would be better if you talk to her when she is in good and understand what you want to say. Hope it helps.

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Lester

thanks for that advice!i’ll do that

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prosper

pls a need a solutio to this, me nd my girl wll ave missunderstanding recently we setled steal yet i ave i did’nt understant her any longer cus her movement i don’t no again, what should i do

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Blythe

Hi Ruchi, I have been with my bf for 7yrs. Till now, I believed we had a good relationship. However, he used to lie to me for small reasons like flunking his exam while he’ll tell me he cleared it. He would make plans to visit me but when the time came he used to avoid discussing it with me. I introduced him to my family but he kept giving me excuses about meeting his side of the family. Even though he lied to me about these things, I continued wiyh him since I loved him and the fact that he didnt cheat on me was reason enough to be with me. Two weeks back, we stopped talking to each other (his fault) and I soon found out he text flirted with a junior of his. He ecen tagged her in a photo in facebook which that hirl told him to put. In his inbox, that girl sent a msg saying I love and that stupid bf said I love u in return with all he emoticons. All these happened in one night. When I confronted him about it, he told me he only chatted with her and he I love you’s were just for fun. He said he made a bad mistake tagging her (its a big issue for me because I begged him to update his relationship status for 7yrs but he used to give excuses all the time and in one night he listened to that girl and changed his photo which she liked and tagged her. I just dont know why he did that to me). He cried the whole night asking for forgiveness but I didnt give me a chance. Now its been two weeks, we don talk to each other, in he occasional text we sent, he tells me he loves me and regrets about all the lies he told me. But I just don’t know how I can trust hom again. Yes he didn’t physically cheat with me but even he emotional thing he had with her kills me. He even told her we were going through patch. She is only 19yrs for Gods sake and we are bloody gonna be 30 soon. Please help me understand why he did it and what I should do…

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Ruchi

Hey Blythe,

You took right decision. It’s better to move on. You can’t trust a guy who keep telling you lies every now and then. Seven years is a long time but for your future it good that you don’t trust him now.

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Blythe

Help me please

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iizy

Hey i have been dateing my mate for 12years and for the whole time he has been doing things that i feel is wrong for a person to do who is in a committed relationship, like staying out all night leaving the house as soon as.i leave for work have a lot of girls for “friends” and just a year ago i found out that he fathered a child.that is not mine .i forgave him for it all and i still feel as though the same things are happening even if they are not .i want to leave him but i love him so much and im all he have here and i dont want him to feel like i.dont care what should i do ??? im losing myself in this relationship

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Tina

i have been engaged with this wonderful guy. He’s 34 y/o and 7 years older than me. He is very mature. He cares a lot for me, always been supporting me for my studies and he loves me a lot, even more than i do. We have long distance relationship for one year. But unknowing i have hurt his feelings. We were planning to get married next year. All my friends are planning to pursue their postgraduate studies and hearing them, i wanted to do the same. But since i will get married, it will be kinda difficult for me to continue my PG. I will have to get married, work then do my PG. Then i started to worried about my freedom after marriage. I was scared that I wunt have much freedom if i get married. But my fiancee told me, when time comes he himself would like me to continue my studies. But hearing my friends talking, I said bad things to him.. It really hurt his feeling. I told him that he is old. Now he sed he is setting me free since i want my freedom. He has even taken a long break and throwing gift that i gave him. I really love him. I appreciate everything that he did for me. I can;t live without him. I really want our relationship to prosper and grow. He isn’t talking to me nor answering me. Please give me some advise. I fink i have been very selfish and took him for granted. How could i have been so insensible :’(

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Mamie

it’s almost 3 years since i’ve in love with him. I love him and he loves me too though my parents are against me and don’t like him. But then i try to work out everything for him. He is younger than me and he used to have a misunderstanding about me. He thought that I used to look down upon him as he got a lower degree than me and he also thought i feel ashamed that i had him infront of him. But its not the way he think. How could i show him that I never look down on him and never feel ashamed of being having him as my boyfriend and how could i show him that i really appreciate and proud of him .. i just need help ..please help me ..i don’t wanna loose him

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Ruchi

Hey Mamie,

The communication gap is the major problem in your case. You both love each other and it’s important that you discuss all the problems. Talk to your parents too, ask why they are not ready to accept your relation. Talking would surely help.

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joe

Dear Ruchi,
i had my relationship with my girlfriend for three years. i loved her (and still I love her) too much. it was a sweet relation. but after 2.5 years of the relation, her ex-boyfriend came to the scene. and the problem started from there. she started to hate me. she scolded me in various way. i always tried to make her to realize the situation. but she started to disbelieve me. she always told something about me which are deadly wrong. now she thinks that her ex-boyfriend is better than me. she always gives importance to her emotion. when i tried to keep her calm, she always told that i am selfish. she also said that i did everything for myself. now i feel very helpless.

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joe

she actually forgot everything. she forget our sweet memories. when i wanted to talk with her, she scolded me rudely. she always said that i didn’t do my duty properly. but this claim is not right. i always did my level best to do for her. when i tried to share my sorrows with her, she used a bunch of rude comments. and i know these happen for misunderstanding. i always try to erase those misconceptions. but she does not believe me. i don’t want to loose her. if possible, please give me some suggestion. is silence can be a way to solve it?
thanks.

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Ruchi

Hey Joe,
I don’t think she is into you.. And you said she has a bf then its better to move on. Sounds tough but she is giving you clear signs that she doesn’t want to keep relationship with you. Try to understand and what’s the use to think about a girl who don’t even try to understand you and keep on saying bad things about you.

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Amy

Dear Ruchi, I’m 18 and my Fiancé is 24. We have been dating for a year now. Our relationship was a great one without very many fights until I found out I was pregnant in March. He was very supportive about the whole thing. Eventually we started arguing at least once a week and feelings changed between us. Not so much hatred but annoyance maybe? Our relationship was slowly dissolving. One day we got into a huge fight and he threatened to leave me and that he felt bad for our unborn baby because he didn’t think we were going to make it until our baby was due. Eventually it all blew over and we were happy and normal again. He ended up purposing to me on our anniversary (june 8). A few weeks later he informed me about these two girls he worked with that were hitting on him at work and letting him know they were available. I don’t find anything wrong with girls liking him but every time I went to his work I saw these girls looking for him and trying to talk to him about things that weren’t even related to work. It made me very aggravated and the more I saw it the more my jealousy became apparent to my fiancé. One day when I went up to his work and was talking to him at his desk I found a sticky note by one of the girls that had saying and a bunch of hearts on it. I was very angry and didn’t want to talk about it with him because I knew I was going to take my anger out on him. He then started talking to me about it and I couldn’t help myself. I went off on him and told him that this shouldn’t be happening and if he were to tell the girls that he doesn’t want them doing stuff like this I wouldn’t be angry. Since then we have been fighting on and off for the past couple weeks. That brings me to where I am now. Last night I wanted to look very attractive for him. I did my hair and make up and put on the outfit he thought was sexy on me. when he came home from work he didn’t say anything about what I looked like and got on his computer and didn’t try to keep conversation with me for almost three hours. Eventually our roommates came home and he told me to change the shorts I had on because they were to revealing. I got mad because he didn’t notice the way I looked before and he didn’t talk to me and then he goes and tells me to do that. He obviously saw I was mad and it ended up in a huge argument that was the second worst we ever had. He called me names and said I was making him feel like he was with his ex girlfriend and did everything in the book to try to hurt my feelings. He told me that he made a big mistake being with me and that he would feel better if I wasn’t around anymore.Hes a very hard headed person so it takes a lot to hurt his feelings. By the end of our fight I felt the lowest I have ever felt and he ended up sleeping on the couch which has never happened before, even with our other fights. I have always put my ego and self aside and apologized for all our fights because I valued our relationship more than myself. I probably have put in more info then was needed but I need some serious help! I feel like everything is my fault and that all this has ended because of me. We haven’t officially broken up yet but I don’t want it to happen because I love him more than anything! I don’t know what to do to make things better again… I just want him to love me again. I want him apart of my life.. Please help

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Ruchi

Hey Amy,
First of all congrats and since you are pregnant don’t take much stress, no matter how the situation is.

Now about your problem. It’s normal to be jealous but why to get angry on your BF because of those girls. Instead of getting angry at him, it would be better if you have told him calmly how you feel and he would have tried to ignore those girls. And if you think he didn’t notice you when you got ready for him, then I guess he noticed.. Otherwise he won’t say to change and he cares that’s why he don’t want others to see in revealing clothes. There are chances that he might be upset with you and that’s why he don’t want to talk to you. I know it feels worst when you get ready for someone and they ignore but fighting is not the solution.

I can’t say who’s fault is this because there might be few small things in relationship which end up to fighting. Keep ego aside, talk to him and be postive. Things will fall into place.
If you need help you can contact us via email. Best luck :)

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freddy

thanks anyway,I have a serious broken distance relationship,and that I aint just go talk to my partner,instead of using phone/sms/emails what can I do

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sandy

Dear Ruchi
my name is sandy n im 26yr old and grl frnd is of 22. we both r dating since form 5 n half yr, till 17 june 2013. I love her very much and even she love me very much, i work abroad n she stays in india even v r were in long distance relationship of 5 n half yr, there was no fights between me and her, when ever i used to come back to home on my vaccations we both were used to have a great time, but there was only one problem between her and me was that i could”nt give here more time in her life, in this yrs of relationship we both were committed to each other n even we were faithful to each other but this started to change in last 3 months, she finished here collage and stared to work in a organization her attitude started to change and she used to fight with me on sill topic, such as u dont value me u dont respect me u always make fun of my words n the important is u dont give me time she stared warning me about break up but i never took her seriously, one day came we fight with each other coz of my work and time, suddenly she told me after 2 days that we both have broke up, i try to short out the problem between both of us by meeting and over phone call but she refused to talk and ever answer my ph call, n one day we both decided to meet n short out the problem that day she told me that she love some other guy, she gave me biggest shock in my life, even she told that it all happen in one week after break up and i came to know that she had another guy in her life but still when ever i call her she speak to me but always say that she dont want to come back, i was her first love and even she was mine first love, first for everything in our relationship, still i love her and even im ready to forgive for her mistake but still she dont want to see my love. so pl.z help me out to get her back in my life, i have hurted her very badly due to that we both have borken up. pl.z help me out to get her back in my life

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Ruchi

Hey Sandy,
Sorry for you but you can’t force her to love her. You guys had a long term relationship and you have to take care of lots of things like giving each other time, surprises to keep the spark in your relationship. She even told you what she wanted from the relationship. I won’t blame you for the break-up but now instead of chasing her or forcing her, it would be better to give her space and try to move on.

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Vivek

Dear Ma’am

Please help me out. I belong to a conservative Brahmin family and I love a Muslim girl belonging to the most conservative sects among Muslims. She loved me too but because she used commit so many filthy mistakes, perhaps blunders I lost whole of my patience and unfortunately became abusive. Still we were in a good relationship with time. But Alas! my mom went straight to her residence and talked to her parents about this who were unaware of whatever was there between us. They smashed our relationship and to my surprise my gf turned her back on me. She ended up as she was afraid of her parents and guilt for her parents and religion. I couldn’t take it and by arguing her on her decision to end up everything worsened the break up furthermore. However, we didn’t talk at all for 5 months in any way. After 5 months have passed I mailed her on fb initited the conversation myself. She said she did not wish to talk to me but she talks, although very much controlled but she talks. She talks to me on fb ever since I began the conversation every night. She keeps on reminding me that she doesnot want to talk, but you know she talks. She is still depressed due to what happened in the past and I am unable to make her forget bad memories, even though I suggest her to forget bad memories. I even apologized sincerely for my part of mistakes and even forgave her for hers and suggest her to do the same but she is still depressed. Please help me saving my relationship.

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Ruchi

Hey vivek,
It’s kind of tough when you both belong to conservative families. Now it’s upon you guys what you want. If you think you can take care of her and her needs after marriage, if you guys do without your parents wish. It’s really a tough job to hurt parents and choose love marriage. After a few yrs/months of marriage, you get responsibilities and it’s possible that you guys get into fights. And that time you guys need to handle all yourself coz your parents might not be there to support you. If you guys have understanding then I would suggest trying to convince your parents again.

Talk to her directly, what she wants.. either think about society and miss your love for the whole life or forget each other and go for an arrange marriage. No one else can help you, you both need to think about your preferences and future.

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Vivek

Miss Ruchi,
Thanks for your concern. I am pleased but she simply says she can’t go against her religion and parents. She feels depressed while talking to me even after 5 months. I am capable of taking care of her and her needs in the nearest and the furthermost future. I have learnt, after the break up, to save the fights but I have lost hope that she would ever give my qualities any preference now after all the stuff happened. She tells she is prepared to forget me forever for her parents and religion. She is adamant. Moving on is the proof that you are strong but live with her memories and love her throughout life only her and only her shows how decisive, strong and manly you are. I feel it. I know parents will be convinced with time…..they are our parents…. they are more matured than we are…….Tell me Ruchi…..how to convince my beloved.

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Ruchi

Hey Vivek,
I can understand feelings of your beloved. She don’t want to hurt her parents. There are girls who are ready for arrange marriage just to make their parents happy even when they know they won’t be happy. Sorry to say but I don’t think that she is going to take step against her parents. One thing you can do is to ask her that is it OK if you try to convince her parents? or your parents can directly talk to hers? You never know, miracles happens.

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blinks

i av been wit my bf for 4yrs, my bf thinks am dating ma friend of which am not. Although i’ve lied to him severally but am not cheating on him. Recently i saw his post on fb telling a girl that he love her n asking her if she would b d mother of his child. I luv my bf so much i dnt want to lose him. Pls i nid advice

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Prasun Dey

Hi maam.
we have a serious long distance relationship from the past 1 and half year. bt in these times we had lots of fightings, bt those did not cause any break up. but this time for a single silly reason, she has done break up with me. for small small things she is geting angry on me. i dont knw what to do. but i want her back in my life. she is very rude. actualy in her past times her father did nt cared fr her, tortured her, for dat c became rude and arrogant. she used to say medat i should nt let her go even if she does break up. pls tell me what should i do nw. i am dying to get her back.

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Ruchi

Hey Prasun,
Things and attitude changes with time. If she is getting upset and angry on silly reason then I am sure that she is frustrated due to some reason. Try to talk to her and about her problem and assure that you will be on her side always. Try to revive your relationship, I hope it helps.

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jefry

hi hello my name is jeff pls give some advice because she decided to cool off w/ me instead of breaking up, the reason is caught me flirting other girls in facebook.
I love her so much i apologize already and asking her last chance to prove my sincerity to her. The word COOL OFF there is still a chance for me to her?

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Zoe

To answer above.

To be honest BLINKS tell him how you really feel and be prepared for him to be honest with you.You have to realise that honesty and truth can be very hurtful. In the long run everything happens for a reason. If you are a happy and confident person. You will pick yourself up and remove yourself from what is a damaging situation and prevent your heart from deep scaring. Why would you want to be with a man who wants to ave child wi another woman?. Love is mysterious and very hard to explain. because its different for each individual and what we gather from our experiences .Love can hurt but it also feels amazing when your in love and infatuated with another . It sounds like maybe its time to start afresh and find yourself someone who does care for you like you care for them. Or just a bit of sexy fun to take your mind away from your bf of 4 years. life is to enjoy and cherise,we all need experiences to give us knowledge and freedom of wisdom. I wish you all the best

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bongiwe

i was engaged and last year my fiance left me for some girl.i have tried everything and he just hate me. i miss him so much and still want him back

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Jasmine

My ex and I started dating back in Jan and everything was going great. Around mid April I found out that I was a little over a month pregnant. I told him the news and he was shocked but he told me that it was my decision and that he was going to support me and not treat me any different. Then as time goes by things started to fall apart and about a month and half ago, he broke up with me without a valid reason. When I asked him why, he said that he can’t see the future with me and he’s not ready for a relationship. I mean before the news of the baby, we talked about finding a place together and me finding a job closer to him and everything. He even told me how much i meant to him just a week before i told him the news. =( I mean I know he is scared and I am too but I thought that both of us were going to overcome this situation together. He had mentioned about abortion a few times in the beginning but I’m against the idea of abortion. He didn’t like the idea I kept the baby. So now, he is telling me that he can’t wait to hold him. I mean why does he care now about the baby when he didn’t want him in the first place. I love him and I want us to work out and be able to start a beautiful family together. Everything is so hard for me. I dont know what to do?

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Kafhin

Hey my bf is now ignoring me n blaming me and going away due to anger that we haven’t met for three months and he is saying that he tried a lot calling me n he has suffered a lot calling me n missing me but he felt that I was not caring me so he said you will get a gd guy I don’t deserve yu yu hav moved on already so better not to call me n text me I also hav moved on .there fore our relation has become very complicated even broken type, how can I get him back. I also love him n miss me

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Raymond

Hey I recently broke up with my soul mate we have two beutiful boys. She told me she fell out of love with me and says she needs her space from me but I want to do everything in my power to fix things and forget the past. My anger played a big part we always argued over stupid things and it finally lead to this we have been together for 7years and on the 30th of August would have been our anniversary. Is there anything I can do to fix all our problems she said we both have to change. I don’t want her looking for someone new because I just want us to be a family again in the future.

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Ruchi

Hey Raymond,
Good part you know the problem and solution too. When you are in marriage, you both need to adjust and change. Anger and ego are worst part of marriage. You need to prove yourself that you are a changed man and even she need to change herself so that you both can understand each other.
Try to be like friends to her..it decreases expectations and it will help you to revive your relationship again. It works. Best luck.

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Jasdeep

Hi,
I need your help in saving my relationship with my beloved, we are in relation from last 5yrs..we have also faced many up and down in this…and every time we both overcome every problem we faced in our relation… but suddenly from last few months she has stopped taking interest into me …i felt this because of below reasons
# Its me who always call , Its me who always say love you ..its me who always try to be romantic and even i try to be romantic i don’t get proper responses from her…

So , i asked her about this..and she told me that she want to move out now with no proper reason , i am not justify by her reason since it was a nice and great going 5yr relation ship.. So any how i convinced her to remain in this relation ..but i still struggling with her mind…who doesn’t want to be with me …but her heart wants to be with me..

Please help..!!!

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Ruchi

Hey Jasdeep,

It’s kind of tough to suggest anything because there is no reason known. I would suggest to talk to her properly and ask her that what’s the reason because without any reason no one give up on a 5 year relationship. There must be something which she is hiding. Don’t force her, let her take her time and then ask calmly. Hope it helps.

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Dana

My boyfriend and I broke up two months ago he left me while I was at work and moved back to Tennessee. We only talk through email. I went and saw him and things were great. He said he dated for me and loved me. Haven’t heard from him since I left a week ago. I love and miss him so much just want my life with him like we planned. Idk what to do for him to talk to me

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meena

i m in a relationship since 2 years and we are still together but situations have been changed and and lots of differences and bitterness has almost ruined the relationship. i have tried many times to mend this broken relationship by considering myself the faulty one. but everytime problem remains same. i dun like his intrruption in my friend circle, when he cant understnd the relation between frnds. Everytime he force me to maintain distance with my evry frnd. and today the situation has become like none of my frnds are in my contact and evn my relationship is at worst site.Whenever we try to make it up, we end up blaiming ech other for our creepy situations and fight like cats .When i tell him to break it off he starts pouring all his love on me. I dun understnd this relation. Its has only brought frustration and irritation not love. But still m unable to call it off. Help me.

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john

I need help I pushed my wife so far away and know we are seperated and she is seeing other people and tells me I need to let things fall into place. What the f… does that meen am I soposed to wait am I soposed to walk away I love her with all my heart and don’t know what to do

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ayanda

wz w in love w e guy wth same surnames,w loved each oda lyk craiz.so thy ada pepo who wer nt inline wth dis surname thng thy wr talkn thng dat wl scary m lyk u goin to hv a downsyndrme baby and soforth bt i sticked to the guy cz i lvd hm.thn i hed to go for a holiday outside th country thn wen i got thr i found anada guy unfortunately i feel in luv wth hm.i wz stil a virgin bt wen wz in luv w dis guy i startd slipn wth hm…so nw wz afraid dat wat wl dat othr guy say f he founds out dat m no lngr a virgin thn dcded tto liv hm.i ddnt liv hm bcz i wznt lvng hm i hd no choice.nw wnt to convice hm dat i stil luv hm cz i rily du bt hes nt understandng.anyone who cn help cz i rily nid e guy hes the love of ma lyf,e ada one dat i found on holidae he wnts to go and pay lobola bt i want ma x so badly

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sameer uddin

my gf broke our 6 year serious relationship for her parents and something other reasons..i don’t want to leave her what should i do to get her back…she is not listening to anyone…one thing she wants is ,i should forget her.

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Tarun

Hi Ruchi!!! Please do reply to me wen u see this…I m almost dead because I feel helpless…I ve been in a long dist. relationship for five years..we know each other since we were kids…everything was good and we were both passionate and had planned a lot of things our future..but as in any long distance rel. misunderstandings started cropping up….why dont u msg in time,why are u busy only wen I want t talk t u,why did u forget this,u dont know anything abt my schedule,u dont even care….I accept sometimes I could have avoided these situations especially wen I knew why she d be irritated..bt its just impossible to be on guard all the time…she tried a lot…reconciled then again things d go bad…I d try bt the curse of LDR it d never win her trust..she beleives I dint give 100% to the relationship,and has given me a lot of chances…we d meet in person once or twice a year and forget everything..wen we d be actually together things were beautiful..I tried t explain a lot…that she needed t trust me..that I dont take her for granted…she d say saying so is just not enough…She left me and she says she d never trust me again…she s doing all the things going t all the places we had planned to do together…she s actually dissed with me and I beleive wat she thinks to be terrible abt me is just misunderstanding..I ve been trying hard…bt she has nothing for me…she stays as a friend and asks me to move on….I cant afford t go t her rightaway coz she is in USA…We had planned t be togther in the US bt that ll take quie some time….and she obviously is no more interested in that….U re a girl Ruchi…I admit I failed her bt she was always and is my only love…I never took her for granted…after december she d start seeing guys for marriage…I ve this exam in dec which is key t go t US and I ve postponed it twice..she says this is the last time and she doesnt care…bt that is also one reason for her t beleive I m not a responsible guy…she stays on as a friend as for now..I feel helpless…I know my career has got nothing t do with this although somewhere I beleive if I write this exam on time atleast she would trust me 1%…I m feeling helplesss.the more I try t convince her the more she drifts away..Plz help me Ruchi..I m as good as dead..Can she trust me and respect me…WHAT SHALL I DO?:-(

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Ruchi

Hey Tarun,
You have done a lot already. She needs to understand that it’s a long term relationship and it’s kind of tough to call or msg every time she wants. You have your own life and career. She need to give space and stop nagging over trust or any other issues. Both of you need to adjust and understand each other because it takes a lot to make a long distance relationship work. See it’s rude but if she is not understanding and can’t change her attitude, it better to move on.

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thrupthi

Mine was 3 year love. i was vry happy n still its der. ds year end il cmplete ma 4th year. bt since 3 days we both r sad. he loves me a lot n i love hm a lot. mnday he cld me in da evng n we wer speakn normally n i was happy bt suddnly he tld dt he s feelng lik he s gng far frm me n want to cm mre clse to me…bt it hurtd me a lot and disturbd me a lot. i tnk we both r nt lik b4 der s sm chnges n ds relationshp. i dont want hm to b far frm me plz help me. shd i chnge ma slf r i shd try smtng else to cnvnce hm??? plzzzz help me

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dylan

Ruchi, im in a bit of a struggle with my girlfriend. ive talked with her and tried many things. one day she is so happy and then the other day its chaos. today i took her out for lunch and she was so happy and we were thinking that we could make it a day together on saturday. then a few hours after when i met up with her after class she didnt want to talk with me or be near me. i told her id walk her home so i did she started crying and i said id be there for her. i told her to give this relationship a chance and that i will do whatever it takes to make this healthy for the both of us. i dont know what to do. ive had my heart broken so many times and this girl is really special to me. i dont want to lose her. i said id change and be more confident listen more and put myself out there for her. i do everything for her and i make sure shes always happy but she says she gets agitated with me and i have no idea what i did wrong. please please write back for some advice. i just dont want to lose her i really do think we can get back on track…

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Ruchi

Hey Dylan,
You need to talk to her, why she gets upset? There might be something which she don’t like or expecting something else from you. I like that you are ready to change for her but unless she discuss her problem, how you will change. Only thing you can do is to ask her what she wants from this relationship.

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trey Shepard

Ok i love my girlfriend so much that I’m confused on what to do: stay or leave? I mean i messed up in the beginning but she says she forgives me and she let’s it go but when things dont go her way or she feels the world is against her she turns on me and brings everything I’ve ever done up & throws it in my face which i can accept my faults. I want too marry her indefinitely but the outrage and the it’ll take years to trust you just doesn’t settle with me..I don’t even touch a phone or go nowhere alone but that’s still not enough..I’m lost and don’t know what to do???

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alice

hey frndz..itz Alice here! M faceing a problm a guy whom i love doesnt love anymore! We’re in relatnship…he cheated on me n he brokup wid me..god’z knw why he did so! N nw wen i tok 2 him he say he wasn’t a gud guy 4 me…plz help me! Wat shld i do ? I want him back in my lyf…please help

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jolene

ive been in a relatoinship with my bf for a little over a year. i love this man with all my heart, but his friends and family hate me and constanly tell me their onlu concern is seeing him happy. which to me, even though i know i make him happy it comes off as a dig towards me. we use to talk about getting married and our future but since his mother recently doesnt like me (he said/she said resons) we NEVER talk about any future. i feel that i will never get to marry the man i love because his family doesnt want us together. ive even tried sending all of his family personal messages apologizing for anything i may have done (no one responded). what im asking now is WHATS NEXT? what do i do now. forfiet my future so his family can be happy? ask for my happiness in marriage, but have his family hate me more and be miserable? or do nothing at all ? :(

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Julie

Hi,
I really need some advice. I have been in a relationship for 10 years. I have been faithful, loyal, and there for him. I know that he has tried to be the man I need him to be but he is not ready. Two years ago we took an official time apart for three months and then got back together and had lots of honest conversations and committed to each other again and worked on communicating better. At that time he told me that he was not exclusive to me and deep down I knew this but it still hurt and i still can’t get past it. This year has been a particularly rough year for us and I knew something was going on and I kept asking him to tell me what was really going on with him. Finally last week he told me that he had a baby with someone else and that the baby was two months old. He said he took a DNA test and it was positive. Then he told me that his brother posted pictures and congratulatory messages to him and the baby’s mother on social media causing two other women to come out and say that he is the father to their children and he didn’t know. One is from before we met and is about 11 years old. He says the other is five years old, which means he has fathered two kids with other women in the course of our relationship. He says that he needs to do a DNA test for these two. As I write this the answer is obvious but I love him so I know that I have to let him go but it’s hard and I don’t know how to communicate to him all the hurt and anger I have.
Thanks

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shalen

I have been a relationship for only four months, its long distance but the first three months were absolutely amazing and then all of a sudden things changed, it has become difficult to even have a text conversation with him in the past month, i have tried to explain my feelings to him and he gets annoyed and always misinterprets what im trying to say goes quiet then comes back the next day like nothing has happened, doesn’t address the problem at all. I cant deal with that anymore because he just wont tell me how he feels and i dont know what to do, i love him, we have amazing chemistry and i really want to be with him but he wont talk to me, i tried to end things but he tells me he loves me and still communicates every day, i have tried ignoring messages it hasnt worked now i just respond but keep it friendly, i dont know what to do :(

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alyson

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 going on 8 months, but right after our six months he went through my phone and saw that I was talking badly about him to some of my friends. I can tell I hurt him a lot and I can tell he is still hurting from it. He has cheated on me before and somehow I found every reason to stay. Recently he told me that he can’t trust me and I need to fix it fast otherwise it’ll tempt him to do bad things again. I asked if he had a certain girl in mind and he said yes but won’t tell me who. He doesn’t believe that I’m in love with him, but I’m completely head over heels in love with him. I’m really scared and don’t know what to do. Please help me as soon as possible :/

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Deborah

Am married and my husband is a big time cheater and abuser. For the past 2 years if found himself and Indian woman who keeps him captive. I tried all you said don’t think there is something more for me.

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Nithin John

I have a broken & painfull relationship. I give more importance to her in my life. i never tried to make her sad atleast once but she broke our relationship without a particular reason. i have no way to contact her. She throw her friends & everything due to this reason. Her old friends dont like to meet her. i dont know about her new friends & her new life style. she hides everything & tells a lot of lies. But i wish to rejoin our relationship. what shall i do?

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tab

Hi. I have been with a girl for almost 3 years. We went through hell to be with other. Our lives were happy. Until a few months ago. Because of my my insecurities I stayed getting mood swings. started getting angry when she wanted to see her friends. And I hated myself for that. She kept everything bottled up until a week ago and had said hey feelings for me have changed. SShesays she still loves me but it is no where near as strong. She stayed at a friends last night and I havent slept. I want us to hsve another chance. I know what I did wrong and I can fix that. Because this girl deserves the world. And I want to be the one to give it too her. Is the hope for us? If she has some feelings left. No matter how faint..

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Kabir singh

Hey i need some help. Actually my relationship is on the tip of the ice berg and i WANT TO SAVE it. Actually she is scared because im too emotional and get sucidial sometimes, so i mean umm shes given me another 2 days and Im meeting her on friday soo can you tell me a few things that i can do to save it please.

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Ruchi

Hey kabir,
No sensible girl would like to have a bf who is very emotional n thinks of suicide. Cmon..life is beautiful and thinking to end is just act of cowards. You have to change yourself and prove her that you are capable to taking her of her and have courage to fight any situation with her.
Do take care of her feelings and stay positive. If you can change yourself..i am sure things will b fine.

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luntu

I’v been wt girlfrnd since 2010 she is my world ,I cheated on her many time nw a week bk she broke up wt me its hard 2 accept ,sh said she doesn’t love me anymore ,I hardly ,eat I need help

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Zahra

I have tried many ways to get my x back. But olways he tels me to move on n i love him alot but he dont care…pls help?

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Samantha Allen

In the beginning he was so inlove with me and waited for me for months, and from the moment he saw me he loved me and wanted nothing more than to make me happy. Now we’ve been dating for 6 months and I’ve been a terrible girlfriend. I’ve flirted with other people multiple times and each time I’ve confessed to doing so, and he always forgave me. But Latley he’s come to realize he can’t take it anymore, and he has every right to feel that way. But I’m done. I dont want anyone else. I’m so in love with him, I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Recently he has stopped talking to me, and he’s been avoiding me. The other day I ran up to him to talk to him and he said he loves me and wants to be with me but he doesn’t know what he wants. Then the next day I caught up to him again and I was crying and I was honest I told him I’m done with the whole flirting around thing and he’s all I want and I love him. I told him I missed him and I told him how empty I’ve been feeling and it feels like I have a gaping hole where my heart should be and I don’t know what to do. He hardly spoke the entire time but he did mention the whole flirting thing was a major issue he’s been dealing with. And I feel like the whole time we discussed this he was on the edge of breaking up with me. But then we walked home together and things seemed better. But he still seems so distant and I don’t know what to do I’m so in love with him. I don’t want anyone else. I feel like I’ve broken the one thing I love.

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sherly

I might know but not sure what to do or stop doing it and i dont know how to discribe it”
Im in relationship we work in same place i know his getting marriage next year i have a daughter in the beginning we use to msg. After 2 months it gets rare we make sex after 3 months in relationship now were still doing it twice a month but from work whe n w. e get home no call no msg im waiting then when i tell him he will also say im waiting i like him im happy should i stay like this anyway i have a daughter already im 36 he 31
Should i continue this since im happy anyway when i see him in work not sure get doubt please comment

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Ruchi

Hey Sherly,
I guess you should stay away from him. You have a family and soon he will have family too. Some or other day it might ruin your or his family life. If you are strong enough to stay like friends, then its ok but if you continue to get physical then its going to hurt you both at end. And frankly speaking if you both love each other then it’s tough to be just “be friends”, so end up as soon as possible.

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BITTU

Hi. My girlfriend cheated on me. nothing physical, but she carried on a 3month long affair with her college professor. they used to talk at night after I went to sleep. we’ve been together for 3months. after that, one fine day she confessed everything to me and came back to me, cutting all ties with the professor. but she sees him everyday in college and feels bad. is it normal? why can’t she not give a damn about him? I forgave her the next day after her confession, we both cried. now everything’s almost back to normal, but I can’t stand the thought of her feeling bad for that professor. why shouldn’t she understand that it hurts me? I can’t live without her, and I think she can’t either, which maybe why she came back to me, but I guess I just need it to hear it from a relationship expert like you. It’s killing me.. I was always faithful to her, why did this have to happen to me? she was always such a good girl..

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RandyRhea

I really need some help,
I am a 20yr old college student, and my my girlfriend is 19yr old, works, and finishing high school. Weve been together for 2 and a half years, and weve learned through mistakes. Ive made alot of mistakes throughout our relationships, and she has to. Theres no problem in taking responsibility for our mistakes but they have taken theyre toll. We lived together with her parents for few months, helping her parents out, and it ended badly. They kicked me out, and tried to break us up, but aha it didnt work. I moved with my parents while getting things back in line, and we have a distanced relationship. We spend the night together 2-3 nights a week and wouldnt see each other the rest. Well zoom forward like 4 months and i had gotten lil selfish and hadnt made sure we had regular dates or saw each other enough. One day she didnt text me all day after going out with her friend, which had literally never happened before. Next morning i left school early and went around looking for her, just to find out she was home all night and ignoring me. After we had huge fight and i regrettably said i wasnt sure if we should be together. I didnt mean it but ignorantly said that to hurt her. She went with it and said something “snapped” and didnt wanna be together anymore because of our past and just tired of it. Weve had bad fight before and broken up before but never this long. Almost a week now.. i had been planning to propose to her before all this happened. I wanna marry her, and shes trying to force us to break up and be strong but we both know were meant for each other.. how can i fix this? Im currently trying to give her space.. really hard when i used to talk to her everyday.

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Dimakatso Thobejane

I have been trying to fix my relationship for weeks now but he doesn’t wana tlk,he keep making me feel like I did something wrong but when I ask him he tells me tht nothing is wrong. Now he block me at watsapp and he’s not answering my calls,I really need to see him and talk to him,I love him and I dnt know what I’ll do without him he is my rock,he is part of me and he is my world;without him I’m nothing.

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roxy

Hi I’m 26 years old and my boyfriend is 10 years older than me. We recently broke up do to trust issues he’s very insecure and he stopped trusting me do to me starring at another guy he thinks I’m cheating and no longer trust me he says he loves me but he feels betrayed and hurt and he won’t forgive me. I love him but I don’t know what to do.

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Storm

I’ve been there myself. Trust is a 2 way street once someone feels that its been broken whether its warrant or not still hurts. You should be asking yourself why you where starring so hard at the other guy? Its OK to look but if you where looking to the point of being disrespectful to him then I could see why he would be upset. On the other hand does he have reason to distrust you? or is it his on insecurity that is an issue. If its that latter then there isn’t much you could do for him if he doesn’t have enough self confidence. If you have to kiss someones butt to keep them around then its not worth your time or effort.

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DD

Hi, I’m really hurting at the moment. I have known a guy for 4 years.
We are grown mature adults.. Well supposed to be, we have behaved like high school kids. I fell in Love with him, I opened my heart to him and he said nothing, we never had sex, we only held hands and kissed, that was when we dated.
I wanted to Love him, but he never told me he wanted me.
I never saw him as often as I wanted, I became so impatient and angry a couple weeks ago.. I couldn’t take his ignoring my questions, I wanted to know if he was with someone else, I wanted to know he cared about me. But he ignored me.

I called him names, like loser and that he was a dark person,
I said he was hateful, a liar and a deciever, I told him to go back to the hell he came from and to go to hell.

I just lost my patience after 4yrs of telling him I Loved him and nothing.
I was so angry, I said I would never speak to him again ever.
I was just so hurt. I’ve text him to say I’m so sorry for calling him names
And for hurting him.

I’m just broken that he has gone I was disappointed that after 4yrs
He thought so little of us..me..

I want him back in my life, I’m struggling to be at peace knowing he is not there.
I feel like someone has died and I cannot find the body.
This is just awful. I miss him so much

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Tash Olivers

Being open and honest, and never hiding things from each other in the first place, is the number one way to help avoid problems further down the line. If you start your relationship being in any way dishonest, you’re just asking for trouble. Transparency is a huge part of any successful marriage.

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V.Nunez

hello,
so i know this is probably really stupid of me because these people have been in relationships longer than i have. but here it goes. i have been in a relationship for 1 year and 2months…it was a long distance relationship. in the beginning it was perfect. this person would come home from school and text me right away and listen to how my day went and i would do the same. we were happy….blissfully happy. we never went a day without talking. we were always skyping. we always kept the communication going. this person never left me hurting or nothing.if she did something wrong she would call me and she would apologize and i would do the same. but i noticed that little by little she started to stop talking to me like she used to. we would fight alot because communication was very important especially in a long distance …but anyways, three days ago she dumped me….i get confused because she makes it seem like were never getting back together and she wants me to move on. but then she makes little comments like”i see a future for us” or “yeah, its over…..for now” or that “im still in love with you and i love you” …her deal was that she couldnt handle the distance anymore and that being in a relationship period was stressing her out and that she wants to be with her family an she swears up and down that there is no other person she loves or wants.. she just wants time. but i feel like it was my fault too because especially at the end, i was clingy ..i just dont know what to do…should i wait for her? should i just forget about it? i just dont know it tears me up as days pass by…

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Ruchi

Having a long distance relations is not easy, you both need to have lots of patience, trust and understanding. I guess your GF is kind of confused about your relationship and don’t think that long term relationship works. But it works, for sure. So, talk to her..give her time to think and here is an article which will help you to maintain your long distance relationship..
Maintain Long Distance Relationship

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tasha

I’m considering to break up with my boyfriend of two years he dosent. Give me attention and ignores me when I’m trying to fix our problems I don’t feel that he’s in love with me is. There anyway to fix us he use to love me I don’t know what went wrong. Last call for help

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Yaks

Hi, I’ve had different relationships before I started the last one I’m in maybe.. We both love each other so much but it’s a distant relationship. We’ve actually been friends for a long time before we started the relationship and we told ourselves it was the perfect thing for us and we were very happy about it. But we started having problems lately because she said she wanna focus on some other things like going into business and therefore we should put the relationship on hold till we both get what we want.. That include no calls and text messages. I was mad to hear that. It was as if the world was coming to an end for me and I tried to make her understand that we can actually be together while we strive for better things out of our relationship. She felt I had no good plans for her and then she told me that she regrets going into the relationship in the first place and I’ve been madly sick about it cos I just want her to understand and believe that I want the best for her and that I never wanna start any other relationship with anyone else again. I’ve lost taste for other women and I can never love another again because I’ve tried to do everything possible for her to believe me. God knows my heart! I love her so much and with everything. She asked me not to call or text her because that will get her angry and that she doesn’t wanna see me now even when I asked to see her. I fear that doing all what she said I shouldn’t will worsen the situation. I persisted even when she asked me not to contact her and that made her angry. We both love each other but my persistence forced her to say what she said. I persisted because I don’t want a break up. I eat plenty food but I’ve not been able to eat well lately even when I’m hungry. Apparently I still want the relationship. What do I do? I need help!! I’m going crazy with the thought of loosing her I swear. I’ve been at work since morning and it’s just my body I see here I know I’m not here. I’m afraid it can get me killed because I used to have a high blood perssure

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Melody ninaj

It hurt’s to loose the lov of ur lyf

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suzi

i love my boyfriend like hell.
Our relationship was going well but since nowadays it’s getting worse.
He is really very confusing, sometimes i feel like he’s avoiding me and sometimes he makes me feel loved. I really don’t know it’s a guy problem or what. I care for him alot and he doesnot even give any shit about it!!

i want my broken relation to be fixed
please help me find out a solution

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ali

hie… I brokdup wid my girlfrnd few days back nd she cheatd me 7times with 7guys in our 7years relationshp now we are no more in relatinshp bt it stl want here to come back in my life nd start up wid new journey but she is not ready to lisent… Nd i do not want nybody else xcpt her.. I wil 4got everythng nd wil strt new life i said but she is not intrestd.. Plz ruchi if u can help me out do help ,.. I m felin alon nd becomeing made her love day by day nd planin commite sucide but due to my smal sis i m unble to dis thing… plz help me out to get back her in my life

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Ruchi

Hey Ali,
You want her back? 7 guys in 7 years…this girl is not worth for you or any other guy. Stay away from her. To forget someone you loved since 7 years is tough but committing suicide is not a solution. Life is beautiful and for such people you must not ruin it. Make yourself strong, do what you love and gradually try to avoid her and her memories.

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nobody.

Me and my partner have been together for more then two years now, he has two kids with two different wives. I have met the daughter once and never again. Her mother wont allow. Never met hes son. I have never met any member of hes family, he always told me I was gonna meet them till now he told me I will never meet them due to his ex wife is very close with them and his parents doesn’t want to let her down by meeting me. I recently found out few lies from him, he has had tell me in the past that he was divorced, now he has told me he lied . Found pics of him and his family and the ex in a marriage party, ive contacted his brother on facebook told him I was his brothers girlfriend he said no one tells him anything. When i have ask him why he lied so bad like this he said it was because of the fear ex would stop him to see his son. I dont know what to do. I feel so frustrated, lost. How could I allowed him to do this to me? He left cos I cant forgive him, I still love him but its hard to trust him as well I feel very hurt by his family dont wanna meet me.

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love.almost.lost

Hi. I apologise as I don’t have an answer for any1 coz I have a question myself. I’m a hindu girl in love with a muslim boy for the past 5 and a half years. Our relationship has been wonderful well until this past year when our religion difference has become a major issue. He is being pressured by his family that he needs to find a muslim girl because I’m not good enough. The problem is I LOVE HIM so so much. 5 years 2getha isn’t a joke. I just can’t c my life without him. We still together but our relationship isn’t how it used 2be. N I don’t want 2 lose him. But I am scared 2 convert, coz it feels like I’m letting my religion n my family down. Pls help.

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dustin bowman

I really messed up in my relationship cause I let my past over ride me with anger I kept a wall up all times I was mean a dick really I did everything wrong I lied I never cheated but I do love her with all my heart n soul I didn’t show that to her n we had a baby I lost my mind n went to jail for bei.g foolish n I didn’t marry her n that’s something.she wanted before we had the baby I’m out now n everything is so messed up n hard its so diffrent between us now she don’t live with me everything I ounce did she is doing now I messed up n turned her into me I lost my best friend n love my partner in crime I miss her n my son so much but I’m so depressed with out them I keep acting the same n not fixing it why is this how do I win her back I know she loves me we have a baby together n she is there for me n we are together if u want to call it that but what do I do I don’t have friends that I want no more I really don’t have a family but her n my son please anyone help me or give me advice ill do anything to show her iv changed n I love her but I keep being stupid there is more to the story then what I put down cause its a lot to say but help me bring her back not push her away

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alex

my boyfriend broke up with me. he said he’s so tired of me that theres so many chances he gave me to change. btw he dont like my flaws, he said im childish, so insecure, and so jealous. thats his reason. 2days ago after the break up i asked him to call me then he did and i tell him i still love him, i will wait for him then he just said i dont know i dont feel anything anymore to you he said he dont love me anymore. his my first bf, his my first in everything and before i gave my virginity to him he promised me that yes he will never leave me because i said to him that i just want you to be sure that your gonna be my husband because i see my future to you. we’ve been dating for 1year and 2months before he dumped me. and now his just texting me asking if i already had a period because his so scared that maybe im pregnant and after that conversation my last text was delete my number and he didnt contact me anymore, i just said that because im so angry. and now i stalk him he had a flirt now, his old friend. could anyone help me cause i want gim back, i loved him so much. is there any chance?

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Teja

Hi frnds my prblm is my gf starts ignoring me even though she was in fb …she turned chatoff and chat wit everyone except me ….it was so paining i dnt no why she was avoiding me i never expect such type of feeling from her….we r in relationship since 8 years …..recently she come to my hometown bt she didn’t giv any information about her trip …she met my friend …..why she was changed really im truley loving her bt she was ignoring me i never treat her badly she was my settled in my heart i can’t. Imagine my life without. Her giv me some suggestn to get my love back

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Teja

I can do anything for the sake of her ….i just need her ….sddn changes in my girlfriend behaviour pains me alot really but still i want her nd need her why she was changed bt she didn’t breakup with me bt she was cheating me i can’t. Undrstand that why she was doing dat for me……but still im loveing her madly i can’t. Imagine my life without her it was so paining ….iam spending sleepless nights due to her behaviour i dnt no why she was changed she was ignoring me alot …..even though she was in watsapp she didn’t. Giv reply for my message …so wat can i do to get her back

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Teja

She also loves me madly Bt sddnly der is alot of change in her behaviour try to help me guys

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Ruchi

Hey Teja,
You need to talk to her. Be clear what you want and calmly ask what she wants.

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teja

My gf didn’t lift my calls …i always asked her whether der is any need to change in my behaviour….she simply replied ntng …..she recently starts pointing out me for small issues….example i told her abt my backlogs …she was totaly unsatisfied upon me ….if she may lift my cl she answers me like as unknwn …..our love is long distance relationship ….i frequently. Asked her any need to change in my attitude and others bt she simply says nothing im not a fliter ….main problem is dat why sddnly she dnt trust me and lying to me….i also frequently. Asked her did u wanna say anyding for me she didn’t. Giv any rply for dat …if she told her problem i can understood we will definetly solve our problem but she can’t. Doing dat im so sincere in our relatnship i told her bad nd good dings in me why she was sddnly changed

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Rashmi

I am in relatnshp n i want to marry him, even he also want bt his parents are not ready to allow intercast marriage. His dad emotinaly blackmailng him that he wil do bad with their health.. So my bf saying to break relation n marry as our parents want…but i am not ready for letting him go, i really love him a lot.. His parents even not meet me n just bcoz of my diff.caste they said no.. Pls help me wht should i do nw? I just want him in my life. Should i go n meet his parents n try to convince them? Or else wht shuld i do nw?? Pls help

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