There is nothing more hurtful than a Broken relationship. When we are in a relationship with a person who plays a vital role in our life, we are kind of use to and dependent to that person but this is life and sometimes because of few insane blunders such valuable relations gets cracked. People do say that once there is bitterness in any relation its impossible to get the same feeling and respect in that relationship but I don’t feel same. Dealing with broken relationships is not that easy and one need to make sure all steps should be taken carefully and all words mean the same.
If you really want to make up a relation then there are ways to bring a spark in that relation again. But before that you must be sure that you need that person back in your life, I guess if you are reading this article then of course you need someone back in your life.
There can be many reasons because of which love ones, friends, siblings depart but if you still have a soft corner for them then you should for sure try to revive your relationship again.
Tips to Save a broken relationship:
- Try your best to make up:
It’s tough to get someone in your life who was your strength, who used to be there when you need a shoulder to cry, who had the power to make you smile and who gives all reason to stay happy. But when such people move away from you then you find yourself lost and need lots of positive energy to get back on track of your life. If the reasons are not so bad for a break up of such relations then there is no harm to revive that relation again and for that you must stay positive and try your best to make up with such special person in your life.
- Forget and Forgive:
If you think that bitterness in your relationship is because of another person then do remember that he/she is a human being and humans do make mistakes. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes in our life. Thus try to forget the past and forgive others, especially if they made the mistake unintentionally. Forgiving someone never mean that you are less than other people, it shows that you are strong and wise enough to forgive someone.
- Keep ego aside:
This is the worst part of any relationship which always hold you back to bring your love one to you. After moving apart both people think who is going to break the ice because at that time ego is of higher priority than sweetness and unconditional love. If you really value a relationship then why ego is letting it down? If you really want to make up a relation then do keep your ego aside and use your heart to bring those sweet moments again in your life.
- The conversation always work:
There are a lot of confusions in your relationships once its breakup without clearing those problems, you wont ever get same feeling for each other. Don’t hide anything from each other. If you are scared that it might worst the situation then thinks twice, what the worst would happen? There is already lots of bitterness in your relationship. May be a healthy and unbiased conversation can bring the love back to your relationship, nothing harm in trying.
- Start afresh:
Once you both are convinced, forget the past, forget the bad moments and just remember how much important you both are for each other. Start your relation afresh and make sure that small problems and conversation don’t ruin your relationship again.
Bonus tip: If you always want to save a relationship, always be transparent before its too late and you start regretting your mistakes. It helps you to bring trust and maintain a long term relationship. If you are going to have an end of relationship conversation with your partner, and you want to fix this, it’s always a good idea to meet the person and talk instead of using phone, SMS or Emails. When you hold your partner’s hand and talk to them and try to make them understand your points, this might be really helpful to save this ending relation.
I hope this few factors will surely help to make your broken relationship sweet again. If you have more tips then do share with us, it might help others to get their love back.
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it’s almost 3 years since i’ve in love with him. I love him and he loves me too though my parents are against me and don’t like him. But then i try to work out everything for him. He is younger than me and he used to have a misunderstanding about me. He thought that I used to look down upon him as he got a lower degree than me and he also thought i feel ashamed that i had him infront of him. But its not the way he think. How could i show him that I never look down on him and never feel ashamed of being having him as my boyfriend and how could i show him that i really appreciate and proud of him .. i just need help ..please help me ..i don’t wanna loose him
Hey Mamie,
The communication gap is the major problem in your case. You both love each other and it’s important that you discuss all the problems. Talk to your parents too, ask why they are not ready to accept your relation. Talking would surely help.
Dear Ruchi,
i had my relationship with my girlfriend for three years. i loved her (and still I love her) too much. it was a sweet relation. but after 2.5 years of the relation, her ex-boyfriend came to the scene. and the problem started from there. she started to hate me. she scolded me in various way. i always tried to make her to realize the situation. but she started to disbelieve me. she always told something about me which are deadly wrong. now she thinks that her ex-boyfriend is better than me. she always gives importance to her emotion. when i tried to keep her calm, she always told that i am selfish. she also said that i did everything for myself. now i feel very helpless.
she actually forgot everything. she forget our sweet memories. when i wanted to talk with her, she scolded me rudely. she always said that i didn’t do my duty properly. but this claim is not right. i always did my level best to do for her. when i tried to share my sorrows with her, she used a bunch of rude comments. and i know these happen for misunderstanding. i always try to erase those misconceptions. but she does not believe me. i don’t want to loose her. if possible, please give me some suggestion. is silence can be a way to solve it?
thanks.
Hey Joe,
I don’t think she is into you.. And you said she has a bf then its better to move on. Sounds tough but she is giving you clear signs that she doesn’t want to keep relationship with you. Try to understand and what’s the use to think about a girl who don’t even try to understand you and keep on saying bad things about you.
Dear Ruchi, I’m 18 and my Fiancé is 24. We have been dating for a year now. Our relationship was a great one without very many fights until I found out I was pregnant in March. He was very supportive about the whole thing. Eventually we started arguing at least once a week and feelings changed between us. Not so much hatred but annoyance maybe? Our relationship was slowly dissolving. One day we got into a huge fight and he threatened to leave me and that he felt bad for our unborn baby because he didn’t think we were going to make it until our baby was due. Eventually it all blew over and we were happy and normal again. He ended up purposing to me on our anniversary (june 8). A few weeks later he informed me about these two girls he worked with that were hitting on him at work and letting him know they were available. I don’t find anything wrong with girls liking him but every time I went to his work I saw these girls looking for him and trying to talk to him about things that weren’t even related to work. It made me very aggravated and the more I saw it the more my jealousy became apparent to my fiancé. One day when I went up to his work and was talking to him at his desk I found a sticky note by one of the girls that had saying and a bunch of hearts on it. I was very angry and didn’t want to talk about it with him because I knew I was going to take my anger out on him. He then started talking to me about it and I couldn’t help myself. I went off on him and told him that this shouldn’t be happening and if he were to tell the girls that he doesn’t want them doing stuff like this I wouldn’t be angry. Since then we have been fighting on and off for the past couple weeks. That brings me to where I am now. Last night I wanted to look very attractive for him. I did my hair and make up and put on the outfit he thought was sexy on me. when he came home from work he didn’t say anything about what I looked like and got on his computer and didn’t try to keep conversation with me for almost three hours. Eventually our roommates came home and he told me to change the shorts I had on because they were to revealing. I got mad because he didn’t notice the way I looked before and he didn’t talk to me and then he goes and tells me to do that. He obviously saw I was mad and it ended up in a huge argument that was the second worst we ever had. He called me names and said I was making him feel like he was with his ex girlfriend and did everything in the book to try to hurt my feelings. He told me that he made a big mistake being with me and that he would feel better if I wasn’t around anymore.Hes a very hard headed person so it takes a lot to hurt his feelings. By the end of our fight I felt the lowest I have ever felt and he ended up sleeping on the couch which has never happened before, even with our other fights. I have always put my ego and self aside and apologized for all our fights because I valued our relationship more than myself. I probably have put in more info then was needed but I need some serious help! I feel like everything is my fault and that all this has ended because of me. We haven’t officially broken up yet but I don’t want it to happen because I love him more than anything! I don’t know what to do to make things better again… I just want him to love me again. I want him apart of my life.. Please help
Hey Amy,
First of all congrats and since you are pregnant don’t take much stress, no matter how the situation is.
Now about your problem. It’s normal to be jealous but why to get angry on your BF because of those girls. Instead of getting angry at him, it would be better if you have told him calmly how you feel and he would have tried to ignore those girls. And if you think he didn’t notice you when you got ready for him, then I guess he noticed.. Otherwise he won’t say to change and he cares that’s why he don’t want others to see in revealing clothes. There are chances that he might be upset with you and that’s why he don’t want to talk to you. I know it feels worst when you get ready for someone and they ignore but fighting is not the solution.
I can’t say who’s fault is this because there might be few small things in relationship which end up to fighting. Keep ego aside, talk to him and be postive. Things will fall into place.
If you need help you can contact us via email. Best luck 🙂
thanks anyway,I have a serious broken distance relationship,and that I aint just go talk to my partner,instead of using phone/sms/emails what can I do
Dear Ruchi
my name is sandy n im 26yr old and grl frnd is of 22. we both r dating since form 5 n half yr, till 17 june 2013. I love her very much and even she love me very much, i work abroad n she stays in india even v r were in long distance relationship of 5 n half yr, there was no fights between me and her, when ever i used to come back to home on my vaccations we both were used to have a great time, but there was only one problem between her and me was that i could”nt give here more time in her life, in this yrs of relationship we both were committed to each other n even we were faithful to each other but this started to change in last 3 months, she finished here collage and stared to work in a organization her attitude started to change and she used to fight with me on sill topic, such as u dont value me u dont respect me u always make fun of my words n the important is u dont give me time she stared warning me about break up but i never took her seriously, one day came we fight with each other coz of my work and time, suddenly she told me after 2 days that we both have broke up, i try to short out the problem between both of us by meeting and over phone call but she refused to talk and ever answer my ph call, n one day we both decided to meet n short out the problem that day she told me that she love some other guy, she gave me biggest shock in my life, even she told that it all happen in one week after break up and i came to know that she had another guy in her life but still when ever i call her she speak to me but always say that she dont want to come back, i was her first love and even she was mine first love, first for everything in our relationship, still i love her and even im ready to forgive for her mistake but still she dont want to see my love. so pl.z help me out to get her back in my life, i have hurted her very badly due to that we both have borken up. pl.z help me out to get her back in my life
Hey Sandy,
Sorry for you but you can’t force her to love her. You guys had a long term relationship and you have to take care of lots of things like giving each other time, surprises to keep the spark in your relationship. She even told you what she wanted from the relationship. I won’t blame you for the break-up but now instead of chasing her or forcing her, it would be better to give her space and try to move on.
Dear Ma’am
Please help me out. I belong to a conservative Brahmin family and I love a Muslim girl belonging to the most conservative sects among Muslims. She loved me too but because she used commit so many filthy mistakes, perhaps blunders I lost whole of my patience and unfortunately became abusive. Still we were in a good relationship with time. But Alas! my mom went straight to her residence and talked to her parents about this who were unaware of whatever was there between us. They smashed our relationship and to my surprise my gf turned her back on me. She ended up as she was afraid of her parents and guilt for her parents and religion. I couldn’t take it and by arguing her on her decision to end up everything worsened the break up furthermore. However, we didn’t talk at all for 5 months in any way. After 5 months have passed I mailed her on fb initited the conversation myself. She said she did not wish to talk to me but she talks, although very much controlled but she talks. She talks to me on fb ever since I began the conversation every night. She keeps on reminding me that she doesnot want to talk, but you know she talks. She is still depressed due to what happened in the past and I am unable to make her forget bad memories, even though I suggest her to forget bad memories. I even apologized sincerely for my part of mistakes and even forgave her for hers and suggest her to do the same but she is still depressed. Please help me saving my relationship.
Hey vivek,
It’s kind of tough when you both belong to conservative families. Now it’s upon you guys what you want. If you think you can take care of her and her needs after marriage, if you guys do without your parents wish. It’s really a tough job to hurt parents and choose love marriage. After a few yrs/months of marriage, you get responsibilities and it’s possible that you guys get into fights. And that time you guys need to handle all yourself coz your parents might not be there to support you. If you guys have understanding then I would suggest trying to convince your parents again.
Talk to her directly, what she wants.. either think about society and miss your love for the whole life or forget each other and go for an arrange marriage. No one else can help you, you both need to think about your preferences and future.
Miss Ruchi,
Thanks for your concern. I am pleased but she simply says she can’t go against her religion and parents. She feels depressed while talking to me even after 5 months. I am capable of taking care of her and her needs in the nearest and the furthermost future. I have learnt, after the break up, to save the fights but I have lost hope that she would ever give my qualities any preference now after all the stuff happened. She tells she is prepared to forget me forever for her parents and religion. She is adamant. Moving on is the proof that you are strong but live with her memories and love her throughout life only her and only her shows how decisive, strong and manly you are. I feel it. I know parents will be convinced with time…..they are our parents…. they are more matured than we are…….Tell me Ruchi…..how to convince my beloved.
Hey Vivek,
I can understand feelings of your beloved. She don’t want to hurt her parents. There are girls who are ready for arrange marriage just to make their parents happy even when they know they won’t be happy. Sorry to say but I don’t think that she is going to take step against her parents. One thing you can do is to ask her that is it OK if you try to convince her parents? or your parents can directly talk to hers? You never know, miracles happens.
i av been wit my bf for 4yrs, my bf thinks am dating ma friend of which am not. Although i’ve lied to him severally but am not cheating on him. Recently i saw his post on fb telling a girl that he love her n asking her if she would b d mother of his child. I luv my bf so much i dnt want to lose him. Pls i nid advice
Hi maam.
we have a serious long distance relationship from the past 1 and half year. bt in these times we had lots of fightings, bt those did not cause any break up. but this time for a single silly reason, she has done break up with me. for small small things she is geting angry on me. i dont knw what to do. but i want her back in my life. she is very rude. actualy in her past times her father did nt cared fr her, tortured her, for dat c became rude and arrogant. she used to say medat i should nt let her go even if she does break up. pls tell me what should i do nw. i am dying to get her back.
Hey Prasun,
Things and attitude changes with time. If she is getting upset and angry on silly reason then I am sure that she is frustrated due to some reason. Try to talk to her and about her problem and assure that you will be on her side always. Try to revive your relationship, I hope it helps.
hi hello my name is jeff pls give some advice because she decided to cool off w/ me instead of breaking up, the reason is caught me flirting other girls in facebook.
I love her so much i apologize already and asking her last chance to prove my sincerity to her. The word COOL OFF there is still a chance for me to her?
To answer above.
To be honest BLINKS tell him how you really feel and be prepared for him to be honest with you.You have to realise that honesty and truth can be very hurtful. In the long run everything happens for a reason. If you are a happy and confident person. You will pick yourself up and remove yourself from what is a damaging situation and prevent your heart from deep scaring. Why would you want to be with a man who wants to ave child wi another woman?. Love is mysterious and very hard to explain. because its different for each individual and what we gather from our experiences .Love can hurt but it also feels amazing when your in love and infatuated with another . It sounds like maybe its time to start afresh and find yourself someone who does care for you like you care for them. Or just a bit of sexy fun to take your mind away from your bf of 4 years. life is to enjoy and cherise,we all need experiences to give us knowledge and freedom of wisdom. I wish you all the best
i was engaged and last year my fiance left me for some girl.i have tried everything and he just hate me. i miss him so much and still want him back
My ex and I started dating back in Jan and everything was going great. Around mid April I found out that I was a little over a month pregnant. I told him the news and he was shocked but he told me that it was my decision and that he was going to support me and not treat me any different. Then as time goes by things started to fall apart and about a month and half ago, he broke up with me without a valid reason. When I asked him why, he said that he can’t see the future with me and he’s not ready for a relationship. I mean before the news of the baby, we talked about finding a place together and me finding a job closer to him and everything. He even told me how much i meant to him just a week before i told him the news. =( I mean I know he is scared and I am too but I thought that both of us were going to overcome this situation together. He had mentioned about abortion a few times in the beginning but I’m against the idea of abortion. He didn’t like the idea I kept the baby. So now, he is telling me that he can’t wait to hold him. I mean why does he care now about the baby when he didn’t want him in the first place. I love him and I want us to work out and be able to start a beautiful family together. Everything is so hard for me. I dont know what to do?
Hey my bf is now ignoring me n blaming me and going away due to anger that we haven’t met for three months and he is saying that he tried a lot calling me n he has suffered a lot calling me n missing me but he felt that I was not caring me so he said you will get a gd guy I don’t deserve yu yu hav moved on already so better not to call me n text me I also hav moved on .there fore our relation has become very complicated even broken type, how can I get him back. I also love him n miss me
Hey I recently broke up with my soul mate we have two beutiful boys. She told me she fell out of love with me and says she needs her space from me but I want to do everything in my power to fix things and forget the past. My anger played a big part we always argued over stupid things and it finally lead to this we have been together for 7years and on the 30th of August would have been our anniversary. Is there anything I can do to fix all our problems she said we both have to change. I don’t want her looking for someone new because I just want us to be a family again in the future.
Hey Raymond,
Good part you know the problem and solution too. When you are in marriage, you both need to adjust and change. Anger and ego are worst part of marriage. You need to prove yourself that you are a changed man and even she need to change herself so that you both can understand each other.
Try to be like friends to her..it decreases expectations and it will help you to revive your relationship again. It works. Best luck.
Hi,
I need your help in saving my relationship with my beloved, we are in relation from last 5yrs..we have also faced many up and down in this…and every time we both overcome every problem we faced in our relation… but suddenly from last few months she has stopped taking interest into me …i felt this because of below reasons
# Its me who always call , Its me who always say love you ..its me who always try to be romantic and even i try to be romantic i don’t get proper responses from her…
So , i asked her about this..and she told me that she want to move out now with no proper reason , i am not justify by her reason since it was a nice and great going 5yr relation ship.. So any how i convinced her to remain in this relation ..but i still struggling with her mind…who doesn’t want to be with me …but her heart wants to be with me..
Please help..!!!
Hey Jasdeep,
It’s kind of tough to suggest anything because there is no reason known. I would suggest to talk to her properly and ask her that what’s the reason because without any reason no one give up on a 5 year relationship. There must be something which she is hiding. Don’t force her, let her take her time and then ask calmly. Hope it helps.
My boyfriend and I broke up two months ago he left me while I was at work and moved back to Tennessee. We only talk through email. I went and saw him and things were great. He said he dated for me and loved me. Haven’t heard from him since I left a week ago. I love and miss him so much just want my life with him like we planned. Idk what to do for him to talk to me
i m in a relationship since 2 years and we are still together but situations have been changed and and lots of differences and bitterness has almost ruined the relationship. i have tried many times to mend this broken relationship by considering myself the faulty one. but everytime problem remains same. i dun like his intrruption in my friend circle, when he cant understnd the relation between frnds. Everytime he force me to maintain distance with my evry frnd. and today the situation has become like none of my frnds are in my contact and evn my relationship is at worst site.Whenever we try to make it up, we end up blaiming ech other for our creepy situations and fight like cats .When i tell him to break it off he starts pouring all his love on me. I dun understnd this relation. Its has only brought frustration and irritation not love. But still m unable to call it off. Help me.
I need help I pushed my wife so far away and know we are seperated and she is seeing other people and tells me I need to let things fall into place. What the f… does that meen am I soposed to wait am I soposed to walk away I love her with all my heart and don’t know what to do
wz w in love w e guy wth same surnames,w loved each oda lyk craiz.so thy ada pepo who wer nt inline wth dis surname thng thy wr talkn thng dat wl scary m lyk u goin to hv a downsyndrme baby and soforth bt i sticked to the guy cz i lvd hm.thn i hed to go for a holiday outside th country thn wen i got thr i found anada guy unfortunately i feel in luv wth hm.i wz stil a virgin bt wen wz in luv w dis guy i startd slipn wth hm…so nw wz afraid dat wat wl dat othr guy say f he founds out dat m no lngr a virgin thn dcded tto liv hm.i ddnt liv hm bcz i wznt lvng hm i hd no choice.nw wnt to convice hm dat i stil luv hm cz i rily du bt hes nt understandng.anyone who cn help cz i rily nid e guy hes the love of ma lyf,e ada one dat i found on holidae he wnts to go and pay lobola bt i want ma x so badly
my gf broke our 6 year serious relationship for her parents and something other reasons..i don’t want to leave her what should i do to get her back…she is not listening to anyone…one thing she wants is ,i should forget her.
Hi Ruchi!!! Please do reply to me wen u see this…I m almost dead because I feel helpless…I ve been in a long dist. relationship for five years..we know each other since we were kids…everything was good and we were both passionate and had planned a lot of things our future..but as in any long distance rel. misunderstandings started cropping up….why dont u msg in time,why are u busy only wen I want t talk t u,why did u forget this,u dont know anything abt my schedule,u dont even care….I accept sometimes I could have avoided these situations especially wen I knew why she d be irritated..bt its just impossible to be on guard all the time…she tried a lot…reconciled then again things d go bad…I d try bt the curse of LDR it d never win her trust..she beleives I dint give 100% to the relationship,and has given me a lot of chances…we d meet in person once or twice a year and forget everything..wen we d be actually together things were beautiful..I tried t explain a lot…that she needed t trust me..that I dont take her for granted…she d say saying so is just not enough…She left me and she says she d never trust me again…she s doing all the things going t all the places we had planned to do together…she s actually dissed with me and I beleive wat she thinks to be terrible abt me is just misunderstanding..I ve been trying hard…bt she has nothing for me…she stays as a friend and asks me to move on….I cant afford t go t her rightaway coz she is in USA…We had planned t be togther in the US bt that ll take quie some time….and she obviously is no more interested in that….U re a girl Ruchi…I admit I failed her bt she was always and is my only love…I never took her for granted…after december she d start seeing guys for marriage…I ve this exam in dec which is key t go t US and I ve postponed it twice..she says this is the last time and she doesnt care…bt that is also one reason for her t beleive I m not a responsible guy…she stays on as a friend as for now..I feel helpless…I know my career has got nothing t do with this although somewhere I beleive if I write this exam on time atleast she would trust me 1%…I m feeling helplesss.the more I try t convince her the more she drifts away..Plz help me Ruchi..I m as good as dead..Can she trust me and respect me…WHAT SHALL I DO?:-(
Hey Tarun,
You have done a lot already. She needs to understand that it’s a long term relationship and it’s kind of tough to call or msg every time she wants. You have your own life and career. She need to give space and stop nagging over trust or any other issues. Both of you need to adjust and understand each other because it takes a lot to make a long distance relationship work. See it’s rude but if she is not understanding and can’t change her attitude, it better to move on.
Mine was 3 year love. i was vry happy n still its der. ds year end il cmplete ma 4th year. bt since 3 days we both r sad. he loves me a lot n i love hm a lot. mnday he cld me in da evng n we wer speakn normally n i was happy bt suddnly he tld dt he s feelng lik he s gng far frm me n want to cm mre clse to me…bt it hurtd me a lot and disturbd me a lot. i tnk we both r nt lik b4 der s sm chnges n ds relationshp. i dont want hm to b far frm me plz help me. shd i chnge ma slf r i shd try smtng else to cnvnce hm??? plzzzz help me
Ruchi, im in a bit of a struggle with my girlfriend. ive talked with her and tried many things. one day she is so happy and then the other day its chaos. today i took her out for lunch and she was so happy and we were thinking that we could make it a day together on saturday. then a few hours after when i met up with her after class she didnt want to talk with me or be near me. i told her id walk her home so i did she started crying and i said id be there for her. i told her to give this relationship a chance and that i will do whatever it takes to make this healthy for the both of us. i dont know what to do. ive had my heart broken so many times and this girl is really special to me. i dont want to lose her. i said id change and be more confident listen more and put myself out there for her. i do everything for her and i make sure shes always happy but she says she gets agitated with me and i have no idea what i did wrong. please please write back for some advice. i just dont want to lose her i really do think we can get back on track…
Hey Dylan,
You need to talk to her, why she gets upset? There might be something which she don’t like or expecting something else from you. I like that you are ready to change for her but unless she discuss her problem, how you will change. Only thing you can do is to ask her what she wants from this relationship.
Ok i love my girlfriend so much that I’m confused on what to do: stay or leave? I mean i messed up in the beginning but she says she forgives me and she let’s it go but when things dont go her way or she feels the world is against her she turns on me and brings everything I’ve ever done up & throws it in my face which i can accept my faults. I want too marry her indefinitely but the outrage and the it’ll take years to trust you just doesn’t settle with me..I don’t even touch a phone or go nowhere alone but that’s still not enough..I’m lost and don’t know what to do???
hey frndz..itz Alice here! M faceing a problm a guy whom i love doesnt love anymore! We’re in relatnship…he cheated on me n he brokup wid me..god’z knw why he did so! N nw wen i tok 2 him he say he wasn’t a gud guy 4 me…plz help me! Wat shld i do ? I want him back in my lyf…please help
ive been in a relatoinship with my bf for a little over a year. i love this man with all my heart, but his friends and family hate me and constanly tell me their onlu concern is seeing him happy. which to me, even though i know i make him happy it comes off as a dig towards me. we use to talk about getting married and our future but since his mother recently doesnt like me (he said/she said resons) we NEVER talk about any future. i feel that i will never get to marry the man i love because his family doesnt want us together. ive even tried sending all of his family personal messages apologizing for anything i may have done (no one responded). what im asking now is WHATS NEXT? what do i do now. forfiet my future so his family can be happy? ask for my happiness in marriage, but have his family hate me more and be miserable? or do nothing at all ? 🙁
Hi,
I really need some advice. I have been in a relationship for 10 years. I have been faithful, loyal, and there for him. I know that he has tried to be the man I need him to be but he is not ready. Two years ago we took an official time apart for three months and then got back together and had lots of honest conversations and committed to each other again and worked on communicating better. At that time he told me that he was not exclusive to me and deep down I knew this but it still hurt and i still can’t get past it. This year has been a particularly rough year for us and I knew something was going on and I kept asking him to tell me what was really going on with him. Finally last week he told me that he had a baby with someone else and that the baby was two months old. He said he took a DNA test and it was positive. Then he told me that his brother posted pictures and congratulatory messages to him and the baby’s mother on social media causing two other women to come out and say that he is the father to their children and he didn’t know. One is from before we met and is about 11 years old. He says the other is five years old, which means he has fathered two kids with other women in the course of our relationship. He says that he needs to do a DNA test for these two. As I write this the answer is obvious but I love him so I know that I have to let him go but it’s hard and I don’t know how to communicate to him all the hurt and anger I have.
Thanks
I have been a relationship for only four months, its long distance but the first three months were absolutely amazing and then all of a sudden things changed, it has become difficult to even have a text conversation with him in the past month, i have tried to explain my feelings to him and he gets annoyed and always misinterprets what im trying to say goes quiet then comes back the next day like nothing has happened, doesn’t address the problem at all. I cant deal with that anymore because he just wont tell me how he feels and i dont know what to do, i love him, we have amazing chemistry and i really want to be with him but he wont talk to me, i tried to end things but he tells me he loves me and still communicates every day, i have tried ignoring messages it hasnt worked now i just respond but keep it friendly, i dont know what to do 🙁
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 going on 8 months, but right after our six months he went through my phone and saw that I was talking badly about him to some of my friends. I can tell I hurt him a lot and I can tell he is still hurting from it. He has cheated on me before and somehow I found every reason to stay. Recently he told me that he can’t trust me and I need to fix it fast otherwise it’ll tempt him to do bad things again. I asked if he had a certain girl in mind and he said yes but won’t tell me who. He doesn’t believe that I’m in love with him, but I’m completely head over heels in love with him. I’m really scared and don’t know what to do. Please help me as soon as possible :/
Am married and my husband is a big time cheater and abuser. For the past 2 years if found himself and Indian woman who keeps him captive. I tried all you said don’t think there is something more for me.
I have a broken & painfull relationship. I give more importance to her in my life. i never tried to make her sad atleast once but she broke our relationship without a particular reason. i have no way to contact her. She throw her friends & everything due to this reason. Her old friends dont like to meet her. i dont know about her new friends & her new life style. she hides everything & tells a lot of lies. But i wish to rejoin our relationship. what shall i do?
Hi. I have been with a girl for almost 3 years. We went through hell to be with other. Our lives were happy. Until a few months ago. Because of my my insecurities I stayed getting mood swings. started getting angry when she wanted to see her friends. And I hated myself for that. She kept everything bottled up until a week ago and had said hey feelings for me have changed. SShesays she still loves me but it is no where near as strong. She stayed at a friends last night and I havent slept. I want us to hsve another chance. I know what I did wrong and I can fix that. Because this girl deserves the world. And I want to be the one to give it too her. Is the hope for us? If she has some feelings left. No matter how faint..
Hey i need some help. Actually my relationship is on the tip of the ice berg and i WANT TO SAVE it. Actually she is scared because im too emotional and get sucidial sometimes, so i mean umm shes given me another 2 days and Im meeting her on friday soo can you tell me a few things that i can do to save it please.
Hey kabir,
No sensible girl would like to have a bf who is very emotional n thinks of suicide. Cmon..life is beautiful and thinking to end is just act of cowards. You have to change yourself and prove her that you are capable to taking her of her and have courage to fight any situation with her.
Do take care of her feelings and stay positive. If you can change yourself..i am sure things will b fine.
I’v been wt girlfrnd since 2010 she is my world ,I cheated on her many time nw a week bk she broke up wt me its hard 2 accept ,sh said she doesn’t love me anymore ,I hardly ,eat I need help
I have tried many ways to get my x back. But olways he tels me to move on n i love him alot but he dont care…pls help?
In the beginning he was so inlove with me and waited for me for months, and from the moment he saw me he loved me and wanted nothing more than to make me happy. Now we’ve been dating for 6 months and I’ve been a terrible girlfriend. I’ve flirted with other people multiple times and each time I’ve confessed to doing so, and he always forgave me. But Latley he’s come to realize he can’t take it anymore, and he has every right to feel that way. But I’m done. I dont want anyone else. I’m so in love with him, I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Recently he has stopped talking to me, and he’s been avoiding me. The other day I ran up to him to talk to him and he said he loves me and wants to be with me but he doesn’t know what he wants. Then the next day I caught up to him again and I was crying and I was honest I told him I’m done with the whole flirting around thing and he’s all I want and I love him. I told him I missed him and I told him how empty I’ve been feeling and it feels like I have a gaping hole where my heart should be and I don’t know what to do. He hardly spoke the entire time but he did mention the whole flirting thing was a major issue he’s been dealing with. And I feel like the whole time we discussed this he was on the edge of breaking up with me. But then we walked home together and things seemed better. But he still seems so distant and I don’t know what to do I’m so in love with him. I don’t want anyone else. I feel like I’ve broken the one thing I love.
I might know but not sure what to do or stop doing it and i dont know how to discribe it”
Im in relationship we work in same place i know his getting marriage next year i have a daughter in the beginning we use to msg. After 2 months it gets rare we make sex after 3 months in relationship now were still doing it twice a month but from work whe n w. e get home no call no msg im waiting then when i tell him he will also say im waiting i like him im happy should i stay like this anyway i have a daughter already im 36 he 31
Should i continue this since im happy anyway when i see him in work not sure get doubt please comment
Hey Sherly,
I guess you should stay away from him. You have a family and soon he will have family too. Some or other day it might ruin your or his family life. If you are strong enough to stay like friends, then its ok but if you continue to get physical then its going to hurt you both at end. And frankly speaking if you both love each other then it’s tough to be just “be friends”, so end up as soon as possible.
Hi. My girlfriend cheated on me. nothing physical, but she carried on a 3month long affair with her college professor. they used to talk at night after I went to sleep. we’ve been together for 3months. after that, one fine day she confessed everything to me and came back to me, cutting all ties with the professor. but she sees him everyday in college and feels bad. is it normal? why can’t she not give a damn about him? I forgave her the next day after her confession, we both cried. now everything’s almost back to normal, but I can’t stand the thought of her feeling bad for that professor. why shouldn’t she understand that it hurts me? I can’t live without her, and I think she can’t either, which maybe why she came back to me, but I guess I just need it to hear it from a relationship expert like you. It’s killing me.. I was always faithful to her, why did this have to happen to me? she was always such a good girl..
I really need some help,
I am a 20yr old college student, and my my girlfriend is 19yr old, works, and finishing high school. Weve been together for 2 and a half years, and weve learned through mistakes. Ive made alot of mistakes throughout our relationships, and she has to. Theres no problem in taking responsibility for our mistakes but they have taken theyre toll. We lived together with her parents for few months, helping her parents out, and it ended badly. They kicked me out, and tried to break us up, but aha it didnt work. I moved with my parents while getting things back in line, and we have a distanced relationship. We spend the night together 2-3 nights a week and wouldnt see each other the rest. Well zoom forward like 4 months and i had gotten lil selfish and hadnt made sure we had regular dates or saw each other enough. One day she didnt text me all day after going out with her friend, which had literally never happened before. Next morning i left school early and went around looking for her, just to find out she was home all night and ignoring me. After we had huge fight and i regrettably said i wasnt sure if we should be together. I didnt mean it but ignorantly said that to hurt her. She went with it and said something “snapped” and didnt wanna be together anymore because of our past and just tired of it. Weve had bad fight before and broken up before but never this long. Almost a week now.. i had been planning to propose to her before all this happened. I wanna marry her, and shes trying to force us to break up and be strong but we both know were meant for each other.. how can i fix this? Im currently trying to give her space.. really hard when i used to talk to her everyday.
I have been trying to fix my relationship for weeks now but he doesn’t wana tlk,he keep making me feel like I did something wrong but when I ask him he tells me tht nothing is wrong. Now he block me at watsapp and he’s not answering my calls,I really need to see him and talk to him,I love him and I dnt know what I’ll do without him he is my rock,he is part of me and he is my world;without him I’m nothing.
Hi I’m 26 years old and my boyfriend is 10 years older than me. We recently broke up do to trust issues he’s very insecure and he stopped trusting me do to me starring at another guy he thinks I’m cheating and no longer trust me he says he loves me but he feels betrayed and hurt and he won’t forgive me. I love him but I don’t know what to do.
I’ve been there myself. Trust is a 2 way street once someone feels that its been broken whether its warrant or not still hurts. You should be asking yourself why you where starring so hard at the other guy? Its OK to look but if you where looking to the point of being disrespectful to him then I could see why he would be upset. On the other hand does he have reason to distrust you? or is it his on insecurity that is an issue. If its that latter then there isn’t much you could do for him if he doesn’t have enough self confidence. If you have to kiss someones butt to keep them around then its not worth your time or effort.
Hi, I’m really hurting at the moment. I have known a guy for 4 years.
We are grown mature adults.. Well supposed to be, we have behaved like high school kids. I fell in Love with him, I opened my heart to him and he said nothing, we never had sex, we only held hands and kissed, that was when we dated.
I wanted to Love him, but he never told me he wanted me.
I never saw him as often as I wanted, I became so impatient and angry a couple weeks ago.. I couldn’t take his ignoring my questions, I wanted to know if he was with someone else, I wanted to know he cared about me. But he ignored me.
I called him names, like loser and that he was a dark person,
I said he was hateful, a liar and a deciever, I told him to go back to the hell he came from and to go to hell.
I just lost my patience after 4yrs of telling him I Loved him and nothing.
I was so angry, I said I would never speak to him again ever.
I was just so hurt. I’ve text him to say I’m so sorry for calling him names
And for hurting him.
I’m just broken that he has gone I was disappointed that after 4yrs
He thought so little of us..me..
I want him back in my life, I’m struggling to be at peace knowing he is not there.
I feel like someone has died and I cannot find the body.
This is just awful. I miss him so much
Being open and honest, and never hiding things from each other in the first place, is the number one way to help avoid problems further down the line. If you start your relationship being in any way dishonest, you’re just asking for trouble. Transparency is a huge part of any successful marriage.
hello,
so i know this is probably really stupid of me because these people have been in relationships longer than i have. but here it goes. i have been in a relationship for 1 year and 2months…it was a long distance relationship. in the beginning it was perfect. this person would come home from school and text me right away and listen to how my day went and i would do the same. we were happy….blissfully happy. we never went a day without talking. we were always skyping. we always kept the communication going. this person never left me hurting or nothing.if she did something wrong she would call me and she would apologize and i would do the same. but i noticed that little by little she started to stop talking to me like she used to. we would fight alot because communication was very important especially in a long distance …but anyways, three days ago she dumped me….i get confused because she makes it seem like were never getting back together and she wants me to move on. but then she makes little comments like”i see a future for us” or “yeah, its over…..for now” or that “im still in love with you and i love you” …her deal was that she couldnt handle the distance anymore and that being in a relationship period was stressing her out and that she wants to be with her family an she swears up and down that there is no other person she loves or wants.. she just wants time. but i feel like it was my fault too because especially at the end, i was clingy ..i just dont know what to do…should i wait for her? should i just forget about it? i just dont know it tears me up as days pass by…
Having a long distance relations is not easy, you both need to have lots of patience, trust and understanding. I guess your GF is kind of confused about your relationship and don’t think that long term relationship works. But it works, for sure. So, talk to her..give her time to think and here is an article which will help you to maintain your long distance relationship..
Maintain Long Distance Relationship
I’m considering to break up with my boyfriend of two years he dosent. Give me attention and ignores me when I’m trying to fix our problems I don’t feel that he’s in love with me is. There anyway to fix us he use to love me I don’t know what went wrong. Last call for help
Hi, I’ve had different relationships before I started the last one I’m in maybe.. We both love each other so much but it’s a distant relationship. We’ve actually been friends for a long time before we started the relationship and we told ourselves it was the perfect thing for us and we were very happy about it. But we started having problems lately because she said she wanna focus on some other things like going into business and therefore we should put the relationship on hold till we both get what we want.. That include no calls and text messages. I was mad to hear that. It was as if the world was coming to an end for me and I tried to make her understand that we can actually be together while we strive for better things out of our relationship. She felt I had no good plans for her and then she told me that she regrets going into the relationship in the first place and I’ve been madly sick about it cos I just want her to understand and believe that I want the best for her and that I never wanna start any other relationship with anyone else again. I’ve lost taste for other women and I can never love another again because I’ve tried to do everything possible for her to believe me. God knows my heart! I love her so much and with everything. She asked me not to call or text her because that will get her angry and that she doesn’t wanna see me now even when I asked to see her. I fear that doing all what she said I shouldn’t will worsen the situation. I persisted even when she asked me not to contact her and that made her angry. We both love each other but my persistence forced her to say what she said. I persisted because I don’t want a break up. I eat plenty food but I’ve not been able to eat well lately even when I’m hungry. Apparently I still want the relationship. What do I do? I need help!! I’m going crazy with the thought of loosing her I swear. I’ve been at work since morning and it’s just my body I see here I know I’m not here. I’m afraid it can get me killed because I used to have a high blood perssure
It hurt’s to loose the lov of ur lyf
i love my boyfriend like hell.
Our relationship was going well but since nowadays it’s getting worse.
He is really very confusing, sometimes i feel like he’s avoiding me and sometimes he makes me feel loved. I really don’t know it’s a guy problem or what. I care for him alot and he doesnot even give any shit about it!!
i want my broken relation to be fixed
please help me find out a solution
hie… I brokdup wid my girlfrnd few days back nd she cheatd me 7times with 7guys in our 7years relationshp now we are no more in relatinshp bt it stl want here to come back in my life nd start up wid new journey but she is not ready to lisent… Nd i do not want nybody else xcpt her.. I wil 4got everythng nd wil strt new life i said but she is not intrestd.. Plz ruchi if u can help me out do help ,.. I m felin alon nd becomeing made her love day by day nd planin commite sucide but due to my smal sis i m unble to dis thing… plz help me out to get back her in my life
Hey Ali,
You want her back? 7 guys in 7 years…this girl is not worth for you or any other guy. Stay away from her. To forget someone you loved since 7 years is tough but committing suicide is not a solution. Life is beautiful and for such people you must not ruin it. Make yourself strong, do what you love and gradually try to avoid her and her memories.