There is this new guy who moved recently to your locality, and you are head over heels in love with him. He is the cutest guy you have ever laid your eyes on, you sneak a peek every night when he takes his dog for a walk.
He is messing up with your head in a big way but all you are doing is just day dreaming about him because you have no courage to go up to him to ask him out for a date over the weekend. Your friends are coaxing you to make a move but you are too shy to express your feelings to this hot stranger. Congratulations!! You are officially a secret admirer now.
Don’t be a Secret admirer – Admit your likeness
Most of the time people don’t want to admit their likeness for someone, in the fear of rejection, or don’t want to be the first one. Specially, if you are in love with your friend, you will find yourself in more confusing state.
Do remember, like the way your heart beats, other person heart beats the same way. All you need is a little push inside your head, and talk to the person. You don’t have to be blunt if you don’t like, but when you talk to the person you secretly admire, you will realise how easy it is.
It does kill you to hide your emotions every time you see him with a love struck puppy look. It is difficult to go on like this, because he does not know of your existence, let us tell you why you should not be a secret admirer:
`You do not exist’:
Being a secret admirer might sound tantalizing and mysterious but what is the point if he is not aware of your existence. You will just end up watching your sugar candy with some random girl on your way to college every day.
Green Eyed Monster:
`Jealousy is all the fun you THINK they had`, somebody rightly quoted as you will feel jealous each time you know that he is spending his free time with his `beer buddies`, going to watch a hockey match or playing PS3. He could be spending all that time with you if only you express your feelings to him.
Pillar of Strength:
I am sure you don’t want to end up alone in life, being a secret admirer is great till the time you enjoy being one but when you start sulking that’s when the problem arises. All spheres of your life gets effected, your academics, professional life, familial relationships, interpersonal relations with the peer group, in short everything gets caught under the fire. So it is better that you be vocal about your emotions and you never know He [your crush] might turn out to be your prince charming who will come rescue you from all the worldly problems. You will get a should to lean on and a hand that will hold you in adverse situations.
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Beginning of a new dawn:
Crushes come and crushes go, but only true love will survive the test of time. Give him a chance to fall in love with you. Tell him how much you `dig him` and make him feel that he is not a passing affair, any guy would like that. It will boast his male ego and you- my dear girl will be a winner.
He might think you are a pervert or worst a stalker if you keep on following your Crush; it is one of the biggest factor why you should not be a secret admirer. By going over the board you may scare off the guy of your dreams and he might think that it is creepy. It is always better to be simple and straight forward in your approach, saying `I really like you and would love to go out with you` sounds easy and will definitely make the other person blush. But if you say things like `I have been checking you out for over a month now and I want you to come with me for a long drive` will make him take a step backward.
Telling someone that you `like`/`love` them is not a crime or felony, instead it will make them happy that someone appreciates and love them for who they are. Just a note of caution don’t ever try to cross boundaries as a secret admirer, don’t sound desperate and respect other person`s privacy and dignity. I am sure you don’t want to be chased by the cops for stalking somebody. Let your feelings bloom and make it real. Do remember, if you will not ask, answer will always be no.
So move out of your comfort zone, and talk to the person and tell him/her how you feel, and you would like to go out on a date. 🙂
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