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Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.
The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.
Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach has kept on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to the fullest.
How to be in love when another person when another person don’t love you back:
- Think in a positive way:
If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for five days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.
- Expectations:
True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?
If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and takes relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings, and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.
- Don’t force them to love you:
The main reason for not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone has their choice, and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.
The day you will stop crying for your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then waits for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.
But yes, the best advice would move on. Life is short, and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead, find someone special, who completes you.
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I am madly in love with my bestfriend’s brother, it ‘s been 2 years and i can’t move on, my brother is never going to be okay with it. We cuddle all the times and talk’s a lot , we even kissed in the summer… When school started he just ignored me but i don t get to see him a lot because he is 2 years older than me , i am 14 and he is 16 he will never love me! I cry myself to sleep everynight and i act like i am fine but i am not i am broken.. I can’t talk to this to anyone because they don’t understand. I also travelled with him it was awesome, people from there said we were a couple.
But i will never be with someone like him i am just a game for him.
You are in love with an idea. You loved what you thought he did for you. You need to learn to do for yourself what you needed him to do for you. If you can learn to love yourself more, you will not urine so badly for someone else to do it. Obviously, he was not able and was never going to be the person you wanted him to be.
I have a problem… I like ( I mean sorta realy realy reallly like like) this boy in my 8th period class, but he never talks to me, I’ve tried so many times to get him to speak, but he never even acknowledges me… What do I do???
He might not love you right now but he might love you later on or he loves you right now and doesn’t want to be hurt so he’s pushing you away
I’ve done this and lost my chance with the person…
So give him a little time and if he messes up give him another chance
Hey emila…
The first u’ve got to do is to confess everything to him and get things cleared
….
Or is he just dating you for fun…
Tell him that u are serious..
If he rejects you…
Then u dont have to waste ur time worrying over this
Hi my name is tiara I been going thru a lots of stuff lately, I’m 21 years old I met this guy when I was leaving school one day he followed me asking “miss can I get your number please ” I said “no why do you want my number ” he responded ” because I kinda like you ” so I gave him my number we started to text each other, not even in a week he text me to come hang out with him at his house I said OK so I went to his house we talked laugh giggle all that good stuff u could imagine, now he wanted to have sexual intercourse with me I said no we just met his like I understand but I’m a good guy ???? …. I let him do what ever he wanted he would tell me to come to his house every day sometimes I skip skl to go see him one day I call him he didn’t answer neither my text messages so I kept calling him texting him all at I would tell him I miss him… After all this I can’t eat without thinking about him I can’t do nothing in this world without thinking about him I would cry anytime I think about him etccc I’m in love with him I saw him 3days ago and it seems like he was really happy to see me he kept saying “why you look so gorgeous & sexy” and he kept playing with my hands like nothing happens… I need help because I deeply fall in love with this guy idk what to do I can’t do nothing in this world without thinking about him ????????????????????
Get your shit together. Don’t let a guy make you feel this way, he is not worth it. Although, you may be too in love and blind to see it,he is clearly just using you to have sex. Focus on your school because no guy will ever be able to take away your career. You deserve better, don’t fall into his trap I guarantee that you’ll regret it.
Hiii..
I’ve fallen for someone in my office but he’s already had a girlfriend who is really beautiful, hot and rich. Both of them looks like deeply in love each other. But these day, I had a chance to know him better because he need my help for his job. And the more I know him, I start to see another me in him. The way he think, he act, how he treat the other people are just like me. And I don’t realize, since when he start to call me pretty, and do something nice for me. I think I fall to his trap or what, because he need to reach his work goals and he need me for that so he is being “the nice guy” . I don’t know. The one that I know is my mind is blur and I’m affraid to get hurt.
I know you wanted him but i basically qent through the same thing there was this really cute boy and i felt like we were right for each other cause we had so much in common and we were the same age and as i got to know him even bettet and i started to realize that i cant have him cause someone else had his heart and in his eyes i eas not his type but were still friends even though i wanted to be more than friends
Well, look it’s pretty simple. Don’t talk to him anymore.
Okay I know it’s not that simple when he will be the first face you see everyday in office. When you have to do all the projects with him and etc etc.
BUT you need to notice that he already has a girlfriend and according to you he loves her alot…so making him love you would be a tough job and it wouldn’t be nice to break a loving relationship just for your own benefits (again saying this, because that’s what you wrote) you don’t want to be THAAAAT girl…
He calls you pretty and all because you are pretty but that’s just a compliment and I don’t think so he would think about you in that sense. So get a good grip of yourself and realise your worth which I know is way more than this. And don’t let his sweet talk sway you into taking bad decisions (work-wise or emotion-wise) which you might regret later.
I hope you get over him best of luck and may God bless you.
I fell in love 30 years ago for the most beautiful woman I ever met, but she went with someone else down a very dark path. She is now in prison for life. I have been married 26 years now but am still in love with her and think of her everyday. We write to each other, but when I write to her my heart dictates my words.
You know you love someone when years have passed and yet you still think of them. However, have you ever thought on what is she ever gets out of prison and confronts your wife. What would your decision be then and why would u make that decision.
I fell in love with someone at work. It all started with a work event. I had always thought he was cute but after that event I got a chance to talk to him and that’s when cupid was out to get me, we talked, laughed and it just felt like I knew him from before so he got into my heart without me knowing he had a gf. A few weeks later I found out he was taken but I already had feelings for him. The worst is that I am in a committed relationship myself, I wasn’t looking for this. Love snuck up on me, I didn’t know my heart was free. So we kept talking and saw each other a few weeks after that. We have made out a few times and we both want more but it cannot be. I love him and he likes me but he just wants fun. My feelings would probably lead me to more but my head won’t, I just can’t have him. I gotta move on. ????????????????
I am in a committed relationship when I met this guy. He is really fun to be with. We share the same likes and hobbies. After a while, he opened up that gf broke up with him & that it hurt him. I tried to be there for him as much as I can to be of help..Until such time we started to sweet talk with each other, call each other with endearments, open more deeply about each others lives, even exchanged “i love yous”. He said as long as we both have love and trust for each other, we’ll be fine. One day, he said he’s going to his xgf’s house to see if they can still fix it. He came back to me and acted the same. I didnt wanna ask what happened to their talk coz I want him to open up but he didn’t. Weeks went on, we became sweeter and sweeter to each other. Then one day, I sent him a message with which he immediately replied using another account & telling me to reply there instead so his gf won’t see any message in the old account. that’s when i knew they were back together. and yet we still spend time with each other too even more than we spend with our partners. I dont know what will happen. i’m scared to lose what we have. idk. guess im not ready to face it. i hope it’s easy.. 🙁 🙁 🙁
I don’t know if this was fate or what. I fell in love with this guy I met at an event. I asked him if we could share a map and he agreed. What followed was the typical scenario of flirting(aka talking dirty) and exchanging phone contacts.
He started texting me later that day and continued to text me more often saying he found me interesting and wanted to be more than friends.
We went over to each other house at first then I started going to his house more frequently as he stayed in the city whereas me, in the suburbs.
We were very much in love physically but didn’t really have a common topic which intrigued both of us. Most dates were spent lying on bed and being physical. Although he nature of our dates was atypical, I knew he liked me because he proposed on being official 1 month after we date and gave me a bracelet as a form of affirmation of his love.
Because of the amount of time we spent on bed together, he started asking for sexual favors. It was rather appalling to later understand from him that he was really horny and that before me, he masturbates while watching porn a lot by himself .
This r/s continued however my gut feeling told me that it wasn’t going to turn out well ( I felt that we only connected on an intimate level)
Almost a year in, he called the shots and told me he wanted to break up and remain friends. I was devastated I felt so betrayed and used I felt that he only wanted me for sex and he I lost my virginity to him.
He told me that he doesn’t want to hurt me any longer and if we were both meant to be, that destiny and time will find us back together again in future.
It has been 3 months now people around me says that he is a useless person but I still can’t get over him . I just think that he’s the only one for me and that he’s my twin flame .
I’m inlove with a guy which is 19 and I’m 17…we have been friends with benefits,we had sex several times the only problem I’m falling inlove with him and he doesn’t feel this same way
My boyfriend and i hav been together for 4 years…we were forced into a breakup because his family had a certain bride in mind for him..now he’s getting engaged and it just hurts…
What does he think about the situation? He could refuse…. if he really loves you he would! If you are meant to be, then I believe you will be with each other. If not, then you will find another love. I know you might not want to find another… I understand that 100%! But, it’s how the human mind tends to work usually. You’ll be ok xx Stay strong
Well, I fell in love with another man 5 years ago. After reading this article, maybe it’s best that I just let it go. Because I want so badly to be in a real relationship with him and he can’t and won’t right now. I want a divorce. And I want to just live happily and peacefully as much as possible. I’m tired of being hurt. I’m tired of caring so much.
I had just joined the university when i met this guy, so charming indeed. I loved him wholly though he didnt love me back. unfortunately i just was a game to him, he used me & within a month, he began avoiding me. what hurts the most is that i can’t keep him to myself, he doesnt care at all. But surprisingly am still in love with him
Hi my name is Q. V .. …
I hav been in love wd a gal for 5 yers we evn contact wd one anotr i evn proposed her bt her reply always says no .. .. Last yer dt ws 2016 i proposed her again n on 24th night november she said yes n we ws n a relationship n aftr sum days on 17 of december she said she cnt do it nymore … Wch hurts me so mch… .. I dnt knw wt to do or say to her now .. … So now ma pLan s work hard hav a good job n ask 4 her to merry me wn m ready .. dts wt i wna suprise her.. .. I Love her so mch….
Dont worry he will understand your love oneday.you should wait for it.
Hi, I’m Teri and I’m a lesbian. I’ve known this girl for more than a couple years now. And I’m in love with her. We began on the pretenses of not going for a relationship but as I hung out with her more and more my feelings grew. It was quite clear to me that she felt the same. She would confess little things to me and sometimes we’d spend days together just talking,cuddling. This wasn’t intentional but why hold back on love? So I told her how I truly felt. She never responded to me and never returned the love. I got angry and felt like I had been dealt the hand of injustice. How could she not see how amazing we are together? From then on she has gone back and forth between girls and I simply do not trust her. But I have yet to stop crying. I feel like there is a hole in my heart. Just wish I could just move on from this…
i love my bestfriend … from my heart … the most loving person in my life till now … but she do not have any feelings regards love … i want her in my life till i die … she is the most naughty girl i saw … but i dont know why .. but i love her the most …
I know that this is just an unrequited love and I know and I feel too that this feeling can break and put me in vain. I want to move on and just forget that he is existing but this stubborn heart and anxious mind is keep on blocking and stopping me. I want to exclude him in my life but the idea of not having or talking to him even just in a day can breaks my heart, slowly but surely and painfully. This is bad, I am hurting but I still want him even though he can’t feel the same towards me. Maybe you’re right, every love must be unconditional.
So I’ve developed strong feelings towards my best friend. And like throughout the past four years we’ve become close friends, but it started off with us going out when we were pretty small, so that didn’t last long cause yeah. anyway, like we became best friends like three years ago, when I developed a huge crush on him, and then a year later I got over him, but then I had like small crushes on him throughout the next year, and then he kind o liked me a year after that, but the timing was wrong, and like then a few months after that I started to develop very strong feelings for him, and now we are here.
So basically like a two weeks ago I told him how I felt about him, and he said that he also really liked me but he really didn’t want to risk our friendship. That conversation didnt last very long and I agreed with him and then I just told him that I had to tell him how I feel. Anyway, there was this mix up where I thought we were a thing, so I asked him and he responded that he did really like me but that he doesn’t want to ruin our friendship and that he would be in pieces if something happened to our relationship. Anyway then I told him that it was stupid of me to tell him, and then he said that I wasn’t stupid because he really does feel the same way about me, then he told me that he thinks about me a lot and that it’s really hard for him to make this decision of just staying friends but he is thinking about what is better for the long term and then he told me I (and this other guy who is his best friend) were his best friends in the world and he wouldn’t change that for anything.
I don’t know what to do, I mean we are both super like open about it and we can easily discuss it, but first off, I feel like I kind of ruined our friendship already just by telling him, because he doesn’t talk to me as much, and he also talks to me differently, like he doesn’t like make mean jokes about me because he doesn’t want to hurt me. Secondly I don’t think he really likes me that much, I think he is just slightly attracted to me but idk, and like there was this one day when he was being like extra nice and cute, and we were hanging out with our friends and he was just cuddling with me on the couch (we were all watching a football match) and like we were holding hands and every few minutes he would like glance at me and smile. Now at school he just finds excuses to like touch me and hug me, but then other times he doesn’t really talk to me or like go near me. I’m so confused. I’m also really scared that we are missing out on a relationship that could be great, and I’m also scared that he will get over me before I get over him and then I will just feel even worse about not ever going out with him, and I’ll feel like I missed out on a great chance. And like I really like him a lot, and the best part of the day is when I talk to him. I’m very confused and I can’t stop thinking about him and I have no idea what to do, or if there is even anything to do at this point.
*sorry for all the spelling mistakes and parts that don’t make sense*
I have fallen in love with a guy but every since I met him he told me that he couldn’t love again that he could only be my friend the reason being is that his ex wife cheated on him and I really like him and I know he likes me but at the same time he tells me he doesn’t want to hurt me because he can’t love anyone again. What can I due
This information although useful was not what I was looking for, I’m in a Romeo and Juliet scenario where we both love eachother immensely and have no trouble showing it but her parents hate me for being alive. If you have information that would help me I’d appreciate it.
bruhh that’s not even as bad as the other ones up there don’t let her parents stop you use there hate n make them want you! redeem yourself and show them that you are worthy to be with her!!! ur so stupid like were all going thru a love more worse than yours and your letting one things stop you! man if you really love her than make a effort don’t ask for help if you didn’t even try!
So I’m in love with someone I can’t be with. Fourteen years ago I met someone in IRAQ, before I left I had my boyfriend who I had proposed to and he had told me no. So when I left to Iraq I left with an intention of maybe us getting separated would be a good thing. My boyfriend who is now my husband had been divorced with 2 children and was scared of commitment. While in Iraq I met one person who out of so many just stood out, respectful, honest, handsome, we spoke for a year. When he came to the US he wrote me letters almost everyday for 3 months to make sure that I was on his mind and he knew he loved me.
When I came home I didn’t think my husband (Name is J)was waiting for me since I hadn’t heard from him but he was. He proposed as soon as I landed and being in front of everyone I just said yes. So I was so confused, I figured I take a trip with my Iraqee boy, my soldier (Name is D). So I did but being that my boyfriend was a part of my family since we were all small it wasn’t that easy to leave and so I did. I had to lie to my whole family because I knew they would not accept anyone else. I spent a week away in another state with D. I had the most amazing time of my life. He did everything a gentleman should do to include would wake me up for breakfast and roses. When I came home I was just more confused because I had feelings for both. If I was with D I would think of F and if I was with F I would think of D. It just made things harder.
D one day calls me and tells me he was so in love with me and he was willing to transfer to where I was just to be with me. So I told him the truth, as I waited for him to cuss me out he didn’t. He said he loved me so much that all he wanted was my happiness. He would always love me no matter what. So one day I woke up, changed my number, and deleted all his stuff to include got rid of all his picture told myself I needed to make a decision so I choose J. I fear I made a decision based on my family and not towards what I really wanted. Fourteen years passed and not a day would pass that I would think of him, actually 5 years passed and he sent me an email wishing I was happy and to let me know he would always think of me and missed me so much. I never had the chance to read the whole email because my husband read the email it was then when I found out some how my son’s middle name and D’s middle name were the same and I didn’t even know. Three years after that I found out my husband was having an affair with someone else, I forgave him but really it just made me want to look for D, and so I did. I had spent four years looking for him and I never found him. One day I tell my friend my story and she searches D in which she found him. I couldn’t believe it, we talked and I felt the butterflies all over again. He had been separated from his baby’s momma. We both have children with someone else. D and I talked and talked and talked. He was in NY and I was in Texas to far to make things happen but most important I am still married. After talking for about a year, I realized I couldn’t think for myself but for my children and their father (My husband) he returned back with his baby momma and I here with my family. His baby momma found out we would talk and she knew I was his long lost love so she prohibit him from talking with me. I haven’t heard from him in 4 months and it’s killing me. I don’t know how to handle this, I maintain occupied, I do my hobbies, I workout, I work and still it’s so hard just to want to grab the phone and tell him that I love him but yet I know it’s wrong.
I don’t know if it would be good just to see each other one more time, or if it’s best just to leave it like that and maybe in another life once our kids are grown. Many people say well you know your kids get older and you stay with whoever, however I grew up with step parents and I told myself that would never happen with my children and so I choose what’s best for my children. I know D truly loves me as much as I do but yet I also understand we both went through the same thing. I don’t blame him I know I made this choice and I know he had to move on however, it just hurts so much and I miss him so much.
heyy,
I’m in such a pickle and I don’t know how or what to do… I’ve been in love with this girl for months and we have been best friends for quite a while too, however I’m leaving for another country in 3 and a bit months to study for 4 years I intend on being back every 10 months for about 2 months, problem is I believe she is the ‘one’ but I don’t know how to initiate a romantic relationship nor do I know if a long distance relationship will be what’s best for us… I want to wait for her as I so strongly believe how she means the absolute world to me! along with my other problem, is a friendship going to be a better fit then a relationship? even though I’m hopelessly in love with her…
if anyone can just give me something to help me as I feel so lost with this whole situation…
I’ve been in love with this man for over 3 years now, we’re in different levels in our life, and our ages don’t exactly match. I’m 18, and he’s 27. I know that in my current situation, I can’t be with him, or tell him how I feel about him. I wish that I was only in love with the idea of him, but I’m not. His smile, his laugh, the way that his eyes brightens whenever he talks about something that he’s passionate in… I know I love him and That i love everything about him, his imperfections included. More than anything I want him to be happy, even if it means him never finding out the fact that I love him. Is it wrong to feel this way? Am I foolishly following someone that I shouldn’t?
hey all … i just wanna say that i love a girl from the past 15 months and she did knows that i love her soo much but i dont why she is not saying yes to my proposal even she is not letting me go away frm her i m very very much sad … her all friends says to her that please say yes to him but idk what the hell she wants … she do all that things which hurts me the most …. idk what do …plz help me out!!!!!
Hello i need someones help i truly love this girl but her dad has forbade me from being near her talking to her or interacting with her and it shatters my heart every time i see her i was dating her but since her dad found out i cant be near her and it hurts and i don’t know how to deal with the pain im all alone
I am madly in love with my sister’s boyfriend, it ‘s been 9 years and i can’t move on. He also cares for me a lot. I cry myself to sleep everynight and i act like i am fine but i am not i am totally broken.. I can’t talk to this to anyone because they don’t understand. My parents started looking partner for me. But I’m not even in the position to accept others. I don’t like to meet them and missing all the moments with him. Getting depressed all the time.
YES!!it is Unconditional but what can you say if love strikes?
sometimes we have to control our emotions for us to learn how to accept love unconditionally and how to handle things without hurting anyone …I met this guy that is committed and planning to get married, he is a nice and a sweet guy but bully sometimes I admitted that I liked him so much and he just simply answered it with “Please don’t, I don’t want to hurt you but I don’t want to lose you…it hurts right? but that’s how love control your feelings and doesn’t want to get you hurt 🙁
Most women nowadays don’t even know what real love is since they just love sleeping around with different men all the time instead of committing to only one.
With so many women nowadays that have careers and are so very high maintenance, it really does make it very difficult for many of us single men to find love today unfortunately. Most women have just too many very high unrealistic expectations nowadays, and their standards are too very high as well.
Most women nowadays are falling in love with one another unfortunately which makes it very difficult for many of us straight single guys trying to meet a real good woman now for ourselves. Go figure.
Hlo am Musoke Donovan, I fell in love with someone i Can’t have , i have tired but in the end am the one getting hurt , so this article has help me to forget about her and start over again , thank you.
I am in love with my colleague, we are good friends but I guess it’s better just to be friends. I know that the relationship will not progress to something more special.
Well ,its tough I must say
Hello. I have an interesting story to share.
I have been in love with a man I can’t be with, for family reasons, for about 12 years now. We fell in love in our teens, but both of us knew we can’t be together so we didn’t act on it. Over that time, we drifted apart for a few years, found each other again, fell in love again, but that reason, among other things, remained. And I can say with complete confidence that it’s not just a phase or another fantasy. I’ve tried moving on from him countless times and failed miserably. I even had several relationships but none felt enough. There was always something pulling me back to him. He doesn’t know it, but he gave me the courage to be my true self and seek what is best for me. He brings out the best in me in every situation. We support and understand one another in a way that surprises even us, which has always been our thing. With him, I’ve found unconditional love, support, friendship, safety, and respect. He is everything I want in a partner and that is not even an exaggeration. I will not however be so arrogant and speak on his behalf.
He is moving away soon. He found someone during the time we were apart who was there for him on his lowest and gave him an unmissable opportunity for his future. Of course, I am all for whatever is best for him even though it’s not me. After all, he did the same for me a few years back by letting me go find the happiness I deserve. Failing that, I came back running only to find that he is on his own way to find happiness.
Not knowing whether or not we will see each other again hurts. And if we do, how much of our feelings would be different? Not having him around anymore is going to kill me, exactly like it does every minute of the day when I am not with him.
But do I regret not breaking the odds and going for it since the beginning? I do not. Everything that has happened in our separate lives had lead us to be the people we are today; to the man I fell for repeatedly. I believe we needed to go our separate ways to develop ourselves and be exactly where we need to be when we do meet. The universe is what brought us together in the first place, then again, and it might do it again when we are both ready for it.
A love like this is hard to find. It is not easy finding a solid home in a person. For whoever reading his, if you have someone like this in your life, go hug them and tell them you love them. And if you are profoundly lucky and they love you back, don’t let them go.
Most women nowadays look for men with the very big bank accounts since they’re real gold diggers to begin with, especially the ones that go with men much older than they really are. And now that so many women have their careers nowadays, most of them are very high maintenance, independent, and usually don’t want a man at all, very selfish, greedy, spoiled, picky, narcissists, and they just will never ever go with an ordinary man which they will never be able to accept him for who he really is at all to begin with. Quite a difference back in the old days when most women were nothing like today at all, and they were certainly real ladies as well which made love very easy to find in those days. And it wasn’t all about looks either back then in those days since having a very nice personality was a plus as well. Today women are just so very awful now unfortunately, and there will be times when many of us men will get Cursed out for no reason at all when we will just say good morning or hello to a woman that we think would be really nice for us to meet. Very obvious why our family members were very lucky back in the old days when they met one another at that time, and today that is why so many of us men are still single today with the very big change in the women now unfortunately that have caused this problem in the first place. And many of us men aren’t single by choice either. Many of us men were just born in the Wrong Era.