Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.
The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.
Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach has kept on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to the fullest.
How to be in love when another person when another person don’t love you back:
- Think in a positive way:
If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for five days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.
- Expectations:
True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?
If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and takes relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings, and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.
- Don’t force them to love you:
The main reason for not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone has their choice, and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.
The day you will stop crying for your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then waits for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.
But yes, the best advice would move on. Life is short, and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead, find someone special, who completes you.
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Hi Ruchi I need your help. So there’s a girl and she’s my friend. I talk to her daily through texts. I am getting more attached to her, infact I think whole day about her. But recently I just got some facts like she already have told her parents about the other guy whom she is going to marry. That’s fine its her choice. But the confusion starts when she tells me that she never ignore me, she tells me she understands me alot, she gives me indication she likes me alot. I somehow have made my mind to move because I can’t imagine myself with her now,I don’t want to be with her now. But also I don’t want to stop contact with her completely. But her thoughts in my mind have completely ruined me. I am lost. I am completely got distracted from my goal. I can’t focus. I was a highly motivated guy but her thoughts have completely ruined me. I have lost energy and dedication for my goals. I am ruined completely.
Pls help me overcome and move on without stopping to contact her.
Hey Jitesh,
Move on..try to stop all contacts with her.It might be tough but it would be good for your future. She is already committed and still wants you around. Hope you get the point.
dear jitesh, time changes everything brother,it will take long time to heal ur pain. and i think u r a good person and she is playing with u. it will take years to heal ur pain,u got no choice u have to wait and the healing process may takes years.i have been through this trust me, some day when u will find someone else like ur type and i hopethat day u will not only find peace and u will also find happyness.
Ruchi,
I saw a girl some 4 years back. She was my brother’s friend’s daughter.she was first crush of my love. Now again I saw her 6 months back in my brother’s marriage party. She also remembered me. We had a few eye contacts. And she was gone.she is from.another city From that day I keep thinking about her.can’t forget her. I asked my brother for her whatsapp number.But he denied to give me, saying, ‘if u message her my name will be spoilt.she is a very beautiful girl with very high attitude. She would already have many girlfriends.she wont bother about you. Also she would spoil ur name in the family, saying the guy messaged me, I haven’t talk to’. I am broken inside I cant do anything to get her, I just keep crying, and curshing god why cant I get her. Please help me, I am broken inside.
It happens. But you have to be strong to not contact her. It happened to me too. I broke no-contact many times whenever i missed her. She simply wasn’t that intense as much as me. So, don’t latch on to her. She might like you. But she has made up her mind on another guy. So, she is confused. Let her regret later in life about it.
I’m also facing the same problem guys… if she loves him then why does she always want me!!!!
she always tell everything only to me & I get confused… coz if she loves him then what am I doing in her life…
if she loves him then why does she always need me in her life…
its very much complicated:-(
I’m going through the same thing, Jitesh. I fell in love with a girl, she loved me. But then she started to lie to me, she started to pull away and act hot or cold. I thought something was wrong, and gradually I found out she had another guy in her life who she was committed to. And now it’s like I’m stuck in the friend zone or I don’t mean anything to her. This just hurts everyday. I’m trying to give up contact but it’s killing me. I feel depressed, it’s physically hurting. She is keeping around in case things don’t work out with this other guy. Well, I’m cutting the rope right now.
jitesh has probably moved on from this by now, but I need to write this reply for anyone else who comes across this post and relates to his story. Jitesh feels a romantic connection to this girl because she says she likes him, they are good friends and they talk daily through texts. He’s upset because he found out that she told her parents about a guy she wants to marry. People here have told Jitesh to move on and assume the girl must be playing him, but no one has mentioned this: Just because a girl says she likes you and talks to you by text each day, doesn’t mean that she likes you as more than a friend. She’s not playing you or lying when she says these things. Just because.a girl is nice to you doesn’t mean she likes you ‘that way’. Jitesh is hopeful and making assumptions that she feels the way he does without finding out for sure. This is a recipe for getting hurt. If a girl likes you in a romantic way, she’s most likely touching your hand, holding on to your arm, pulling herself in closer than normal. wanting to TALK to you on the phone instead of texting… especially late at night, she’s asking questions about where you are, who you’re with and what you’re doing. She seems jealous or extra curious when it’s another girl. These are all signs that she likes you for more than friendship, but there’s really only one way to find out for sure. Be up front. Ask her, tell her how you feel, try to touch her face or hair or try to kiss her. She’ll let you know right then and there if she feels the same way or not. Only if Jitesh did this, she led him to believe she felt the same and then dated another guy, would she be playing him!!! Also, she may not have told Jitesh about the guy she wants to marry because it’s not something she would, or needs to share with him. It is, however something she’d share with her parents and best girlfriend… not, necessesarily a guy friend. That would just be weird, unless he’s gay, then he’s like a girlfriend. I hope this helps someone out there.
I have this girl we have dated on and off sence 9th grade I’m in the 11 now we broke up cause of drama and my parents not liking her and that I didn’t give her space she says she doesn’t love me any more that there is nothing left what do I do people say move on or to wait and give her space I have talked to her mom her mom says she will come around
I happen to be in a painful situation and it’s all my fault.
So, I have a boyfriend, whom I am deeply in love with, with whom I am happy and we’ve been together for more than 4 years now.
In the past year, though, a guy who was just an acquaintance began to be closer (keep in mind he is from my city but lives in another one, where he studies and works and rarely comes back).
So, after almost one year of chatting and becoming like best “pen” friends, telling everything to each other, he told me he is strongly attracted to me, and that he would like me to be his girlfriend. At a fist instance, as he was having issues with TWO of his ex-girlfriends, I just stopped him though -I admit- I have the same feelings for him (problem is: is it lust? Is it just a temporary crush? I don’t know, I keep loving my boyfriend so much in the meanwhile, when this thought crosses my mind I feel miserable and a monster).
So, recently, he went to the US for a project and he found a really nice and beautiful girl and I think they are a perfect couple and I also think she deserves the best.
Now, I was sure that him finding a girlfriend would have meant -to me- a relief, and that I would have been happy for that.
Truth is, I suffer when I see their pics together, I hate him when he tells me he wants to stay with me despite her, I blocked him on facebbok not to see all the sweethearts pictures and loving phrases they share to each other.
I am hating myself for being so selfish and I happen not to find a solution. When I just try to forget him, not hearing from him, he pops up out of the blue, telling me again it should’t be my boyfriend to stay with me, but him.
Why am I so confused? Why can’t I just tell him to stop for good? I asked him to, but it’s like he already knows me so well…I regeret having told him so much about me, but in the meanwhile I feel a great chemistry between us…
Sorry for the long post, but this is hurting me so badly I really can’t do anything but thinking about this horrible situation :'(
Cece think if u really loved your boyfriend this guy wouldnt cross ur mindbthe truth is that u love this new guy but remember tough decisions are best hea n dpnt follow ur instincts not at all
Hey Cece,
I may know how u feeling and it’s really hard. I know. The thing is you’re not the selfish one here! HE is the selfish one. He’s abusing the friendly talks that you have had and now he knows too much about you! No need to feel like a monster, the solution is easy. It’s completely normal to feel bad by seeing their photos and getting confused that he’s getting along well with her but keeps telling me that he’s attracted to me! He’s the selfish one and is ruining your relationship with your BF and maybe part of your life. So try to keep distance between you and him and whenever he starts talking about these stuff remind yourself that he’s happy with her, and he’s selfish, if he really loved me he would never mentioned that when knew that I was in a relationship. So try to get your mind off of it and start distracting yourself by doing things you love. At first maybe u won’t realize any change but one day you’ll wake up in the morning and understand you haven’t thought of him for such long time. changes happen gradually.
A tip for future: NEVER TRUST ANYONE THAT MUCH TO TELL THEM ALL YOUR PRIVATE THINGS AND SECRETS! there are a few in the whole world who u can trust them. and don’t let anyone to come through your mind with their dirty fits.
Good luck
hi, im in a worse condition. the guy with whom im in love for past 5 years, he loves me to the core. but some how i got a huge love for a guy who was my frnd on fb. even he had an enormous love on me from past one and half years. but now he fell in love wit another girl, until i got to know about his new love he pretended to me dat he loves me more and dying everyday wit my thoughts. one day i told him dat lets be frnds bcos i couldn’t see him dying wit my thoughts, i always cared for him and loved him each and every second but within 1 month of me telling dat we will be frnds he fell into love wit another girl. now he tells dat he totally hates me and i dont have any rights on him anymore. but he wishes to speak wit me jus like a stranger. it hurts me alot. each and every second i have prayed for his goodness. but Now he just thrown me away. i feel like dying. im happy that he s got a good life, but while thinking dat how could he jus hate me in just one month, it really hurts alot. i dont know wat to do. and i don’t feel like giving him up since i loved him alot. but his thoughts are ruining me within. in fact i haven’t met him even once. but i know even he s a good guy. but wat s the use. for some time i try forgetting him. but i fail each time. pls someone help me out. im not able to share this to anyone. im dying within myself each and every second. oh god. wat will i do. pls help me. :'(
My situation is i love this girl and she love me to but she got a boyfriend… I fell in love with her thinking i could manage to get her to be mines and leave her man but of course that didn’t work…. She broke my heart and hurt me i cried until she came back… I dont want her to leave but i dont want to hurt anymore either idk what to do
My situation is same you. I found the guy who is very similar to me. We’re the same style so we’re feel good and love with each other but we can’t continue our relation because he already got girlfriend which related for last 10 years. He said it’s very hard to broke up because their parents’ve already known each other. I understand him and i’m not happy too if i’m the
reason to make them broke up. His girlfriend is not wrong. So i think it would be better if we try to keep the relation to be the friend only. The best way we shouldn’t contact each other in this time. Further that i will try to open my mind to look for the new one i can love. I believe in destiny. Maybe he isn’t right for me. In the other way, if he right, there will be something change and we can love perfectly in the future. Let’s it be. 🙂
I am so envy who those who have a crush. coz who I love is my ex. Omg that feeling so suck. Please dont go away, no one’s ever stuck with me for so long before. I feel so bad, it hurts it hurts so bad. But I cant tell anyone or him either, coz I dont want them to feel sad. I want to move on. I wanna forget all about it. I’m trying to be in love with someone else but that’s just wrong! It’s wrong! Who I love is him I cant cheat myself. It shouldnt be like this. But, urghh so many buts. I cant upset him for saying I still love him, but I do. Owhh it’s a complicated emotion and I dont want to bear it but I cant. I’m stuck. I’m so sad, so sad. No one knows.We had promises, you promised me and you never grant it! I hate you I love you Ben you just hurt me so much.
Please read & reply…When I was 13 a new student was introduced in my class . That time I was a very childish type of girl and I hated boys because I was very pretty and I didn’t wanted there attention at all ..But that new student was different ..He didn’t looked at me like other guys did (from top to bottom) and but I don’t know why I was not happy about it? He sometimes used to stare at me(my face) and I used to give him death glares but he gave me smiles instead of turning his head! This used happen frequently in the beginning…and I started to like him but I never wanted to bcuz I hated such feelings…so I became very rude to him and we sometimes bickered …I tied him a rakhi which means making him as my brother in order to destroy the feelings I was growing for him…BT when he agreed to get a rakhi tied by me …I was really hurt BT I tied it anyway…he gave me a pen as rakhi gift which I have with me till now …now I am 19…Next year when I was 14 our sections were changed BT I still get to see him because of extra curricular activities…he became rude to me by then..and I still had those feelings for him..that year he rejected to get rakhi from me …When I turned 15 I hoped to be in d same section as him BT he was gone…His dad was transferred to delhi …so he was not in my city or even state…I have not seen him for 5-6 years…I sent him a frnd request 3 years ago which he accepted quickly BT we never liked or commented on each others post…we have only chated once …Now I know I love him to death..BT I don’t think he returns my feelings.I think this is hopeless one sided love BT I have never confessed or even given him any hint that I liked/loved him ever.I can never get over him I did whatever I can..now I am not that pretty as I wear specs nowc .I don’t know wat to do…if I”ll ever get to see him?Many boys entered my life and liked me whom I used to adore but I adored them only because they in someway reminded me of him…Now I am a totally shy type of girl and I cannot even look in any boy’s eyes because all of them can see that I am in love and they eventually fall in love with me…I don’t want to hurt them bcuz now I realizechow much it pains and I never want any1 to fall in love wid me bcuz I have realized thaT I can never return their feelings and will leave them anyday for him…
This is sad bcoz it happens more so to men that waste thier time loving girl they can never have but fpr your case u have a future but u gatta work for it get his contact call him tell him u miss him so bad ge maight be playing hard to get as u did it wen u were 13 4 real me i c a future though a litle blurred but u can mek it clear
I met her at a party just after she split with her long term boyfriend who abused her and now we’ve beem seeing eachother for 3Months.I love her so much and she told me she is not looking for another relationship but still wants to see me and I don’t know how to feel about that I mean I know its not healthy for me to be in love with someone I can’t have anything serious with, but on the other hand I am getting more happiness from seeing her non seriously then not seeing her at all.I guess what I’m asking is should I stop seeing her before I get seriously hurt or can I fall out of love with her and have a non-serious relationship.
I am a 13 year old normal teenager and i really like this normal 18 year old, he doesn’t drink or drive and we get on really well. i met him when i first started playing cricket and we now meet up mostly every weekend when we play cricket and we stay after. i need too stop liking him could you leave advice below, i will be very grateful
its very tough to live without the one we love but sometimes things are not in our control and we have to surrender to the circumstances
I’m deeply in love with my friends mom. I think about her all the time, like when I go to sleep and the first thing when I wake up. Coming home from work to see her is the best part of my day, but also the worst because I can’t tell her how I feel. It has to be at least somewhat obvious to her. I feel kinda clingy but it doesn’t seem to bother her. All I want is to make her happy. I would do anything in my power to make her life better. I love her so much and have no idea how to cope with my feelings. I want to tell her that I love her badly but I can’t. One reason is because of fear of rejection and the other is I don’t want to lose her as a friend or make her son mad at me. I LOVE HER.
My friend loving is fine cause it is an idependent feeling but with tym it can be clastered well in my opnion loving u friends has mum is just wrong logically n socially it would be best u take tym with out seeing her go to a club n try to have fun try medidating about love u ll c postivity
i need help im in love with someone i can never have but every day i fall more in love with him i cant help my self what do i do?
Please tell me so, I am so lost.
Even Same gose to me , I love with someone i can never have , infact he already got girlfriend which related for last 4 years but i love him very much tll death . I dint say anything to him about my feelings for him just wanted to Say But How & Why 🙁
I am deeply in love with this guy I been knowing for 6 years. The thing is I know him but I don’t know if he knows me. Princeton I love this guy so much. I been holding it back for so long I don’t think I can do it any longer than that. Usually when it comes to relationships you think men would be the ones to start it first. Well if you really care about someone you will let them know I’m sure. I need some help bringing him to me. So if this gets out in the world that’s a good thing. I have never done this before. I can’t see myself being with someone else other then this guy. I really care about him. I would be doing all of this if I didn’t care. I’m sure he know who he is. Princeton is his stage name. Other then that I think I have said what I need to say. I’m ready when you ready baby.
Hi I have recently met up with a guy that I used to date in my teenage years. When we first set eyes on each other it was like love at first site for me. We have not seen each other in many years and I started to get butterflies when we spoke. We met up again couple days later we decided to meet up again, at this point I was nervous but kept my cool. He came to my house to pick me up and we decided to go for a drink and talk. It was a really nice evening we laughed and told each other what we had been through in each of our lives it was really nice. It came to an end and he dropped me home we gave each other a hug which felt so good and went in to my house. The whole evening I had butterflies I think I am falling for this guy all over again and I dont know what to do as he is in a relationship, he has mentioned that he still has deep feelings for me but he is in a relationship. I really dont know what to do or even how to feel what should I do.
Hi,
i am in love with a guy who is 19 years less. He is in love with me… the problem is that i am married, with 2 children…and his parents will never accept this situation…shit.
I’ve had a chrush on this girl since the moment I layed eyes on her one day at work. Over the years of working together and hanging out, we’ve become close friends, and I knew she’d been in a committed relationship for a few years.
My simple crush slowly grew into a deep love for her, and even as a write this my heart aches to be with her.
A few weeks ago, after a party, we ended up cuddling on my couch and talking about nothing, really.
(This wasn’t particularly unusual- she’s a cuddle-bug sort of person.)
When her cab arrived, we sat up, and she kissed me goodbye.
I kissed her back but she didn’t pull away… and it became increasingly passionate.
Our breathing became heavy.
Soft little moans were exchanged.
I think about it all the time…
After we finished, she made a hasty exit out of the house, and didn’t even say goodbye. In fact, she uttered the “F” word, and ran to the cab.
Since then things have been different between us, and the texts have stopped…. the pleasantries at work have slowed to a trickle… and whenever we do manage to see eachother she keeps her distance.
I’m madly in love with her and the prospect of losing her is too much to bear. What’s worse, I can’t tell anyone about it, since not only did I swear an oath of silence to her, every other guy I know has a huge crush on her too, so I worry they’d sabotage any slim chance I may have with her altogether.
I just wish I never met her…this is too much.
Am in love with a guy who I know I can’t have no mater what cause my friend is in love with him and he too is in love with her but I pretend a lot when I see him and both of us play a lot and the worst part of it all is that we are working in the same office. Am tired of it whole feeling thing and I can’t bring myself to tell him I love him… Please what can I do? Any advice plz inbox me
There is this girl that came into my class about 6 months ago at first I didn’t even know she was there all I heard was her name over and over again either by my friends or my teachers and I began to search for her to see who this person was it took me a week to see her face at first I heard her voice she had this sweet ascent and I asked myself who she is there were many people in my way so I didn’t see her face class was over I went home and I kept hearing her voice over and over again and was hoping to see her face I went back to school next morning i went past this girl I have never seen before I think it was love at first sight I was steering at her like a moron and I got this guilt feeling when the voice I heard that day came to my mind I think I was in love with both of them that’s when I went to class I heard that voice again I was looking for was talking when I saw her she was the one I saw in the morning I was happy more than I ever have been I couldn’t think of anything for the next three days when I tried to get closer to her by sitting closer to her so that she notices me I kept looking at her some times while she is not looking she cought me sometimes I think it was then she noticed me I saw her looking over at me mAny times I was happy more than words I tried to approach her but I failed every time I was hating myself for so long btw she approached me first but I was to shy to look at her I just said hello I wanted to die so much I think she though I didn’t care omg that feeling was the worst even though I love her so much why why anyway moving on she approached me a couple of times and I did the same thing and was mad the time we had was so short I was killing myself to tell her how I feel but I couldn’t do it because of the though of losing her and that she might not like me even though I felt like she did like me now we had one week left I wanted to tell her how I feel before we leave for college every single time I tired to approach her she was never there and I missed my chance so now we have two days left we were at prom she was so great that no word could describe her I was feeling down as she was alone at the time and when I tried to go over her friends came and they were taking pics and stuff the evening as almost over I was about lose my mind I told my self that I would tell her that night so I waited outside the gate do or school for her she never came out I was worried I went inside and asked a teacher she went through the other way I was pissed at my self and relived that nothing happened to her I told my self I would tell her at the last day of school but I looked and looked but she wasn’t there I asked a teacher if she was here and he said she was I found out she was also looking for based on her friends chat with me but we missed eachother all day long school was over teachers told us to go home everyone went home I kept looking and didn’t find her now I have no idea where I can contact her or where she lives and I am not sure if we will go to the same college at all I can only believe in fate as to meet her again and I promise that if I see her ever again I won’t hold back how i feel I won’t hide behind my excuses any longer I will tell her how much I love her and that will love and cherish her if she ever likes me back well that’s my story pls tell me if I am an moron or I am a dushbag sorry for the long post
Wow that’s sad bro I hope it works out keep fighting
Hey bud, don’t worry. I’m sure you know her name by now, check out if she has facebook, or if you can get her number or any form of contact. At the point that you two are graduating, you honestly have nothing to lose. Don’t give up. If you try hard enough, nothing can stop you. You can do it!
Hi l fell for a married Turkish man he is good looking and has love lovely brown eyes. I knew him for three years and took him out twice for a meal
He wanted sex but I didn’t and he left my house and i was upset for over two weeks. He rang me and when I head his voice I cried. I didn’t want to go and see him at be cafe I went and saw his son I had butterflies in my stomach then i went back as a customer as its easier he said lets start again I said ok but when i see this Turkish man I don’t know what to say any more. He asked my brother where was I this week he said I was busy is it ok to want him back now or should I forget him
I fell in l♥ve with this girl and she is already taken but she enj♥ys it when we text and when i am ar♥und. She did n♥t tell me ab♥ut her partner until recently when i heard s♥me♥ne menti♥n and i asked her, that is when t♥ld me, we talk ab♥ut anything, ♥ur th♥ughts are always the same, when we talk ab♥ut future plans, she sees me ar♥und. I have n♥t t♥ld her h♥w i feel because she in a relati♥nship but she kn♥ws h♥w i feel and i d♥ n♥t think she is in a g♥♥d relati♥nship. I can see that she l♥ves me but she tries t♥ hide it (I never felt this way f♥r any♥ne) and it causing me deep pr♥blems kn♥wing that she is n♥t mine
There is this boy that I’ve been working with, that I really like, he’s a little bit older but every time I talk to him, he just makes me smile. He’s in a relationship, and I know it’s bad to have a crush on him still, but I can’t get over him. I’ve literally googled everything possible to try and help me cope, I’ve taken days off work so I can take my mind off him, but it’s no use. When I don’t see him, I can’t stop thinking about him, and his jokes, the way he laughs and the things he laughs at. He’s a great guy, but I don’t want to feel like this when he’s already taken. Is there anyone out there who’s been in this situation? I’ve never had a boyfriend, or kissed a guy, I’m 18, and have never felt this way towards anyone before! Please help!
Okay there is this girl, her name is Rachel.
I never had anyone like her before. I met her in year 7. We were great friends. She always seemed to look forward to seeing me, she’d greet me, give me hugs, say she loved me and missed me, she always looked my way, I couldn’t tell if she was worried, checking on me or day dreaming at that time.
But she always looked forward to seeing me, she’d go through her friends to get to me,to give me big hugs and that, and ask how I was and that.
She was popular, so I couldn’t buddy up with her, as it was hard. So I was left alone. She invited me to sit with her, but her friends weren’t that friendly.
I’d message her when I got home and she’d message me.
I couldn’t tell it was a friend thing., but over time I got to likely her more and more
As we got into year 10. We both struggled, she got tough issues and so did I, I left school. She stayed and she stopped talking to me, at that time I wanted to tell her that I liked her, but she was under a lot of pressure, so I lost contact with her and still has.
It’s been 2 years now, since I last saw her…
Now everyday is a struggle. New place, new friends, new people I like. But I can’t get her of mind. I tell myself to move on, but it’s like my heart has made its choice. Everyday I miss her, when I dream, I dream off her.
I just feel really stuck. My parents tell me to move on, and some of my friends who know her. But some are saying go with what your heart, or gut says.
What do I do?
I’d die for this girl, and everything reminds me of her, places, memories, thoughts, messages, her name even.
I need help!!!
Well personally I think you should give up on her I’ve been there before bro but the guy who I fell for is no longer my friend I hope that I helped you a little I’m here for you if you need to talk
I hated the feeling; I met someone who I feel head over heels in love with last year. We are different ages and from different cultures but we liked each other. It was the most wonderful thing to look deep into each others eyes. I think we both wanted to make friends.
The problem was that we are from different religions. I did not care for myself but even a friendship between us would had been impossible. Our conversations could not even take place in public and it was never going to be. I felt so happy that someone even cared to speak to me and show an interest.
But for us to be friends could have put her safety at risk in a culture where women are not allowed to have male friends outside of family or marriage. Caring so deeply for her I wanted her safety and wellbeing. I wanted the best for her and for her to be happy. I did not want her to come to any harm.
A year on I still think of her everyday; I still think of her with love.
When I realised that I must let her go I cried so hard for her. I had not felt like this for a woman in a long time. I felt very sad to have to let her go.
I will likely never see her again.
I always think of her and smile and always wish her well.
Okay so there is girl, her name is Rachel
I met her in year 7. At first I assumed we were just friends and that, but as the years progressed, my feelings grew more towards her. I didn’t know if she liked me back, but oh man, I knew I was lost in love with her.
We became friends.
Every time day, I was so excited to see her. It was mainly the only reason why I wanted to go ti school. Year 8, every day she was so happy to see me, if I got there early, id wait for her to arrive, and give her a hug greeting and ask how she is and everything.
When see was there early, she’d race through her friends and give me the biggest hug, that would push you over, she’d wrap her arms around you, with a smile on her face. She was very popular, so I rarely saw her, but when I did, she always tried to get through her friends to get to me. On days we were at our locker, she’d stare my way, I couldn’t tell wether she was sad, cause feel my pain( cause normally then I was down) or day dreaming.
She offered me to sit with her on the bus, but due to her friends. I refused, and she nether asked me again. In sport she was always taken, you could nether get her. Her best friends would always. But she’d always come to see you and sit next you. When her friends were away.
When I was down, I remember her going to get a drink, I was watching everyone playing, and then lying down to look at the clouds. She went under the hand rails and walked towards me, she sat down and talked to me, then she gave me a hug, which was so comforting. Another one happened in year 9. But that one was the best, it was long, and comforting. I just felt cared for in that one.
We’d always talk in the afternoon, mainly me talking more, cause I was so desperate to talk to her. But on days when I didn’t, I always got a surprise text from her, as she messaged me.
But things turned to the worst in year 10. As I got issues and she got issues.
I lost communication with her, then she told me that “she can’t deal with it at the moment”
It’s been three years now, everyday I’m trying my best to move on.
But it’s hard trying to fall in love again, my thoughts always come back to her.
I feel I’ve lost her, and I can’t live without her. My family and friends tell me to move on.
But my heart is just hanging. I can’t seem to budge it.
I’ve talked about it to so many people, all they say is move on.
I really love her…
What do I do…
She also had a guy now, named Sam.
have yall talked at all sice then and if not then you should talk to her just to see how she is doing.
My story is a little different. I am in love with a married man that doesn’t know and that I will never tell him how I feel, because I respect a person marriage. But I can’t help but fantasize about him, wanting a life with him. He works at my job and our chemistry is out of this world. I don’t know what to do cause if I was giving the chance I probably wouldn’t even think twice. This has turned into a infatuation and I just want to know what I can do to stop it. By the way this has been going on for about 4yrs now. Even when I was married which I just became separated for about 9 months now smh. I feel so ashamed, but I can’t help how I feel.
I once met a girl online. She had the most amazing personality. I was in New York and she was in Colorado. She pursued me, we started talking, and there and then we fell head over heals for each other. But then she revealed herself more. She had a kid from a previous marriage. She was a bisexual. She had tattoos all over her body. Her only source of drink was beer. Yet none of that mattered to me. I was in love. But here’s why I mentioned all of those things about her, though it might seem normal to most of you. The only thing that stopped me from moving deeper into forming a relationship with her, was the fact that I’m a Muslim. Although, we can marry Catholics and Jews, but I wasn’t sure about her tattoos and drinking habit. And my family would never had approved of her. I had to stop before it was too late, as I didn’t want to break her heart if I had backed out if things got too serious. I am still in love with her and it hurts like hell. I had to stop all sorts of contact with her.
But I believe in destiny. If something is meant to be, it’ll happen in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason.
hi ruchi mam. …
There is a girl. ..l know her since childhood. …she was my neighbour too and 5 years younger than me. everything was normal just like neighbours. then I went for higher studies and there was a distance between us. We didn’t have any sort of contact. After 2…3. ..years once I visited her home just for casual meet with her parents then she took my contact. then she started chatting. previously it was normal but as the day passed away she started find love in me. One day she proposed me. ..I got surprised. ..then I laughed and replied …hey why are you joking. ..but from that very day she started taking my care. .she even knows my daily routine better than me. .she even so many past memories where she had noticed me. She also cried for me. ..in the meantime she told me I don’t have any boyfriend. .even I don’t find any feeling for any body except you. …this continued till 4 months and in between she even told me I love you more than 100 times. …then I also started thinking that. ..she may be the right choice for me. .I’m frankly speaking. ..before this girl. .I had never ever talked to any girl or I was having no any feeling for any girl. ..but when I found her. ..I also started feeling for her. …then one day I accepted her proposal. ..but after one week I found …she started neglecting me. ..she was not taking interest in reading my messages. ..she had lots of excuses. …but from my side. ..my love was pure. …It happened for 2 months. …then one day I asked her. …what happened. …After so many quarrel. …she told everything. …actually she had a boyfriend. ….she lost her due to some misunderstanding. …then she was depressed. ..then I came in her life. …then she committed. ..It was just a mistake. ..I don’t love you. ..It was just an attachment. …nothing more. …
I got very much pained. …my feelings are totally pure and real for her. ..she is the first girl in my life. …I can’t love another girl. ..I’m very much tensed. …I can’t just move on by forgetting her. ..I tried so many times to forget. .but I failed …..plez suggest me some useful tips. ..what should I do. …is there any chance to go with her.
right now she don’t want to talk to me. …actually she is a kind of girl who daily fall in love just by seeing a handsome guy. ..but as per I know. ..she is very good girl. ..These are just a teenager issues. ..whenever she call me. ..she always stared talking about some other guys which also pained me a lot. ..plez help
when I say loving someone I can’t have, I mean, we are deeply in love, but he is married. Hates his wife, but has children he doesn’t want to leave. We have been together for 11 months now, I do not see other people, nor does he. We live In a very small town, so if I am going to the grocery store, I let him know so me and my aon don’t run into him and his wife. He mows my yard, paints my house, changes the oil in my car, takes my son to baseball practices, stays nights with me, but still isn’t mine forever. I never thought I would be that woman.. Ever.. But I am.. How do I get out??
don’t, you’re a lucky one.
Hi ruchi, so lately I’ve been very confused about many things and I can’t believe I kept this feeling buried deep for so long. There is this guy(who I will call Roy ) who I have known for four years already and he is 3 years older than me. So when I met him I felt something like if a switch in me was suddenly turned on and I grew attached to him. I would wish countless times for him to go to where I was going or be at the parties that I was attending. Unfortunately at that time he had a girlfriend but I didn’t feel like it was a big deal because I thought i felt that way. During the course of those 4 years I guess I started searching for another boy to give me the same feeling I got that roy gave me when he was around but I never knew that that was what I was doing until a close friend of mine pointed it out. So one day I was talking to my friend about how I just can’t seem to find love and then she said to me that I had already found love but I was just trying to find something to mimic it. I asked her what she meant and she told me that it was obvious that I liked Roy but that he didn’t notice it and that I never wanted to admit it because he already had a girlfriend( and he still does ). Now I do not know what to do. I don’t want to tell him that I like him because he has a girlfriend and I don’t want to get in between but I also don’t want to keep acting like I just want to be friends. I can’t hold these feelings in after four years and all I do now is avoid him because I don’t want my feelings to come out. It would be great if I got some of your advice or anyone’s advice. Thank you.
Hey Maria,
It’s good that you decided to move on because he is already in a relationship. Now you need to stop comparing other guys with him because it’s not possible to get anyone exactly like him. Think about your priorities and then decide what kind of guy you want. If possible stay away from him and make new friends and keep yourself busy.
I wonder what I should do about my problem. You see I fell in love with this really attractive guy but we never were able to get close in “those” ways. And I ended up loving him so much that it hurt to see him. I told myself to forget him and found this other really cute guy but I can’t erase my former love at all. So whenever I see him I just feel like hating him. I don’t want to but it hurts so much knowing I can’t ever be with him ever. Why is life so unfair. 🙁
hey….im confused here!!please help me….i love one boy..he z in my same class….we became frndz…and falling in love was so accidental….we where like perfects couples….it went upto 6mnths…everything was so smooth…but there after he said his parents wont allow him to marry me.since we both where from the different caste.so we tried to maintained distance.by this time ,another girl ,who is so called to be his friend started to spend her time with him.and the whole class was like there are in love.Actually no one else knew about our relation.Then it was like we both did not mind each other.But still my eyes were over him the whole time.After 5 months he messaged me saying he need me back as his friend n ol.Now we talk,but i never lost my feelings for him nor he (i guess so).I donno what to do now….whether should i talk or not??to be wid him or not??
From 4th grade I started having crushes on boys. In total, I’ve had 4. They never lasted very long, the max was 4 months and that was in 6th grade. 7th grade came along and I wanted it to be a peaceful year with no boys and no troubles. This boy in my class changed everything. We were sorta kinda friends for the first month of school but then I realized I had a crush on him. Me being my typical introverted, shy self, I distanced myself from him. Dumb mistake. But he still tried talking to me. After like 2 months I was no longer in denial about my feelings and actually acknowledged it to myself which was very difficult and still is to this very day. I don’t know what it was but I couldn’t get him out of my head. It became 6 months, 7 months, then 8. I realized that this wasn’t normal for me because the max has been 4 months but that was off and on. We did become friends throughout the year but when he was around his friends, I distanced myself because I was shy and got picked on easily. When there was no one around, we had inside jokes, laughs here and there, and deep conversations. As the days went by, my feelings for him got stronger somehow and me being a 12 year old didn’t know what to do. The two of us are completely different but in some way we understand each other very much. I’m quiet and shy and focused more on schoolwork compared to him. He’s popular and plays a lot of sports but he’s actually not the typical jock you would normally have at school or in movies, and I learned that by getting to know him. He was different. Down to earth, kindhearted, caring, understanding, and so many more great things. Near the end of the year I shut everyone out of my life because I found out my mom had cancer. Everyday he would comfort me and would sit beside me without even knowing why I was upset, but he was there for me. Right before school ended he asked me out but I turned him down because a few of his friends were walking past us and I freaked and I tried explaining to him that I didn’t mean to say “no” but I never got the courage to actually say it to him. He looked so hurt and seemed to be holding back tears.
I moved to another school for 8th grade and my feelings only got stronger somehow although I haven’t seen him in well now a year. My best friend who had classes with him would tell me how she mentions my name every so often around him and his face freezes and he has this hurt look on his face. Now here I am the summer before 9th grade, crying my heart out because he has a girlfriend he’s been with for 3 months now. I know I’m young. I’ve never believed in loving someone at a young age but that was before I met him. I love him and I don’t know what to do because once again we’re going to different schools and I haven’t seen him in a really long time. I know for a fact that when I get rejected by a crush, I would never cry about it, I simply get over it within a day because it’s not serious. But there’s something there in my heart for this boy. It hurts to know that he may never be mine and there’s a good chance I won’t be able to see him again even though we don’t live that far from one another. I’m sorry this is long, but I have to get this off my chest. :((
I feel you girl. I’m also in ninth grade and in love with a guy who doesn’t even know that I exist.
I’m in a long distance relationship with someone who I thought was the girl of my dreams. We’ve been together for almost half a year, but we’ve been friends for over 3 years now. However, there was this one girl who I liked for the longest time, before I got into a relationship with my current girlfriend. Last night, I had dinner with the girl I liked and a few other guys and another girl, and it was the best time I’ve had this entire year. The way she acts, talks, looks, everything is so perfect and we click so easily. I’m usually a shy guy, but in front of her, I’m totally myself even though that was the first time we ever hung out. Also, the reason I had dinner with her was because I had a position at my church, and she and a few others were taking our place, so it was tradition to have dinner with them. She’s extremely smart to the point where she may be either going to Northwestern or another top college. I go to the latter college, but I know if she does come, we most definitely will have something click. I don’t know what to do because if she does go to Northwestern, that will be too far for me and I’m not sure what would happen to us. My current girlfriend lives only 2.5 hours away, so it’s not too bad. What do I do?? Please help :/
Hey I loved a girl named jigna she never was interested in me I was in love with her for 10 years and she also stopped talking to me while I was in 10th std when I go to talk her she runs from me, can u tell me what to do??????
Hi there,
I have gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. I have been in love with this guy for 4 years. I have told him multiple times and it’s hard cause he likes another girl. Something happened between us not that long ago. I went over his house to check up on him and we ended up hugging, kissing and just talking for an hour and a half. He is trying to get over her and I just really want a chance even though he has said that i might not get one. I wish things weren’t this complicated.
Please help!!
Hi iv been seeing this girl for a few months n she stops at mine every night we do every thing together tho she was hurt by her ex n says she doesn’t want to get hurt like that again every one can see we care so much about each other tho she just says were friends to people tho friends don’t sleep over every night
omg i know how horrible this feeling is.i am actually going thru something right now and i dont know what to do.please dont judge me,i know i ve been wrong but it just happened.i ve been happily married for some time and i met someone 12 years younger than me through an online video game..and i never thought this wld happen to me but i actually fell for him and he fell for me..i love my husband but this is different.i felt like a teenager again.all these feelings when u feel when u r young and u want someone soo much,u know?this excitement and longing..but i knew it was doomed from the beginning cause its not like i want to leave my husband plus he lives in different country…but we were chatting every day for 3 months now and we used to share so many feelings…and we always used to say goodbye coz this is pointless and then we wld msg again but…yesterday he told me that we need to forget each other so we can move on..i know he is right..i know… but..how do i make this ugly feeling go away?i keep thinking about him and everything reminds me of him..even the stupid game i play reminds me of him..it seems like i feel unhappy even tho i know nothing cld never happen..i thing hardest part is having all the memories…i wish i cld just wake up with amnesia..is anybody else in a similar situation?i feel so lonely..thx for listening 🙁
Hi Ruchi,
This is Chris. I have started liking my best friend we work in same office and i met her in the office itself but the thing is i can’t reveal my feelings to her as i have tried someways from which i have found that she only likes me as a friend so even if i reveal my feelings its not possible for me to have her. I really like her a lot and see as her my life partner i really feel i cant get a person like her. But when i see reality its like she don’t see me in that way. Now the problem is i can’t stop talking to her and really i don’t want to coz i cannot afford to stopping talking such a wonderful friend of mine. I really feel jealous when she talks to someone else i know this is insecurity and which is wrong i should be happy if she is happy talking to some one else. What should i do want to continue as her best friend but want to get rid of jealousy and secondly what should i do as i know i cant have her as my life partner ?
Please help
I like a girl in my office who is my friend but i have feelings for her and she doesn’t feel the same for me she only considers me friend There is another guy who is also her good friend who is also good friend of her they are mostly together for breaks seeing this i really feel jealous and get feeling of depression I want to remain friends with her but want to get rid of jealousy. Please help
Ruchi,
I have a bestfriend, we are together since 1.5years, but she considers me in the top priority in her life, she sees my word same as her mother’s . she developed strong love towards me then , i noticed, she just said abt it, but she didnt proposed, she acted as a lover cum bestie since now. she loves me like anything, soon i fell for my bestie, i thought of saying her my feeling towards her, unfortunately she said she did have feelings for me, but she dont have now, and she added her parents see us as besties only, so she dont want to disrespect them, and said that she dont want me as a boyfriend, actually i got courage to say my love when she said, am fit for her as a husband and everythng, but now she says like this… i strongly need her, i know she too feel the same, but something is stopping her , what shall i do ?? she s keeping me away for somedays, please help me i do need to have her..I realised ma mistake, noww I need my bestifriend back, how to ask for her appology? What text should I send her? Pls help
Please help me. I am a vertically challenged person who has stopped looking out for love a very long time ago. If I ever ask a girl out her boyfriend will come out to beat me, then her father and her brother will too! I can’t fight back because I am so short, so I will have to go. What can I do? I think about going to China or Japan or Philippines where people are short there, although I hear the modern way of living and nutrition is making them taller there too. Please, please help me because I don’t know what to do. I am scared they will understand me now and I will get beaten again now for confessing all this…
I loved my ex girlfriend so much that i went on to try and make a blog on love and relationship. Still after all this days and months it feels incomplete as if something is missing. But can’t help Godbless her wherever she is & Godbless all the lovers around the world that’s all i wish and pray for everyone
Hey I really need help. Il try to make this short, but I somehow fell in love with my best friend. She’s a girl and I’m a girl and I never thought I’d have this problem because I’m straight (I guess personality really does mean more than looks). Yes she’s gorgeous though, but shes one of my close friends. She’s given me a lot of signals that she feels the same way, or that there’s some attraction from her. However, this guy I used to like, really likes her. They went to prom together and that already almost killed me. She’s never dated anyone and kept saying “No I don’t like him” but after almost a year knowing him she’s now caught feelings and they’re hanging out more, etc. I don’t know what to do, I am crazy about her and I’ve tried to leave her but I can’t (yes that means cutting off communication). I need to know what to do before it kills me anymore, should I tell her and get it over with? I’ve felt this way for almost 2 years and I’ve known her for 3-4 years. I’m really debating just telling her just so I can get shit over with, but we’re also good friends and I don’t want to mess that up, except that looks inevitable at this point. Please help, thanks
Am really into this girl,have tried all possible means to get her to me but all to no avail. She likes me a lot too but still says she has someone in her mind and this keep bothering me because I no longer focus am now used to her I dnt know what to do any longer cause she in my heart already
I am lost. I am in love with a guy I know only from the internet,he doesn’t even know me, that’s how pathetic I am ! He is married and although I could travel to meet him in person, why would he even noticed me ? I don’t know how to move on to the real world, please help.
Hello,Good day. please I need your help, I met a girl about 2years ago and I really loved the girl but the girl seems not interested even though we lived in the same house but on several occasions she comes closer to me as if we’re in love but after like two days she will kick just kick herself out.I waited for her since that 2 years to stabilize her feelings but she will always answer that their is nothing like that so by the beginning of this year I met another girl and we’re dating only that I didn’t love her like the other girl.whenever the first girl comes across my phone she likes to check my messages,chats,pics and so on and after that instead of living good we live like cats and dogs.
So early this month I got opportunity to text her to know y she hate me only for her to tell that she loved me but I didn’t notice I told her about mine.so later she told me since am dating someone I should continue with her and agree to live in peace but after sometimes she hate me again without any cause but I still loved her and she makes me feel hurt now.please how can I overlook her and move on.since she is not interested again. We still live in one house
Hi name is celeste and I’m still in love this guy his name is Colby. we been though a lot together. But he just got a divorce and he’s trying to get custody of his son. Me and his baby mama get along just fine. She just want him to get better. Oh and he’s a drug addict. He’s been since he was 14.He been trying to get clean. But when he got a divorce that’s when he started using again. And I don’t do drugs. I just want the best for him. And I want him to get better. But people and my parents want me to leave him. That my life is going down hill if I stay with him. I love Colby when I’m with him I’m free. I’m free from my parents, from my sister, from people who keeps telling me what to do and how to live it. I grow up in a sheltered home I couldn’t do anything or go out. My parents been telling me what to do my whole life even now and I’m 20 years old. No matter where I go or who I get with they are still going to tell me what to do. Colby is the only person who gets me. He makes me happy I love him so much and I wish we can be together. I have nobody to talk to about this. I fell like I’m alone. If anybody is out their reading this what should I do?
please there is a girl, I really love her but she don’t love me what should I do to get her
I feel weird for even searching for these posts and seeking answers. I need help guys. I really really like this guy a lot. He is on my mind constantly and I’ve been liking him for almost a year now. The funny thing about this story is that I never really payed attention to him (because I didn’t know him) but there were endless signs that God was in the works of setting something special up between us before we both knew it. Ex: I worked at a restaurant and he lost his keys … He came up to me and asked did I see them and I said no. Later on that night I found keys but I thought they were my managers…. I worked in the mall so outside of the restaurant were benches to sit at… The mall was closed but the guy had just got off of work and he was sitting directly across from the restaurant I guess waiting on a ride … How ironic? I unlocked the restaurant door and yelled over to him are these your keys ? And he said yes. That was coincidence number one but there are many many others before I began to pay more attention to him and these signs…. Long story short we are kind of ( kind of because we’ve been around each other but don’t know a lot about one another) friends… No we are friends because he confided in me about his problems. I feel a connection with him and I’ve never in my life felt this way about anyone before. I feel like he is my kindred spirit .. I can feel his aura. He told me that he indeed like me as well but his life is crazy. He says it’s crazy because he’s in a situation w/ someone he’s “dated” for awhile. He told me he’s not happy but I told him he has to be the best person he can be for this “situation”. I dig him and he digs me because we understand each other without having to say anything. I know that this is love and it could be very blissful later on in life. It hurts inside knowing that I can’t have him right now because he’s in this “situation” that’s beautiful for him because it is making him into a man… A better/stronger man. We’re in our 20s in college. But I want to know how can I move forward without feeling so deeply because this hurts and I don’t want to wait on him and his “situation” to cease. I’ve looked up the definition of twin flame / kindred spirit / and spiritual connection and this is exactly how I feel. What can I do?
Hi I am a guy & was always confused about my sexuality since childhood,I got married due to pressures from society & family.I’m stil married & have kids.I fell in love with a guy that I work with,he seems to show interest but won’t come out & admit it due to the fact the he comes from a conservative background,I always felt this electrifying love for him & I feel in my heart he feels the same.Going on 5 years now I am having trouble getting over him & out of my mind because I come face to face with him everyday at work.I have applied for jobs elsewhere but had replies.I can’t do this anymore,I have now become suicidal & helpless.Please help me desperately.really really desperate.
Hi I am a guy & was always confused about my sexuality since childhood,I got married due to pressures from society & family.I’m stil married & have kids.I fell in love with a guy that I work with,he seems to show interest but won’t come out & admit it due to the fact the he comes from a conservative background,I always felt this electrifying love for him & I feel in my heart he feels the same.Going on 5 years now I am having trouble getting over him & out of my mind because I come face to face with him everyday at work.I have applied for jobs elsewhere but had replies.I can’t do this anymore,I have now become suicidal & helpless.Please help me desperately.really really desperate.
ive fallen for a guy that I used to walk home with everyday with and skype and text and talk to every day up until 5 weeks ago before homecoming he asked me to go with him and seeing how we were bestfriends I never put much thought into loving him because I thought I wouldn’t loose him. that’s my biggest mistake because here I am writing this to someone that I don’t know which seems like I’m asking for pity and asnwers whyall this shit is happening. I honestydont understand why he hasn’t veven been wanting to talk to me. he got a girlfriend starting the day he started ignoring me. they are happily inlove so they say but they have only been together for like 5 weeks does even know I know he has a girlfriend and then he promised me that he would never lie to me yet here I am venting. he lied to me and told me hes been out of town for those 4 weeks for a funeral. which is bullshit because what funeral lasts 4 fucking weeks and then he told me the night before homecoming thsat he cant because hes sick but not even ten mins after I got home is he and his friend nocking on my window to hang out I didn’t answer becayse I was still hurt because he practicly showed me up and still didn’t give a shit and I went on his facebook to see who his friend was and he has a fuckinb girlfriend and hes online but wont ever answer me now I’m like forget it and fuck you ya know ……. what do I do
– hailey
Hi,
So I am a 16 year old female and I know I shouldn’t really be writing about my feelings because there are those people who are like “your too young” “you don’t know what you are talking about” but oh well.
So basically the other day I went to this 21st birthday party and I met this guy me and this girl I met there were talking to him and me and him really hit it off (but like in a friends way) any way I personally think he is really cute and he is such a nice person and then we got onto a conversation about age and he said that he was 20 I know 4 years older than me :/ I not saying that he like hit on me or anything because he didn’t but I just can’t stop thinking about him what do I do? Because I think I have feelings for him and I know that he will never have any for me let alone even be like “friends” please help?!
I met a guy he been at my house eberyday and lives with me we do not fight and we have the most strongest friendship ever. Thing is i am now falling in love. I opened up to him about it. And he just told e hd cades about me and he still here. Am i just not good enpugh. Or am i over thinking. Shoud i habe hope . Or should i just give up. But if i give up i loose the person who stablies me he has bemefited and motovated me so muh he is the best guy i ever met . Im jst stuck. And i feel as though im hurting myself more. But if he still here is it potienal . Maybe it me not him… or maybe im just not his cup of tea.