Why Do We Miss Someone?

Why Do We Miss Someone?

We always wonder that when we miss someone, is it because we love that person, we like that person or maybe it’s just an infatuation?  We keep on fighting with ourselves that what’s the reason for missing that person? Some time we also miss people we hate. Many times we also miss people we fight all the time but when they are not around.

But, when you want to continue relationship with the person you keep on missing, you need to be clear with your intention. According to me there might be following reasons:

  • You also miss someone special when you are in love with that person
  • It might be infatuation ( just for a few days ).
  • You respect her/his qualities.
  • That person is always with you when you need someone to lean on.

Miss Someone

Whatever may be the reason, I would say it’s a very nice feeling to miss someone. You keep on thinking about that person whole day and night or if it’s worst you might start imagining him/her near you.

Many people feel that it’s the worst feeling to miss someone, but I totally disagree with this. I feel it’s the sweet pain and you can for sure enjoy missing someone. The only thing you need to remember is that you have to miss the golden moment you spend with each other. Please don’t ever miss bad times you spend with that person. Always try to cherish the good moments and it will surely bring a smile on your face.

Another thing which people do is to hide their feelings in front of person they are missing. You must keep your ego aside and convey your feelings to that person. Life is too short; if you love or you miss someone do let them know. If that person understands you, it would never ruin your relationship.

Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart.  ~Kay Knudsen

What do you do, when you miss someone?

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  • abcde September 9, 2013, 3:44 pm

    I miss a friend horribly, it is not sweet as some of you write. The difference might be if it is someone you miss for a while and then get to meet, or if it is someone you will never meet, that you will keep on missing. I am always scared I will not hear from her again. We write each other, and it relieves the missing for a little while, but it is like a hole in me, sometimes larger, sometimes smaller, sometimes I think of ending the friendship because I can’t see how I will be able to stand missing her all the time for I don’t know how long. Perhaps then in time I won’t be reminded so often and then I might not miss as much.

  • maria October 14, 2013, 5:59 am

    i cant miss someone because that person does not want to be with me. that is the worst. if i come forward then i will get hurt. so how to stop this?

    • alex January 8, 2016, 10:25 pm

      How did u ever get over this? I have been married with my wife almost 15 years and she loves me but is not sure she is in love with me. She asked for patience and space. 8t hurts more than anything I have ever experienced. 🙁

  • Nitin October 26, 2013, 3:00 pm

    I am feeling really helpless. I love a girl. I told her that I love her but she refused. But I still miss her really badly. I miss her every second of my life. I understand that if I love someone, she may not feel same for me. But somewhere there is a negative feeling of inferiority. I want to forget her but I really feel helpless. I try to focus on my hobby and on my work but still i miss her. She is in my friend list on social networking sites. I have not logged on social networking site for long time but could not get her out of my heart. I dont want to delete her from my friend list.
    The worse thing is, I am unable to focus on my work. The harder I try, the more I fail. I want to fall in love with someone who loves me but I really don’t feel same for any other girl. I tried to be friend with other girls but I really miss her and dont feel same for any girl. I never want to fall in love. But today i want to get out of this but unable to. I really do not know what should I do. Because of this i am unable to focus on my work. There is rather more irritation because people are growing in their career but i am unable to focus on my work.
    Also, There is lot of anxiety, if she marries tomm. and if her husband is much better than me and if she will love her husband ..
    I dont know why I cannot stop missing her. Neither I cannot focus on my job so that I can get in better position in job, so that I don’t feel inferior to be a friend with her forever. I don’t know what should I do.

  • Mirsad November 21, 2013, 4:06 pm

    I broke up with her before 4 month ago. In the beginning after we broke up i felt bad, but i accepted my situation and I’ve tried to move on because it is a only thing we can do. I think that it’s just a short period of time, and when i find a other girl i will stop thinking about a girl who I’ve been broke up with. But she was always somewhere in my mind, my head or in my heart. I can’t really define my feelings, is it love or i just like her, or i just miss beautiful moments i had with her. Now after four months im single again. Other girl with whom i have been with couldn’t help me to get other thoughts. I broke up with her before one month a go.
    And now I’m thinking about a girl who i miss. I can still se in my thoughts a train, how it moves toward a train station, where i was waiting for her and i se her in that train, in the window how she smiles to me. I really miss her.

  • SidMissingBili December 2, 2013, 11:47 pm

    i miss my bili…not that she was actual bili,she is a girl,i call her bili 🙂 we had relation of one year,and from 2 years im missing her,she cant fade away from my heart,her thoughts does creat some problems in my life now,from 2 years,haaaa.. I wish she could come up infront of me and tell me that she loves me still..i know thats not possible,she dnt love or she cnt love me she is inlove with some one else..but still i dont what keeps me bound with her..i do love her,i confess that..but she will not come that too i know still i wait for her… Or waiting for her from 2 years…

  • S812 December 11, 2013, 1:18 pm

    ok, so throwing for a loop here. I have a kind of on and off problem that i wish would go away, adapting to change when a very close friend of yours has a boyfriend and you fear that you are going to be distant eventually when it comes to making plans to hanging out. We talk on the phone pretty much everyday like always, but her and her bf tend to hang out almost everyday now and i feel like i have to take a backseat. I know this is mainly a part of life and everyone does it, shes my best friend in the world and even though i feel like i share a connection with her like no one else, she will never see or feel how i do about things in our friendship.
    So, yes i have at one point shared in the past i am attracted to her and always will be, but our friendship is going no further then being sisters. Throughout reading this, dont assume i am a jealous best friend, yes i have my bitter moments but in the end i will always be happy for anyone else that is happy, as long as they are doing the right thing. my feelings still go up and down continuously like a rollercoaster and i try so hard to protect myself, but with a strong friendship like ours I cant. I feel like i should back off for a while just to help myself stay happy.
    I know if i do this i will feel a little relieved but at the same time still miss her so much. Plus real friends shouldnt have to back off from each other like that. With being single for two years its not easy to not try hard to find a significant other and i guess the same time since she makes me feel like a better person and always lets me be myself, its hard to not be attracted. I’m in a slump and have to hide my emotions a lot no matter how much i make things obvious. I’m too good of a friend to step in the way of anything. Any words of advice? feel free to share. Much love, thanks.

  • prashant December 27, 2013, 2:48 pm

    heyy hiiii……..
    I love her so much and missing her a lot ,she told me that she is also loving me so much but she never express her felling towards me she told me that you should deserve a better girl than me she always said that,she said that she wanted to meet me after 5 years coz she wants to do something in her life she even don’t talk to me
    but sometimes she calls me but a very little i’m very upset in her absence why did she wanted to do i’m totally confused. If she had any problem she can told me but she didn’t i thought that there is any problem in me that’s why she doing this….
    don’t know what to do ??????? 🙁

  • Kyle February 21, 2014, 12:52 am

    Missing someone can be a pain… especially after 2 years!
    This girl I miss kept asking to be friends, then making no effort to be friends, and treated me like I wasn’t worth the time of day. I told her where to go after she didn’t even bother with me over Christmas/New Year… some friend, huh?
    But now, for some reason, I miss her all the time.
    I saw her a month back looking directly at me looking miserable, didn’t go talk to her though… if she wanted to talk, I’d listen but I feel like this is not a two way street. I don’t owe her the first move.
    I’m a whole different, better person than I was two years ago, and it feels like they’re left over feelings from the chump I used to be. I’m making something of my life and feel my own worth, unlike back then, but still feel pain at the idea that she won’t ever be in my life again…

  • Sam February 25, 2014, 8:53 am

    I love a girl from Australia, when she lived in Ireland we had a love/hate relationship for 3 years. We fought a lot, but we had the most random moments. She was my first love. After 5 years I went out with two girls, who didn’t come close to making me laugh like she did. So recently went to see her and my feelings haven’t changed. But she kept calling me buddy, an I thought she didn’t have feelings for me.. also she went to see her ex one night, so like all Irish men I got the drink into me, and went to the bar where she worked. I kept sinking shots into me, enjoying a holiday after all why not. Then some guy an a couple of girls were like come back with us, I was hesitant but I did go back, the girl kissed me outside the bar an we all jumped in a taxi. Then I went back to a house party an thought oh no what have I done, so I pretended I was a closet homosexual and didn’t sleep or touch anyone. So the next day I woke up to find kids jumping all over me calling me a leprechaun, and I give them my pot’a gold (dollar coins) to point me in the direction of where to get home. So I went back, an she give me a bit of stick, like she didn’t care, but after that we did sleep together an her feelings grew strong, as mine did also. Then she asked me around a week later if anything happened that night at the bar, and I swore nothing did… I couldn’t jeprodize a kiss for what we had… yep I’m a plonker! But we went on an lay under the stars on my last night and laughed till the sun came up. Then we cried are eyes out an she said that’s it, I’m coming to Ireland to see you. So we started saving an talking every night, and things went so well. Then the girl that kiss me, came into the bar when she was working and was asked if anything happened. She replied yeah we kissed. So I got a text ending it all, I apologized for lying, and crushing us. So I tried so hard to pick myself up, but that’s far from what’s happened, I’ve lost my job, I’ll eat a potato or an orange in a day, I dream about her when I sleep an then wake up an stay awake an think of her. I can’t talk to anyone because they say things that don’t help. I just want her to understand that I I’m a trusting loyal man I will love her the rest of my life. She is my first love, and only. I have wrote a letter and if I get nothing back, I really don’t know how to fix myself. Everyone i know is settling down and having kids, they don’t understand because when they leave I’m still here, dwelling and thinking of the hurt I’ve caused. I don’t think anyone can fix this but her.

    • Cathy April 8, 2015, 3:21 am

      Don’t let her go. Tell her everything, everything and see what happens. Keep pursuing her. Good luck!

  • yoga March 26, 2014, 8:23 pm

    Hie…this is yoga..F.age 18 …..at the age of 18 when we love someone …people say. Its not love its infatuation…..but i dont think it is….i loved a guy we were in a long distance relationship..we broke due to some personal reasons..now it has been 3 years i still miss him i care for him….i remember all those good and bad times we had spent with each other…and suddenly when i stop thinking….he comes back and chats with me …..till the time he starts feeling helpless that we cant be together….and then all of a sudden vanishes from my contact….whats ds..??…then i become helpless too…i know its very stupid…when u know something which is never gonna happen again..why do u still remember those memories and think why are we not together.?…i noe he still loves me and sometimes i feel i still love him too…he wants me back mam…he has confssed it too but what about those things which he had done to me….i am confused i reli dont want him….but he has become my weak point and i wanna overcome my fear my weakness…. what should i do.??…sometimes we know evrythng like whats good ,what is bad for us….but still we just cant do nythng about it….:(

    • Denyque April 11, 2015, 10:29 pm

      Love exist til u find tha right persn

    • Rachael June 13, 2015, 1:10 am

      This broke my heart, I hope everything worked out for the two of you, Id love an update

  • Shubhi May 3, 2014, 2:49 pm

    Yep….v tru lines….

  • pheaqah May 7, 2014, 3:46 pm

    hello .. I really miss someone that I met for the first time .. he was a dentist .. he really took care about me .. everytime I miss the last moment we’re together .. he always make joke n keep make me laugh with his funny joke .. is it he love me or just want to be friend with me ?? I’m confuse rigth niw and need your advice .. TQ ..

    • Ruchi May 8, 2014, 8:03 pm

      Hey Pheaqah,
      He might be just caring and friendly person. Wait for few more clues like his body language or he ask you to spend more time with him. If he is in love he will surely give you hints. And if you can’t wait, just go and ask. Make sure you ask normally while you are talking to him and if he just want to keep you in friend zone then don’t get pushy and try to stay normal.

  • lisa May 22, 2014, 11:11 pm

    I do miss this guy..I don’t know why..he’s the first person I think about, when I wake up..n the last person I think about before I go to bed..I get butterflies in my stomach..my heart races..I do see him..n I tell him i miss him..he says the same..I’m scared if I tell him I love him,,will I run him away?? Hate to seem so forward..advice plz..

  • abhishek naik September 7, 2014, 7:28 pm

    well said Ashish…………my feelings are exactly the same . it is both pain and happiness . yes it can happen in the initial phases when nothing has happened and still many things to be unfold .

  • Choco September 9, 2014, 8:36 pm

    Recently, I started notice this guy. Its about a month. He is somewhere very near me because we works on the same level in the shopping mall. Every time he walk past my workplace, I will glance at him. One day, he finally looked at me and he smiled to me. I was overjoyed. After that day, every time he walk past we will wave to each other, smile or say hello. One day, my colleague decided to help me ask for his contacts. And he really give it to us. He also knows that actually I am the one who wanted his contacts and not my colleague. We chatted on the Facebook very often about personal dreams, life, work.. everything except relationship matters, even up to midnight time. However, i didn’t mention that he currently has a girlfriend. I wanted to tell him so much that I like him since the beginning.. I wanted to tell him I miss him many times I am tempted to message him but I endure it and hold on.
    Do you think he knows that I like him? What should I do? I miss him so much……

    • Ruchi October 1, 2014, 12:09 pm

      Hey Choco,
      Chill!! I guess he likes you. So, tell him about your feelings. Hope for the best, may be he is into you and prepare for worst, he might say no. If you would be scared and won’t tell your feelings, you might regret it later. Go ahead. Best luck 🙂

  • Unpredictable life September 11, 2014, 12:59 pm

    Hi ruchi mam,i dnt knw u,but
    I just neede very urgent help
    M unable to control myself
    Plz,plz,Plz do rply me some one as soon as possible,
    I miss my friend,i am of 21 and she is of 26,
    I cant express evrything in words,some things r just un explainable for me
    We met in group of social activities,slowly we carried very deep n strong bonding in frndship
    We both shared our sorrws
    We talkd 2-3 hrs daily,we chat daily like anything,
    Her life was too upset,she hared her each n evry secret wid me as small brother,she had bro n sis but still she shared evrythng to me
    We fight almost evry alternate day,many time serious fights,but nthng seprated us.
    We both wer so cloese just like we know each other since decades,i knw her nature,her past herse’f her thinking verywell,n even i guess no one can take care of me as she took n no one can be attached me as her,i think of her each sec,n coz of her sorrows we r just emotionally attached with each other,she was just like a god gift to me,n i guess no other girl can treat me as her,even a day if we didnt talkd it was uncomfartable for us,n i just think is she ok,i saved her each n evry chats,we bonded as we know from childhood,she is the only frnd of my life so close,but now she is engaged,busy,n bounded with some limits…she was n she is my priority at top,n i was also,but now,m at very low prioroty to her,practically i knw evrythng,but my mind n heart cant bare this,were we talkd daily 2-3 hrs,now only 2-3 mins in 3 days,she,no chats,nothng,..i miss everythng.i die to c my screen blinkng wid her name as calling,even being online we cant chat,not more then how r u.its uneasy n very tough for me to control my self,
    I want evrything back,that talks,i wana hug her tightly but nthng is posible now,i pray hard fo her happiness but i m killied when i realize that m not her priority as before,she smiles but m not reason behind it any more,i cant concentrateon anythng,m very sensitive n my heart just cant stop paining,cryng alot,i just need her,i remember each n every moment we shared,just dying to talk to her,m totally alone,n i guess m lost,i want things which r not possible,still cant stop expectations n thoughts,we wer very similiar at nature n evythng,i did a lot for her,but now evrythng came to an end,n this change is killing me.N ther is no one who can understand me as she did,n i cant leave her coz she wont be able to bare it,she is hapy,so cant disturb her,m just blanck,what to do,some time i just think why we met,life was diff if we didnt met,now i am very habbitual to her n want her,but i m totally alone,just cants stop cryng n my brain nevr stops to rembring her,i just want to del my memories,or it will kill me,we shrd smal to big each n evrythng,but today she left me alone n ders noone to listen me.its just much more then i described ,need some help n advice.

    • Ruchi October 1, 2014, 12:33 pm

      Hey Sohil,

      You need to understand, few people come in your life, make you feel on the top of the world and leave. Bitter truth but it’s life. You can’t force anything or anyone. Life changes and you have to be strong to move on. She is committed to someone else now and seems happy in her own world, so stop bothering her.

      You really can’t force things to happen. You will only drive yourself crazy trying. At some point you have to let go and let what’s meant to be.

      There are a few articles on this blog which will help you to forget her and move on. Unless you make your mind that you have to press restart button in your life and start concentrating on other things in life, no one can help you.

      Everyone will give you advice but you need to take action. Keep yourself busy in your work, do something creative, follow your passion and try to help others. It will help you.

      • mansoor ali December 14, 2014, 7:16 pm

        Today I told to my teacher I miss u ……in return she scolded me…now I m totally confused…..

  • Daniel October 2, 2014, 9:44 am

    I like this point of view. It’s hard to view pain as a good thing, however. Nonetheless, the worst pain you can feel is the one that comes from the heart.

  • Ari October 16, 2014, 8:31 am

    So I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago because my feelings for him started becoming less and less strong. That spark was gone and I think part of it was because I wasn’t as physically attracted to him anymore. For about a week now I’ve been missing him so much and I asked to be friends. He later told me friends wasn’t possible and if I want him in my life he expects to be my boyfriend or not in my life at all. I love him and miss him and care about him but that spark is not there. What should I do?

  • Rachel November 4, 2014, 9:32 am

    Miss my BF he is back home and I’m In US I really miss him so much but I don’t think we gonna make it to be together!

  • Atul November 10, 2014, 2:12 pm

    Hi Ruchi !
    There was this girl whom i met a day just after new years eve .. we hardly talked with each other as we met through a mutual person. At that day, i was totally in a confused state of mind as to how to start a conversation with her ! i tried to had a conversation with her that night, a little, but we then farewelled each other just for the reason that the time is running late and we have to go home asap without having a talk more than 6 to 7 words.. i then tried to get her number as a friend that night from the mutual person but i was finding difficult to ask.. fortunately i got the number and asked her to just meet-up for a few mins.. i was then happy.. till 8 months since then, we had a normal chat on social networks but since september, i started having feelings for her (not only sept but also before that).. i also came to know through the hints that she is also interested in me through her talks and till today since that month we used to have from late night to early mornings chats .. infact whole night till morn .. it was not due to reason that shes beautiful by looks and the simplicity she keeps with everyone but for the fact that i had a dream girl in my heart to whom i could go for, with some qualities .. and i found those qualities in her and was also comfortable and found myself compatible with her .. She was also then comfortable with me ..
    When i felt that shes too interested in me, i didnt thought of waiting and suddenly proposed her .. at that time, she haven’t rejected me, but started yelling about the crushes other guys had and how she used to reject them .. i was then feeling low but when she saw me in this situation where i just asked her “it means i am too rejected?” , she replied “what yaar .. ek din me kya rejection .. tum bhi na !” ..
    I felt a little hope and asked her to meet .. we however met, gone for dinner, brunches, movies and walks since then many couple of times .. but for every meet, i haven’t asked about her for our relationship.. and she knows that every time when we used to get apart from each other after we met, she used to see that i again feel low and start missing her and she says that keep smiling .. she never said “no” to me in that month ..
    It so happened that in the following month, i asked her to join me in a project which was for only a day, just because one of her friend had planned with her a week before to go to water park with all friends but that person changed the plans and ignored her (only to get her out of that upset mindedness, i asked her) .. she then joined me but the situation got so worse that she still finds me irresponsible for the reason that we missed the train to return as per the schedule and she reached her home at 12 midnight instead of 9pm.. since then i asked her 3 times and all the time she said “Dont ever ask me again” .. but she still talks with me like that previous girl she was before the incident .. we still meet and have a fun talks today also but whenever i say her anything, she starts yelling about her best friend .. she’s so deep into me today that i am unable to focus on anything.. she however talks and i found that she still misses me but when i ask her anything related to this matter, she doesn’t reply to that .. and talks about the rest of the things happening in world..
    Now i miss her a lot, even after she has a good meet and talks with me, and lately, last night.. when i said her “i am really missing you now” (which i often write to her, not daily but once in a week or two), she replied “please dont say miss and all..”.. Now I’m in a dillema as to what to do! She always used to ask hw ws ur day and i litterally missed her everyday, every second and every moment but when i said this yesterday, she again got annoyed on me .. Now I’m unable to know what to do ?

    • Ruchi June 7, 2015, 4:02 pm

      Hey Atul,

      It’s not worth having such relation, where you are confused what the other person wants?,she is enjoying life with you but still not replying to your proposal.
      I would suggest that be firm and ask her directly what she wants from this relationship? It’s not worth to spend your time and emotions on someone who is just having fun with you.

  • unberncheber standeziet November 20, 2014, 7:55 pm

    Hey guys
    I m in the same path where u all r in
    Even i have posted before my problem..but today when i saw ur all i realized this is the same problem with everyone in this world
    I m almost not alive m just breathing coz due to some reasons since many long time
    A fight between me n my frnd carried so deep that today
    We r not talking since so many days nor even single text..m feeling like hell cant eat cant sleep cant concentrate on any thing…she was n she is everything for me..more then my gf,but i am nothing today for her…there was not a day we didnt talk n today its just like we even dnt remember when last we talkd n i cant accept this change
    But she is happy n even dnt realize any thing n dont miss me n dsnt care for it any more
    I did everything more then i can for her…but now dead..i m just lost
    Just cry cry cry…and queation that y we met..

    I just wanna thank u all who posted here there problems n situations coz of which i realized that i am not alone to be alone…definately we all r missing that our one speciall frnd…but here u me n evryone r just a strangers frnds…
    I just want to thank each n everyone who posted here…coz of u all i feel m not alone at all..
    Surely it will not stop my tears but for while it will make me realize that i have a huge bunch of unkown freinds..help me if u can n plz b always there when i need…
    I guess sharing is best medecine to heal our injuries of heart so if any one wanna share some thing here or with me u r most welcome coz v all r walking on same road of deep lonliness…may god bless u all n give super strenght to face this all…

  • john December 6, 2014, 9:20 am

    Dear Ruchi
    i have a dilemma – i love my girl every much and miss here a lot.. one day she says i dont miss you and and why should i miss you… this troubled me…is that when in love we miss that person or not?…your article helped to strengthen me i showed her your work. Kindly you can address me more.


  • ruchi January 10, 2015, 5:07 pm

    If you dont like someone why you miss that persone why???? And you never talk to him and you still misss him why why???????????????????
    And you never see him, nevrr talk to him but why he s still in your mind please please reply me please…….. ???”??????????????????

    • brown January 27, 2015, 3:52 pm

      He might feel the same way about you. Did you both shared some memorable moments when you are together? Maybe he is the one you are looking for a longtime coz you feel that he cares for you and like you maybe both of you found love and each of you will make both of you complete. Try to be close to him and communicate or date.

  • neymarwow January 16, 2015, 5:52 pm

    Hi i miss my ex classmate/crush.I mover to a diferent school but now . when im around h or near to her i never missed her,i cnt sleep bcoz of her. we are not so close to each other but i always chatted her with silly jokes, Goodnight. and we laughed when we are in the school.

    when i chatted her last month that i miss her she replied haha.

  • Aarzoo January 18, 2015, 10:46 pm

    Hi Ruchi!
    I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and months with my boyfriend. We both were really happy and satisfied with each other. Due to some reason unfortunately I lost my trust, and he became so rude, harsh and ignoring towards me. And certainly he ended our relationship now. I just can’t stop missing him and the memories we spent together. We often had decided to get married next year but now everything is ruined. Please tell me what should I do while he doesn’t even want to listen me.

  • Anushmita Dutta February 15, 2015, 9:45 am

    Hi Ruchi, I like a person greatly but I am afraid to tell him. But my problem is that whenever he is not with me I start missing him. I fear that when in future our paths will be different and I will not be able to meet him then I will miss him badly. Will you please tell me the solution???

    • Ruchi June 7, 2015, 4:20 pm

      Hey Anshumita,
      Go and tell him about your feelings. May be you both are different but it’s good to express your feelings because miracle happens. Even if he rejects you, keep an open mind. You always don’t get what you want.

  • woodsman March 9, 2015, 6:55 pm

    I was dating a girl on and off for almost 3 years. We had a lot of good times together and made a lot of memories. We also had a lot of bad times. I broke up with her several times and got into other relationships. I seemed to have been searching for something and thought she wasn’t able to give it me so I would look for it in another relationship. I have learned the problem wasn’t her, it was me. I felt really bad for doing this and realized how much I missed her and loved her. After our last break which lasted about 2 months, I contacted her to make an amends and apologize for my actions, and we got back together. She had been doing really well in her life during the break and I really wasn’t. Since our reconnection, it has been rocky and she would often tell me she cant do this. All of her friends and family tell her to stay away from me. And so do mine for that matter. But I didn’t listen. Last Thursday she finally got angry enough and changed her phone number and asked me to not contact her at all. I haven’t contacted her since then, but everyday has been really hard. I feel that I have maybe done to much damage and I also feel unforgiven. I don’t know what to do. Even after different relationships, after months, I am having trouble of letting go. I feel stuck.

  • shane March 11, 2015, 1:08 pm

    i really am over the single life karen and just wish we could get to know each other like every other normal couple

  • zahid March 12, 2015, 1:19 am

    Hii Aarzoo,sorry that u have not got the reply for your question, I can’t exactly says that my opinion will help u, but Inshaallah u will find something help full In this. The person who loves you should understand you in every situation, so what if u lost your trust on him, he must have understood that there may be a little mistake was his also that’s why the situation arrived. If he could have understood this he would have not changed his attitude toward u, Aarzoo the true love is that who understands you every time, not ignores the problem, he should at least try to understand the problem why it has arrived instead of ignoring it. Dear I would suggest you to say him sorry n move on from relationship, becoz it’s just 3 years, the person who can not understands u in just 3 years how will he takes the relationship til the last breath! Inshaallah u will not suffer! Ameen

  • Never Mind March 26, 2015, 1:33 pm

    I met a man in the summer he was amazing then things started to go bad he started using. I was afraid so I left him. He is now following a path of recovery. But has found someone new I try not to be jealous but I am I miss him so bad I wanted to have a family with him we were so good together I thought. I’m not perfect either but I am a good woman. He would not stop texting me for over a month after the break up which was really scary for me…..I adored him sober I thought we were gonna be forever. It ducks cause I wanted him to be able to recover and be really well and healthy before trying to reestablish a relationship of any kind I have a child I can’t have drugs around me period. Ad an ex addict myself I can relate and I thought I could help him but no so I left what any sane person would do but not I am full of regret. I want to tell him but it is unfair as he is in another relationship. The sex was out of this world as well. I miss his touch and just being with him doing nothing. I would love to tell him I love him but rejection may happen or he may feel the same but either way someone gets hurt I have stayed still but my heart aches.

    • Rachael June 13, 2015, 1:15 am

      I find your post totally relatable, Id love an update on how life is treating you

  • Alex March 28, 2015, 9:11 am

    I Didn’t Think we’d break up or end the way we did. I still can’t believe it i really didn’t expect it to end and i know I’ll be okay. He wasn’t perfect, God knows he wasn’t but he really was a good guy. He has his things to work on but damn if i don’t miss him, to know how he’s doing and if he’s actually happy. If he’s happy, if people are treating him right and not making him feel low and bad about himself. Im scared and i worry about him from time to time and i got myself a part time job just to keep me really focused and not think about him and watch my phone for hours. Just waiting for him to call or text maybe he’d just pop up to see me because he knows all i want is to really just see my Bae, to touch my Bae. To actually hug him. Not Even sex, no please no sex just to hold my Bae and to kiss him. And joke around and talk or just be silent but that’d be okay because he’d be right there. I gotta admit i really do miss him but i know i must move on….in order to heal…and get over him…even though i never really wanted too….

  • Khloe April 30, 2015, 8:37 am

    There was a guy that liked me a few years back, I secretly liked him too and then he moved. Now a year after I’m emotionally unstable. I miss him so much it huts, I hardly sleep and stay up listening to sad love songs and crying. I know I will probably never see him again witch is why it hurts so bad. I feel like I need help because this gives me so much anxiety and just ugh oml

    Help anyone?

    • L8dy.sc June 15, 2015, 10:23 am

      I am doing the same thing over a 6 months break up. I never knew I could be so uncomfortable. I relate to your post. I moved on it’s seem like it worse. I fell like I have some childhood abandonment issues. It’s so confusing.

  • JIM May 20, 2015, 11:35 pm

    I recently reconnected with a long lost cousin. Although we are originally from another country. I went in search and found that we now both live in the US. We had emailed and kept contact for a while, but until recently did I meet her in person. She arrived on a Tuesday and left on the Friday morning. We had so much fun together over the short time she was here. We are very alike in many ways, and shared many stories from when we were very little. I have developed this unbelievable Platonic Love for here, and just can’t get her out of my head. since the moment she left there has been this huge hole, emptiness around my house. I have cried on numerous occasions. I just want to tell her how proud I am to have such an incredible person in my life. I feel like I have known her forever despite not seeing her in many years. I feel that I am the only one who has these emotions and that either she handles it better or just doesn’t feel the same affection. I will be heading up her way in the very near future but still have this feeling of complete hurt and loneliness. Its just don’t feel like myself. I know that I will pull through and get over it but fear visiting her soon will make things worse.

  • kamal khan June 15, 2015, 12:26 am

    I fall in love some days ago. She was my best friend.i always fight her i fight with her everyday and also now.Somedays ago when she was talking to me i get some impression and also i fall in love.now she’s with me she talj to me as a friend she dont know i love her.i also dont like to tel her thinking that if tell her and she don’t acept me then i lost her now we can met one another but after teling if she wil not accept then she also dont like to cal me a friend and also dont like to talk and meet me then i wil never talk to her i request u guys plz give me a beautiful advise what i do now?

  • lycks July 23, 2015, 10:26 am

    what if in long distance relationship, he doesn’t want to have a connection to his partner because the more they talk the more he miss her so much and it is the only way
    for him to fight those time when she’s not around, but then he really loves her so much, the only thing he wants to do is waiting for her until she come back. ?
    thanks for the reply . really appreciated 🙂

  • Saayen August 3, 2015, 11:21 pm

    I miss my grandfather. I was always around him, my life was with him. Now he is gone, i don’t know what to do with my life anymore. It hurts when i miss him. i cry every once in while, i feel so lonley and miserable and depressed. But i guess time heals every wound. I am very hopeful that if one door has closed another will surely open.

  • laine August 13, 2015, 8:43 am

    Hi Ruchi

    I met a colleague more than a year ago but since then we havent seen each other. We chat through social media though. it wasn’t long before I knew that I like him and I cant keep it a secret so after 3 months of chatting about anything I told him that I like him, and he said that he likes me too. We cannot meet in person yet because he is from a different country. I learned he got engaged in february this year so I restrained myself from chatting him, but once in a while I can’t keep it and I would ask him how’s life or just say hi and he always reply nicely and promptly. I asked if he is already married and he said no but he doesnt say anything about the girl he is engaged to, i didnt dare to ask, instead just wished him a happy marriage with his soon to be wife.

    A month ago I received a message from him, he asked why I havent sent him a message though were friends in facebook nor text though I have his number.

    I wont expect he is more into friendship, but i miss him badly. Yesterday i ping him said hi and wished him a good day. He replied instantly and wished me the same. I dont know when I can stop missing him. Is this just an infatuation? Will this be a problem for me to like someone else? I also had chats and texts with other guys but I dont feel the same way… Will you give me your opinion? I’d love to hear from you.

    • Ruchi August 18, 2015, 5:29 pm

      Hey Laine,
      Things really get awkward when you both like each other, but can’t be together. As he is already in relationship, it’s better to move on. If you want to be friends with him make sure you stay in limits and don’t cross line which is quite difficult. If you really want to move on and find someone then stop comparing other boys with him. Hope it helps.

      • laine August 18, 2015, 8:16 pm

        Thanks Ruchi, that’s exactly what I needed.. moving on is quite difficult but isn’t the brightest clothes fades through time 😊

        • aleagejt January 1, 2016, 3:05 pm

          I miss my best friend each and every day. Even more so when I go out and see things or hear songs that remind me of her. The toughest times was whenever I look at photos of us together, I just wish I could jump in the photos and relive the moments…but sadly, I can’t. I feel grateful though, because I could still look for her and message her every time I misses her quite terribly.

  • Citra Tuasikal August 24, 2015, 9:40 pm

    Wht do i do whn miss some1? Im missing my boyfriend badly right now..i nvr felt ths way b4..and hard to contact him cos he s on flight to cyprus..so i googled ‘when u miss someone’ to find something tht will help me to deal with it and i found ur article..i miss him more now..and its good..will b harder to sleep but its good

  • Syliveflex August 28, 2015, 6:46 pm

    Hi Ruchi

    I travel with this man on a lift club, he is not good looking but he is very humble & down to earth. While my hubby is good looking & I love my hubby, but lately I cant stop thinking about this guy we have been flirting & he sometimes gives me sex vibes or he will completely ignores me so I don’t knnw what to do with him. this morning he sent me a DOnnel Jones song – life goes on & his love. so I am so confused on weather he likes me or not, the other day he told me he will make love to me for 45 minutes that made fall in love with him but he gives me mixed signals I don’t know what what is what please help cos I want him

  • Ritchard August 29, 2015, 12:59 am

    Do you have any tips for when you miss somebody, but you know you will never meet them again?
    My story is similar to one of the earlier comments. I was in a long distance relationship with a boy. We’re both adults. We broke more then 3 years ago, because of the distance between us. But i love loved him and didn’t want to live without so i asked to at least stay friends and keep in contact. But that seemed to break him up… I know he still had feelings for me add i did for him but in the end he just disappeared with nothing more then an I’m busy. The last time we spoke was about 2 years ago.
    He has hurt me in so many ways… But he made me happy. Happier then anyone before or after. No matter how much time passes i only seem to long for him more and more. Focusing on other things doesn’t help, trying to find another boyfriend doesn’t help, simply because no matter who i find, it’s not him.
    Missing somebody may be a sweet pain, but after years and years of dealing with it I just can’t anymore…

  • ganga achar October 8, 2015, 6:03 pm

    if I love some one r miss some one …. it’s my love r a problem … we should not blame him r her…. if I know him r her good.. I never blame him.. if a person in front doesn’t value u r the relationship.. y u loved him just think…….. it may be attraction… for which u miss……. if he r she is promised that they also love you back… then they should plan for something where u not miss…..

  • Bobby October 22, 2015, 6:50 am

    It’s not a short term thing. Trust me. It’s been almost 10 years now & STILL I miss her every day.
    I hope to God she is happier than when she was with me. I shall drift through life wishing I’d done more to keep her. That is my fate. The price I pay for love.
    Never again.

  • manish November 5, 2015, 2:10 pm

    Is there a possibility that if you miss someone a lot that they might be missing you in the same way?

  • Cris December 12, 2015, 4:03 am

    I miss my boyfriend we’ve been going out for a year now and we hardly ever see each other because we aren’t allowed to date each other. It’s really hard for both of us. It doesn’t feel good at all especially those lonely nights. We do text but he has been busy lately and more and more tired and takes naps so we don’t get to talk much. It really does hurt.

  • mehak January 8, 2016, 11:44 pm

    Love gives us great pain one day we all know about that but failed to stop over these feeling s….

  • bunny February 11, 2016, 1:19 pm

    hi people i come from a very bad past but aftr years of struggle i met someone truly special. we were best friends, i fell in love with him i tld him as well, things were good n back, ups n downs, one day he conveyed he loved me too but unfortunatly we hv no future we can nvr be together we knew it from before, very less time i hv with him, i wana make the best of every moment i love him n will love him for ever my everything, i hv nothing but to miss him the rest of my life, i will hv to miss him..

  • jade April 25, 2016, 2:35 pm

    I’m happilly married for 8 yrs,and I’m happy with my life.but I met this guy on social network,we both like doing online marketing,we are on one team.he always tells me that he miss me very much,that he likes me.and I just told him that we can be good friends.I didnt reply to his declaration,but deep inside I miss him too.he added me on whatsapp and sending me greetings,but just short conversations.I dont understand why I’m wishing that he spent longer time talking with me.why Im happy with the simple hello.why I keep missing him when I dont even know him that much?

  • Jen May 7, 2016, 1:51 am

    I miss someone who doesn’t want to be with me in an actual relationship. We’ve been on and off for about a year. But he says that he was only having fun. The worst part is is that I see him almost everyday because we work at the store. I told him my feelings for him, but he told me to stop texting him or he’ll block my nimbler. I don’t really have options for a new guy because all I do is work and stay home mostly. I want him back. Not sure what I should do?


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