Why Do We Miss Someone?

Why Do We Miss Someone?

We always wonder that when we miss someone, is it because we love that person, we like that person or maybe it’s just an infatuation?  We keep on fighting with ourselves that what’s the reason for missing that person? Some time we also miss people we hate. Many times we also miss people we fight all the time but when they are not around.

But, when you want to continue relationship with the person you keep on missing, you need to be clear with your intention. According to me there might be following reasons:

  • You also miss someone special when you are in love with that person
  • It might be infatuation ( just for a few days ).
  • You respect her/his qualities.
  • That person is always with you when you need someone to lean on.

Miss Someone

Whatever may be the reason, I would say it’s a very nice feeling to miss someone. You keep on thinking about that person whole day and night or if it’s worst you might start imagining him/her near you.

Many people feel that it’s the worst feeling to miss someone, but I totally disagree with this. I feel it’s the sweet pain and you can for sure enjoy missing someone. The only thing you need to remember is that you have to miss the golden moment you spend with each other. Please don’t ever miss bad times you spend with that person. Always try to cherish the good moments and it will surely bring a smile on your face.

Another thing which people do is to hide their feelings in front of person they are missing. You must keep your ego aside and convey your feelings to that person. Life is too short; if you love or you miss someone do let them know. If that person understands you, it would never ruin your relationship.

Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart.  ~Kay Knudsen

What do you do, when you miss someone?

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  • khalid May 6, 2010, 10:23 pm

    missing someone is only because you care for him/her. and if you are caring for someone don’t hide your feelings as it is very important.

    • Ruchi May 10, 2010, 12:58 am

      Nice Said Khalid. Thanks for sharing your views.

      • Leviast August 1, 2011, 10:02 am

        I always miss him, want to show my care to him. However, he wants to push me far from him, so sad! If I should continue taking care of him?

        • Ruchi September 19, 2011, 5:21 pm

          That’s sad leviast, I can understand how you might be feeling but I guess you should keep on caring for him but make sure you are not bugging him and not interfering in his life. It’s not necessary that the one you love also love you, do respect his feelings and don’t get rude if he is not caring for you. If you feel that he don’t care about your feelings and ignore you then I would suggest you to move on, there are lots of other people in this world who needs your love and care.

          • Parwez March 18, 2012, 6:12 pm

            thanks for your comment i liked it but some time you miss someone that you cant carry on so what he/she needs to that somehow make him/her understand that how much he love’s you.

        • silpa October 13, 2014, 9:06 am

          Absolutely no!

      • Sunny March 11, 2013, 7:26 am

        I miss him a lot, n cry when I miss him but can’t c him! We worked together for few monthes then he left the job! We went out few times! I feel comfortable with him n happy! I like the feeling when he is next to me… Since him left the job we only met once for dinner. I text him sometime but his offten didn’t reply… Or just very short message…. He’s very busy n tired with the new job, which I understood! But I just feel sad when he didn’t reply my message! He said he likes me too… But I’m not sure what kind of like, as a friend or girlfriend…. He never make clear our relationship situation! I don’t know if he considers I’m his girlfriend or just a friend! I really miss him now!!! N really don’t know what should I do…….. I tried to forget about him n delete his number, but I can’t hold on for long time…. Somehow I found his number again n text him….. Sometimes I will write down the message I want to send him then send it to myself! I don’t want to scare him n make him think I’m crazy….. When we met I told him I missed him n cried for him sometime, he don’t said anything n just silent! How can I end this painful feelings!!!?????? Dear God, plz help me…….

        • Ruchi March 11, 2013, 1:25 pm

          Hi Sunny,
          We posted your problem on our FB page and here are few replies:

          1. He ain’t that into you dear sorry

          2. in one hand…
          u better just share about ur feelings n emotions that are for him,if its difficult then,
          in the other hand… u must ask him how he takes ur relationship with him,just as a friend or as a gf,sometimes we miss understand our friendship relation.
          But here,i think he is nt intrested as much as u do care for him…problems usually arises to solve not to make it more complex,just make it clear as this situation comes in everyone life either earlier or later…
          As u know,one sided love relations never be fruitful,so better u find truth in your own effort…dont fall deep inside in a damn scary well with out knowing its depth…

          3. The best way is to Ignore ‘him’. Only this can make him back to you…

          4. I agree to Tanmay just ignore him and wait if he will make a way to talk to you…reverse psychology! let him feel what u feel every time he ignores you… We have same situation, my bf said that he likes me but he never say if he loves me.. And i feel sometimes that he’s just treating me like a friend coz there’s no fondness in his messages to me.. you’ll get use to it, if u can’t endure then leave him and never contact him..

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          • Sunny March 11, 2013, 5:49 pm

            Thx everyone!! I think I will talk to him next time we meet! I will tell him my feelings and make clear the relationship situation between us! My heart is very tired n my tears r running out… If is time to let go n move on… I will just let it be…. Thx again everyone!

          • Rubs July 25, 2014, 10:31 am

            Hey ruchi…can u help me about ma situation….
            I was engaged before 17months ma fiance was very loving but not good in care…i loved him n also still loving him very much we talked full night ..but a month ago we gt apart becouse of certain attitude problem he thinks thad galz are made be only husbands things they dont have their own choice so i left him but i cant stop missing him….loving him..tell me what to do plz m very tnsd i love him but not his attitude..

          • Ruchi July 25, 2014, 4:53 pm

            Hey Rubs,
            When the guy is already dominating then its not worth to be with him. I hope you already shared your issues with him and if he is not ready to change then leaving him is a good step. It’s kind of tough to forget someone with whom you spent so much of time. It will take time, make yourself busy with something you love and concentrate on future rather than looking back. Try your best to Move on.

        • kk September 2, 2014, 12:56 pm

          the pain will end by itself , just take time and hold on do not contact him bcz id u do n he wont replay u llget just furstrated n angry hell urself one day at the time u ll see not matter it wouldbe long toforget u ll get there onr day .
          good luck.

        • Sonu kumar January 2, 2015, 7:36 pm

          Same is my feelings for my angel and it hurt a lot..:(

  • phill October 20, 2010, 10:40 pm

    maybe you got used to his presence and when dont see him/her anymore then you start to feel that something is missing in your heart and when you realize that this is the reason then you cant get it out of your mind
    the only way to forget is NOT to work cause this is not something happy but to hang out with friends if you have time if you dont then try not to talk about it !!! try to find somebody else to replace his\her presentation even if you know that he \her is not the one the sure thing is that you will have the opportunity to think about something else
    but when you see the person who you are truly in love try to do the first baby step!!!

  • shafiq March 23, 2011, 2:23 pm

    When you miss someone, very deeply, it mean you like or love the person. It is a sweet feeling, it keeps you restless and little satisfied too due to the imagination of the person you are missing. You think all the moments you shared with him/her. You are lucky if you miss some one, please do not hesitate and covey this to the person whom you are missing. This is my personal experience.

  • shafiq August 25, 2011, 2:34 pm

    Only lucky peoples may have feeling of missing someone. Eventhough If I don’t ever meet again the person I missed, but happy to carry the person in my heart. I really miss my love….

    • Ruchi September 19, 2011, 5:13 pm

      Agree Shafig, When you are away from someone and miss them, you start realizing how much you love them. Hope you get your love one soon :)

  • claire December 28, 2011, 7:56 pm

    It has been 3 months I have moved on but I still have him in my mind. I won’t see him anymore but I guess that I keep thinking of him is because that there are matters that I / we have not reached a closure.

    • Natasha June 15, 2012, 12:06 pm

      This happened to me 2 what should I doi still care about him but I feel we don’t have any closure.

  • kenya January 5, 2012, 3:16 am

    I really miss my mom. Since my parents are divorced and i live with my mom, I always have some one to cry on when my dad leaves. My mom has to go to the States for a little while for her job. I justs feel like crying single day……and i do but not in front of a person. But my friends have really helped me through this.

    • Pink August 29, 2013, 5:48 pm

      Dear Kenya,

      Missing your mom is such a wonderful feeling. You must tell her, she will be very happy. Maybe she went to the states for work, she is doing everything for you.
      Let her know you are there for her as well.


  • kash January 17, 2012, 7:42 pm

    Missing someone makes us breathless..m missing my shonu very much…he is my life..he has gone to Dubai..so m missing him like hell..also weeping

  • preethi January 18, 2012, 4:36 pm

    missing someone is a very very beautiful experience, its funny how all you can thing we you are apart from that person is only what they ll be doing, have they eaten, do they think about you and all that but once you meet them…. our world becomes complete… mind stops wandering…. we feel that time should stop there…. the person who is so close to me is going away for a month… cant think how much i am gonna miss him… hope i have that much strength…

  • tasmia January 24, 2012, 2:04 am

    After I matriculated I decided to keep my friends limited….so I kept 1 his always thr 4 me wen I need him n his nva let me down his my best friend but he recently went dubai for 3 weeks n its only been 4 days…..I miss him allot n I’m beginning to feel like its abit more den jus friendship….wat to do…

  • Inpain January 29, 2012, 6:51 am

    Sometimes we miss the love the other person gave us….
    I pretend that I don’t care but everytime I see you my heart crashes..If you could only understand how much I love you and miss you..
    I have your perfume still.. It reminds me good things :)

    • Honeybee83 January 10, 2013, 2:15 am

      Isnt it funny?! I keep his also, well he left it behind bc he knew how much I liked the smell, but tje thing is that even like that, it doesnt smell the same. I miss him all the time, but I kno that our relationship wouldnt work no more.
      Sometimes I wonder when il stop missing him. I hate to admitt it, but I still love him, I wanna say as much as I did when we were recently married.

  • Nicky February 2, 2012, 7:02 pm

    Missing Someone because of u can’t do what u want with him/her.
    Missing Someone best to let them know…
    There is a special FEELING after u tell them.
    They will join Missing wit u in a moment after u tell them~

  • Nicky February 2, 2012, 7:12 pm

    I Really miss my xxx, i know i miss him alone~
    i can forced him to got me but i can’t force him to say I Love U there was alway like instead of love all the time i asked him…

  • janes February 21, 2012, 6:06 pm

    i am missing my best friend sooooo much ,,he is not with me just because i told him i cant be friends with him.,he went away.,

  • annoymous February 23, 2012, 6:01 am

    i miss him all the time, he was always there for me when i needed him, and he’s gone and i need him. i don’t know what to do and there is no way for me to get in touch, i feel lost without him around and i feel like something is missing, he is always on my mind and no matter how hard i try to forget i just can’t. please someone tell me what i should do :'(

  • rebecca February 24, 2012, 4:04 am

    The one I miss, I send e mails and some carefully selected youtube songs. He sometimes reciprocates, and I feel great on the inside! I really do love him, but I want to be certain that he feels the same way.

  • mehraj February 27, 2012, 6:11 pm

    aslamo alakum! we miss someone when we start take interest in someone.we love that person we respect him or her that’s why we miss someone.

  • Emma March 12, 2012, 12:15 am

    come on guys! Don’t get too emotional, in half of these cases it’s just you who care for the other part, why not be realistic and move on instead of insisting on the sweetness of this very devastating feeling! The same here, in unilateral love for almost 2 years, suffering from anorexia after I found out he doesn’t have the same feelings for me and now struggling to forget this idiot whom i LOVE! :( Life sucks!

    • cicilv April 21, 2012, 9:40 am

      You need to love yourself. This is what i feel for you. You said it right being realistic is getting your objectives right. So focus on your being and your Professional and Personal groom it where you wish to take. Afterall some one said we meet people for Reason, Season and Life time.

    • Mary April 3, 2013, 1:35 pm

      I agree with you.
      Thats true. However, easy said than done and at first it is very difficult.

  • Im sorry for loving you March 23, 2012, 6:45 am

    I miss her:( wer not as close as we used to be. Sometimes i just feel like telling her my feelings but im scared she’ll just laugh at me and move on. I always have that fear she might leave me broken hearted. Shes beautiful. The most beautiful girl i’ve ever seen. And im, well, me. Im ugly. Our looks dont match but our personality does. Someone please tell me what to do, give me some advise!

    • Ruchi April 17, 2012, 11:14 pm

      Hey Unknown, Firstly If you love someone you must tell her. There are chances that she will accept it, coz its not always about looks when it comes to long term love relationship. If she is kind of girl who will make fun of your feelings then she is not worth your love and such people don’t deserve true love. You should express your love and if you need any help, you can always contact us. Wish u luck. :)

    • ali July 6, 2012, 2:37 am

      You must tell her how you feel. Those feelings can be mutual. I

  • jellybean March 24, 2012, 2:39 pm

    I’m in my late teens and i met a cool young man 7years older than me.
    At 1st i didn’t like the old man lol thats what i called him because he was a showoff type and a player lol.
    We seen eachother daily at a bus stop he went to work i went to school.
    He would annoyingly joke around alot and make me angry lol.
    The one day i lost my phone but he found it cause i left it rushing off the bus.
    After that day my life changed forever. He put his number in my phone and on a chat app i use. I found myself chatting secretly to him at school and i loved to joke
    with him and treated him as a older brother. But for a few months our friendship got deeper and i can say i loved him . He avoided me for a whole day and that night he opened up that he really liked me every little thing about me. I did too but after all the confessing all things changed… We did go on a date for a day but the next day he changed… I believe that night when he was with his friend changed him… After that day he became more pushy and he broke my heart the way he acted… I never seen him since or contacted him and its been a week now.
    I miss him so much… Lol sorry so long!

    • lanz @ May 11, 2012, 12:24 am

      Have you try talking to him after that day? Try to approach him and be honest about what you wanted him to know. After all the conffession if he will still avoid you atleast you have done your part. NO GUTS NO GLORY !!!!

  • oscar March 27, 2012, 10:58 am

    Its been 5 years sins I moved away leaving the girl I LOVE behind.. The pain has grown more and mkre every single min..never giving up am finally going back to HER ;) it hurts and leaves me breathless waiting to see her ;)

    • lanz @ May 10, 2012, 8:51 pm

      Dont you realized that you are wasting your time waiting for that girl. You should GO on with your life and find your HAPPINESS. Move on and Let Go.

  • Shelia Escabaralia April 2, 2012, 6:17 am

    The really thing about missing someone is its the worse pain ever…there is no sweetness! Its a nerve racking pain, and it hurts especially your heart, and it could shorten your life! (depending on the degree of the pain/missing)

    Now i miss my friend, who no longer is my friend, she never thinks of me, i think of her all the time to the point i fantasize! I cry all the time it hurts so much I haven’t spoken to her in about 1 year, and i feel i will always miss her for ever, i have missed her for so long even when we were friends 7 years of knowing her…

    Now i saw her today and i hide why? I turned around pretending i didn’t see her – she also kept her distance acting like she didn’t see me, and i saw her head hiding behind someone in front of her…why did i or her do this? We don’t even want to acknowledge each other…i miss her so much but can’t face her anymore….its getting harder and harder!

    Also…i heard when you miss someone so much, that you feel your contacted or have a strong feeling to that person…it means the other person doesn’t like you at all. If you miss that person…70% of the time that person is over you and has moved on!

    • lanz @ May 11, 2012, 12:18 am

      I am thingking is there any INSTANCE or SCENARION that is so AWFUL that drives your friendship to pust away each other? It might be the reason why you both are suffering. Both of you are in DENIAL that you both EXIST!!!

  • ROUDRANIL April 5, 2012, 5:28 pm

    Yes it is very painful but try to be in touch with that person or start a new life ( but make sure you dont forget him) because who knows when how get him or her .

  • CrazyFaisal May 1, 2012, 1:28 pm

    Sometimes i miss someone. But It does not stand for long time to me…I could not understand what’s the reason behind this. The person could be my friend, female , relatives etc.

  • MumblinFool May 3, 2012, 12:47 pm

    It’s easy to miss someone while they’re gone. The most confusing emotion I’ve ever felt is missing someone while they’re asleep in the next room. People don’t stay the same, and sometimes it’s far too easy to miss who someone used to be.

  • lanz @ May 10, 2012, 12:23 am

    missing HIM is like I had lost my SHADOW…

    We both have our own life now, whether by destiny, desire or accident. It is the vocation that we both choose to have. I’m sure you don’t regret it and very much happy with it. This I believe is my final goodbye; we both have to learn to face the reality of being with someone else. Maybe, you have done it already. Maybe, I’m the only one trying to hang on. But, what ever the case, rest assured that you will always occupy a special place in my heart.

  • Angel May 11, 2012, 3:42 am

    Try having to say bye to someone for 4 years and having to only have contact through letters and phone calls. I miss my boyf so much. He just called but he has to hang up after just a short time because he is in prison because he made a stupid mistake. We write to each other all the time and he calls me every night to say goodnight but it costs so much we can only talk for a few minutes and it’s monitored. I love him to bits and he loves me but he has also said if I was to meet someone who made me happy in the next 4 years then he’d be happy for me, but I dont want anyone else, only him as he is worried I will waste my life hanging around waiting.

    • Angelina L May 26, 2012, 2:46 am

      Thats very sweet if him :)

  • Jasmin Khalique May 12, 2012, 4:51 am

    I fell in love with someone who lived near to me, i moved area and left him behind. We also lost contact. Its been 3 years now and he is still on my mind unfortunately i make believe he is near me thats how absurd this feeling is. I have also been in a relationship with someone else to forget the pain but it didnt work. So he recently tried to contact me and i put a closure to this by writing him a letter telling him to move on with his life but yet i cant let go? Its been so long why am i still missing him? What am i holding onto? I know theres plenty fish in the sea and i want to be with someone new but i feel like im being deceiptful. This ‘missing someone’ feeling…i wish it would dissapear.

  • lanz @ May 14, 2012, 7:08 pm

    i wake up last nyte around 2:30 am i cry so hard beacause of that dream. i am crying on a bench and then i heard my ex boyfriends voice saying that he dont care about me. again and again he keep on telling that word “I DONT CARE BOUT YOU ANYMORE ” it really hurts alot, and so i get up and am hardly crying. i miss him so much.

    • T2nunu January 7, 2013, 11:07 am

      Someone who is like that doesn’t deserve you. Try hanging out with friends some more.

  • Lorraina May 15, 2012, 11:30 pm

    I stumbled onto your website because my mom died a month ago. I wanted to see if there was a remedy out there somewhere for missing someone so much that it feels like your heart has been….without question….broken. I read what you wrote in it’s entirety. I gave it a lot of thought but I am sorry to say that I disagree with you. I know this was a death, but I also went threw an extremely painful divorce. The pain that I felt for that was different than this, but my pain felt like and feels like agony and I really don’t want to feel it anymore. I am regrettable saying that for me, there is no place for anything sweet here. You just have to find the right resources and discover your very own way of dealing with the loss. I think that there are many different ways and there is something out there for everyone. Nice website. I like it a lot and I like the comments that many people have made. I’m glad that I stumbled onto it.

  • Salipm May 22, 2012, 9:21 am

    I have a galfreind she spends 3 months with me the rest she will be away and that has been going on for about 4 years ive let some gals pass by cause i feel so loyal to her wen she is around i feel like the world is all about the 2 of us , i miss her soo much my problem is m afraid that what if she thinks otherwise wen i have invested all these years in our relationship.i love e gal

  • musiclover May 25, 2012, 5:52 am

    it has been 2 weeks since we’ve been together with the person i love, because my parents do not want us to be together. days without that person was so hard, there were sleepless nights, can’t eat much because of the thought that i miss that person. last Tuesday we spend a day together though it was just for few hours cause we have to go back to our places and for the fact that i escaped from my parents. and it’s 4 hours away. after that while i was on the bus, i felt my heart aching thinking of when would we meet again. that night i was crying, i became so emotional. i love that person so much. since then every night i fall asleep crying. what can i do? i do understand that we have to bear it that we cannot be together that much unlike before.

  • Angelina L May 26, 2012, 2:43 am

    So I’m moving to Florida and my parents left me and my brother to find us a condo for when we move…. My mom got us someone to stay over night with us and feed us… My mom’s co worker Danielle got the job and she was pretty cool. She let us eat whatever, stay up super late, loves dubstep, and enjoyed playing mine craft with my brother and I. She left today and I’m sad and all teary Im a girl just so you know, and I do this with everyone else too…idk I haven’t even touched anything she has touched. Right now Im playing draw something and texting her. (btw she has a unicorn pillow pet named Charles xD)

  • JustAnotherBrokenHeartedGirl.. June 4, 2012, 2:35 am

    countless tears…wrists and armfuls of scars…so many bottles of pills ive lost count…6 razor blades…many packs of cigarettes..2 sucide attempts..259 days,thats 8 months,2 weeks,and 5 days later…i still miss him… i still c r y..i still
    c u t…i still h u r t…i still feel all a l o n e…i still s m o k e…im still not o v e r it…even though my mom got a 2 year restraining order on him,he almost got 2 other girls pregnant,hes on probation,i almost went to juvie and soo any more complications…it doesnt change anything…i doesnt change my heart,the memories,or the love i have for him…they say im too young to understand,but we dont believe them..now what do i do?im so lost….

    • hila April 14, 2014, 9:41 am

      I can try and understand how you feel, but you’re strong enough to get over this.
      Think… do you really deserve someone like this?
      Dont make a mistake and waste your time like so many who have with this kinda thing, just believe you can come out of this.
      You will :)

  • Luis June 5, 2012, 5:30 am

    No one in this whole entire blog has said what it is. We miss people because they added to our lives, they made us feel more important than we previously felt, they made us dream about things we didn’t think were possible. Most important is knowing how to deal with the feeling of missing someone. IT IS NOT A BAD THING AT ALL. YES, IT IS SWEET. 100% SWEET… for you see, it means that we were blessed enough with the presence of something truly beautiful in our lives, it means we are lucky bastards, it means we have a role model to now follow, it means we now have more direction, it means we know the path we must follow to reach more beautiful things of that nature and if we stay on that path eventually we are bound to turn, ourselves, into that very thing we yearn for or we’ll stumble into more of that thing we love.

    • unknown June 17, 2012, 11:44 am

      Hey thank you for making things so much clear neither the author of this really explained .what you say truly makes sense .He added a little bit to my life that thing that I was missing before I met him and that felling that I miss to feel.

  • linda June 6, 2012, 9:07 am

    I miss him all the time,,.. he texts me daily…if we are apart….it’s been a year. ..but I never told him so…” I miss you or I love you”…. sure, I show that I care about him..he is more like a friend of mine… unlike me he is more open up to me
    he tells me that he misses me and want me to go somewhere with him..but I always acte like I don’t want you!!! I always push him away from me ,,
    the reasons why I didn’t tell him…because I’m afraid of being not capable to have my word with him…
    & cuz I know the reality what is like… he is not wealthy & handsome neither a part of my social class… once I think to myself of ending my friendship with him I feel so much pain….I don’t know what to do,,, but I KNOW I’m so in love with him

  • sabita June 8, 2012, 1:24 am

    how to forget someone whom u lov very much..whom u care a lot..but u know very well u r not going to live with him..I am missing someone a lot..crying..evn unable to control myself..its giving me pain..i cant tolerate..:( “:(

    • Heartbroken August 29, 2014, 6:15 am

      You said excitly how I am feeling right now ! I don’t know what to do . Is been 3 weeks now ! I miss him so much . Think of him everyday , everynight , every mins . Unfortually , I can’t be with him . Even deep inside I do really care and love him !

  • pallabi June 9, 2012, 9:33 pm

    i miss my man wid whom my marriage was fixed but ryt now its everything is finished.he doesnt feel the same.i cant stop myself from contacting him….though i think i wont…..but he never contacts me…every moment i miss him…i think its love…when everything was going fyn…i never thot it ll be finished one day..i ll miss him so much…actually its a arranged one…so i thot love ll happen gradually…but now i wen i miss him…i realize that i love him…though he doesnt feel the same…how to forget him…as he has moved ahead…i also want to move….but i am stuck somewhere where he had left me…

  • jihyuk June 12, 2012, 5:14 pm

    I really miss her i know i sound crazy but evenn if i dont speak to her for literally 3 hrs i feel incrediably sad..i think iam going crazy i have nevet bern like dis in my life, shuld i ask her out? But im scared if she dosent accepts me everything will b ruined.. help me plz..

  • justina harris June 20, 2012, 6:04 am

    I do miss this person. Right now i wont risk to put my heart out there again. Maybe as time go by. He will slways be in my heart. We both hsve different lives. God can only make that happen.

  • Dee July 10, 2012, 2:40 am

    I miss my ex.. she is with someone else now and sleeps at his house a lot and comes back to town when she see’s her mom. it’s difficult for me because a lot of the things that she used to do with me she now does with him. It’s a pain to sleep at night sometimes, I wake up in sweats and have dreams of them. It sounds ridiculous and absurd but it’s what happens and I don’t understand why. I go to work, see my friends and try to focus on myself but for some reason I keep thinking about her. It’s like she wont leave my mind. Like honestly, dreams??? this has never happened to me before and sometimes I think its an obsessional dillusion or something. Please send some advice!

    • shain July 21, 2012, 1:24 am

      what can you do more.You have shown own feeling and care for her yet she is not interested in you.I know its hard to forget so better to move some elsewhere apart from that place.I know how ever her shadow will with you but be lean in some work so that you can not get time to think about her.

      What i suggest you yaar.I am self a patient of this.I am trying to forget her.You dont know how much i weep for that girl.Knowing that she had spent time with a boy what day and night both…I loved her.But she dont wana stopped for someone.Being with she talks hour and hour with other one.How ever i love.But i hate to see her.However i go her house to see her.
      Such a how big stupid i am..Is it love?? Not its ridiculous what i am doing.

      You suggest me that what should i do..

  • MANJARI GUPTA July 14, 2012, 10:31 pm

    Hmmm all that is mentioned above holds true in my case…i love my love can’t call him ex coz collin him ex wud b like dat nw he’s nt a part of me ….which according to me is jus nothing more den absured…coz itz been an year dat v’r nt together …but still he is in my mind , memory , heart moreover which no one can believ is dat he’s still in my talks …to anyone and wotever i talk my wrds never ends up until i speak about him….i knw he olso misses me d same way as i do but will never say …..i wish if he comes bak to me…i wud b so happy d day he will be back to me ….i have hurt him a lotzzz so i guess dis is my punishment ……i dun hav any complaints wid him …jus shona cme back …realised that i forced you to become wot ur today…..but promise jus one more chance and jus with my love will bring you to my old shona…….plzzz forgive me for my misbehaviour…….

  • angel06 July 22, 2012, 4:02 pm

    i miss him so much after we chat..but when he is there talking w/ me,it’s as if just want to stare at him all the time and making fun of him..my gosh..is it sign of being in love w/ him??

  • stardust July 26, 2012, 2:05 am

    I miss my husband – he is on a trip with his first wife. I am his secret second wife. Being secret makes it xtremely difficult to spend time together. He is truly an amazing man. I wish that women outside of the Arab countries would understand and accept the Shariah ruling about Muslim men having more than 1 wife. My first marriage was terrible – I was verbally, emotionally and physically abused. When I left my ex, I had nothing for myself and my 2 boys – my second husband came into my life like an Angel of Mercy sent from the Almighty. We share such a deep connection, we are totally in sync – and whilst I knw he loves his first wife very much, he is totally in love with me and I wid him – jst miss him so much rite now. Wish time would fly and he could return to our secret stolen moments.

    • Unknow friend August 22, 2012, 9:03 pm

      True love never dies it always there.May you have peace.Mercy Lord.

  • anshu August 4, 2012, 4:19 pm

    I miss my loved one..I keep on telling him dat I m missing u..wan 2spend time with u..
    bt he keep on telling me..that he is busy..have lot of work..but he spend time with others his family frnds..with them he never feel he is wasting his time bt spending time with me is just waste of time to him..what should I do?????????

    • Ruchi August 11, 2012, 11:08 pm

      Hey Anshu, after reading your problem I guess that guy is just trying to avoid you. I would suggest you directly talk to him that he want to continue this relation or not. And if things are not getting well better you should move on. I know it sounds harsh but if things will go like this then only you will be in pain.

  • Angelina L. August 5, 2012, 10:58 am

    I kinda miss my biological mom. So here’s the story, my bio mom met my dad. They started dating and little did he know she was CRAZY. she tried to kill herself 2 times before he met her! So then they had a baby ( my older brother Wyatt) and that pretty
    Much ruined my dads dreams of collage, so he dropped out. 3 years later I popped along. And everything was great, until 5 months later she tried to kill me, my brother, my dad, and herself. that’s when my dad realized she had a problem. He offered to help her but she didn’t want it. He got a seperation and eventually a divorce, and got custody of my and Wyatt. The court said that we had to see her, on to twice a year, and order that my father obiediantly fly followed. My dad at the time was on and off dating many women, and these relationships almost always ended after a month or so. Did I mention that another reason why my dad got the divorce was because my mom was. Cheating on him? Finally my dad met my stepmom, Laura whom I love a lot, and typically she and my mom don’t get along. I started to hate my mother because she was mean to my stepmom and made decisions that benefited her. I still went to see my mom until my brother nearly had a nervous breakdown because of my mom. I don’t want to say what really happened, it makes my mom look like a monster, well she is. So now we don’t see my mom and I’m happy about that! I’m 12 now, and I am told I am just like my stepmom, who I don like to call that. I like to call her mom now. They say we share a fierceness which I am going to use to make myself into a good lawyer. But anyways, I watched a video of her on youtube and I realized I missed my older sister, my little brother, and my sisters 1 year old son, my nephew. Also my mom, I guess….
    Thanks for reading, Angelina L.

  • Swapnil Lohar August 12, 2012, 5:29 pm

    its more than a year we broke up but miss her a lot
    wht to do, i think i did a lot but donno was tht less, evn supported her family
    but i found her sleeping with some one else, can’t get out of that image,
    so i broke up, please help me getting out should i stay alone????? or wht should i do

  • Emily August 27, 2012, 9:35 am

    I really care about this guy i knew for sometime… we finally got together for a short time but it was kinda off and on cuz he got in some trouble he didnt wanna.invole me.. but i still wanted to b with him, he ended up getting put in jail and will be deported soon im still going crazy missing him and wanting to b wih him.. i wanna go see him in his country when he gets out but im scared to ask him cuz im not sure what he will say… im not able to commuicate with him in jail now either.. most of my friends think im dumb and should move on but i feel how i feel.. so im not sure what to do? Ive never cared this much for someone bfore or hurt this much over them not being in my life.

  • hb August 28, 2012, 3:40 am

    I miss him. All day, every day. All night, every night. I love him. It has been two weeks since we last spoke. I miss him more and more. He is close yet he is far. I always know he is in me, with me. Yet I could not call him. Life is a series of chores without being with him. Life is hard for me, for us. I can’t be with him. It’s complicated. He can’t be with me. It’s complicated. If I die tomorrow, I know that I have had him, once. I know that, I love, once. We almost had twins together. I’m lost. I am so lost.

  • tpp September 3, 2012, 10:15 am

    I have hurt some wonderful people, now I regret the silly mistake I made.It is very sad,now it is too late i cannot help it.Please forgive and forget.
    Now I wish I hadn’t done it.I was very happy when I knew no one and I wish I was like before alone by myself.
    If I knew I was forgiven I would have had peace of mind.
    I wish they win and I lose always.
    Now I think I can’t forget even I died. Now it will always be there.

  • Melissa September 10, 2012, 4:48 am

    My b/f and I have been together for about a 2yrs now and we both have a past with children but I found a txt on his phone from his ex the other night saying to him that his a lier and he doesn’t miss her I didn’t find a txt to her with him saying this and I’m worried about this they have been sperated for about 3yrs now and have been threw a messy court about the children and I was with him threw all this he tells me he loves me and I love him dearly and don’t want to think about this situation any suggestions…?

    • Ruchi September 21, 2012, 12:35 am

      Hey Melissa, If you both love each other since 2 years then you have to trust him. Just with a text it’s kind of confusing that he still have feelings for his ex or not. May be just think about good times when you both are there for each other in ups and downs of life. And if you get any clue which makes you feel that he is falling for his ex then it would be better to communicate with him politely.

  • lovey dovey September 20, 2012, 10:59 pm

    Why do we miss someone? Probably because you can’t bear losing a sight of a person whom you care so much. You have known that person for quite some time & enjoy each other’s company. You feel lost without him/her around…But it may become a problem..when you are torn between your friendship and feelings that you have towards the person. To make it even worse, both of you are already in relationships..long distance, that is.

    But, I believe in taking chances. You’ll never know what you may get unless you give it a GO. Yup, that’s what I did. I’d come clean. I confess my feelings to him, my dearest friend/colleague, not knowing how he will react. But before I did that, I have prepared myself (mentally & emotionally) to accept whatever that he’ll say.

    And he said..”I think we’re better off as friends”..& guess what? I feel SUPER RELIEVE!! He’s cool with it and yup, we remained as close friends until now. Since then, he has become more open in sharing his stories/secrets e.t.c.

    I’m so glad that he understands me…he said, “Everyone deserves to be in love” and re-assure me that my confession will not change a thing (our friendship).

    HooRay! :)

  • anonymous September 25, 2012, 6:18 am

    I don’t know if you’ll be able to answer my question, I’m new to this site. I miss her really bad. She told me she missed me and that she likes to look at pictures of us when we were friends. We were best friends and we wanted to date once but she fell for someone else. I got jealous and we fought a lot. We stopped talking for half a year or so and I ignored her texts. But I missed her so bad that when she texted one day I gave in. I told her I missed her but I feel like I didn’t give my true feelings. We talk every other week and text is our only form of communication as I live in a different town now. I feel like I want her to know how I feel but is it the right thing to do? She has a boyfriend now but he’s abusive and she told me she’s not happy with him. I have mixed emotions, I don’t know if I just want to be friends again or what. I’m not even mad at her anymore. All I can remember know is all the good times we shared. So what do you think? Why does she think of me so much of me yet waits a week or two to text me? Maybe she’s busy, I know she works a lot, but I wonder if I should let her know that I think about her all the time and whether its ok to do it in text. Please tell me what you think and I would really appreciate it. Thank you :)

    • Ruchi September 25, 2012, 11:13 pm

      Hey, I am sorry to say but I think that the girl wants to talk to you just because she is not happy with her boyfriend. It would be better that you talk to her clearly and find out she really loves you and ready for a long term relation or not?
      After reading your comment I feel you truly love her and also forgive her for earlier mistake but before moving further make sure that she is also ready otherwise only you would end up in grief.

      • anonymous September 26, 2012, 7:36 am

        Hey, thanks for the advice. Unfortunately, there are a lot of details I left out in my story. And I mean A LOT. I guess I was a little upset at the time and wanted a quick fix to my problems. A lot of my unsureness results from my low self esteem I believe. However, after realizing some things, I think I know what to say to her and when. I’m gonna go out on a limb here and trust myself on this one. I have full confidence she will want to be good friends again. If I told you every detail I think you would agree that we can’t just start a dating. I admit it’s what I want more than anything, but I believe before I can achieve that I need to accept the fact that things may not work out. I really appreciate the advice and I like what you’re doing here with this website. Keep it up! Love is such a complicated subject for some and I think this site really helps.

  • neil October 18, 2012, 12:50 pm

    sometimes, you miss someone,,,, but you feel that this someone doesn’t miss you.,,,
    Some people play with others feelings..

    • Ruchi October 18, 2012, 12:55 pm

      Hey Neil, If someone is not missing you it doesn’t mean that they are playing with your emotions. You can’t force anyone to miss you, it comes naturally.

  • minhkhang October 21, 2012, 7:30 pm

    Missing someones is make me suffering. But, it’s very difficult to speak my mind with her.

  • lyan November 18, 2012, 7:22 pm

    it is really hard to miss someone,
    especially the person may not be with you in the future, he also has his problem
    so terrible…should i keep on or i should push myself…… why missing? love ? or just miss due to loneliness? it is ……

  • Joanne December 3, 2012, 12:27 am

    I’m missing someone who I think i’ve loved for about 4 years we had a brief encounter not long after i had come out of a long term relationship 3 years ago, he is probably one of the most caring males i’ve ever met and he touched my heart i’ve never forgotten him there have been brief flings with others but he has always been in my mind, we would loose touch and reconnect he is very guarded with his feelings and i know he dosn’t want to get involved with me but i sense he cares for me too. I’ve not spoke to him for 3 weeks and I miss him like mad i’m trying to be strong because i respect the fact he dosn’t want to be with me but i miss our chats really badly he usually gets in touch but i’ve not heard of him how can I make this easier for myself part of me just wants to be over him I feel stupid for these feelings :( wish it could be different but he’s touched my heart which is why I miss him so badly

  • Ashish December 5, 2012, 11:36 pm

    sometimes you miss your family,old friends,relatives because they hold a certain place in your life. Since man is a social animal, he needs people around him. We miss family,friends but soon we settled down with the present and become normal……
    But when missing someone makes ur eyes roll down tears, that is something related to pure and divine form of missing. Usually people do say “I miss You” but don’t really mean it. The real missing which makes u cry has something to do with true divine love and believe or not some sort of divinity is certainly attached to it. That missing leaves u restless but at the end u do thank god to give u such divine feeling. It doesn’t necessarily occur after breakup only, it can happen while being in relationship also…

    • abhishek naik September 7, 2014, 7:33 pm

      well said bro ………well said Ashish…………my feelings are exactly the same . it is both pain and happiness . yes it can happen in the initial phases when nothing has happened and still many things are to be unfold . i thing there is something between us but i need to be sure . but i am sure my feelings are genuine , natural and pure…..let’s see..

  • Richa December 17, 2012, 1:47 pm

    i can’t say that when i miss him ” i miss him every moment every second….ya sometimes for love sometimes feel lonely without him…. I know that, he knows i miss him…. and i don’t have any other option to beside miss him… !!! even when i make decision that i’ll not miss him more & move on….just then i miss him a lot then before….. when i feel… he’ll never come back…just then my heart says to me he’ll come…….!!!

  • Richa December 17, 2012, 1:51 pm

    i can’t say that when i miss him ” i miss him every moment every second….ya sometimes for love sometimes feel lonely without him…. I know that, he knows i miss him…. and i don’t have any other option to beside miss him… !!! even when i make decision that i’ll not miss him more & move on….just then i miss him a lot then before….. when i feel… he’ll never come back…just then my heart says to me he’ll come…….!!! Its become a pain…. now even then the pain is sweet too

  • anonymous January 18, 2013, 1:40 pm

    I miss my ex me and him dated for the summer it was great! But, once school started all over again we started getting rocky knowing we grade to different ones. Jealousy and trust struck in. Later I got texts and what not saying he’s cheating I took charge and broke up with him. WORS MISTAKE especially cause I found it was all a lie a month later. He started dating new people it hurt so much I tried getting him back doing everything but it didn’t work he lost trust in me, I too him hurtful things and just everything went down. We stared talking again as friends last month but someone got between us and just ruined it. We no longer speak he’s in a relationship it’s been 5 months since the break up and I’m not over him I tried moving on talking to new people, talking to my friends and letting it all out, I convinced myself its time to move on but something always reminds me of him. It really sucks, I don’t know what to do! Should I try talking to him? Being his friend? Apologize ? Or just let it be and stay missing him and do nothing at all that involves him?

  • Alexis January 26, 2013, 7:46 pm

    I’m missing some one right now … And the pain is unbearable .. I don’t have his phone number. He doesn’t have a facebook. And he doesn’t have a email either…. Sometimes I wish I could tell him how I feel but I’m too scared because I have had my heart broken to many times, not by him just by other guys…. But I’m willing to take a chance and tell him how I feel …. Because I’m am madly in love with him… He is all I think about…. An I care about him slot an I really don’t want to see him get hurt …..

  • Danielle January 27, 2013, 6:19 am

    My issue here is that often when I miss someone, it’s not due to long distance. It’s often because despite close proximity, I can’t talk to them as they are mad at me or they’re no longer a part of my life

  • Thomas February 3, 2013, 6:40 pm

    I missed her, she was the first girl that touched my heart. I truely love her. we were now best friend and we quite understand each other. sometimes i just feel letting her know my feelings, letting her know how much i missed her when she is not around. But im scared that once i told her the truth, she would avoid me and our friendship will surely be ruin. Shes beautiful. the most beautiful girl i ever seen. And im, well, me. Im ugly. our looks don’t match but our personality sure does. I know that im not her cup of tea but i really hope that she will still be my best friend even after she rejects me. can someone please tell me what to do, give me some advise please!

    • Ruchi February 25, 2013, 4:18 pm

      Hey Thomas,

      We posted your problem on our Facebook Page and here are few suggestions from our readers.

      1. jus convey your feelings ……….
      2. Looks doesn’t matter personality does.. Be brave enough to tell your true feelings to your best friend..

      Hope it helps. Best luck :)

  • Mohamed February 6, 2013, 1:19 am

    My problem that at first i dont care if that someone is gone or not but after that its like im dieing because i miss that someone and iys like im just a buddy without a soul like feeling bored from everything i was doing when i wanted to cheer up in the past..i keep missing that someone every minute.

  • danny February 19, 2013, 3:30 pm

    It’s hard when you miss someone so much, and you can’t do anything about it. Because having that space between the two of you, is the only way to make things right.

  • Benj March 1, 2013, 3:25 pm

    I miss the girl I pushed away about a year ago she’s my first real love for 3 years, any girl I meet I can’t treat the same or feel the same for bc my heart won’t let me I think about her so much. The feeling of missing someone is a lesson in my experience, she was my other half.. And it all ended bc I felt different for her when all I needed to realize is searching your life for someone is pointless when you have what you need right in front of you the whole time.

  • adi March 14, 2013, 8:06 pm

    we miss people because we love them not because of they love us. if we miss someone and it may not be the same from other side, it’s ok. if we really love then they also will start loving us. it’s very nice hoping that they will, one day. but missing someone special is really good.

    • Ruchi March 15, 2013, 4:01 pm

      That’s sweet Adi :)

  • Nishant April 10, 2013, 4:43 pm

    This has happened with me, i liked to talk to a girl but never took it seriously, but now when she’s not available m very uncomfortable. And thinking of her whenever alone.
    Its a sweet pain, but still its pain.. Maybe i would hav to forget her, but its not easy.

  • Nishant April 10, 2013, 4:55 pm

    This has happened with me, i liked to talk to a girl but never took it seriously, but now when she’s not available m very uncomfortable. And thinking of her whenever alone.
    Its a sweet pain, but still its pain.. Maybe i would hav to forget her, but its not easy.

  • Wudz April 11, 2013, 6:41 pm

    aaaawh missing is loving! keep commenting

  • David April 11, 2013, 11:57 pm

    I miss my second girlfriend horribly much. We dated 15 years ago, now we are in our early/mid 30s. We took up the contact again a year ago after a 15 year long break. None of us are singles and we don’t live in the same cities, but the moments we meet up for a chat somewhere are incredible! 6 hours feels like 10minutes and i just wish it never stopped, that we could be in that bubble forever.

    Last time we met and about an hour before we had to part again, she leaned her head agains my shoulder for a long time and she let me touch her hair with my fingers, which surprised me a little. It seems like she misses me to, sometimes she texts me that she misses me, but i’m doubtful if she’s willing to scarify her current relationship for me. Why in heavens name did i break up with her??

  • adnan April 19, 2013, 4:33 pm

    my relatnship waz very different fm others all i wnt to say that i waz in a reltnship frm las 2 yrs she used to love me more den any thng in her life bt u kw wt waz d big troble is dt she doesn’t belive in god i am muslin she waz nonmuslim we loved eah other so much evn we cnt spen a single m int of life widout each other she used to makes promisse to nvr leave me n all n we wre ready to marry frm each other bt sudeenly she changed hee mind dt i cnt marry u n lfet me alone wif her sweet memories i dnt have any contact frm her nt even in touch anyone of her frnd i really wnt her back in my life really….. i cnt live widout my sweet baby…..

    • Ruchi April 27, 2013, 1:28 pm

      Hi Adnan,

      Ask her whats the main reason for not marrying you.. If its religion then assure her that you will let her continue the same religion and won’t interfere in her belief. May be things work out. Best luck.

  • Anonymous May 1, 2013, 4:04 am


    I do agree that we miss some one when we are in love with that person….but I have a friend who misses many of her friends at the same time…is it possible for any human being to miss many at the same time??? or is she just using the phrase ‘miss you’ to all? confused!…impossible for me to miss many at a time…please share your views.

  • ConfusedGirl May 1, 2013, 3:52 pm

    I don’t understand what’s happening right now in my relationship. It’s confusing, because he has a girlfriend that he’s had for four years. But when they were on a break he cuddled with me, made out with me and then felt me up. While we were sober! The next day he felt guilty and said that this couldn’t happen (we were leaving for summer break in about 10 days at that point). He said that I was “right about if we had more time”, indicating that we might have been able to cultivate a relationship. It was awkward for a few days, but then the night before he left to go home he came over and we fell asleep together cuddling, and it felt just like before. Now he texts me everyday. He says he really misses me, and he just told me I was “amazing and beautiful”. But then he says his girlfriend came over, that it was great but he is “still really conflicted” and that he doesn’t know if he loves her or he is in love her her. These mixed messages are really confusing. All I know is that I miss being with him all the time, but if he is just going to go back to his girlfriend (which I honestly think he will do) then prolonging our losing contact will just hurt me more. But the hope that something might come of it keeps me going. I just miss him so much and it scares me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to stop talking to him, but I want him to want me like I want him- but I don’t know where he is at. I think he is probably confused about what he wants to. He says that he might come visit me soon. What should I do?

  • Dhananjay May 17, 2013, 3:37 pm

    I am always try to avoid someone but it’s not easy. I’m asking her that you are in love? but she told me that no, never & at the time of college i loved someone but now i forget him and from that time also i don’t fall in love. When i asked her second time she was shy & say no. But now a days she avoid me also. I always trying to call her but she disconnect my call & if connected ask only how are you? If she change her mobile no she SMS her no to me but not more to talk with me. I’m very confused cause i don’t getting answer that she love me or not. How i know that what’s in her mind. Now she don’t meet me as well as not gossip with me but i thought that i also miss her very much but how to tell her i don’t know.

    • Dhananjay July 8, 2013, 1:13 pm

      i was told her that “i miss you” from that day she totally avoid me as well as cross me. but i really miss her, why she don’t think about it? or can she also miss me? why she don’t telling me the truth? what she expect from me? can anyone explain the reason. if no any reason tell me what can i do for forget her. & i think it’s better for me to forget her.

  • Phnix May 17, 2013, 9:58 pm

    And what if they don’t care that you miss them??

  • SS_L_BR May 25, 2013, 8:33 pm

    I am in a peculiar situation. Let me describe myself. I am an introvert by nature. I have barely spoken with girls in my entire life.
    I joined a company around 2.5 years back and I went for a training. We had a girl in our group. She used to speak and interrogate about me. Being shy, I would only smile or answer in yes/no. One day, 3-4 girls and boys were seated in a flat and were talking. I was seated in a different room. Suddenly she started shouting my name and started searching for me. When she saw me, she started smiling and went away. On 2-3 meetings after this incident also, she would say hi or smile if nobody was around. I lost touch of her for thee next 4-5 months. I never spoke with her or even saw her properly. I thought she would have forgotten me. But again when we met, she would be giggling on seeing me. One day just out of the blue, she again called my name and said hi and kept on smiling.
    3-4 months passed and I hadn’t seen her. Suddenly one day, she again started to stare and smile at me for no apparent reason. I felt embarrassed and started to look downwards. Later i started cursing myself for not speaking with her despite her numerous attempts to interact with me. Perhaps, i was selfish because i wanted to concentrate on my future career plan.
    She is very beautiful yet extremely humble. She is very successful in her career. In the beginning, I never felt anything for her. But slowly, I started to miss her. I always thought that such things are a total waste of time. But the fact is that those small moments with her are the most wonderful moments in my life.
    I started feeling very bad when i heard some people saying something negative about her. Normally, i would not pray for myself but i pray for her well being and also that she stays happy and cheerful forever. I left the company and wrote her a goodbye letter. I thought she would not reply but she replied. I could not read that mail also.
    I want to express my feelings to her. I hardly ever spoke with her.So, she might think of me as a PERVERT. I hesitate thinking that she deserves to be with someone who is far more successful and richer than me. I am not that good looking also.

    • Ruchi May 27, 2013, 11:31 pm

      You must express your feelings. She is smiling and staring at you. She even replied your mail then you should not wait any more. Do tell your feelings and instead of judging yourself let her tell what she thinks of you. You never know, luck might be on your side. Best luck .

      • SS_L_BR May 29, 2013, 10:11 pm

        Thanks for the advice. I am going through a tough time. I am missing her badly but I don’t want to burden her with my troubles.
        I will confess to her if I can get over this tough period.
        I wanted to ask you a question. People see me as a very quiet and boring kind of person. She is very cheerful and has many people running after her who would be happy to have her as their love.
        Do such kind of relationships exist in the real world where the girl is very amazing and the boy is pretty ordinary?

        • Ruchi May 31, 2013, 11:12 pm

          Of course, such kind of relationship exist. Good people look for a person who completes them in some or other way. Looks or personality really don’t matter when loves comes. May be you will also start enjoying your life once you are with her.

        • Konnect Life July 24, 2013, 6:24 am

          LOL….. ok, SS_L_BR, I hate to say this, but in the real world these things don’t just happen. Trust me, I know PRECISELY how you feel because for many years I used to be and think just like you. I used to dream about being this shy quiet ordinary boy who would meet some very amazing girl and it would be a sweet romantic real life fantasy.

          Then I discovered that this is not how the real world works.

          After wasting quite a few years of doing all the wrong things that I THOUGHT should work with women, I began to learn what REALLY works and doesn’t work when it comes to attracting females. The number one rule I had to get used to was “stop being a ‘nice guy'” in addition to several other things. I wont get into specifics or the psychology of it all. I’ll just say this;

          If you don’t know how to approach her and tell her how you feel IN A PROPER MANNER that would increase your odds of attracting her, I wouldn’t do it. Yes, many people may say “just be yourself” or “just be nice” or “you’re the perfect guy and one day you will find someone,” etc. They’re trying to help, but NONE of this will get you anywhere (and I’m sure the people telling you this have no idea how psychology and attraction work).

          Whether or not you want to tell her how you feel is up to you, but if you don’t know how to do it, how to say it, or even how to approach her in a correct manner, I wouldn’t do it … for a variety of reasons.

          TRUTH IS
          Nice guys finish last.

          Don’t want to believe it? Just ask yourself this question:
          How many times in your life has being a nice guy gotten you anywhere with any woman?

          It sucks, but that’s just the way it is. Good news is you can always change and learn how to become the type of person who naturally attracts women (or people in general). I’m not saying you have to take my advice or listen to me, but I can almost guarantee you that based on the things you’ve said so far, the way you’re going about it will not work, and I say this based on years of research, experimentation, and mostly real life experience.

          I’ve changed a lot over the past year (took me this long to realize what changes I had to make in order to increase my success with women) and I’ve noticed that I’ve had far more success over this past year alone than I have had in my entire life, and a few things I had to do were

          *Stop being a nice guy
          *Stop living in a fantasy world
          *Stop listening to people who tell me to do things that simply wont work, such as “just be nice” or “just be yourself” or”tell her you like her” etc.

          I don’t have enough time and space to teach you how to handle this in a correct manner, which is why I’m afraid t even get started on providing solid tips. I also don’t know what you’re like in real life, so I really cannot tell you what to do because the things I do with women may not work for you if you end up doing it in a way that comes across as awkward or creepy.

          I feel very bad for you because I know exactly how you’re feeling since I’ve been in your shoes before. Up until a year ago I even had social anxiety disorder. I managed to overcome that but I’m also on the autism spectrum…. I wish you were here so I could show you how I interact with women and teach you some of the things that work and don’t work. This dream world where you’re shy and you imagine sweeping an amazing girl off her feet by doing something very nice and having her fall madly in love with you and being able to hold her, kiss her, cuddle her, hug her, etc. really doesn’t exist. At least not in America. It simply just does not work that way, and before I understood this, I was lost and alone, dreaming that one day it would happen. I wish more than anything that the world did work this way and females were attracted to nice, sweet, sensitive, emotionally caring guys, but…………… *that’s just not the way it is.*

          But I cannot teach you how to change over the internet, and I can sit here and type and type and type, but… if I tell you to do something and you misinterpret it and you end up doing it wrong, that also wont help you. So, I can only wish you luck.
          If you want her to like you for just a friend (or even not at all), then you can go ahead and tell her how you feel, because one of those two things are exactly what will happen.

          But if I turn out to be wrong and you two go out or even end up in a relationship, PLEASE let me know because I’d love to prove to myself that nice sweet sensitive loving caring guys with fairy-tale romantic fantasies can get women, too.

  • Valentina May 28, 2013, 11:01 pm

    I miss him so bad, it was just a fling and i fell for him but we had too much going on in our lives but i can’t help how i feel i thought i was over him util i dreamt him three nights in a row and i was reading google facts and one of them said if you see someone in your dream it means that this person misses you and i started having feelings again I miss him…

    • Dhananjay June 1, 2013, 10:17 am

      It’s real fact that both mind face this situation when you see dream. I realize this situation also but i don’t know why we miss them. if you like him and he liable for you, get his details and if you know everything about him then say him directly without any hesitation. I hope you getting reply from him.
      Best luck.

      • Valentina June 8, 2013, 7:54 pm

        thanks for the advice :)

  • ornob June 4, 2013, 1:30 am

    The sad truth is we are missing someone and we are hoping they are missing us too…(

    • mansi January 4, 2014, 12:46 pm

      ya right ;)

  • Friendly Anonymous Smile June 8, 2013, 8:23 pm

    This girl to whom I admitted my feelings a year ago told me that she wasn’t having the same feelings for me. We were very good friends, but the awkwardness that followed sort of damaged the relationship as friends. She became less and less available over the course of the next months and eventually we ended up just chatting online with each other like 2-3 times per week. I couldn’t see her in real life anymore because she had one to another college (not because of me!). Now the real problem is that, while I had accepted that she didn’t see me as anything more than friends, that she suddenly “disappeared” online more than 3 months ago and I have recently (last month) started to miss her very much… and I have the feeling that it won’t get better until I can talk to her again… :(

  • kely June 11, 2013, 6:49 am

    when i feel missing him make me so hard to pass the time all the time i have thinking of him. some time i told my my to control, but cant ….

  • chris June 17, 2013, 3:38 am

    my husband keeps photos on his computer of his past girlfriends.
    my husband often visits the photos section of a certain past love-interest on her FB page. Recently I saw that he wrote to her how he was once so very much in love with her. Her reply expressed surprised and she began asking him when this was and why he didn’t tell her. He seems to miss her. What would be his intention of telling her of his past feelings?

    • Ruchi June 21, 2013, 10:46 am

      Hey Chris,
      Sorry to know about your problem. We posted your problem on our Facebook Page and here is the reply we got.

      “I experienced same from my wife and divorced her! When we have a person in our life, we need him or her completely NOT partially…its simple. past shud remain past other wise it ruins the present.”

      I agree with the comment. It’s better to move on if he doesn’t love you and look for other girls to fulfill his requirements. You need to be very strong to take this decision but again it would be better for your future. If you need more help or suggestions, you can mail us anytime.

      • Dhananjay June 22, 2013, 3:55 pm

        Hi Chris
        i think it’s wrong cause all don’t forget their first love & each person pass away from this situation. some express their love & some of them hide it. so it’s not important to divorse is the solution with him but if you realy love him then you spend your more time with him when he is empty & also express your love against the same without telling him. when he forgot all previous then he obviously miss you & think you are special for him. if you don’t belive then watch Hindi Cenema “Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam” I hope you are getting your answer from it. Best Luck.

        am sorry Ruchi for replying your answers, but what i like good i suggest. sorry again.

        • Ruchi June 23, 2013, 12:20 pm

          Hey Dhananjay,

          No need to be sorry.. Glad you contributed :)

  • CHANDYGARCIA June 20, 2013, 4:06 pm

    I do miss someone.
    I miss her a lot.
    But she said she’s happy with her boyfriend now.
    I still miss her even though it’s been quite for a long time now.
    I miss her texts.
    I miss how she cares for me.
    I just feel I need her, I really miss her you know.

    -to MM

  • melody June 20, 2013, 8:03 pm

    please help me to know….:( am missing someone in which i did not see in person yet…he always in my mind whatever i do and I don`t know why? we talk tru chat as of now… why i miss him so much! please help me..? thanks!

    • gemini6 July 18, 2013, 6:28 pm

      Maybe u lrn to luv him already.

  • melody June 20, 2013, 8:05 pm

    but he plans to meet me this july…

  • shruti June 27, 2013, 1:57 am

    my Guy cannot go against their parents n v both love n miss each other a lods hlp me out n wat to do n he dn wan keep anymore relationship

  • Shawn July 1, 2013, 1:45 am

    I don’t agree that missing someone is a good feeling. Longing is a part of a relationship you go through. But its not enjoyable. I usually phone them. But its always hard to say goodbye. Its after the phone call it just gets worse. But it did help. Call it a short remedy.

  • mya July 4, 2013, 7:46 am

    I’m totally agree with you, Ruchi…it’s sweet pain…

  • Lauren July 9, 2013, 1:02 am

    Right now I am having a huge problem – keeping thinking about him all the time and do not know what to do.

    We met each other 3 years ago when I was 20 and he was 27. I had a crush on him but he had a fiance at that time so we were just friends. He moved to another city 2 years ago and we kept exchanging emails from time to time. Also about 2 years ago he broke up with his fiance and has been single since then.

    I visited the city where he lived twice recently and we spent a lot of time together. We went to the museums, watched the fireworks shows, and studied together in the library (he was preparing for a test and I just sat next to him reading a book). We talked a lot. I felt very comfortable and happy when he was around. I can tell that he felt the same way, more or less. We texted each other roughly once or twice a week for four months, but I kept thinking about him all the time. So far nothing has been said explicitly. Wonder whether it is more than friendship or not.

    I will be out of the country soon for about one year or even longer. Probably he will not be available when I come back. Should I tell him my feelings before I leave or should I wait? Really not sure what to do and the feeling of missing him hurts! HELP and thanks!!!

    • Ruchi July 9, 2013, 11:52 am

      Hey Lauren,

      Of course, tell him your feelings. He is single and seems to enjoy your company. Express how you feel may be he feels same for you. Best luck :)

  • Maddelline July 10, 2013, 12:27 am

    hello…:( my boyfriend goes in his country last night…and i miss him so so so much…even if we seen last night before he goes :( he will stay all vacation…2 months…GOD!!! how i can resist????? i think i’m going crazy without him..:( to know him so far away from me…what can i do? even if i will talk with him…but it’s not like he is here..with me…damn!…what should i do ??? :((

  • Ran July 12, 2013, 10:32 pm

    I love my BF very much and he loves me too. The problem is when I really miss him alot and he is so busy.. I keep saving my feelings inside me instead of sending him a msg to not bother him or to not show him how much I’m crazy about him.

    I have to focus on my studying, but what happens is I’m thinking of him so much. I miss him now so badly

  • Meenu July 20, 2013, 5:54 pm

    I met someone during a training course. We were together and then he went back to Germany. After he left i realised how much i love him, miss him and want to be with him….life seems so quiet…dont feel happiness in anything….with just one thought in mind…will i ever see him again…will we ever be so close again…all this feelings kill me…but..inside myself….though it seems next to impossible…i feel one day he will come back for me ….i trust my love for him

  • Maria July 29, 2013, 1:24 am


    i hv been married (happily married) from past more than 4 yrs and have a 2 yrs kid too…i started chatting and meeting with one of my friends husband..initially its was like casaul meeting and all get together …but after few months i started getting attracted towards him and he too was becoz i later found he is a flirt kind of guy.
    but i never see any man other than my hubby…now the problem is i m not able to forget him i always with to talk to him and chat with him…he has treated me many times rudely than again he started talking and fights and patch up always happen and we still chat but we dont meet now.I know its wrong i should keep those feeling apart frm my hubby… i m not able to forget him .. i m already trying many things to forget him but i still find time ti sebd him text and miss him always 24 hrs…i feel irritated sick of him now i really wnat to get over my feeling >>>dudh but he again bangs my head :(( pls guide me i feel miserable

    • Ruchi July 29, 2013, 11:40 am

      Hey Maria,

      It’s better to start ignoring that guy because you are happily married and seems you regretting being close to him. The reason he is on your mind is that after marriage n kid, you and your hubby might not be spending quality time with each other and thus you found this guy interesting to talk and have fun. It’s merely an attraction.
      To forget him, try to spend more time with your hubby.. Give surprises, fun and romantic dates, pamper yourself and get the spark in your married life.
      That guy is a flirt and thus you have enough reason to get attracted to him. If you really love your husband then ignore him.. he might be just having fun with you without even caring about your feelings.. he is not worth for you.

      • Maria July 29, 2013, 9:37 pm

        Thanks alot Ruchi and u r right i will surely get over of him now…

        thanks :)

      • Dhananjay July 30, 2013, 5:18 pm

        Hii Maria,
        I agree with Ruchi & close all things which are related with guy, better way you spend your more time with hubby & kid & work. delete all numbers, id related to chatting with guy. i hope you can possible to forget him.

  • EmptyUnknown August 6, 2013, 12:26 pm

    Hey, hope you can give me some useful advices.

    I’ve broken up w my girlfriend, and everyday i miss her, and really want to get back w her. i need to change.. if i really want her back. but it’s hard although i really want to. i get jealous over slight things.. what should i do?

    And also, it’s her birthday at the end of this month, any suggestions for birthday gifts? :)

  • diya August 12, 2013, 2:14 am

    hi Ruchi, i really love some one… he proposed me before 1 an half year ago. i replied yes. aftr that our relationship is going very nicely. He staying in abroad. our relationship is completely long distance relationship. when he came in india i mt him 2 tyms. 1st tym wid my pops.. i dont kw y suddenly he started to ignoring me… bt after 2 or 3 more days back again he said to me that he dont wanna loss me. now i tried a lot 2 understand his feelings what he want but i failed…. some times he talked wid me very friendly… some times like a girlfriend and sometimes behave lyk a his enemy…. dnt know y????
    bt i feel he loved someone who broke up wid him… who give up.his love…. i dont understd what he want… if i stop to calling…. aftr a while i got call from him. somtym he says that he ws wrong … he md mistaks bcz he not cald me. he said to me sorry. i dont know ruchi y he suddenly changed. y he sumtyms react lyk dat….. sumtyms i called so many tyms bt he nt pickd up call. and not evn responses ma phn calls nd after 1week or 2weeks back he cald me…. i alwys cried bt i dnt want to tl about this…. i dnt want to show him how much i gt hurt for his that kind of behaviour bt i dnt know wat he want … i said so many tyms wat he want bt alwys he replyed dat m thinking alwz negative …. help me ruchi wat i do….

    • Ruchi December 2, 2013, 2:19 am

      Hey Diya,
      He is totally confused. He don’t know he loves you or not? Make things clear as soon as possible, since it’s a long distance relationship it’s kind of tough to trust. I guess he hardly care about your feelings and calls only when he wants to talk. I don’t see any good sign in this relationship. Try to talk to him calmly, hope it works.

  • Nelo August 15, 2013, 2:01 am

    The reason why we missin someone is because of we love them,we need them more than they can even know

  • Andrew August 16, 2013, 3:33 am

    I miss someone a lot. Pretending to talk to them in my head is the only way I can make myself feel happy again or convince myself we will be together again although I know its very unlikely.
    I feel like there’s not much point in anything any more. I will survive but I know there will not be much fun or happiness without them.

  • Sehar August 28, 2013, 1:35 pm

    i am in a worst condition please help me,
    we are in a relationship since 5 years and we don’t meet so often,we are in a long distance relationship
    but now the problem is that
    whenever he texts me ,i think he is sad and he too feel the same
    i assure him that im ok and its just because im missing him and wanna see him once before death..but he still continues the same like u’ve got fed up,u’ve changed etc
    it hurts a lot and i cry my eyes out
    i really don’t know what to do

  • Nasif September 4, 2013, 8:00 pm

    I have someone i miss, (my love) she’s totally driving me crazy. I have never felt this pain before, not atill i met her. Iam so fade up of this pain.

  • abcde September 9, 2013, 3:44 pm

    I miss a friend horribly, it is not sweet as some of you write. The difference might be if it is someone you miss for a while and then get to meet, or if it is someone you will never meet, that you will keep on missing. I am always scared I will not hear from her again. We write each other, and it relieves the missing for a little while, but it is like a hole in me, sometimes larger, sometimes smaller, sometimes I think of ending the friendship because I can’t see how I will be able to stand missing her all the time for I don’t know how long. Perhaps then in time I won’t be reminded so often and then I might not miss as much.

  • maria October 14, 2013, 5:59 am

    i cant miss someone because that person does not want to be with me. that is the worst. if i come forward then i will get hurt. so how to stop this?

  • Nitin October 26, 2013, 3:00 pm

    I am feeling really helpless. I love a girl. I told her that I love her but she refused. But I still miss her really badly. I miss her every second of my life. I understand that if I love someone, she may not feel same for me. But somewhere there is a negative feeling of inferiority. I want to forget her but I really feel helpless. I try to focus on my hobby and on my work but still i miss her. She is in my friend list on social networking sites. I have not logged on social networking site for long time but could not get her out of my heart. I dont want to delete her from my friend list.
    The worse thing is, I am unable to focus on my work. The harder I try, the more I fail. I want to fall in love with someone who loves me but I really don’t feel same for any other girl. I tried to be friend with other girls but I really miss her and dont feel same for any girl. I never want to fall in love. But today i want to get out of this but unable to. I really do not know what should I do. Because of this i am unable to focus on my work. There is rather more irritation because people are growing in their career but i am unable to focus on my work.
    Also, There is lot of anxiety, if she marries tomm. and if her husband is much better than me and if she will love her husband ..
    I dont know why I cannot stop missing her. Neither I cannot focus on my job so that I can get in better position in job, so that I don’t feel inferior to be a friend with her forever. I don’t know what should I do.

  • Mirsad November 21, 2013, 4:06 pm

    I broke up with her before 4 month ago. In the beginning after we broke up i felt bad, but i accepted my situation and I’ve tried to move on because it is a only thing we can do. I think that it’s just a short period of time, and when i find a other girl i will stop thinking about a girl who I’ve been broke up with. But she was always somewhere in my mind, my head or in my heart. I can’t really define my feelings, is it love or i just like her, or i just miss beautiful moments i had with her. Now after four months im single again. Other girl with whom i have been with couldn’t help me to get other thoughts. I broke up with her before one month a go.
    And now I’m thinking about a girl who i miss. I can still se in my thoughts a train, how it moves toward a train station, where i was waiting for her and i se her in that train, in the window how she smiles to me. I really miss her.

  • SidMissingBili December 2, 2013, 11:47 pm

    i miss my bili…not that she was actual bili,she is a girl,i call her bili :) we had relation of one year,and from 2 years im missing her,she cant fade away from my heart,her thoughts does creat some problems in my life now,from 2 years,haaaa.. I wish she could come up infront of me and tell me that she loves me still..i know thats not possible,she dnt love or she cnt love me she is inlove with some one else..but still i dont what keeps me bound with her..i do love her,i confess that..but she will not come that too i know still i wait for her… Or waiting for her from 2 years…

  • S812 December 11, 2013, 1:18 pm

    ok, so throwing for a loop here. I have a kind of on and off problem that i wish would go away, adapting to change when a very close friend of yours has a boyfriend and you fear that you are going to be distant eventually when it comes to making plans to hanging out. We talk on the phone pretty much everyday like always, but her and her bf tend to hang out almost everyday now and i feel like i have to take a backseat. I know this is mainly a part of life and everyone does it, shes my best friend in the world and even though i feel like i share a connection with her like no one else, she will never see or feel how i do about things in our friendship.
    So, yes i have at one point shared in the past i am attracted to her and always will be, but our friendship is going no further then being sisters. Throughout reading this, dont assume i am a jealous best friend, yes i have my bitter moments but in the end i will always be happy for anyone else that is happy, as long as they are doing the right thing. my feelings still go up and down continuously like a rollercoaster and i try so hard to protect myself, but with a strong friendship like ours I cant. I feel like i should back off for a while just to help myself stay happy.
    I know if i do this i will feel a little relieved but at the same time still miss her so much. Plus real friends shouldnt have to back off from each other like that. With being single for two years its not easy to not try hard to find a significant other and i guess the same time since she makes me feel like a better person and always lets me be myself, its hard to not be attracted. I’m in a slump and have to hide my emotions a lot no matter how much i make things obvious. I’m too good of a friend to step in the way of anything. Any words of advice? feel free to share. Much love, thanks.

  • prashant December 27, 2013, 2:48 pm

    heyy hiiii……..
    I love her so much and missing her a lot ,she told me that she is also loving me so much but she never express her felling towards me she told me that you should deserve a better girl than me she always said that,she said that she wanted to meet me after 5 years coz she wants to do something in her life she even don’t talk to me
    but sometimes she calls me but a very little i’m very upset in her absence why did she wanted to do i’m totally confused. If she had any problem she can told me but she didn’t i thought that there is any problem in me that’s why she doing this….
    don’t know what to do ??????? :(

  • Kyle February 21, 2014, 12:52 am

    Missing someone can be a pain… especially after 2 years!
    This girl I miss kept asking to be friends, then making no effort to be friends, and treated me like I wasn’t worth the time of day. I told her where to go after she didn’t even bother with me over Christmas/New Year… some friend, huh?
    But now, for some reason, I miss her all the time.
    I saw her a month back looking directly at me looking miserable, didn’t go talk to her though… if she wanted to talk, I’d listen but I feel like this is not a two way street. I don’t owe her the first move.
    I’m a whole different, better person than I was two years ago, and it feels like they’re left over feelings from the chump I used to be. I’m making something of my life and feel my own worth, unlike back then, but still feel pain at the idea that she won’t ever be in my life again…

  • Sam February 25, 2014, 8:53 am

    I love a girl from Australia, when she lived in Ireland we had a love/hate relationship for 3 years. We fought a lot, but we had the most random moments. She was my first love. After 5 years I went out with two girls, who didn’t come close to making me laugh like she did. So recently went to see her and my feelings haven’t changed. But she kept calling me buddy, an I thought she didn’t have feelings for me.. also she went to see her ex one night, so like all Irish men I got the drink into me, and went to the bar where she worked. I kept sinking shots into me, enjoying a holiday after all why not. Then some guy an a couple of girls were like come back with us, I was hesitant but I did go back, the girl kissed me outside the bar an we all jumped in a taxi. Then I went back to a house party an thought oh no what have I done, so I pretended I was a closet homosexual and didn’t sleep or touch anyone. So the next day I woke up to find kids jumping all over me calling me a leprechaun, and I give them my pot’a gold (dollar coins) to point me in the direction of where to get home. So I went back, an she give me a bit of stick, like she didn’t care, but after that we did sleep together an her feelings grew strong, as mine did also. Then she asked me around a week later if anything happened that night at the bar, and I swore nothing did… I couldn’t jeprodize a kiss for what we had… yep I’m a plonker! But we went on an lay under the stars on my last night and laughed till the sun came up. Then we cried are eyes out an she said that’s it, I’m coming to Ireland to see you. So we started saving an talking every night, and things went so well. Then the girl that kiss me, came into the bar when she was working and was asked if anything happened. She replied yeah we kissed. So I got a text ending it all, I apologized for lying, and crushing us. So I tried so hard to pick myself up, but that’s far from what’s happened, I’ve lost my job, I’ll eat a potato or an orange in a day, I dream about her when I sleep an then wake up an stay awake an think of her. I can’t talk to anyone because they say things that don’t help. I just want her to understand that I I’m a trusting loyal man I will love her the rest of my life. She is my first love, and only. I have wrote a letter and if I get nothing back, I really don’t know how to fix myself. Everyone i know is settling down and having kids, they don’t understand because when they leave I’m still here, dwelling and thinking of the hurt I’ve caused. I don’t think anyone can fix this but her.

  • yoga March 26, 2014, 8:23 pm

    Hie…this is yoga..F.age 18 …..at the age of 18 when we love someone …people say. Its not love its infatuation…..but i dont think it is….i loved a guy we were in a long distance relationship..we broke due to some personal reasons..now it has been 3 years i still miss him i care for him….i remember all those good and bad times we had spent with each other…and suddenly when i stop thinking….he comes back and chats with me …..till the time he starts feeling helpless that we cant be together….and then all of a sudden vanishes from my contact….whats ds..??…then i become helpless too…i know its very stupid…when u know something which is never gonna happen again..why do u still remember those memories and think why are we not together.?…i noe he still loves me and sometimes i feel i still love him too…he wants me back mam…he has confssed it too but what about those things which he had done to me….i am confused i reli dont want him….but he has become my weak point and i wanna overcome my fear my weakness…. what should i do.??…sometimes we know evrythng like whats good ,what is bad for us….but still we just cant do nythng about it….:(

  • Shubhi May 3, 2014, 2:49 pm

    Yep….v tru lines….

  • pheaqah May 7, 2014, 3:46 pm

    hello .. I really miss someone that I met for the first time .. he was a dentist .. he really took care about me .. everytime I miss the last moment we’re together .. he always make joke n keep make me laugh with his funny joke .. is it he love me or just want to be friend with me ?? I’m confuse rigth niw and need your advice .. TQ ..

    • Ruchi May 8, 2014, 8:03 pm

      Hey Pheaqah,
      He might be just caring and friendly person. Wait for few more clues like his body language or he ask you to spend more time with him. If he is in love he will surely give you hints. And if you can’t wait, just go and ask. Make sure you ask normally while you are talking to him and if he just want to keep you in friend zone then don’t get pushy and try to stay normal.

  • lisa May 22, 2014, 11:11 pm

    I do miss this guy..I don’t know why..he’s the first person I think about, when I wake up..n the last person I think about before I go to bed..I get butterflies in my stomach..my heart races..I do see him..n I tell him i miss him..he says the same..I’m scared if I tell him I love him,,will I run him away?? Hate to seem so forward..advice plz..

  • abhishek naik September 7, 2014, 7:28 pm

    well said Ashish…………my feelings are exactly the same . it is both pain and happiness . yes it can happen in the initial phases when nothing has happened and still many things to be unfold .

  • Choco September 9, 2014, 8:36 pm

    Recently, I started notice this guy. Its about a month. He is somewhere very near me because we works on the same level in the shopping mall. Every time he walk past my workplace, I will glance at him. One day, he finally looked at me and he smiled to me. I was overjoyed. After that day, every time he walk past we will wave to each other, smile or say hello. One day, my colleague decided to help me ask for his contacts. And he really give it to us. He also knows that actually I am the one who wanted his contacts and not my colleague. We chatted on the Facebook very often about personal dreams, life, work.. everything except relationship matters, even up to midnight time. However, i didn’t mention that he currently has a girlfriend. I wanted to tell him so much that I like him since the beginning.. I wanted to tell him I miss him many times I am tempted to message him but I endure it and hold on.
    Do you think he knows that I like him? What should I do? I miss him so much……

    • Ruchi October 1, 2014, 12:09 pm

      Hey Choco,
      Chill!! I guess he likes you. So, tell him about your feelings. Hope for the best, may be he is into you and prepare for worst, he might say no. If you would be scared and won’t tell your feelings, you might regret it later. Go ahead. Best luck :)

  • Unpredictable life September 11, 2014, 12:59 pm

    Hi ruchi mam,i dnt knw u,but
    I just neede very urgent help
    M unable to control myself
    Plz,plz,Plz do rply me some one as soon as possible,
    I miss my friend,i am of 21 and she is of 26,
    I cant express evrything in words,some things r just un explainable for me
    We met in group of social activities,slowly we carried very deep n strong bonding in frndship
    We both shared our sorrws
    We talkd 2-3 hrs daily,we chat daily like anything,
    Her life was too upset,she hared her each n evry secret wid me as small brother,she had bro n sis but still she shared evrythng to me
    We fight almost evry alternate day,many time serious fights,but nthng seprated us.
    We both wer so cloese just like we know each other since decades,i knw her nature,her past herse’f her thinking verywell,n even i guess no one can take care of me as she took n no one can be attached me as her,i think of her each sec,n coz of her sorrows we r just emotionally attached with each other,she was just like a god gift to me,n i guess no other girl can treat me as her,even a day if we didnt talkd it was uncomfartable for us,n i just think is she ok,i saved her each n evry chats,we bonded as we know from childhood,she is the only frnd of my life so close,but now she is engaged,busy,n bounded with some limits…she was n she is my priority at top,n i was also,but now,m at very low prioroty to her,practically i knw evrythng,but my mind n heart cant bare this,were we talkd daily 2-3 hrs,now only 2-3 mins in 3 days,she,no chats,nothng,..i miss everythng.i die to c my screen blinkng wid her name as calling,even being online we cant chat,not more then how r u.its uneasy n very tough for me to control my self,
    I want evrything back,that talks,i wana hug her tightly but nthng is posible now,i pray hard fo her happiness but i m killied when i realize that m not her priority as before,she smiles but m not reason behind it any more,i cant concentrateon anythng,m very sensitive n my heart just cant stop paining,cryng alot,i just need her,i remember each n every moment we shared,just dying to talk to her,m totally alone,n i guess m lost,i want things which r not possible,still cant stop expectations n thoughts,we wer very similiar at nature n evythng,i did a lot for her,but now evrythng came to an end,n this change is killing me.N ther is no one who can understand me as she did,n i cant leave her coz she wont be able to bare it,she is hapy,so cant disturb her,m just blanck,what to do,some time i just think why we met,life was diff if we didnt met,now i am very habbitual to her n want her,but i m totally alone,just cants stop cryng n my brain nevr stops to rembring her,i just want to del my memories,or it will kill me,we shrd smal to big each n evrythng,but today she left me alone n ders noone to listen me.its just much more then i described ,need some help n advice.

    • Ruchi October 1, 2014, 12:33 pm

      Hey Sohil,

      You need to understand, few people come in your life, make you feel on the top of the world and leave. Bitter truth but it’s life. You can’t force anything or anyone. Life changes and you have to be strong to move on. She is committed to someone else now and seems happy in her own world, so stop bothering her.

      You really can’t force things to happen. You will only drive yourself crazy trying. At some point you have to let go and let what’s meant to be.

      There are a few articles on this blog which will help you to forget her and move on. Unless you make your mind that you have to press restart button in your life and start concentrating on other things in life, no one can help you.

      Everyone will give you advice but you need to take action. Keep yourself busy in your work, do something creative, follow your passion and try to help others. It will help you.

      • mansoor ali December 14, 2014, 7:16 pm

        Today I told to my teacher I miss u ……in return she scolded me…now I m totally confused…..

  • Rachel November 4, 2014, 9:32 am

    Miss my BF he is back home and I’m In US I really miss him so much but I don’t think we gonna make it to be together!

  • unberncheber standeziet November 20, 2014, 7:55 pm

    Hey guys
    I m in the same path where u all r in
    Even i have posted before my problem..but today when i saw ur all i realized this is the same problem with everyone in this world
    I m almost not alive m just breathing coz due to some reasons since many long time
    A fight between me n my frnd carried so deep that today
    We r not talking since so many days nor even single text..m feeling like hell cant eat cant sleep cant concentrate on any thing…she was n she is everything for me..more then my gf,but i am nothing today for her…there was not a day we didnt talk n today its just like we even dnt remember when last we talkd n i cant accept this change
    But she is happy n even dnt realize any thing n dont miss me n dsnt care for it any more
    I did everything more then i can for her…but now dead..i m just lost
    Just cry cry cry…and queation that y we met..

    I just wanna thank u all who posted here there problems n situations coz of which i realized that i am not alone to be alone…definately we all r missing that our one speciall frnd…but here u me n evryone r just a strangers frnds…
    I just want to thank each n everyone who posted here…coz of u all i feel m not alone at all..
    Surely it will not stop my tears but for while it will make me realize that i have a huge bunch of unkown freinds..help me if u can n plz b always there when i need…
    I guess sharing is best medecine to heal our injuries of heart so if any one wanna share some thing here or with me u r most welcome coz v all r walking on same road of deep lonliness…may god bless u all n give super strenght to face this all…

  • john December 6, 2014, 9:20 am

    Dear Ruchi
    i have a dilemma – i love my girl every much and miss here a lot.. one day she says i dont miss you and and why should i miss you… this troubled me…is that when in love we miss that person or not?…your article helped to strengthen me i showed her your work. Kindly you can address me more.


  • ruchi January 10, 2015, 5:07 pm

    If you dont like someone why you miss that persone why???? And you never talk to him and you still misss him why why???????????????????
    And you never see him, nevrr talk to him but why he s still in your mind please please reply me please…….. ???”??????????????????

    • brown January 27, 2015, 3:52 pm

      He might feel the same way about you. Did you both shared some memorable moments when you are together? Maybe he is the one you are looking for a longtime coz you feel that he cares for you and like you maybe both of you found love and each of you will make both of you complete. Try to be close to him and communicate or date.

  • Aarzoo January 18, 2015, 10:46 pm

    Hi Ruchi!
    I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and months with my boyfriend. We both were really happy and satisfied with each other. Due to some reason unfortunately I lost my trust, and he became so rude, harsh and ignoring towards me. And certainly he ended our relationship now. I just can’t stop missing him and the memories we spent together. We often had decided to get married next year but now everything is ruined. Please tell me what should I do while he doesn’t even want to listen me.


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