How to Stop Feeling Jealous

How to Stop Feeling Jealous

Jealousy is the worst and useless feeling, which we all must avoid to stay happy and make others happy. It becomes very hard to save your relationship when the feeling of jealousy takes place.  We are brought up in a society where  jealousy seems to be a natural emotion, but it’s not. It’s draining and bring us a of negativity around you. As a child, we were not much aware of this feeling, but gradually get caught up in an environment where we need constant need of approval from our friends or family to be likable. When we feel that others are getting praised, the feeling of jealousy starts, which is due to lack of self-worth. There are also a few other reasons because of which people start feeling jealous.

Here are a few reasons because of which people start feeling jealous:

1. Suffering from inferiority complex

2. Suspicious thoughts about your partner, boss, family members

3. Sad or feeling hurt.

4. Fear of losing someone or something

Here are some simple ways to cope up with the  feeling of jealousy:

1. Get confidence: Main reason of being jealous is low self esteem. Thus, you need to stop feeling insecure about yourself. Never think that other is better than you, everyone has some or other qualities, and it’s useless to compare with others. Always try to be positive about yourself and if you really think that you need to improve on something, try to achieve it. But, never get negative about yourself.

2. Trust other: Jealousy ruins every relation. If you think your friend will be with someone else, who is better than you then you are need to change your thinking. Trust your friend, no one is going to leave you because you lack in anything which others have.

3. Communicate: If you think that you are developing a feeling of jealousy because of any reason, the best solution is to talk about it with your friend. You might be thinking in extremes, thus instead of thinking so much without reason it is always better to discuss your feelings. This will help you to gain confidence and you will take things positively. But while communicating, you should never be biased and ready to accept your faults positively.

4. Be Positive: When we feel jealous, we start thinking in extremes. You should never assume that other is luckier to have something which you don’t have, other have lots of other problems which you don’t have. Think twice before making any conclusions. You will find that you are luckier than other people, with whom you are jealous. Be positive and keep yourself motivated towards that person/thing. Better to pay attention on your goals, instead of what others have achieved in life.

5. Stop Comparing: This is the best solution. Once you will stop comparing your life with others, you will never get the feeling of jealousy. Once you will start comparing with others, same moment you will start losing self –confidence. You will only think negatively about yourself and start ruining your relations. As soon as you start comparing with others, you need to stop that thread and think about positive things you have in you. This will surely help you to stop feeling jealous.

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  • Arafat Hossain Piyada February 2, 2010, 8:06 pm

    Comparing two people is a thought which I hate most and as you said it create distance.

    Thanks for this decent tips to improve our relationship by dealing Jealousy.
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    • ruchi February 3, 2010, 9:26 am

      Comparing is major cause of ruining any relations.
      Glad you like the post.

  • blinkky February 3, 2010, 9:54 am

    For me, I just thinking positive about others…That’s really help =)
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    • ruchi February 9, 2010, 9:55 am

      If you are positive about others, you never face any relationship problem . 🙂

  • sudharsan @ technoskillonline February 3, 2010, 12:43 pm

    Yoga and meditation is a excellent solution for this problems…

    • ruchi February 9, 2010, 9:56 am

      Yeah, if you do it regularly.

  • Saif February 3, 2010, 12:47 pm

    Nice post , constant communication is most important in long distance relationship

    • ruchi February 9, 2010, 9:57 am

      Yeah Saif, Only thing which can save a long distance relation is communication.

  • Marlene February 5, 2010, 2:45 am

    I think jealousy is a feeling that’s within everyone of us, but only the degree matters. Others can kill because of jealousy, while others can handle it good.

    Of the ways you mentioned, I go definitely for communication, though others I guarantee are helpful, too, to cope up jealousy.
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    • ruchi February 9, 2010, 9:58 am

      Even I prefer Communication.

  • Premium WP Themes February 7, 2010, 7:02 pm

    True said. jealousy really spoils the relations. Many couples get separated by jealous on each other.
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    • ruchi February 9, 2010, 9:58 am

      Jealousy is very natural feeling, but you must know where you have to control yourself and save relationship.

  • Robin February 14, 2010, 1:39 am

    Meditation is the powerful way i prefer. 🙂

    i am so jealous after reading this article.. 🙂 because this is my first time visit to this blog.

    Great writing !
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  • shekhar sahu February 14, 2010, 2:46 pm

    completion brings jealousy 🙁

  • Edward March 16, 2013, 6:02 am

    i love my girl so much but the thing is I’m so afraid to catch her with another man… my heart is so fragile ..dont know if i can handle it if such a scenario ever that, i prefer to call her whenever i want to pay her visit so she could sort herself out.. i’m taking this precaution because i dont want to hurt myself…i dont know if something is wrong with me…or is this thought only happening to me.


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