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Falling in Love with Someone You Can’t Have

Falling in Love with Someone You Can’t Have

Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.

>The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.

falling in love with someone you can't have

Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach has kept on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to the fullest.

How to be in love when another person when another person don’t love you back:

  • Think in a positive way:

If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for five days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.

  • Expectations:

True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?

If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and takes relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings, and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.

  • Don’t force them to love you:

The main reason for not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone has their choice, and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.

The day you will stop crying for your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then waits for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.

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But yes, the best advice would move on. Life is short, and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead, find someone special, who completes you.

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  • sheila October 31, 2014, 7:01 am

    I’ve had instances through my life of falling for people who were either not attracted to me or already taken…which is ok. It did cause some pain but I feel I did grow as a person. And I have managed to stay friends with them. More recently I have made a friend on a dating site and we have decided to be pen pals. Seems we have mutual attraction and can spend hours emailing back and forth. I sort of sense myself beginning to experience feelings beyond that of friendship but as I’ve come to know her better have discovered no matter how we each feel about each other it is an impossible situation. Not simply b/c we live half a world apart…she has anthropophobia caused by a traumatic brain injury obtained in an accident and cannot tolerate any face to face interaction with other people including close family. I enjoy emailing back and forth but want to be careful about letting myself get to emotionally involved when any relationship beyond email is likely impossible…the heart has reasons which reason doesn’t know however…it was only by chance that we met and i wonder why someone like this would be drawn into my life?

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  • preet November 6, 2014, 2:11 pm

    hey plz help me … I don’t no wt to do ..I don’t wanna live… I love a guy nd he also does bt he is from diff. caste he is a hindu nd m getting engaged in December with some another person … no one in my fmly knws about my feelings. ..nd I knw they will never understand my feelings …they”ll kill me … m just 17 now … I wanna live my lyf … btt….. m helpless. .. my fmly is really loving ..the guy with whom m getting engaged also loves me alottt …bt I love sme another ..I can’t forget him…can’t live without him……I wanna die….noone understand bt m living in a hell even I have every facility bttttt I don’t have my own future ..my own lyf

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    • Tracy January 16, 2015, 10:59 pm

      Preet, I hope this reply reaches you. I am in America, and have not grown up with the caste system. Therefore, I don’t understand it and see it as nonsense. Every person alive is made in God’s image, (however you define God) and we deserve life, liberty, love and happiness. There is no “Dalit” – this is an illusion. No untouchables, no upper caste, no lower caste. This is ALL ILLUSION caused by mankind’s slumber. We need to wake up and see that we are all ONE BIG FAMILY of planet earth. So if you and he love each other… there is only one question. Is this Love strong enough to embolden you to take a stand and declare you do not want the engagement your parents have arranged, but instead, you want to follow your heart? You CAN do this. It is just not the norm. You are not a prisoner, you have the open door and no chains are holding you back from declaring your Truth. It is not without cost, you may be misunderstood, or worse… but times are changing. The world is waking up and seeing that Love is Love, no matter what. I am praying for you now, my dear sister. Namaste, Love and Light.

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  • BW November 8, 2014, 5:31 am

    I met this dude and we really hit it off the first night we hung out and everyday for almost 2 months were were hanging out or going out . One day the L word came out of my mouth idk why.. but something happened and he’s actingreally mean to me he won’t call or txt. He said the other day he cares for me and has feelings or had but I feel like he is hiding his real feelings. I can’t stop thinking about him and I miss him like crazy. I felt so happy when I was around him and the care he showed and the affection he gave.
    Idk what he might be feeling or anything
    cus he said one time he had strong feelings and then were at this point??..

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  • karan November 10, 2014, 9:19 pm

    Hey Ruchi,
    I wanted to get marry with a good character girl n just bcz of it i dont have any girlfreind. What should i do ?? And if i am looking for such girl would i really get fall in love with her.
    And even i am not getting single girl lol……

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    • Ruchi January 15, 2015, 7:57 pm

      Hey Karan,

      It’s tough job these days to get good girl :P.
      On serious note, hang out with friends and get in touch with new people. You can join new hobby club/class where you can find girls having same interest as you. Lastly, if you can’t find single girl then tell your parents for arrange marriage. Best luck :)

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  • sam November 11, 2014, 12:39 am

    i love a girl in my college..she is beautiful and cute…i m in 2nd yr while she’s in 3 rd yr…i haven’t proposed her yet..i feel like dying without her…plzz tell me what to do ..bcuz if she will leave d collg after her 4th yr..i wouldn’t be able to handle that..plzzz help me..i m not able to concentrate on anything..i always think about her by seeing her photographs…it feels that she is everything to me..plzz help..

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  • Paul December 6, 2014, 12:10 pm

    My situation is.. There is a girl.. i used to like her.. now we are in a relationship.. she loves me like hell… but.. gradually i realized , i don’t love her.. it was just an infatuation .. but I really want to love her… i want to fall in love with her..
    i don’t knw what n how to do.. if u guys can help… please

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  • Aaron December 13, 2014, 12:22 am

    I’m in love with a girl, but betrothed to another. The girl I love recently ended her relationship with me. When I confronted her, she said I didn’t do anything wrong, and there was nothing wrong with us. I love her so much am willing to break my betrothal. She says she still loves me but she doesn’t want to anymore. Most of the time I see her or spend time with her, I end up crying cuz I can’t get her to love me. What should I do?

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  • Alex December 16, 2014, 4:14 am

    hey… i had a dream my best friends boyfriend who is also my best friend confessed to me… after he confessed i didnt know what to say but what scares me is that i didnt say no, we talked in this dream and i gave him millions of reasons he cant love me but when he said he would end the relationship with her i was happy and i think that makes me a bad fried… the next day after i had this dream (which was beyond realistic, really i mean it) i told my friends about it. not about me loving them but an imaginary person.. and they believed it… any way i asked them to let me barrow there phone so i can see what it meant but they told me it meant i was in love with him and wishes he would confess to me your heart knows it but your mind doesnt they said… i freaked out… after they left to go to class my next period was gym so we had to run and after running i felt calmer. i dont know whats what anymore… do you think i love him?

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  • Rohit December 18, 2014, 5:20 am

    Pain , painful people everywhere. Loads of pain.the pain of one sided love , the pain of losing your love , the pain of dying everyday bcoz you love her more than anything in this world. And only thing that keeps Me Alive is ” I Am Not Alone” may god bless all the souls.

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  • vivek December 30, 2014, 9:24 am

    i love a girl more than that anyone can love , i know her from my childhood. she lives near my house but i was shifted to another city 4 years ago however i visit there , i talked her when i was living there she knew me but now i want to make her my girlfriend.

    i have a true love with her but whenever she comes near me i am not able to speak anything actually there is less chances of our meeting

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  • chetna juneja December 31, 2014, 11:23 pm

    yr wat shud i do if boy is not even intrsd to listen my flngs… he even dont want to talk to me it really hurts me yr.. plz tell me something.. he told me nt to msg him…

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  • myself January 7, 2015, 10:56 pm

    Hey ruchi, im doing engineerin…& I hv a friend of my clg itself but 2 years older to me….I like him or love him im still not able to judge….we r good frnds from past 2 years…actually we both r our class toppers so we will be getting projects together to do….soin dis way we started meeting each other. …now I think im really crazy abt him…but I dont know whether he likes me or not…sm times he behaves like he likes me & cares for me soo much & smtimes I dont understand his reactions towards me….but im really crazy & much crazy abt him…many times I made my mind to forget him bez it may effect my studies. ..but im not able to forget all dese things….so plz plz hlp me….show me d way further wat should I do??? Plz do reply…

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    • Ruchi January 15, 2015, 7:45 pm

      Hey,
      If he is giving you mixed feelings then why don’t you ask him? You both spend time together, I am sure there would be many chances to know what he feels about you. Best luck :)

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  • Justin January 14, 2015, 12:09 am

    So I’ve loved my best friend for the past 10 years. I never really pursued it because I never wanted to push her away. Recently I tried to pursue it, and I think I actually did push her away. how do I fix it without seeming too pushy?

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  • silentwatch January 19, 2015, 1:13 am

    hi.. i am one of those who still dont know to be sad or happy
    i love this girl.. i know she is not available and still she is the only thing i can imagine whole day.
    I want to be with her always talking with her having fun and touching..
    sometimes things seems pretty good and many times the whole thing seems favouring it
    i am getting my share of happiness and attention but still not feel it is enough

    :(
    feels so jealous when she is talking with somebody .. not just talking when somebody makes her smile

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  • myself January 19, 2015, 4:36 pm

    Tysm ruchi for ur advice
    ..I really hope it will help me…but one problem is dat I cant even think of asking him as u said….im a shy kind of girl…so its really difficult for me to ask him….can u give me sm tips how to get to know whether he likes me too…or if he likes me y he dosnt express him feelings instead of give giving mixed feelings? ? Plz do reply.
    …guys if any one can help me by commenting on my post plz do so….

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  • Gugu January 30, 2015, 10:04 pm

    Hi

    I fell inlove with this guy at the day of my wedding, we got a chance to be together when I divorced my husband for 3 months, he could not spend time with me, he always had an excuse. then eventually told me we should let this go. I truly love him even now he said we can be friends but not so long ago I sent him an sms I told him I can never be friends with the one I love because I will be giving myself false hope so lets rather pretend we never knew each other we will be fine if we meet again but lets stop talking and pretending to be friends when we know how we feel for each other. he told my friends he loves me but cannot be with me.

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  • elle February 6, 2015, 9:37 pm

    I just don’t really get it,Why love is so unfair? It hurts so much to fall inlove with a friend, and that friend of yours is inlove with another person..

    It really kills me deep inside..

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  • animesh February 8, 2015, 2:05 am

    I have always wanted her happiness over mine….but it hurts when she talks about the guy she likes…. it really hurts…it feels as if I have no reason to live anymore…..

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  • meh February 14, 2015, 4:12 am

    I am in love with a girl, but it seems that my best friend likes her and she likes him too. I gave up thinking about her and decided to move forward. What I can’t understand, is that this kind of problem happens to me often. I mean, I like a girl, and after 3-4 months my friends are with her.. this is the 3rd case that happend to me. Why?:(

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  • Rockstar February 14, 2015, 8:15 pm

    hey, will u help me with what i am undergoing, actually i like a girl very much and i don’t know weather its love or something, i din’t even speak to her. still i think i like her. and i always keep dreaming abt her get diverted while studying. and even ma heart pounds very much when i start thinking of her.
    and she is commited with someone eles. so i wll be happy if u help me wid this

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  • jay February 15, 2015, 3:20 am

    the exact same case is with me too. i want to share it but its gonna be long. i love a girl. we we’re in school together, she had to move to another city so we got separated at that time i was in 8th standard(2006).
    we got in touch again through whatsapp in 10th of may 2012 and on aug 27 2012, i realized that i fell in love with her because she told me about the guy she was attracted to and she told me that she was going to propose her and i cried for two days. after a month i told her that i had feelings for her but it was too late, at that time we were too close, i mean we were more than best friends we called ourselves besharam best friends forever. we almost talked on phone each day atleast for 3-4 hour. we had countless calls, countless messages countless whatsapp chats i used to tell her that it doesn’t matter that you love me or not, i will always love you whether you love me or not, even if you hate me or want to kill me. my love is unconditional, our relationship grown strong by the time, she used to cry for me sometimes, we took vows that no matter what happens we would be friends forever, i never wanted any physical relationship or anything, even i helped her to get back her bf when they used to have a fight, yup, it hurted me alot more than alot when i saw her with someone else, but even after seeing her with someone else i don’t know why did i love her so much, i never had any complaint. sometimes i used to get possessive and acted weirdly but after all i loved her. sometimes she used to call and the first sentence i used to hear that “Jay, tu kabhi chhor ke to nahi jayega na jay(crying), Jay promise me kasam kha meri ke u will never ever go away, i used to say mai mar na jau aisa din dekhne se pehle.

    so we loved we laughed, we had masti we had fun, we abused each other like hell, we used to make vulgar songs for persons we dont like, we knew everything about each other then in september 2014 she broken up with her bf, i helped her in getting over him and i was a little bit happy that now there might be a chance that she falls in love with me but that was my wrong guess, she found a guy again in november 2014 and i was broken i started fighting with her, behaved weirdly i used to get too much possessive, i started tracking her as i was becoming more possessive day by day, i started annoying her and one day i created a drama that i wanted to meet her for the last time and after that i was about to leave this world(suicide, this was just to make her emotional), but it went wrong and it went freaking wrong and i scared her to the point of hell and she left me said ke jay u mar gaya mere liye, i knew that what she was saying was to keep me safe because she never wanted me to get hurt so she decided to leave me for the good. but she said “jay mujhe maaf kar dena, samajhna meri feelings ko, aisa karna padh raha hai, i m sorry, you know how much mean to me but i cant be with you anymore”. i contentiously cried because i wasn’t even able to survive for 4 hours, i cried like hell, i started believing in god i went to temple, spend my whole days there praying, i ate nothing except milk and bread for 5 days, i was not able to sleep nor was eating, but my endless prayers and faith worked and i she called me on 6th days and she started talking with me normally, it took almost a month and we were back on the track in december we started talking more we were more close, she swear on her bhaiya that she wont leave me.

    now 4 days ago i did something silly again( I don’t want to go in the details) and she decided to be away from me she said that ke ab hum bhtt kum baat karenge, now i am in the same condition crying like a baby without toys. praying and praying and praying, cant eat, cant sleep cant focus on anything.
    yup, she talks in the morning for half an hour then she stops suddenly and dont reply me for whole day. its happening since we had that fight, she comes in the morning she talks a little bit and she goes back, i still know that she for me, and i still love her, more than i ever done, i love her more, i will love her, i don’t want anything from her side not even love, i know she is not with me, she has blocked me from her face book so i deleted my fb permanently, today is 15-feb-2015, its 3:09 AM and i am not able to sleep, i am crying continuously while writing this post. but i am loving her more with each passing moment, i went veg from non veg i left all of my desires, i dont even look at other girl. everyday she comes to whatsapp talks with me just like she is checking on me dat i am okay or not but she never shows that, she know i cant live without her thats why she comes and talks with me, once she said that ” jitna pyaar tune mujhe kiya hai and karta hai na uska 15% bhi koi nahi kar sakta,) once she cried like hell and while crying she said that “jay i want to love you too but i dont know whats wrong with me that i am not able to generate any feelings for you i dont know why so please forgive me and stop crying, i cant see you cry jay, i dont want to see you get hurt.

    now today, i am still missing her crying, i already have decided that no matter what happens i am going to be with her whether she talks with me or not, i will be on the distance of a call, i still love her and i will love her, even after my death, i dont know what happens after death, but i will look after her even after my death if it possible. i l love her truly madly deeply. i dont know what to do or what to say more i just dont want to stop typing. i want to get her back on the track i want her back as my friend. i dont want anything from her bas uska sath chahiye bas vo calls messages vo talks vo masti vapas chahiye. can anyone suggest me what i should do. if anyone is going to say that dude, she doesnt deserve you, leave her and move on, please please dont comment at all, i know its rude but please its a humble request because i will never give up on her even if she wants to kill me. so can anyone tell me that what should i do, i have tried every possible way to get her back but she is not saying anything.
    please help me.

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  • kent February 18, 2015, 5:39 pm

    I am marred and live with my wife’s sisters,We having been going out for a sometime now and It started not long ago but its now very had for us to be apart or far from each other,I love her so much and she loves me to she has tried loving someone out there and it dose not work acorrding to her she tells me that men out there dont know how to love her like I do,Help me I need to end this now or i will lose both her and her sister who is my wife

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  • rahul February 23, 2015, 12:56 am

    I love someone from the last 8 year … nd she know about that…. I hve never propose her face to face…but she is in my class nd she know that I love her very much …I jst can’t survive for a second if I won’t talk to her .. she is a very simple nd sweet girl ..or you can say a fully parents lover..respective girl…. she don’t wana to come in relationship…nd she already told me on facebook that she don’t love me .. nd I hve no problem with that…but I want her in my life as well because I knw that she won’t get lover like me..who understand her very well…ya sometym misunderstanding ho jate hai….nd fights too..but being a human its a part of life that everyone makes mistakes…as no one is perfect….so the problem is this that she don’t want any type of relationship with me right now… jst as a friend…. nd aftr completion of both study she said she will think over it…when I hve the job….now the problem is every day I m get hurted very easily by little talk as well… the problem is I expect very much from her…. I knw if I love her truely then I have to keep the expectation away from myself…but I can’t … tell me what to do….how to concentrate on my study … how to b happy with her by just friend…. :(

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  • Trayanti March 5, 2015, 6:16 pm

    I love a guy who is my best friend in my college,he does not know the matter…and he is already committed to an another girl for 2 years…we r very close to each other,we talk personally like boyfriend girlfriend,but he always reminds me that I should not fall in love with him because he is already of an another girl…but sometimes he says many things that I feel he likes me…he shows his jealousy if i talk about any other guy,he tells that he often stares at me without any reason and also would like to be intimated with me..i am very confused that how should i tackle this matter….what should I do??

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  • amir March 12, 2015, 12:17 am

    I have a serious big problem which is eating my soul i love some one whom is an actress its been 3 years that i love her but we are not in the same country and ages what should i do im dying i thought of killing my self once maby thats the only way

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  • xyz March 15, 2015, 11:58 pm

    hey animesh… i had same prblm tht u hv…u should accept whatever is going on and should enjoy ur life with ur frnds and family my bro….i know u love her so much….but why u r wasting ur life on her when she doesnt care about what u feel about her….so jst give it man and enjoy ur life… :) :)

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  • Akash March 17, 2015, 1:58 pm

    Ruchi,

    I have a bestfriend, we are together since 1.5years, but she considers me in the top priority in her life, she sees my word same as her mother’s . she developed strong love towards me then , i noticed, she just said abt it, but she didnt proposed, she acted as a lover cum bestie since now. she loves me like anything, soon i fell for my bestie, i thought of saying her my feeling towards her, unfortunately she said she did have feelings for me, but she dont have now, and she added her parents see us as besties only, so she dont want to disrespect them, and said that she dont want me as a boyfriend, actually i got courage to say my love when she said, am fir for her as a husband and everythng, but now she says like this… i strongly need her, i know she too feel the same, but something is stopping her , what shall i do ?? she s keeping me away for somedays, please help me i do need to have her ..

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  • Akash March 17, 2015, 1:59 pm

    Ruchi,

    I have a bestfriend, we are together since 1.5years, but she considers me in the top priority in her life, she sees my word same as her mother’s . she developed strong love towards me then , i noticed, she just said abt it, but she didnt proposed, she acted as a lover cum bestie since now. she loves me like anything, soon i fell for my bestie, i thought of saying her my feeling towards her, unfortunately she said she did have feelings for me, but she dont have now, and she added her parents see us as besties only, so she dont want to disrespect them, and said that she dont want me as a boyfriend, actually i got courage to say my love when she said, am fir for her as a husband and everythng, but now she says like this… i strongly need her, i know she too feel the same, but something is stopping her , what shall i do ?? she s keeping me away for somedays, please help me i do need to have her..

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  • Akash March 18, 2015, 9:03 am

    Ruchi,

    I have a bestfriend, we are together since 1.5years, but she considers me in the top priority in her life, she sees my word same as her mother’s . she developed strong love towards me then , i noticed, she just said abt it, but she didnt proposed, she acted as a lover cum bestie since now. she loves me like anything, soon i fell for my bestie, i thought of saying her my feeling towards her, unfortunately she said she did have feelings for me, but she dont have now, and she added her parents see us as besties only, so she dont want to disrespect them, and said that she dont want me as a boyfriend, actually i got courage to say my love when she said, am fir for her as a husband and everythng, but now she says like this… i strongly need her, i know she too feel the same, but something is stopping her , what shall i do ?? she s keeping me away for somedays, please help me i do need to have her .. . .

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  • SuShMiThA March 21, 2015, 8:22 pm

    I am loving one guy but evenone I told me about myive matter but he told that its just attraction evenone I HV attraction on u then I left talking about that matter with him but he chat with him like my lover itself he tells me that I like u I wanna kiss u but y don’t he accept my love p/zzzzz give me suggestion about this I am totally confused…. :(

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  • shaniah March 24, 2015, 2:07 am

    Hi I’m 16 years old, I have fallen in love with a man. We both know the situation is bad and that we cannot be together. People may think that its just puppy love because I’m still young but its a lot more than that. I love this man with all my heart and soul. He makes me laugh smile. Just being around him makes me life seem so much easier he’s been in my life through all the hard and good times. Buy sadly he has a family. We didn’t mean for our feelings for eachother to happen we just vibed and connected!! Our connection is amazing. But I feel terrible because I love him so much but I cannot have him he belongs to his family I want him to love them not me but then again I feel like I need him all the time. He means a lot to me and I’m here for him whenever. Its not about any type of sexual attraction between us its just the connection we have that makes us closer. I miss him but I know he’s not for me. But sometimes I feel like everything happens for a reason

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  • 1994 March 27, 2015, 11:05 pm

    Recently I have fallin in love with this girl, we talked everynight, slept on the phone, talked on skype, just everything was perfect until a few days ago when i told her i was in love with her and she didnt feel the same. It hurt and sorta still does, lastnight she told me we had to stop calling each other babe and a bunch of other things, i agreed because i understood what ahe wanted, long distance relationships aren’t cut out for everyone and niether is online dating which is how we met. But im glad it was her i fell in love with she was most def worth it.

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  • stef March 29, 2015, 10:53 am

    The thing is,i met this guy a year ago,after just coming in the states,i immediately attracted to,at first moment he was totally honest with me,he told me he and his kids mom are still together but shes in another country, because of that i told him i just wanted us to be friends .As times goes by we started having strong feelings for each other,,,im so jealous of him,i cant even stand him talking to his kids mother.I know he loves me and i do too,but i think i’m wasting my time, he has some plans for me,but i think hes just telling me that so he won’t lose me….now I’m trying to get over him and i can’t, it hurts so bad.i really want to be with him but i believe he wont ever disrespect his kids mother by leaving her and that cause me to get really frustrated with him,i don’t know if he knows that’s why I’m always so angry at him,he said he wants to be with me and i see it,but he just won’t let her go….please tell me what to do.

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    • Mystery lover April 7, 2015, 9:38 am

      Don’t dont just give up u have to keep on trying God has plans for u idk what they are but he doesn’t amazing plans just only if u give up it’ll get worst so just keep trying Ik he has faith in u and so do I youll be in my prayers….till then keep trying and express how u feel to him

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    • sandy April 8, 2015, 2:31 am

      I am in a similar situation and remember his kids mom will always be in the picture and it will be hard. My suggestion is to let go gradually and start dating. Try not to get close to anyone keep your distance .
      I started saying u are a red flag when I hear baby momma if the child is not a teenager or a grown up child I will not deal with men with small children just how I feel.

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  • Aki March 31, 2015, 2:24 pm

    Hi Ruchi,

    I am in love with a girl in my office who recently joined a month ago. She is very nice frnd of mine & i knew that she is going to be engaged soon .We hang together& spend most of time in office roaming or chatting. But somehow after her engagement i don’t know what feeling start coming. I feel alone , i feel bit numb & cool whole day. I have also tried to explain my feeling in a normal manner that she matters to me a lot.I keep waiting for her msges, whatsapp , fb.Kind of caught up in love affair whereas shez cool & always cheerful. What to do? Help me out!

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    • Ruchi April 9, 2015, 9:28 pm

      Hey Aki,
      She is in a relationship whereas, you are feeling lonely after she got engaged because you used to spent a lot of time with her. It’s normal and gradually start making new friends and keep yourself busy in other things. Forgetting her will take time but you will cope up for sure.

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  • Neela April 3, 2015, 11:35 am

    Hi there,
    I have done the one sided love triangle – it hurts like crazy but what do you do – you have no choice but to move on and leave it to god I guess.

    It’s hard to find true love these days and when you do, it is hard to keep as people just want better and do not want to settle down – it’s just party party party .

    I wish there were genuine guys out there that want a serious relationship.

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  • stephanie April 5, 2015, 9:47 am

    What if he afraid of falling in love? He told me that I’m the closest to love he has ever gotten even though he doesn’t love me. I have know him for 5 years and my dad wouldn’t let us date. I tried moving on and never really liked let alone loved the other guys. Especially liked or loved them as I do devyn. I have deleted every picture of him or that reminded me of him and every song. I’ve unfollowed him from social networks and more. But I still haven’t got him out of my head. I have gone out with friends to have “fun” but never really did enjoy it. I avoided love movies and haven’t really listened to songs. I’ve been reading books to pass time but I still can’t get him out of my head. I sure as hell don’t force him to love me. And I don’t wish him to love me back. I just want him to be happy. But i don’t know what to do. I’ve done and tried everything else I’ve read and heard but no help at all. He is afraid of falling in love. He says I’m a good example of why. We live in Louisiana and soon I am moving to Maryland. He says that if he would have loved me then the pain he is feeling would be 10 times worse. He is worth sacrificing everything. I don’t know what to do. We haven’t been a couple. He has worked to hard for scholarships to give it up for me. I need answers please

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  • Mystery lover April 7, 2015, 9:33 am

    I am in love with someone that means so so so much to me I’ll do anything for him even take a Bullet he always says he just wants to remain single and crap but I just want to be with him…you think I haven’t already tried to move on well think again I did I tried everything to move on but it’s just too hard something about him just makes me feel like he’s the only boy on earth I am just in love with him and I can’t I just can’t tell him I love him because I know he doesn’t feel the same he doesn’t want to ruin anything well I don’t buy he’s the only one that I want to be with he drives my mind crazy! There’s not one day I go without thinking about him he’s not even the cutest boy or popular and I’m popular it’s not his looks or who he is it’s the way he makes me feel he can just look at me and smile and my mind goes off There’s nothing to do….

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  • Kendra April 7, 2015, 11:10 am

    I have developed feelings for someone that have drastically skyrocketed over the past six months. We dated about four months ago, but it felt very one sided, therefore I ended that. Recently, being that last month and a half or so, he has been very flirtatious and making every attempt he can to make me smile. He is also near me so much more often and very attentive when I talk to him. He tells others that he has interest in me but I do not want to risk my great feelings being crushed if I tell him that I like him more than he thinks I do. Help?!

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  • Guru February 18, 2015, 12:29 am

    Hi,
    I’m Guru.
    I love a girl and we are friends since past 4 years.
    I expressed my feelings to her, but she rejected me.
    She even didn’t look at me or talk to me.
    I really love her very much.
    Since past couple of days, due to her family problems she was crying and i approached to her. She then talked to me and also began to share her sorrows with me. What do i do now as i really her. Please suggest

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  • Guru February 18, 2015, 12:30 am

    I love a girl and we are friends since past 4 years.
    I expressed my feelings to her, but she rejected me.
    She even didn’t look at me or talk to me.
    I really love her very much.pm
    Since past couple of days, due to her family problems she was crying and i approached to her. She then talked to me and also began to share her sorrows with me. What do i do now as i really her. Please suggest

    Reply

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