Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you really feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse thing that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.
The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It really hurts sometimes and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it just a feeling and tough to get over it.
Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach is keep on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to fullest.
How to be in love when other person when other person don’t love you back:
- Think in positive way:
If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for 5 days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.
- Expectations:
True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?
If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and take relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.
- Don’t force them to love you:
The main reason of not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone have their own choice and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.
The day you will stop crying on your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then wait for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.
But yes, best advice would be move on. Life is short and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead find someone special, who completes you.
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I am Ruchi Parikh ( a.k.a Whiztechy). I have done my masters in computers and started blogging in 2009 and later joined ShoutMeLoud blog network as a Sr. Editor for CallingAllGeeks. I love tech blogging and started LetsTalkRelations to share my views on different aspects of relations...
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you are absolutely right in your point, i agree. we should not expect anything but then why some says : never hurt the one who loves you the most ?
and if the one who knows that we love them, why do they even try to hurt us ?
Hey Rahul, There are many people who love us but we can’t accepts everyone’s love. when we say no to the one who loves us,it automatically hurts him/her but we have not done it intentionally. The same way happens to us, if we love someone and he/she don’t love us back then we will feel hurt.
WE ARE HURTING OVER-SELF, NOT THAT PERSON.
What you said is right, but it comes under one side love. In another case it is hard to digest after knowing that the one whom we loves rejects us.
I like the way u present your points, just clean n clear … and also agree with your points 1) positive thinking 2) expectation 3) Don’t force them to love you.
“with force we can win over the person bt not on his heart”
I enjoyed ur post. keep posting.
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that is so true!
Yes you are rite, but practically its tough. Yeah this way we only hurt our-self not others and sometimes we loose a good friend in such situations.
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Yeah but before falling in love we can’t think so much..we even don’t notice when we fall in love. And if you have good understanding with that person, it won’t ruin your friendship for sure.
I agree with your point, you cannot force anybody to love you
and stop doing expectations 
Me & my gf are from differnet castes….my gf’s parents are very orthodox nd sumtimes dey slap her very hard on her little mistakes….nd we r 99% sure dat dey won’t agree on our marriage…also we won’t marry widout dere permission coz we both respect our parents…so plz help me in my problem….we love each other nd can’t live without each other…plz help me…
you are write, I agree with the points u have mentioned and I will follow it from further
Thanks, Thanks a lot
this is all true but you knw i wish it was wrong
I am in a relation with a guy from the last 5 years but since the last 1 year, I started feeling for another guy. The second guy in my life loves me a lot, but he is not ready to marry me due to some cast issues in his family. Now, I am in such a situation that I can leave everything for this person, but he is wants me to get settled with my previous boyfriend, who is unaware of all these things. What should I do?? Please suggest.
Hey Smita, when it comes to long term relations you should be transparent and never ever sail in two boats. Since you are in relation with a guy from 5 yrs, I would suggest you to be with him only and share with him whatever is going in your mind. I guess with second guy your relation is just because of attraction and not love. Sometimes we get bore with monotonous routine or relation and thus other people with different lifestyle and nature attracts us. And it shows clearly that other guy is not in mood to have a long term relation with you. Thus its better try to bring spark to your old relation. If you need to discuss more, you can contact me anytime. Wish you luck in your love life.
“True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?”
This is bullshit. More bullshit western pop psychology. In reality just like everything else. There is respect gain from mutual exchange. Giving and giving without end to others who do not care is not normal. There is no such thing as one way unconditional love. Perhaps women conform to this kind of madness. But for a man to give of himself is a big deal. To have that love taken for granted breeds anger. It’s that simple.
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