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Falling in Love with Someone You Can’t Have

Falling in Love with Someone You Can’t Have

Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.

>The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.

falling in love with someone you can't have

Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach has kept on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to the fullest.

How to be in love when another person when another person don’t love you back:

  • Think in a positive way:

If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for five days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.

  • Expectations:

True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?

If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and takes relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings, and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.

  • Don’t force them to love you:

The main reason for not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone has their choice, and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.

The day you will stop crying for your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then waits for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.

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But yes, the best advice would move on. Life is short, and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead, find someone special, who completes you.

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  • Jasmine November 4, 2015, 4:53 pm

    Hi ,it was really nice article about forbidden loves. I have this kind of experience but that’s some how different ,when we see each other is like that he loves me too but after leaving no news of him!this is really complicated and I don’t know what to do ?would you please help me?

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  • JaneDoe November 9, 2015, 2:16 pm

    Hi,

    I need urgent advise!!!! I’m happily marries (with its ups and downs)- 4 years now. have a 20 month old baby. Recently a contract worker in our office has been showing signs of interest, i warmed up to him. we have shares 2 hugs, i have told him something about him is driving me crazy. to the point i cannot get him out out my head. He is married and his wife is expecting their first baby. WHAT MUST I DO?? never been in a situation like this before. PLEASE HELP

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    • manish yadav January 8, 2016, 8:30 pm

      You should try and avoid the situation as it’s not going to help anyone. Probably you guys will end up betraying your own spouses which is not good for any relationship. secondly you mentioned her wife is expecting a baby imagine if she gets to know about all this situation would turn more critical and eventually effect her health too. So think from all perspective and make a wise decision

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  • Avu November 15, 2015, 12:30 am

    I met this guy and we both the same age (12). I met him last night on a school event we spoke and I fell in love with him but the thing is he said I should invite him on Facebook but I couldn’t find his profile and I don’t have anyway to contact him but there’s a friend of mine who knows him. I don’t know what to do…..I like this guy plz help

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  • Achala November 15, 2015, 5:55 pm

    Hi Ruchi,

    First of all I want to thank you for this great article.

    I am a 24 year old woman. So, there’s this guy at work who I find very intriguing. However, I never got to talk to him since he works in a different division and I do not have any mutual friends with him. Sometimes I find him secretly checking me out or trying to catch an eye without getting creepy. I am sure, there is lot of mutual attraction happening between us.
    But since we don’t have any friends in common, I don’t seem to understand how can I approach him. Moreover, its workplace, so we are supposed to behave professional especially towards those whom we personally don’t know. Given that we are both part of Indian society where its too easy to label a girl as “Despo”, I don’t really know what to do.
    These days I just can’t get him out of my head, and that has been bothering me a lot. What should I do?

    Thanks!

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  • Hina November 17, 2015, 3:39 am

    Hi Ruchi,
    I am right now in a dilemma, i have been together with a guy since like 6 plus months now and he doesnt want to lable us but tells me via his actions that he really likes me. We havent exchanged i love yous yet and i somehow feel like a fool as i feel i am falling for him. He is really genuine and what i feel is that if we wouldve wanted to cheat on me, he couldve done that easily even after being in a relationship with me and that is the only thing that stops me from letting him go. i feel attached to him now and i dont know how long should i wait for him to fall for me . i at times feel really happy with him as we both are really chilled out but at the same time there is still a void that persists. What should i do?

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    • Ruchi January 13, 2016, 2:46 pm

      Hey Hina,
      If this guy truly loves you, he would not be scared to commit and label your relationship. Talk to him about where relationship is going, because it’s not worth to keep thinking he loves you or not? It hurts more, if the person is taking relationship lightly.

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  • juan November 26, 2015, 11:21 am

    Everyone I have loved or love in my life is some on who is either not part of my life or they ar win love with someone else that’s a total of 5 girls in the spam on 9 years. I can’t deal with that anymore because I’m scared to be in love with anyone, just can’t take it anymore…

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  • Kids November 28, 2015, 10:27 pm

    I’m in love with this girl out of no where . The whole things started when I thought I like this girl A I wanted to court her and I’m a good friend of girl B . Both A and B were Best Friend . Girl B help me to get her and me and her slowly become Best Friend and I thought we were just Best Friend . She help me to get close with girlA and one day girl A finally went out with me but together with one of my Friend and girl B . After the whole trip , I suddenly feel like girl A is not the girl that I wanted but is girl B . Now someone likes girl B and the person is one of my Best Friend and I doesn’t know what to do . Please give some advice .

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  • Jane November 30, 2015, 3:03 am

    Hi im in need of some greattt advice right now i met the love of my life when i was 16 i had our child at 17 we was together until i was 20 we started falling apart he cheated on me with a 15 whom he is still with now i was so heart broken i tried to leave him alone he got committed to her in love with her i met someone knew who i ended up having 2 kids from i never seen it happening he showed me love when i needed it most and shit happened but i never stop loving my first love we were still having sex and going on about our life i try act like im ok with it cause ill do anything to have him in my presence but i want us back i want his heart back i dont know how to tell him or should i tell him cause he is deeply in love now its been killing me inside for almost 4 years i haven’t been happy i been trying to shake this its not happening i still love him the same he feels i had kids on him but we wasn’t together i want his heart back more than anything what do i do my heart won’t let me move on its been years im hurting bad

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  • Alok kumar December 1, 2015, 6:43 pm

    I love a girl from last 6 years but she just avoiding me I fell very embrassing she love another guy

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  • Vini December 5, 2015, 5:10 am

    actually friends ( to the unknowns)
    pls do pray for my relationship which i am seeking from 2yrs..
    I saw my dream guy through facebook..he was my cousin’s mutal friend , i gave him a request and fortunately he accepted me…
    i was studying at 9th at that time and he was doing his B.tech
    i use to chat with him first then only he will reply to me..
    we dont chat requarly or does he..
    I felt sad but that saddness was just lasted for 5mins..
    In July 19th 2013, i saw this guy through outside of my car as it was going so speed..
    i just told him that i saw u and he said ‘yea’ ..thats it..
    In April 12th 2014, he posted a share that ‘I STILL REMEMBER THE FIRST DAY I SAW U’. and this was the post.above that post, he wrote ‘through windows, saw you chose you, just like that’.
    I thought it would be me and i was happy and asked is it me who u described..
    He was like i have girlfriends who is working in a hosiptal near his place..I was heartbroken
    Told him i was in crush with u when the first i saw u
    he was like ‘u could have told me bfor’
    But at that time i was in complem about that..
    i USE to tell him now that i miss u
    but he asked why do i misss him
    and pls dont speak like that..
    I told frankly him now that
    ‘I told you , u r a special person for me.
    why dont u understand that..
    Okay i won’t tell nything i miss or nything.
    sorry
    we didnt see eachother
    we didnt talk
    we met in fb
    and there is no reason to miss u since i dont know or either u dont know me
    these r the thoughts which come up to ur mind
    and pls dont ever think its cuz of an infactuation or somethinelse i miss u
    innyum i wont say such things
    i took the shame.!
    and pls dont ever think i just said it for a timepass or for fun. If i really miss ap erson i do tell them.
    But thanks for teachin me not to tell to certain people’.

    that’s it..
    he didnt see the msg
    But am decided am not gonna chat unless he chat with me..but still guys i do love him..

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  • Parker December 5, 2015, 5:01 pm

    Hello Ruchi,
    I really need your help.
    There is this girl i have really fallen for and i think i love her and care about her a lot and sometimes we move like lovers but my problem is that, even though she understands me and she knows how much i care about her, she is committed to another guy before i met her but i really treat her my girlfriend and sometimes she could even say that she wish her guy was like me, i always buy her gift and even we could kiss, she even spend more with me than with her guy. but my big problem is that she always says that she love her guy and there’s no change for me and she try to says things that will push me away but i really love her and i want to be with her. please tell me what to do to make her my own…

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    • Ruchi January 13, 2016, 2:37 pm

      Hey Parker,
      If that girl loves another guy then she won’t ever kissed you. Sorry to say, but I guess she is just using you. You need to lose her, a good girl won’t ever cheat on someone she loves. It’s tough but time to move on.

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  • Josh December 8, 2015, 8:25 am

    I have a sad story to tell it might sound crazy but i found the love of my life in preschool we were best freinds untill 3rd grade even though we said we were boy freind and girlfriend we just matched from their we grew with one another for several years till awere first kiss in the same year her father passed and i had to move well a long story short its been 16 years now and we just ran into each other at a doller g both have been married and devorced but now she is remarried and hates him but wont ever leave because of their daughter and i cant tell her that my heart races over a text and to hear her voice kills me inside because im holding my sole back from the presapes of despair all iwant to do is hold her and tell her im here every thing will be ok. But i cant do that to her i cant have her choose between me and her family so i suffer in silence and cant even see another women becase i fill it in my heart that i cant love them like thay would deserve.

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  • Mo December 12, 2015, 5:21 pm

    Im a man in a lebesian relationship. The relationship they have is just a sex thing they was together for 2/half yrs..im in love with her n she have feelings for me but i cant get her away frm her…she in my life atleast 4days out of the week plus she babysits for me..how can i enjoy this love or should i stop everything and just b me again.

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  • Adun December 24, 2015, 10:48 pm

    I tynk I am going crazy and I need help, I have loved a guy like forever, a times he gives me hints that he likes me and a times, he just acts cold, I don’t know what to do, I feel my heart is about to explode and I can’t tell him

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  • Adun December 25, 2015, 9:26 pm

    I think I am going crazy, there z this guy I have liked since forever, we attended pry skul together and we lost contact for some time, later we got talking on fb. i knw ds can sound insane, but I have liked him since we were in pry school, I tot I would get over it with time but I just sink deeper, I know he currently does not have a gf but I can’t bring my self to tell him my feelings because he is very handsome and intelligent and has lot of girls that are better than me that wants him. I am so confused if I am jus obsessed about him or I love him. I know this sounds pathetic, but this has affected my past relationships, and e jus keeps giving me mixed signals.

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  • sagarchowdhury December 29, 2015, 12:41 am

    A girl used to see my pics ,her friends told me that she likes me,she started avoiding me so that the infatuafion does not converts into love which she admitted to me,then again things were normal,we both became good friends,i never thought of loving her,few days back,some friends went to a tour or short weekend ,circumstances put both of us to share the same room ,we didnt even touched each other ,i never thought any fishy stuffs nor did she.. when we came back after the trip ,i started missing her very much, she aslo said that she is missing me very much, i told her ki i started liking her,she told me this type of feeling happened to her when we were not friends,this is just infatuation again indirectly she tells me that she is missing very much and she dont have the courage to say that and again she is telling directly that she dont have love feeling for me , even she tries to make me feel jealous by singing songs and telling me that this songs are for my future boyfriend etc etc.. i couldnt understand her feeling ?couldnot find any solution to my problem? Help me out plss

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  • Amy December 30, 2015, 6:16 am

    Dear Ruchi,

    My “love” story is weird. I met this guy on my 12th bday and have loved him ever since. We used to be friends, but one day we just never talked the same way and completely ignored each other. I’m 15 no and he’s 17. Recently we met at a baby shower and I have to say he was looking like… I don’t know, a very HOOOT person. I felt like I had died when I saw him. My friends, sister, and cousin kept telling me to talk to him but every time I tried, my words got all tangled up and I spit out rubbish. The thing is, I NEVER TALK LIKE THAT. I’m class VP and have to make speeches and talk to strangers all the time and I never get nervous. When trying to talk to him, I feel like I’m going to die. Ughh. Anyways, all through the night, I stole glances at him and weirdly, we connected our eyes together various times for long amounts of time and he kept smiling at me. I don’t know what to take of this because let me remind you, we hadn’t spoken in two years. When I was leaving he stared into my eyes like he was piercing my soul. After I left, I looked at my phone and he had added me snapchat. I know you might say it’s just lust or I’m too young to love a person, but EVERY TIME I tell myself that and try to get over him, I can’t. It’s like he’s cast a spell over me because I frankly can’t get him out of my mind. PLEASE HELP ME!! Tell me what to do.Thanks.

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  • Drake January 7, 2016, 2:42 pm

    Hey. I’ve fallen for a coworker of mine. The day she started working there I noticed her. Day by day I go by the registers just to catch a glimpse of her. We haven’t known each other for maybe,3 months and I know for a fact she has feelings for me too. She has just gotten out of a 2 year relationship and on top of that she’s known ghe guy since they were little kids, but he messed up and is continuing to do so. He desperately wants to be in her life again and she Is not in love with him anymore but still loves him you know. She can’t bear to break his heart and actually let him know that they are done for. I just don’t know what to do. Us she worth the storm that I may have to face to get to what’s brautfuom in the knife to get her to be with me. I know it’ll take time I just… I don’t know what to do. U get hurt when she hangs out with him all the time. She does that and still tells me that I’m someone special in her life that she doesn’t want to lose. She tells me how she misses me and how she want to just lay in bed with me all day feeling my breath on her neck and how She aches of the very thought of not seeing me again. I’m confused and in need of a little advice and guidance.

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  • lonely t. January 14, 2016, 2:10 pm

    Hi im 14 & im not very beautiul but i felt in my teachers love who is 25 .i cant do any thing to make him to love me couse im not that ettractive & also i see him 3 times in a week i cant forget him and also cant do anythig except for cry ..what can i do? CAn you help me

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  • muralitharan January 25, 2016, 9:45 pm

    hi guys,
    my self muralitharan am fall in love with my child hood class mate ,bt still we are just a frnd only .nw am doing my graduation. after my school days still she didnt see my face till now how can i express my feeling to her and how to make her to love me. i think she is not intrest in love narriage plz give any suggestion to me.
    thank u.

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  • Anonymus and In Love February 3, 2016, 9:40 pm

    Hi everyone. I could really use some advice.

    So.. I don’t really get the chance to talk to the guy I love face-to-face. But I’ve observed him. It’s really creepy how you just slowly start understanding them, and then their face forces its way into your dreams. I don’t know what he feels about me, and I know that a relationship with him is something my family would never approve of, because of family differences.

    Help me, please. I really need some advice.

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