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Falling in Love with Someone You Can’t Have

Falling in Love with Someone You Can’t Have

Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.

>The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.

falling in love with someone you can't have

Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach has kept on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to the fullest.

How to be in love when another person when another person don’t love you back:

  • Think in a positive way:

If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for five days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.

  • Expectations:

True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?

If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and takes relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings, and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.

  • Don’t force them to love you:

The main reason for not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone has their choice, and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.

The day you will stop crying for your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then waits for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.

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But yes, the best advice would move on. Life is short, and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead, find someone special, who completes you.

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  • sheila October 31, 2014, 7:01 am

    I’ve had instances through my life of falling for people who were either not attracted to me or already taken…which is ok. It did cause some pain but I feel I did grow as a person. And I have managed to stay friends with them. More recently I have made a friend on a dating site and we have decided to be pen pals. Seems we have mutual attraction and can spend hours emailing back and forth. I sort of sense myself beginning to experience feelings beyond that of friendship but as I’ve come to know her better have discovered no matter how we each feel about each other it is an impossible situation. Not simply b/c we live half a world apart…she has anthropophobia caused by a traumatic brain injury obtained in an accident and cannot tolerate any face to face interaction with other people including close family. I enjoy emailing back and forth but want to be careful about letting myself get to emotionally involved when any relationship beyond email is likely impossible…the heart has reasons which reason doesn’t know however…it was only by chance that we met and i wonder why someone like this would be drawn into my life?

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  • preet November 6, 2014, 2:11 pm

    hey plz help me … I don’t no wt to do ..I don’t wanna live… I love a guy nd he also does bt he is from diff. caste he is a hindu nd m getting engaged in December with some another person … no one in my fmly knws about my feelings. ..nd I knw they will never understand my feelings …they”ll kill me … m just 17 now … I wanna live my lyf … btt….. m helpless. .. my fmly is really loving ..the guy with whom m getting engaged also loves me alottt …bt I love sme another ..I can’t forget him…can’t live without him……I wanna die….noone understand bt m living in a hell even I have every facility bttttt I don’t have my own future ..my own lyf

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  • BW November 8, 2014, 5:31 am

    I met this dude and we really hit it off the first night we hung out and everyday for almost 2 months were were hanging out or going out . One day the L word came out of my mouth idk why.. but something happened and he’s actingreally mean to me he won’t call or txt. He said the other day he cares for me and has feelings or had but I feel like he is hiding his real feelings. I can’t stop thinking about him and I miss him like crazy. I felt so happy when I was around him and the care he showed and the affection he gave.
    Idk what he might be feeling or anything
    cus he said one time he had strong feelings and then were at this point??..

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  • karan November 10, 2014, 9:19 pm

    Hey Ruchi,
    I wanted to get marry with a good character girl n just bcz of it i dont have any girlfreind. What should i do ?? And if i am looking for such girl would i really get fall in love with her.
    And even i am not getting single girl lol……

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    • Ruchi January 15, 2015, 7:57 pm

      Hey Karan,

      It’s tough job these days to get good girl :P.
      On serious note, hang out with friends and get in touch with new people. You can join new hobby club/class where you can find girls having same interest as you. Lastly, if you can’t find single girl then tell your parents for arrange marriage. Best luck :)

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  • sam November 11, 2014, 12:39 am

    i love a girl in my college..she is beautiful and cute…i m in 2nd yr while she’s in 3 rd yr…i haven’t proposed her yet..i feel like dying without her…plzz tell me what to do ..bcuz if she will leave d collg after her 4th yr..i wouldn’t be able to handle that..plzzz help me..i m not able to concentrate on anything..i always think about her by seeing her photographs…it feels that she is everything to me..plzz help..

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  • Paul December 6, 2014, 12:10 pm

    My situation is.. There is a girl.. i used to like her.. now we are in a relationship.. she loves me like hell… but.. gradually i realized , i don’t love her.. it was just an infatuation .. but I really want to love her… i want to fall in love with her..
    i don’t knw what n how to do.. if u guys can help… please

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  • Aaron December 13, 2014, 12:22 am

    I’m in love with a girl, but betrothed to another. The girl I love recently ended her relationship with me. When I confronted her, she said I didn’t do anything wrong, and there was nothing wrong with us. I love her so much am willing to break my betrothal. She says she still loves me but she doesn’t want to anymore. Most of the time I see her or spend time with her, I end up crying cuz I can’t get her to love me. What should I do?

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  • Alex December 16, 2014, 4:14 am

    hey… i had a dream my best friends boyfriend who is also my best friend confessed to me… after he confessed i didnt know what to say but what scares me is that i didnt say no, we talked in this dream and i gave him millions of reasons he cant love me but when he said he would end the relationship with her i was happy and i think that makes me a bad fried… the next day after i had this dream (which was beyond realistic, really i mean it) i told my friends about it. not about me loving them but an imaginary person.. and they believed it… any way i asked them to let me barrow there phone so i can see what it meant but they told me it meant i was in love with him and wishes he would confess to me your heart knows it but your mind doesnt they said… i freaked out… after they left to go to class my next period was gym so we had to run and after running i felt calmer. i dont know whats what anymore… do you think i love him?

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  • Rohit December 18, 2014, 5:20 am

    Pain , painful people everywhere. Loads of pain.the pain of one sided love , the pain of losing your love , the pain of dying everyday bcoz you love her more than anything in this world. And only thing that keeps Me Alive is ” I Am Not Alone” may god bless all the souls.

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  • vivek December 30, 2014, 9:24 am

    i love a girl more than that anyone can love , i know her from my childhood. she lives near my house but i was shifted to another city 4 years ago however i visit there , i talked her when i was living there she knew me but now i want to make her my girlfriend.

    i have a true love with her but whenever she comes near me i am not able to speak anything actually there is less chances of our meeting

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  • chetna juneja December 31, 2014, 11:23 pm

    yr wat shud i do if boy is not even intrsd to listen my flngs… he even dont want to talk to me it really hurts me yr.. plz tell me something.. he told me nt to msg him…

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  • myself January 7, 2015, 10:56 pm

    Hey ruchi, im doing engineerin…& I hv a friend of my clg itself but 2 years older to me….I like him or love him im still not able to judge….we r good frnds from past 2 years…actually we both r our class toppers so we will be getting projects together to do….soin dis way we started meeting each other. …now I think im really crazy abt him…but I dont know whether he likes me or not…sm times he behaves like he likes me & cares for me soo much & smtimes I dont understand his reactions towards me….but im really crazy & much crazy abt him…many times I made my mind to forget him bez it may effect my studies. ..but im not able to forget all dese things….so plz plz hlp me….show me d way further wat should I do??? Plz do reply…

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    • Ruchi January 15, 2015, 7:45 pm

      Hey,
      If he is giving you mixed feelings then why don’t you ask him? You both spend time together, I am sure there would be many chances to know what he feels about you. Best luck :)

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  • Justin January 14, 2015, 12:09 am

    So I’ve loved my best friend for the past 10 years. I never really pursued it because I never wanted to push her away. Recently I tried to pursue it, and I think I actually did push her away. how do I fix it without seeming too pushy?

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  • silentwatch January 19, 2015, 1:13 am

    hi.. i am one of those who still dont know to be sad or happy
    i love this girl.. i know she is not available and still she is the only thing i can imagine whole day.
    I want to be with her always talking with her having fun and touching..
    sometimes things seems pretty good and many times the whole thing seems favouring it
    i am getting my share of happiness and attention but still not feel it is enough

    :(
    feels so jealous when she is talking with somebody .. not just talking when somebody makes her smile

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  • myself January 19, 2015, 4:36 pm

    Tysm ruchi for ur advice
    ..I really hope it will help me…but one problem is dat I cant even think of asking him as u said….im a shy kind of girl…so its really difficult for me to ask him….can u give me sm tips how to get to know whether he likes me too…or if he likes me y he dosnt express him feelings instead of give giving mixed feelings? ? Plz do reply.
    …guys if any one can help me by commenting on my post plz do so….

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  • elle February 6, 2015, 9:37 pm

    I just don’t really get it,Why love is so unfair? It hurts so much to fall inlove with a friend, and that friend of yours is inlove with another person..

    It really kills me deep inside..

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  • animesh February 8, 2015, 2:05 am

    I have always wanted her happiness over mine….but it hurts when she talks about the guy she likes…. it really hurts…it feels as if I have no reason to live anymore…..

    Reply
  • Trayanti March 5, 2015, 6:16 pm

    I love a guy who is my best friend in my college,he does not know the matter…and he is already committed to an another girl for 2 years…we r very close to each other,we talk personally like boyfriend girlfriend,but he always reminds me that I should not fall in love with him because he is already of an another girl…but sometimes he says many things that I feel he likes me…he shows his jealousy if i talk about any other guy,he tells that he often stares at me without any reason and also would like to be intimated with me..i am very confused that how should i tackle this matter….what should I do??

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  • amir March 12, 2015, 12:17 am

    I have a serious big problem which is eating my soul i love some one whom is an actress its been 3 years that i love her but we are not in the same country and ages what should i do im dying i thought of killing my self once maby thats the only way

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  • xyz March 15, 2015, 11:58 pm

    hey animesh… i had same prblm tht u hv…u should accept whatever is going on and should enjoy ur life with ur frnds and family my bro….i know u love her so much….but why u r wasting ur life on her when she doesnt care about what u feel about her….so jst give it man and enjoy ur life… :) :)

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  • Akash March 17, 2015, 1:58 pm

    Ruchi,

    I have a bestfriend, we are together since 1.5years, but she considers me in the top priority in her life, she sees my word same as her mother’s . she developed strong love towards me then , i noticed, she just said abt it, but she didnt proposed, she acted as a lover cum bestie since now. she loves me like anything, soon i fell for my bestie, i thought of saying her my feeling towards her, unfortunately she said she did have feelings for me, but she dont have now, and she added her parents see us as besties only, so she dont want to disrespect them, and said that she dont want me as a boyfriend, actually i got courage to say my love when she said, am fir for her as a husband and everythng, but now she says like this… i strongly need her, i know she too feel the same, but something is stopping her , what shall i do ?? she s keeping me away for somedays, please help me i do need to have her ..

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  • Akash March 17, 2015, 1:59 pm

    Ruchi,

    I have a bestfriend, we are together since 1.5years, but she considers me in the top priority in her life, she sees my word same as her mother’s . she developed strong love towards me then , i noticed, she just said abt it, but she didnt proposed, she acted as a lover cum bestie since now. she loves me like anything, soon i fell for my bestie, i thought of saying her my feeling towards her, unfortunately she said she did have feelings for me, but she dont have now, and she added her parents see us as besties only, so she dont want to disrespect them, and said that she dont want me as a boyfriend, actually i got courage to say my love when she said, am fir for her as a husband and everythng, but now she says like this… i strongly need her, i know she too feel the same, but something is stopping her , what shall i do ?? she s keeping me away for somedays, please help me i do need to have her..

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  • Akash March 18, 2015, 9:03 am

    Ruchi,

    I have a bestfriend, we are together since 1.5years, but she considers me in the top priority in her life, she sees my word same as her mother’s . she developed strong love towards me then , i noticed, she just said abt it, but she didnt proposed, she acted as a lover cum bestie since now. she loves me like anything, soon i fell for my bestie, i thought of saying her my feeling towards her, unfortunately she said she did have feelings for me, but she dont have now, and she added her parents see us as besties only, so she dont want to disrespect them, and said that she dont want me as a boyfriend, actually i got courage to say my love when she said, am fir for her as a husband and everythng, but now she says like this… i strongly need her, i know she too feel the same, but something is stopping her , what shall i do ?? she s keeping me away for somedays, please help me i do need to have her .. . .

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  • stef March 29, 2015, 10:53 am

    The thing is,i met this guy a year ago,after just coming in the states,i immediately attracted to,at first moment he was totally honest with me,he told me he and his kids mom are still together but shes in another country, because of that i told him i just wanted us to be friends .As times goes by we started having strong feelings for each other,,,im so jealous of him,i cant even stand him talking to his kids mother.I know he loves me and i do too,but i think i’m wasting my time, he has some plans for me,but i think hes just telling me that so he won’t lose me….now I’m trying to get over him and i can’t, it hurts so bad.i really want to be with him but i believe he wont ever disrespect his kids mother by leaving her and that cause me to get really frustrated with him,i don’t know if he knows that’s why I’m always so angry at him,he said he wants to be with me and i see it,but he just won’t let her go….please tell me what to do.

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