Falling in Love with Someone You Can’t Have

Falling in Love with Someone You Can’t Have

Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.

>The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.

falling in love with someone you can't have

Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach has kept on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to the fullest.

How to be in love when another person when another person don’t love you back:

  • Think in a positive way:

If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for five days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.

  • Expectations:

True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?

If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and takes relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings, and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.

  • Don’t force them to love you:

The main reason for not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone has their choice, and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.

The day you will stop crying for your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then waits for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.


But yes, the best advice would move on. Life is short, and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead, find someone special, who completes you.

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  • Jitesh May 10, 2015, 2:57 pm

    Hi Ruchi I need your help. So there’s a girl and she’s my friend. I talk to her daily through texts. I am getting more attached to her, infact I think whole day about her. But recently I just got some facts like she already have told her parents about the other guy whom she is going to marry. That’s fine its her choice. But the confusion starts when she tells me that she never ignore me, she tells me she understands me alot, she gives me indication she likes me alot. I somehow have made my mind to move because I can’t imagine myself with her now,I don’t want to be with her now. But also I don’t want to stop contact with her completely. But her thoughts in my mind have completely ruined me. I am lost. I am completely got distracted from my goal. I can’t focus. I was a highly motivated guy but her thoughts have completely ruined me. I have lost energy and dedication for my goals. I am ruined completely.
    Pls help me overcome and move on without stopping to contact her.

    • Ruchi June 7, 2015, 4:11 pm

      Hey Jitesh,
      Move on..try to stop all contacts with her.It might be tough but it would be good for your future. She is already committed and still wants you around. Hope you get the point.

  • Cece May 16, 2015, 6:59 pm

    I happen to be in a painful situation and it’s all my fault.
    So, I have a boyfriend, whom I am deeply in love with, with whom I am happy and we’ve been together for more than 4 years now.
    In the past year, though, a guy who was just an acquaintance began to be closer (keep in mind he is from my city but lives in another one, where he studies and works and rarely comes back).
    So, after almost one year of chatting and becoming like best “pen” friends, telling everything to each other, he told me he is strongly attracted to me, and that he would like me to be his girlfriend. At a fist instance, as he was having issues with TWO of his ex-girlfriends, I just stopped him though -I admit- I have the same feelings for him (problem is: is it lust? Is it just a temporary crush? I don’t know, I keep loving my boyfriend so much in the meanwhile, when this thought crosses my mind I feel miserable and a monster).
    So, recently, he went to the US for a project and he found a really nice and beautiful girl and I think they are a perfect couple and I also think she deserves the best.
    Now, I was sure that him finding a girlfriend would have meant -to me- a relief, and that I would have been happy for that.
    Truth is, I suffer when I see their pics together, I hate him when he tells me he wants to stay with me despite her, I blocked him on facebbok not to see all the sweethearts pictures and loving phrases they share to each other.
    I am hating myself for being so selfish and I happen not to find a solution. When I just try to forget him, not hearing from him, he pops up out of the blue, telling me again it should’t be my boyfriend to stay with me, but him.
    Why am I so confused? Why can’t I just tell him to stop for good? I asked him to, but it’s like he already knows me so well…I regeret having told him so much about me, but in the meanwhile I feel a great chemistry between us…
    Sorry for the long post, but this is hurting me so badly I really can’t do anything but thinking about this horrible situation :'(

    • Lumu Farouk June 10, 2015, 2:25 pm

      Cece think if u really loved your boyfriend this guy wouldnt cross ur mindbthe truth is that u love this new guy but remember tough decisions are best hea n dpnt follow ur instincts not at all

    • Melika June 12, 2015, 2:18 am

      Hey Cece,
      I may know how u feeling and it’s really hard. I know. The thing is you’re not the selfish one here! HE is the selfish one. He’s abusing the friendly talks that you have had and now he knows too much about you! No need to feel like a monster, the solution is easy. It’s completely normal to feel bad by seeing their photos and getting confused that he’s getting along well with her but keeps telling me that he’s attracted to me! He’s the selfish one and is ruining your relationship with your BF and maybe part of your life. So try to keep distance between you and him and whenever he starts talking about these stuff remind yourself that he’s happy with her, and he’s selfish, if he really loved me he would never mentioned that when knew that I was in a relationship. So try to get your mind off of it and start distracting yourself by doing things you love. At first maybe u won’t realize any change but one day you’ll wake up in the morning and understand you haven’t thought of him for such long time. changes happen gradually.
      A tip for future: NEVER TRUST ANYONE THAT MUCH TO TELL THEM ALL YOUR PRIVATE THINGS AND SECRETS! there are a few in the whole world who u can trust them. and don’t let anyone to come through your mind with their dirty fits.
      Good luck

  • Takara May 18, 2015, 7:00 pm

    My situation is i love this girl and she love me to but she got a boyfriend… I fell in love with her thinking i could manage to get her to be mines and leave her man but of course that didn’t work…. She broke my heart and hurt me i cried until she came back… I dont want her to leave but i dont want to hurt anymore either idk what to do

    • Nora June 21, 2015, 6:46 am

      My situation is same you. I found the guy who is very similar to me. We’re the same style so we’re feel good and love with each other but we can’t continue our relation because he already got girlfriend which related for last 10 years. He said it’s very hard to broke up because their parents’ve already known each other. I understand him and i’m not happy too if i’m the
      reason to make them broke up. His girlfriend is not wrong. So i think it would be better if we try to keep the relation to be the friend only. The best way we shouldn’t contact each other in this time. Further that i will try to open my mind to look for the new one i can love. I believe in destiny. Maybe he isn’t right for me. In the other way, if he right, there will be something change and we can love perfectly in the future. Let’s it be. :)

  • itsmeonlyme May 20, 2015, 1:32 pm

    I am so envy who those who have a crush. coz who I love is my ex. Omg that feeling so suck. Please dont go away, no one’s ever stuck with me for so long before. I feel so bad, it hurts it hurts so bad. But I cant tell anyone or him either, coz I dont want them to feel sad. I want to move on. I wanna forget all about it. I’m trying to be in love with someone else but that’s just wrong! It’s wrong! Who I love is him I cant cheat myself. It shouldnt be like this. But, urghh so many buts. I cant upset him for saying I still love him, but I do. Owhh it’s a complicated emotion and I dont want to bear it but I cant. I’m stuck. I’m so sad, so sad. No one knows.We had promises, you promised me and you never grant it! I hate you I love you Ben you just hurt me so much.

  • shilpa May 21, 2015, 7:55 pm

    Please read & reply…When I was 13 a new student was introduced in my class . That time I was a very childish type of girl and I hated boys because I was very pretty and I didn’t wanted there attention at all ..But that new student was different ..He didn’t looked at me like other guys did (from top to bottom) and but I don’t know why I was not happy about it? He sometimes used to stare at me(my face) and I used to give him death glares but he gave me smiles instead of turning his head! This used happen frequently in the beginning…and I started to like him but I never wanted to bcuz I hated such feelings…so I became very rude to him and we sometimes bickered …I tied him a rakhi which means making him as my brother in order to destroy the feelings I was growing for him…BT when he agreed to get a rakhi tied by me …I was really hurt BT I tied it anyway…he gave me a pen as rakhi gift which I have with me till now …now I am 19…Next year when I was 14 our sections were changed BT I still get to see him because of extra curricular activities…he became rude to me by then..and I still had those feelings for him..that year he rejected to get rakhi from me …When I turned 15 I hoped to be in d same section as him BT he was gone…His dad was transferred to delhi …so he was not in my city or even state…I have not seen him for 5-6 years…I sent him a frnd request 3 years ago which he accepted quickly BT we never liked or commented on each others post…we have only chated once …Now I know I love him to death..BT I don’t think he returns my feelings.I think this is hopeless one sided love BT I have never confessed or even given him any hint that I liked/loved him ever.I can never get over him I did whatever I can..now I am not that pretty as I wear specs nowc .I don’t know wat to do…if I”ll ever get to see him?Many boys entered my life and liked me whom I used to adore but I adored them only because they in someway reminded me of him…Now I am a totally shy type of girl and I cannot even look in any boy’s eyes because all of them can see that I am in love and they eventually fall in love with me…I don’t want to hurt them bcuz now I realizechow much it pains and I never want any1 to fall in love wid me bcuz I have realized thaT I can never return their feelings and will leave them anyday for him…

    • Lumu Farouk June 10, 2015, 2:35 pm

      This is sad bcoz it happens more so to men that waste thier time loving girl they can never have but fpr your case u have a future but u gatta work for it get his contact call him tell him u miss him so bad ge maight be playing hard to get as u did it wen u were 13 4 real me i c a future though a litle blurred but u can mek it clear

  • Dean May 26, 2015, 5:06 am

    I met her at a party just after she split with her long term boyfriend who abused her and now we’ve beem seeing eachother for 3Months.I love her so much and she told me she is not looking for another relationship but still wants to see me and I don’t know how to feel about that I mean I know its not healthy for me to be in love with someone I can’t have anything serious with, but on the other hand I am getting more happiness from seeing her non seriously then not seeing her at all.I guess what I’m asking is should I stop seeing her before I get seriously hurt or can I fall out of love with her and have a non-serious relationship.

  • Amber May 28, 2015, 12:06 am

    I am a 13 year old normal teenager and i really like this normal 18 year old, he doesn’t drink or drive and we get on really well. i met him when i first started playing cricket and we now meet up mostly every weekend when we play cricket and we stay after. i need too stop liking him could you leave advice below, i will be very grateful

  • dallas May 28, 2015, 3:48 am

    I’m deeply in love with my friends mom. I think about her all the time, like when I go to sleep and the first thing when I wake up. Coming home from work to see her is the best part of my day, but also the worst because I can’t tell her how I feel. It has to be at least somewhat obvious to her. I feel kinda clingy but it doesn’t seem to bother her. All I want is to make her happy. I would do anything in my power to make her life better. I love her so much and have no idea how to cope with my feelings. I want to tell her that I love her badly but I can’t. One reason is because of fear of rejection and the other is I don’t want to lose her as a friend or make her son mad at me. I LOVE HER.

    • Lumu Farouk June 10, 2015, 2:42 pm

      My friend loving is fine cause it is an idependent feeling but with tym it can be clastered well in my opnion loving u friends has mum is just wrong logically n socially it would be best u take tym with out seeing her go to a club n try to have fun try medidating about love u ll c postivity

  • britney May 29, 2015, 4:51 am

    i need help im in love with someone i can never have but every day i fall more in love with him i cant help my self what do i do?

  • Amber Navarre May 29, 2015, 6:22 am

    I am deeply in love with this guy I been knowing for 6 years. The thing is I know him but I don’t know if he knows me. Princeton I love this guy so much. I been holding it back for so long I don’t think I can do it any longer than that. Usually when it comes to relationships you think men would be the ones to start it first. Well if you really care about someone you will let them know I’m sure. I need some help bringing him to me. So if this gets out in the world that’s a good thing. I have never done this before. I can’t see myself being with someone else other then this guy. I really care about him. I would be doing all of this if I didn’t care. I’m sure he know who he is. Princeton is his stage name. Other then that I think I have said what I need to say. I’m ready when you ready baby.

  • Sarah May 29, 2015, 6:24 pm

    Hi I have recently met up with a guy that I used to date in my teenage years. When we first set eyes on each other it was like love at first site for me. We have not seen each other in many years and I started to get butterflies when we spoke. We met up again couple days later we decided to meet up again, at this point I was nervous but kept my cool. He came to my house to pick me up and we decided to go for a drink and talk. It was a really nice evening we laughed and told each other what we had been through in each of our lives it was really nice. It came to an end and he dropped me home we gave each other a hug which felt so good and went in to my house. The whole evening I had butterflies I think I am falling for this guy all over again and I dont know what to do as he is in a relationship, he has mentioned that he still has deep feelings for me but he is in a relationship. I really dont know what to do or even how to feel what should I do.

  • Neil June 7, 2015, 5:10 pm


    i am in love with a guy who is 19 years less. He is in love with me… the problem is that i am married, with 2 children…and his parents will never accept this situation…shit.

  • Lomi June 14, 2015, 12:02 am

    I’ve had a chrush on this girl since the moment I layed eyes on her one day at work. Over the years of working together and hanging out, we’ve become close friends, and I knew she’d been in a committed relationship for a few years.
    My simple crush slowly grew into a deep love for her, and even as a write this my heart aches to be with her.

    A few weeks ago, after a party, we ended up cuddling on my couch and talking about nothing, really.
    (This wasn’t particularly unusual- she’s a cuddle-bug sort of person.)
    When her cab arrived, we sat up, and she kissed me goodbye.
    I kissed her back but she didn’t pull away… and it became increasingly passionate.
    Our breathing became heavy.
    Soft little moans were exchanged.
    I think about it all the time…
    After we finished, she made a hasty exit out of the house, and didn’t even say goodbye. In fact, she uttered the “F” word, and ran to the cab.
    Since then things have been different between us, and the texts have stopped…. the pleasantries at work have slowed to a trickle… and whenever we do manage to see eachother she keeps her distance.
    I’m madly in love with her and the prospect of losing her is too much to bear. What’s worse, I can’t tell anyone about it, since not only did I swear an oath of silence to her, every other guy I know has a huge crush on her too, so I worry they’d sabotage any slim chance I may have with her altogether.

    I just wish I never met her…this is too much.

  • sato dion June 15, 2015, 1:34 am

    Am in love with a guy who I know I can’t have no mater what cause my friend is in love with him and he too is in love with her but I pretend a lot when I see him and both of us play a lot and the worst part of it all is that we are working in the same office. Am tired of it whole feeling thing and I can’t bring myself to tell him I love him… Please what can I do? Any advice plz inbox me

  • Mr lonely guy June 16, 2015, 6:08 am

    There is this girl that came into my class about 6 months ago at first I didn’t even know she was there all I heard was her name over and over again either by my friends or my teachers and I began to search for her to see who this person was it took me a week to see her face at first I heard her voice she had this sweet ascent and I asked myself who she is there were many people in my way so I didn’t see her face class was over I went home and I kept hearing her voice over and over again and was hoping to see her face I went back to school next morning i went past this girl I have never seen before I think it was love at first sight I was steering at her like a moron and I got this guilt feeling when the voice I heard that day came to my mind I think I was in love with both of them that’s when I went to class I heard that voice again I was looking for was talking when I saw her she was the one I saw in the morning I was happy more than I ever have been I couldn’t think of anything for the next three days when I tried to get closer to her by sitting closer to her so that she notices me I kept looking at her some times while she is not looking she cought me sometimes I think it was then she noticed me I saw her looking over at me mAny times I was happy more than words I tried to approach her but I failed every time I was hating myself for so long btw she approached me first but I was to shy to look at her I just said hello I wanted to die so much I think she though I didn’t care omg that feeling was the worst even though I love her so much why why anyway moving on she approached me a couple of times and I did the same thing and was mad the time we had was so short I was killing myself to tell her how I feel but I couldn’t do it because of the though of losing her and that she might not like me even though I felt like she did like me now we had one week left I wanted to tell her how I feel before we leave for college every single time I tired to approach her she was never there and I missed my chance so now we have two days left we were at prom she was so great that no word could describe her I was feeling down as she was alone at the time and when I tried to go over her friends came and they were taking pics and stuff the evening as almost over I was about lose my mind I told my self that I would tell her that night so I waited outside the gate do or school for her she never came out I was worried I went inside and asked a teacher she went through the other way I was pissed at my self and relived that nothing happened to her I told my self I would tell her at the last day of school but I looked and looked but she wasn’t there I asked a teacher if she was here and he said she was I found out she was also looking for based on her friends chat with me but we missed eachother all day long school was over teachers told us to go home everyone went home I kept looking and didn’t find her now I have no idea where I can contact her or where she lives and I am not sure if we will go to the same college at all I can only believe in fate as to meet her again and I promise that if I see her ever again I won’t hold back how i feel I won’t hide behind my excuses any longer I will tell her how much I love her and that will love and cherish her if she ever likes me back well that’s my story pls tell me if I am an moron or I am a dushbag sorry for the long post

    • Ted June 16, 2015, 6:10 am

      Wow that’s sad bro I hope it works out keep fighting

  • juliet June 24, 2015, 5:47 pm

    Hi l fell for a married Turkish man he is good looking and has love lovely brown eyes. I knew him for three years and took him out twice for a meal
    He wanted sex but I didn’t and he left my house and i was upset for over two weeks. He rang me and when I head his voice I cried. I didn’t want to go and see him at be cafe I went and saw his son I had butterflies in my stomach then i went back as a customer as its easier he said lets start again I said ok but when i see this Turkish man I don’t know what to say any more. He asked my brother where was I this week he said I was busy is it ok to want him back now or should I forget him

  • Guru February 18, 2015, 12:29 am

    I’m Guru.
    I love a girl and we are friends since past 4 years.
    I expressed my feelings to her, but she rejected me.
    She even didn’t look at me or talk to me.
    I really love her very much.
    Since past couple of days, due to her family problems she was crying and i approached to her. She then talked to me and also began to share her sorrows with me. What do i do now as i really her. Please suggest

  • Guru February 18, 2015, 12:30 am

    I love a girl and we are friends since past 4 years.
    I expressed my feelings to her, but she rejected me.
    She even didn’t look at me or talk to me.
    I really love her very much.pm
    Since past couple of days, due to her family problems she was crying and i approached to her. She then talked to me and also began to share her sorrows with me. What do i do now as i really her. Please suggest


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