5 Reasons Why People Take You For Granted?

Taking people for granted

Are you a person who is always ready to help, soft spoken, decent, honest and ready to give love to all your friends and relatives? If yes, then I am sure that you would have felt at least once in life that people take you for granted. There are people who feel that they are taken for granted by their friends, spouse, colleagues, family etc. I know this truth is harsh but even with your loving and caring nature you don’t get the love and attention you deserve.

Even if you are one among them then it is better to analysis the situation and know why you are taken for granted by others because it hurts people when you genuinely care and love doesn’t care about your feelings.

Sometimes it’s your mistake that you give them lots of importance and all your feelings and emotions are attached to them. Before finding any solution to this problem, it is important that you should know the reasons why people take us for granted.

Reasons why People take you for granted:

  • You love them:

This is the biggest reason why anyone starts taking you for granted. If you are expressive and told a person that what he/she means to your life, he/she will start thinking that whatever happen you are never going to go away especially when it’s an unconditional love. So, if you think that the one you love is taking you granted, it’s time to rethink about that relation.

  • They rule your life:

There are people who have the power to make you smile as well as cry and when people become so important in your life, you become weak in front of them. You start living your life the way they want and try to do whatever makes them happy. The day others know their importance they will surely take you for granted.

  • You are Adjusting:

If you are adjusting, emotional in nature and keep others first while taking any decisions in life then people will surely take you for granted. It’s good to be nice to people but start thinking that you won’t do anything wrong with them and you will adjust for them in any situation. It’s very easy to play with emotions for adjusting person.

  • Never think about credits:

Even if you are trying to work hard for someone or care a lot for someone, you never expect to get care and credit in return then you need to become smarter. There are people whom you have to realize how much you work and care, sometimes you need to use words to show who you are and what your worth is. Once you will show your worth, they will stop taking you for granted.

  • Self-confidence:

Sometimes people lose their self-confidence either because of failures or wrong decisions in life. If you will lose self-confidence, how others are going to respect you? Lack of confidence gives permission to another to rule you. Unless you won’t show your importance, other won’t come to know what you mean to their lives.

Above were few major reasons why people start taking you for granted but to avoid such situation, you don’t have to be bad or rude to them. If you are polite and giving then don’t change yourself to show your worth, there are other ways to show others that you exist. I will surely share them in my next article. Meanwhile do share your views with us that why people are taken for granted.

Do let us know what you do when people take you for granted? What changes you bring in yourself that people start valuing you and respect you as an individual?

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  • rohit February 27, 2014, 12:43 am

    I too am taken for granted by my friend whom I considered my best one.i never found that friendship in his eyes…..I now feel he is just fulfilling his neefs from me

  • Faisal June 9, 2014, 4:17 pm

    It is not always necessary that you are taken for granted on the basis if how you behave sometimes people have casual attitude but make them sure you aren’t ready to be taken for granted

  • M.T. Cruz June 18, 2014, 5:49 am

    I’ve always been the responsible one. Some say I’m very predictable. Perhaps I need to break my own rules and make them wonder what I’m going to do next. I already know what I won’t do anymore.

  • quenkz June 23, 2014, 1:46 pm

    i think my bestfriend taken me for granted. and i felt so hurt because of that. and even she’s hurting me that bad.. im still here for her. do u think is that ok?

  • Darlene Hoffman July 18, 2014, 9:52 pm

    Although your advice is sound, your writing, English, and grammar could use some improvement. Polishing up your writing skills will make your advice more credible, and easier to understand.

    • Ruchi July 25, 2014, 4:54 pm

      Hey Darlene,
      Thx for feedback, I am working on it.

  • Athenkosi September 10, 2014, 6:52 pm

    People are take me for granted and i dnt knw why,what should i do?

  • Neha October 21, 2014, 11:22 am

    What should be done when someone you can’t live without starts taking you for granted?

  • soonia November 30, 2014, 1:38 am

    I think when you make people feel good, value them more than they deserve, they take you for granted. they think that they are so much important to you and you will surely never leave them. they don’t be scared of anything.

  • EG December 24, 2014, 6:28 am

    My parents knew I was the most responsible and caring of all their children. My ex siblings treated me badly, especially when I dropped everything to care for my mother. They never offered any type of help. My husbands sisters and mother treated me badly when I sacrificed everything to care for my husbands parents and my husband never stood up for me.

    Six months ago the sciatic nerve in my left leg started hurting from degenerative arthritis. Long story but the short of it is an elderly neighbor started calling me all the time for help. She never had anything to do with us when she was younger and healthy. Her kids are worthless slime balls from her first marriage and do nothing for her. Her husbands kids from his previous marriage do nothing for them. She did not care about the pain I was in. I helped because she has no business driving. She takes up five to ten hours a day. Calls me at all hours. She asks to borrow money, food, whatever. I never get paid back and they are better off than I am. Now her husband is in the hospital in another city two hours away. She burned her bridges with some neighbors and other neighbors are just rude and won’t be bothered. If I don’t call her she calls me asking if I am mad. There have been times I told her I could not drive her and she gets upset. Now she keeps saying she doesn’t know how she is going to get her husband home. She does not go to church. If I had been paid even minimum wage for my time it would be $11,000.00 since July. No joke.
    I have to drive by her house any time I go anywhere. I just can’t do it anymore. How do I stop this? I gave her an inch and she took several miles. I feel for her but I am in extreme pain from ruptured spinal discs pressing on the sciatic nerve. She asks to go one place and it ends up being every store and all day. I know they won’t pay me for my time if I asked.

    • lebo October 12, 2016, 12:52 am

      i think you need to burn some bridges as well. you cant go around pleasing everyone in your life. if you dont put yourself first who else will. you only live once sweety and i can tell you now that you are wasting your time.focus on yourself and on getting better.

  • isha February 1, 2015, 7:01 pm

    i give my love and importance to my friend but they guys are just keep on ignoring me
    I just don’t know how to say no people when they give me some work which is not mine. I am not able to change myself!!!!!
    coz of some people i have cried a lot pls help me

  • Iqzz Shaikh March 15, 2015, 1:01 pm

    Dont hav much to say…but…i wud lyk to share 1 thought…’StoP tRYinG sO HaRd fOr PeOPle wHo doNt caRe’ Give oNlY 60% in any relation..rEst 40% keeP foR u…coz ur happiness nd lyf matterz equally as the person whose taking u for granted!!!

  • Keensage April 6, 2015, 11:38 pm

    The main people who take others for granted are narcissists, psychopaths and machiavellian people. They use you and throw you away when they don’t need you anymore. Learn to identify these people for your own well-being. Ruchi, not to be mean, but please ask someone to edit your posts before posting. The faulty syntax on your sentences makes it hard to follow along. Take care.

    • Ruchi April 9, 2015, 6:32 pm

      I agree with you. And this is an old article, thus not edited. But now we make sure that before posting articles we do proofread it. Thanks for feedback.

  • mira May 31, 2015, 1:59 am

    Ruchi, your advice columns are far more accurate, heartfelt and sensible than any of the loudmouth, all-knowing authoritative websites from the West. Those who brazenly criticise you do not understand the language the heart speaks best — simplicity. I read your piece on why we miss somebody and I finally found my answer. Now I’m reading all. God bless your wisdom and humility. Mira, Bombay

    • Ruchi June 7, 2015, 3:12 pm

      Hey Mira,
      Glad you like my articles and advice. Keep contributing.

  • Emma August 18, 2015, 9:39 pm

    I think this great. I think one of the easiest ways to get people to stop taking you for granted is stop doing things for them. When they realize you are not there to cater to their every whim, they all of a sudden show up and start giving. It’s sad but true. Sometimes we can tell people, but I have found the best way is to show them. And keep showing them. I had friends that took me for granted so I stopped hanging around them so much. Those who mistreated me, I cut ties with them. In the end I raised the standard. So now I have people in my life who actually love and appreciate me. It’s great to love, we simply can’t allow love to make us stupid. Sometimes people need to see what they are losing!

    • Jimmy December 28, 2015, 10:47 pm

      I really needed that Thanks….

  • Aarim December 9, 2015, 2:18 am

    I always feel like for granted! As from the day first I m born,I m taken for granted from everyone ! From my relatives to friends and to girl friend too ! I feel sad about myself 😞 ! Is there any solution to it?,

  • leroy December 22, 2015, 9:47 am

    Some, alright many users will try to charm you. They have a direct plan. The plan is their own agenda to get something from you. It’s like abuse, sometimes they’ll try to groom you with their secret strategies. Your antenna will go up in most cases and you’ll feel and see what they’re up to. You’ve got something they want! (LOL)
    Smile at them knowingly when you know you’re being manipulated. In most cases, not all, (but if you open your eyes and become aware-develop your sixth sense), in most cases you can figure it out. Say nothing, just flash a smile. Then say you have to go. Be true to your own desires. Trust your gut. If these types feel that they can use you for their own benefit, watch out! They’re coming for you baby if you leave the door open even a crack-they think they can peek in! Don’t believe their hard-luck, can’t do it on their own excuses. It’s another manipulation! They’re probably spendthrifts, or lazy, and have family members that are the same. They’ve made an art out of trying to get their desires met through others. Moochers anyone? (LOL) There are many out there (in all walks of life). Oh yes, and they feel justified. They’re not even one bit embarrassed with trying to put you on the spot. They’ll then be afraid you’ll talk to others about their obvious ways. So they’ll try to make you the villain because you are on to them. It’s a joke (on them). So low class! See through them my friends! It’s a life skill.
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  • nemon December 22, 2015, 10:22 pm

    If they think you have something they want, watch out. They’re devising their plan of action. Don’t give these types a hint of what you have or even a taste of maybe we can… They’ll act all sweet and nice-manipulation. When you don’t give in, watch them be secretly angry (even though it’s them that’s rude) and disappear. They’ll give you the silent treatment-great! Let them go. In fact, give them their coat and shoes-smile. You’re on to them and they know it. They just don’t like anyway seeing right through them. (LOL) Always, always, always be on guard. These people are all over the place!

  • ray December 23, 2015, 10:02 am

    Take some responsibly. It’s because they think that they can! These types will come for it if they sense you’ll give it away. Be firm. Say no. Set clear defined boundaries as you go. These takers have a keen radar for taking from others. Their antenna are always on looking to freeload and take from others. Be prepared-They’re not going to like it when they don’t get their way. Too bad! Bye, bye false friend. I saw right through you! (LOL) Then them travel on to their next victim!

  • Awais February 10, 2016, 6:12 pm

    Before coming to your blog I was bit worried about what should I do… but now I can take step forward.

    I know why I ma taking as granted because of soft nature and remains keep calm when people do bullies and I just ignore them smile 🙂 its the better solution to keep yourself as you ate but improve your week points day by day and don’t show them…

    Remember one day you will talk your self and tell what you are 🙂 and let them behind move forward

    T.C 🙂

  • Emilio August 2, 2016, 7:12 pm


    i always was the type of person who gives attention, shows love and everything, but now im married and i still am this person. im so proctective of my woman and people i love. i call more than they call me. lately i’ve been missing to be loved in starving way, cos i feel my why wife takes me for granted. she actually says she loves me more for my care for her more than her care for me. i’ve told her that i want to feel desired, that she has lust for me and not just expect me to go and attack her; you know the saddest thing is to see women desiring me and get home and have someone expecting you to do and you be. im just tired to care… tired of not look at me!

  • Sagarika August 20, 2016, 1:04 am

    I love him a lot but he takes me for granted and controls me. I can’t do much coz I love him. Sometimes Shubham is good to me sometimes he just takes me for granted.

  • Chico September 14, 2016, 9:11 am

    I just take myself away from them. Once they are on their own they realize how inconsiderate they have been. It ends my relationship with them but, once they fall on their faces they learn to never take anyone else for granted. Try it, it is amazing how well it works.


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