5 Reasons Why People Take You For Granted?

5 Reasons Why People Take You For Granted?

Taking people for granted

Are you a person who is always ready to help, soft spoken, decent, honest and ready to give love to all your friends and relatives? If yes, then I am sure that you would have felt at least once in life that people take you for granted. There are people who feel that they are taken for granted by their friends, spouse, colleagues, family etc. I know this truth is harsh but even with your loving and caring nature you don’t get the love and attention you deserve.

Even if you are one among them then it is better to analysis the situation and know why you are taken for granted by others because it hurts people when you genuinely care and love doesn’t care about your feelings.

Sometimes it’s your mistake that you give them lots of importance and all your feelings and emotions are attached to them. Before finding any solution to this problem, it is important that you should know the reasons why people take us for granted.

Reasons why People take you for granted:

  • You love them:

This is the biggest reason why anyone starts taking you for granted. If you are expressive and told a person that what he/she means to your life, he/she will start thinking that whatever happen you are never going to go away especially when it’s an unconditional love. So, if you think that the one you love is taking you granted, it’s time to rethink about that relation.

  • They rule your life:

There are people who have the power to make you smile as well as cry and when people become so important in your life, you become weak in front of them. You start living your life the way they want and try to do whatever makes them happy. The day others know their importance they will surely take you for granted.

  • You are Adjusting:

If you are adjusting, emotional in nature and keep others first while taking any decisions in life then people will surely take you for granted. It’s good to be nice to people but start thinking that you won’t do anything wrong with them and you will adjust for them in any situation. It’s very easy to play with emotions for adjusting person.

  • Never think about credits:

Even if you are trying to work hard for someone or care a lot for someone, you never expect to get care and credit in return then you need to become smarter. There are people whom you have to realize how much you work and care, sometimes you need to use words to show who you are and what your worth is. Once you will show your worth, they will stop taking you for granted.

  • Self-confidence:

Sometimes people lose their self-confidence either because of failures or wrong decisions in life. If you will lose self-confidence, how others are going to respect you? Lack of confidence gives permission to another to rule you. Unless you won’t show your importance, other won’t come to know what you mean to their lives.

Above were few major reasons why people start taking you for granted but to avoid such situation, you don’t have to be bad or rude to them. If you are polite and giving then don’t change yourself to show your worth, there are other ways to show others that you exist. I will surely share them in my next article. Meanwhile do share your views with us that why people are taken for granted.

Do let us know what you do when people take you for granted? What changes you bring in yourself that people start valuing you and respect you as an individual?

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  • rohit February 27, 2014, 12:43 am

    I too am taken for granted by my friend whom I considered my best one.i never found that friendship in his eyes…..I now feel he is just fulfilling his neefs from me

  • Faisal June 9, 2014, 4:17 pm

    It is not always necessary that you are taken for granted on the basis if how you behave sometimes people have casual attitude but make them sure you aren’t ready to be taken for granted

  • M.T. Cruz June 18, 2014, 5:49 am

    I’ve always been the responsible one. Some say I’m very predictable. Perhaps I need to break my own rules and make them wonder what I’m going to do next. I already know what I won’t do anymore.

  • quenkz June 23, 2014, 1:46 pm

    i think my bestfriend taken me for granted. and i felt so hurt because of that. and even she’s hurting me that bad.. im still here for her. do u think is that ok?

  • Darlene Hoffman July 18, 2014, 9:52 pm

    Although your advice is sound, your writing, English, and grammar could use some improvement. Polishing up your writing skills will make your advice more credible, and easier to understand.

    • Ruchi July 25, 2014, 4:54 pm

      Hey Darlene,
      Thx for feedback, I am working on it.

  • Athenkosi September 10, 2014, 6:52 pm

    People are take me for granted and i dnt knw why,what should i do?

  • Neha October 21, 2014, 11:22 am

    What should be done when someone you can’t live without starts taking you for granted?

  • soonia November 30, 2014, 1:38 am

    I think when you make people feel good, value them more than they deserve, they take you for granted. they think that they are so much important to you and you will surely never leave them. they don’t be scared of anything.

  • EG December 24, 2014, 6:28 am

    My parents knew I was the most responsible and caring of all their children. My ex siblings treated me badly, especially when I dropped everything to care for my mother. They never offered any type of help. My husbands sisters and mother treated me badly when I sacrificed everything to care for my husbands parents and my husband never stood up for me.

    Six months ago the sciatic nerve in my left leg started hurting from degenerative arthritis. Long story but the short of it is an elderly neighbor started calling me all the time for help. She never had anything to do with us when she was younger and healthy. Her kids are worthless slime balls from her first marriage and do nothing for her. Her husbands kids from his previous marriage do nothing for them. She did not care about the pain I was in. I helped because she has no business driving. She takes up five to ten hours a day. Calls me at all hours. She asks to borrow money, food, whatever. I never get paid back and they are better off than I am. Now her husband is in the hospital in another city two hours away. She burned her bridges with some neighbors and other neighbors are just rude and won’t be bothered. If I don’t call her she calls me asking if I am mad. There have been times I told her I could not drive her and she gets upset. Now she keeps saying she doesn’t know how she is going to get her husband home. She does not go to church. If I had been paid even minimum wage for my time it would be $11,000.00 since July. No joke.
    I have to drive by her house any time I go anywhere. I just can’t do it anymore. How do I stop this? I gave her an inch and she took several miles. I feel for her but I am in extreme pain from ruptured spinal discs pressing on the sciatic nerve. She asks to go one place and it ends up being every store and all day. I know they won’t pay me for my time if I asked.

  • isha February 1, 2015, 7:01 pm

    i give my love and importance to my friend but they guys are just keep on ignoring me
    I just don’t know how to say no people when they give me some work which is not mine. I am not able to change myself!!!!!
    coz of some people i have cried a lot pls help me

  • Iqzz Shaikh March 15, 2015, 1:01 pm

    Dont hav much to say…but…i wud lyk to share 1 thought…’StoP tRYinG sO HaRd fOr PeOPle wHo doNt caRe’ Give oNlY 60% in any relation..rEst 40% keeP foR u…coz ur happiness nd lyf matterz equally as the person whose taking u for granted!!!


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