Expressing love is not easy for everyone. When someone is sharing your feelings, you should know that the person has thought of all the reasons “not too”. Research shows that men and women who had been rejected by a partner or close friend within the past 8 wk, 40% experienced clinically measurable depression; of these, 12% displayed moderate to severe depression.
I am not trying to scare you, but expressing feelings becomes a nightmare when you have to propose a friend/coworker/mentor or worst a family friend because after rejection the stacks are high.
Thus, if someone is proposing or even sharing feelings, put yourself in their shoes and let them down easily. Check out a few tips to reject someone politely:
Have your feet on the ground:
Foremost, don’t think you are way out of someone’s league and they can’t even dare to propose you. Never ever get rude to them even if you are prom king/queen or the most popular person in your group. If someone says they like you try to stay grounded.
Let them know you appreciate their feelings and you are flattered that they asked you out and later tell them that you don’t feel the same way, but gracefully without any sarcasm.
Be Direct & Honest:
Rejecting someone is uncomfortable and we tend to put off such conversations, but it’s better to be quick to respond that you are interested in having a love relationship. When you are dealing with sensitive issues, you should have a clear conversation to avoid mixed messages.
You might be afraid that you will love your best friend or an amazing fellow partner, but being direct will help you both to decide the next steps in your relationship.
As I mentioned above, that when someone is sharing their love feelings they are prepared for the worst, and if you are telling them the truth about your feelings, you will spare them with disappointment in long term. Maybe you both end up having a great friendship because of the honesty you showed up without sugar coating.
No Mixed Signals:
There are times when people don’t want to be in a committed relationship but still want all benefits from their partner. If you are someone who doesn’t care about people’s feelings, then it’s totally different story from some other article.
For now, let’s concentrate on people who genuinely care about other people’s feelings and still unknowingly send mixed signals. Instead of going to the movies or dinner with the person who proposed to you, it’s better to take a break from them. If you keep spending time together, even sympathetically they might get confused that why you are treating them so nicely, especially after rejecting them. Taking a break, always do the trick to clarify the situation.
To Ghost or Not To Ghost:
When someone is proposing to you, it is obvious that you both know each other quite well. You may be co-workers, friends, or in an open relationship and you just can’t just move out of their life abruptly.
If the person who proposed to you is mature enough to handle awkwardness in a social setting then you are good to continue your current relationship with them like earlier, though make sure you are not spending too much time together. If you think or observe that another person is obsessed with you and not respecting boundaries then it’s better to keep your distance from them. You have to read the situation and then decide it’s worth ghosting the person or not.
Crushes, rejections, and heartbreak are part of life and it’s not easy to be friends with someone who rejected you. If you think the person who proposed to you is not able to move on, it’s better to stop spending time with them. They might hurt for a few days if you ghost the person but it will surely them to move on.
I am sure, you faced the awkward situation to reject someone close to you and feeling bad about it. Don’t forget to share with us, how you reacted in such situations?