How to Start Conversation with the One you like?

How to Start Conversation with the One you like?

You can’t express your love or feelings to someone with whom you don’t talk. Many people face problem in starting a conversation with someone whom they like very much. Either they are too nervous that they are going to blurt out something embarrassing or fear or ignorance. Believe me, if you would think so much you would never able to talk to anyone you like. Give yourself a chance, miracles happen and you might end up together. If you won’t even try to start a conversation, then all your dates or fun time would be just in dreams.


Coversation Starters

When you want to talk to any girl or boy, you need to start a conversation as soon as possible. You can’t wait for him/her to start first. Thus, gather all your positive energy, be yourself and follow a few points given below:

A sweet smile:

When you want to start a conversation, then it is always important to know that the person is interested to talk to you or not? A simple smile would surely work in this situation. Try to start with a smile, if the person is interested in talking to you, he/she will surely smile back. Make sure your smile is “genuine”.


If you like to be straight forward, you can start with greeting followed with a smile. It might be a simple “Hello” or “How are you” or “Hope you are enjoying in party”. It could be anything but make it simple and avoid any witty or cheap expressions. Don’t try to use any bad pick-up lines or fake gestures. If he/she is with other friends, then greet everyone so that it won’t look too obvious that you just came up to talk to him/her.

Discuss about common topics:

You can always start conversation about the things which is common in between you both. The best way to keep a conversation going is to talk about something you both love or discuss about hobbies you  both like. For e.g., If you are in the same office, you can talk about your office rules or office bad lunch. Once you started the conversation, it is important to keep the flow. There should not be blocks otherwise the one you like might say you “bye” and move on. Thus, always have backup conversation topics like about your city, climate or work if you same office or same college.

Make it a conversation:

If you are starting the conversation, it doesn’t mean that only you keep on saying. It is not a presentation, make it a conversation. Try to ask open ended questions and let him/her reply properly instead of just “yes/no”. Don’t stick to one topic for a long time and don’t ask questions which might hurt him/her. Slowly start showing you the fun side by cracking a few relevant jokes or witty replies, but again you need to be careful about being original and not showing off, because it is the main reason people stop the conversation.

Body Language:

Apart from the topics you choose to start a conversation going, you also need to take care of your body language. A positive body language plays an important role to attract others while talking. A few of them are like looking into the eyes while talking (of course not in a creepy way). Don’t play with/check your mobile again and again. Don’t cross hands while talking, it gives a negative signal that you are not interested in another person. Take care of your body language and you can easily give good impact on him/her.

While starting a conversation just remember to be yourself and genuine because your expressions shows your feelings. Above are a few simple tips to keep in mind while starting a conversation with someone you like. Once you pass the first hurdle about knowing how to start a conversation, then you will easily get the attention of the person. Meanwhile, why don’t you share how you prefer to start a conversation with someone you like in the comments?

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  • S.Pradeep Kumar December 7, 2009, 9:03 pm

    Should I show my teeth while smiling ! ? 😀

    I think there will million reasons between a girl’s smile.. oof! 😀
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    • ruchi December 9, 2009, 3:25 pm

      Try it out, You will come to know why girl is smiling . Just need some experience :).

  • Apple App Tips December 8, 2009, 7:48 am

    Sometimes girls smiles just to show that they are interested but in reality they are just showing their beauty and boasting themselves thinking boys look at them because they are beautiful 🙂
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    • ruchi December 9, 2009, 3:25 pm

      There are exceptions. All girls are not same. 🙂

  • Rajesh Kanuri @ TechCats December 8, 2009, 10:09 am

    I never understand how to handle girls.. I thinks that is the worst nightmare any one can have….
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    • ruchi December 9, 2009, 3:26 pm

      That’s toughest job, don’t even try to understand . 😉

      • Saket Jajodia January 28, 2011, 7:16 pm

        If we don’t try to understand then how can we reach to her heart???

  • George Serradinho December 8, 2009, 11:01 am

    I must say that the start is the hardest, not the easiest for both girls and boys. I would also say that one must be themselves, don’t pretend or put on an act.

    Girls have many different ways of showing they are interested or bored. You need to make sure you are not bored and keep them entertained so to speak.
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    • ruchi December 9, 2009, 3:26 pm

      Agree with you Gorge.

  • Chetan December 8, 2009, 7:16 pm

    I will not prefer greeting.
    Because many of the girls do not like it.
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    • ruchi December 9, 2009, 3:27 pm

      Ok . Then try out other tips . Hope it work well with you.

  • Devang Vibhakar @ SpeakBindas December 12, 2009, 11:17 am

    A genuine smile can make a real difference. And genuine smile requires a pure heart as a backend, right?

    I mean, how can you smile with a bitter heart?!! If it happens, that would be a sight to watch..
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    • ruchi December 12, 2009, 12:41 pm

      Agree with you, Smile can surely tell what’s in your heart. 🙂

  • Sunil Jain December 15, 2009, 3:14 am

    Hey Ruchi 🙂
    Are you talking regarding Face to Face Communication or through online chat ???
    Sorry but i am little bit confused 😉
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    • ruchi December 15, 2009, 5:30 pm

      It’s about Face to face. If you want to know about Online I will tell you about that also ;).

      • Sunil Jain December 24, 2009, 5:54 am

        Ya sure 🙂
        I would like to hear from you only 🙂 , or else i can also write about it if you don’t mind 😉 😉
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  • shubhamkd September 6, 2013, 1:36 pm

    u helped me a lot ruchi di.
    thanks. 🙂


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