How to Say “No” to Others

How to Say “No” to Others

Many of us feel very tough to say “no” to others. It includes family, work, friends or your love one. We feel that we will get rude if we will say “no” to anyone or we always want to be helpful to others. But sometimes this attitude lead us to long term grief or we regret later that why we can’t say “no” to things.


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Life is not so easy and you can’t make everyone happy thus sometimes it becomes very important that we should say no to others otherwise we will keep on increasing other’s expectations as well as might create unhappiness all around. Saying “no” can give pain for few minutes but saying “yes” to things you don’t want to do can create pain for life time, thus it’s important to learn the gentle way of saying “no”.

  • Don’t be always sweet:

Being sweet to others and always saying yes might make others happy but not you. If you will say yes to everyone they will take you for granted. Let others know that you have your own priorities and you can’t say yes to all the work or request offered to you.

  • Be polite:

The biggest myth because of which people don’t say “no” is that they feel it’s rude. Change your thinking, you can say no politely also. Give them genuine reasons for saying no and others won’t feel bad about it. If they can’t understand your problems, better not to think about such people in your life. You can give excuses like Sorry, I am overloaded with work thus can’t take new projects or I wanted to go out but have planned weekend for family etc.

  • Don’t postpone:

People who feel tough to say no, generally keep the option open even if they are not interested by saying I will do work later, we will surely meet on weekends. If you don’t want to do work or agree on something, then directly say no otherwise the other person will keep waiting for work to be done. But if you think that you can go ahead with the offer then you can ask for time to think about it.

  • Stick to No:

If you want to reject any offer, say no and stick to it. There are people who will keep on asking you until you will say yes to them. But because of continuous insisting, you should not say yes. Even when people are pressuring you, you should stick to your point. They won’t bother you again.

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  • Seenu November 23, 2010, 2:23 pm

    Actullay Im innocent in earlier days i was unable to say ‘no’ because some of the above reasons. One day I paid for my Innocens .
    From then if feel to say ‘no’ I will, and if i feel to say ‘Yes’ I’ll

  • Aradhana November 25, 2010, 10:36 am


    This is a nice post. Actually many people are reluctant to say NO, because of many reasons. Saying YES to everything might lead to the happiness of others immediately but is problematic when u have to stick to that YES when actually u dont want to.

    Thanks for this post. 🙂 Keep it up.

  • [email protected] January 19, 2011, 9:10 pm

    u made me emotional after reading this post 🙂

    Anyways, hows u Ruchi…
    Hope ur this blog is doing good


  • Pankaj Singla March 16, 2011, 9:51 pm

    Hi…very good article to learn a lesson for the rest of life..I m the person like saying yes to everyone or postpone my yes..but from now I will strict to no, if I wish it to NO.

    Specially NO to MLM companies “Member banao or kamao”

  • minu October 31, 2014, 10:47 pm

    Hi…since last 3 months my sil stopped talking with me because i refused to go with her for shopping……i had fever that day and she was aware of that……my mil also commented that having 101 fever is not a big deal….and she and my fil r also not talking to me.

    How m living with them ….only god knows..

    Can someone suggest me what should i do ????

    • Ruchi January 15, 2015, 8:01 pm

      Hey Minu,
      I can understand your problem but you forgot to mention that your husband supports in all these drama or not? Sometimes you have to be strong and ignore such comments. They need you and will start talking gradually. Talk to your husband about your problem, he might help.


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